Agility is UnsettlingPedro Pimentel

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Liminality

Definition

The quality of ambiguity or disorientation that occurs in the middle stage of rituals, when participants no longer hold their pre-ritual status but have not yet begun the transition to the status they will hold when the ritual is complete. (wikipedia)

Liminal Thinking

What do I know about this?

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A Coach

Liminal Roles ==

Growth & Change

Beliefs

Homework #1

Think of something in your life that you believe it will never change.

Beliefs are Models

Beliefs are Models

1 reality

6 Different Experiences

idea != reality

Beliefs are Models

They are not Wrong

But also not Right

Homework #2

Think of Donald Trump. Think about your beliefs regarding him. Now think of someone who has different beliefs about him. Try your best to listen and put yourself on their shoes.

Beliefs are Created

reality

experience

reality

experience

attention

reality

experience

attention

theories

judgements

reality

experience

attention

theories

judgements

beliefs

reality

experience

attention

theories

judgements

beliefs

the obvious

reality

experience

attention

theories

judgements

beliefs

the obvious

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Homework #3

Choose one of your beliefsWhat personal experiences created it?What did you actually notice in those experiences? What theories and judgements were made to support this belief?Can you list different experiences that could have led to a different belief?

Beliefs Create a Shared World

Angry Cat

need belief action result

needs

beliefs

actions

results

feed

back

learning loop

Angry Cat Again

problematic cat

Punish

cat protects

food

doom loop

good cat, learn

new behaviour

reward

spend time

with cat

delight loop

Kid Tantrum

Homework #4

Think of a doom loop on your lifeDraw a diagram of the doom loop pattern.Try to convert it to a delight loop.What could you do differently?

Beliefs Create Blind Spots

Limiting Belief

Homework #5

Think of people on your life who have a belief that might be limiting you.Do you have beliefs that might be limiting others?

Beliefs Defend Themselves

They are there, we just haven’t found

them yet

US went to Iraq for a reason:WMDs

No WMDs found

Still Haven’t found them

There must be a reason or we wouldn’t have

gone in

WMD: Weapons of Mass Destruction

Self-sealing logic

seal

reality

experience

attention

theories

judgements

beliefs

Bubble of Belief

5 monkeys, 1 ladder

Introducing Change

We know people like Stability

Introducing Change

How people make sense of new ideas?

#1 Is it coherent in my bubble?

#2 Is it externally valid?

People rarely test ideas for external validity when they don’t have internal coherence.

Homework #6

Think about your relationships with family, friends, coworkers…What beliefs you share?How do you defend your beliefs when questioned?Try to sketch a diagram of the self-sealing logic.

Beliefs are Tied to Identity

Everything is going to hell

When you do everything you can but not having success or traction.

What could it be?

Governing Beliefs

Are connected to your identity.

Define YOU.

Homework #7

What do you think your governing beliefs are? Which of them create the foundations for your choices in life? Talk to someone you trust, explain what a governing belief is and ask her what she thinks your governing belief is.

What to do about it?

#1 Assume you are not objective#2 Empty your cup.#3 Create safe space#4 Triangulate and Validate#5 Ask questions, make connections#6 Disrupt routines#7 Act as if in the here and now#8 Make sense with stories#9 Evolve yourself

A) be an agent of change

Everyone can learn - but it’s not easy.

B) bring an coach

An external coach isn’t biased by the existing belief bubbles

Thank you!pedropimentel.com

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www.liminalthinking.com