12. Confrontation

Leadership Principles from God’s Word: ConfrontationLeadership Principles from God’s Word: Confrontation

Leadership Principles from God’s Word:

CONFRONTATION

Mario Denton

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Overall purpose of this series on Leadership

PrinciplesTo provide concepts and tools for effective leadership and management so that you can: • Be more anointed in your workplace.

• Use these material to facilitate the work of evangelism.



Objectives• 1. Participants will be introduced to

concepts like confrontation and dealing with criticism.

• 2. Participants will explore the art of confrontation.

• 3. Participants will evaluate their lives and make appropriate changes re their own goals and skills during confrontation.



Passage to memorizePsalm 86: 9-12

Teach me your way O Lord, and I will walk in your truth; give me an undivided heart,

that I may fear your name. I will praise you o Lord my God with all my heart; I will glorify

your name forever.



ConfrontationEzekiel 23: 36-39

• At times a leader must confront sinful behaviour.

• No healthy leader enjoys. confrontation, but no healthy leader avoids it.



What can we learn from God and Ezekiel about confrontation

Ezekiel 23: 36-391. Be compassionate

Ezekiel hurt as he recalled the sins of Israel.




Ezekiel 23: 36-392. Be forthrightEzekiel spoke

honestly and directly to the issues.




Ezekiel 23: 36-39

3. Be specificEzekiel didn’t drop hints, but gave

specifics about the problem.




Ezekiel 23: 36-394. Be clear

Ezekiel spoke simply about the consequences of such behaviour.




Ezekiel 23: 36-395. Be redemptive

Ezekiel communicated for the purpose of restoring the people.




Ezekiel 23: 36-396. Be hopeful

Ezekiel ended with words of hope for the future.



The art of confrontation Hosea 6: 1-7:16

• 1. He clarifies the desired relationship he wishes to have (6: 1-3)

• 2. He defines the unacceptable behaviour(6: 4-5)

• 3. He highlights his values and priorities (6: 6)



The art of confrontation Hosea 6: 1-7:16

• 4. He lists the conduct that illustrates his point (7: 1-14)

• 5. He reminds the people of their training (7:15)

• 6. He declares the consequences (7 :16)



All good confrontation ends in the hope of restoration. The goal is always reconciliation, not excommunication.



When team members drift

from goals, leaders owe it to them and to the organisation to

confront or clarify the situation.



ConfrontationZephaniah 2: 4-15

When leaders are willing to confront difficult issues, they

win the respect of others.



How do leaders confront 1 Cor. 5:1,2

• 1. Address the issue immediately and personally.

• 2.Confront with the right spirit.• 3. Start on a positive note.• 4. Outline the problem.• 5. Encourage a response.



How do leaders confront 1 Cor 5:1,2

• 6. Show that you understand the other person’s position.

• 7. Explain why the action is damaging.

• 8. Indicate the desired action.• 9. Reiterate the positive strengths of

the person.• 10. Put the issue in the past.



ConfrontationWhy is confrontation so difficult?



Confrontation should not be to punish or excommunicate, but

to restoreConfrontation is a redemptive

act of leadership.



The goals of healthy confrontation

1 Cor. 5: 1-13

• 1. Clarification: I will get a better understanding of the person and what happened

• 2. Change: I hope to get improvement from it

• 3. Relationship: I will likely deepen my relationship with that person



The goals of healthy confrontation

1 Cor 5:1-13

• 1. Purity: A word gets out, the organisation will be purified.

• 2. Respect: The organisation will likely raise the members level of respect for the leadership.

• 3. Security: People feel safe knowing leaders are strong enough to take a stand.



Follow –up and confrontation

Follow up has to take place after confrontation and when it is done well, the

follow-up can be especially warm and personal.

2 Cor. 2: 6-8



How do you critique someoneGalatians 2: 11-21

• 1. Check your motive. Your goal should be to help, not humiliate.

• 2. Make sure the issue is worthy of criticism. Does it really matter?

• 3. Be specific. Don’t drop hints, but clearly name the problem.




• 4. Don’t underestimate the person’s self confidence or identity. Make it obvious that you value the person.

• 5. Don’t compare people. Use realistic standards to measure conduct.

• 6. Be creative or don’t criticize. Find way to reach a solution.




• 7. Don’t attack the person. Critique the problem, not the person.

• 8. Do not postpone needed criticism. If the issue is big, act now.

• 9. Look at yourself looking at others. Take the log out of your own eye.

• 10. End criticism with encouragement. Finish on a positive note.



Confrontation must be done in order to rectify, purify and

unifyWhen leaders don’t stand for

something, their people will fall for anything.





Prayer Focus• Father, In the name of Jesus, I

surrender myself to walk in the Word. Your word living in me produces the Life in this world.

• The word is a lamp to my feet and a light to my path. It makes my way plain before me.

• I boldly and confidently say that my heart is fixed and established on the solid foundation – the Living Word of God! Amen



Lord we are the ones

LORD WE ARE THE ONES CALLED BY YOUR NAMEWE HUMBLE OURSELVES NOW AS WE PRAYRENOUNCING EVERY SIN AND WICKED WAYWE LIFT OUR VOICESEEK YOUR FACE AND SAY LORD SEND YOUR RAINPOUR OUT YOUR SPIRITLET THE FIRE FALLHEAL US ONE AND ALLFALL AFRESH ON ME WE SING HOLYHOLY SPIRITLET THE FIRE FALLHEAL US ONE AND ALLFALL AFRESH ON ME



Learning, application and commitment: James 1: 22-25

• “Do not merely listen to the word, and so deceive yourselves.

• Do what it says. • Anyone who listens to the word but does not do

what it says is like a man who looks at his face in the mirror and, after looking at himself, goes away and immediately forgets what he looks like.

• But the man who looks intently into the perfect law that gives freedom, and continues to do this, not forgetting what he has heard, but doing it - he will be blessed in what he does.” (NIV)



Learning, application and commitment

• One of the Biblical truths (principles) that I have learned from this lesson was …

• I intend to apply this truth (principle) in my business/Ministry by: …..

• With the help of the Holy Spirit, I will begin applying this truth immediately. I ask and expect my group to hold me accountable for this and to check with me periodically to determine if I am doing so. Please ask me …..



Jesus said: Take what I have given you and change the world!



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