9 Things You Do NOT Need to Be Happy

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    9 Things You Do NOT Need to Be Happy

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    You will never be happy if you continue to search for what happiness consists of. You will never truly live if you are forever looking for the meaning of life.?Albert Camus

    Today, as I was walking to a coffee shop in downtown Austin, a school bus stopped in front of me and a little kid waved at me frantically through the bus window. I laughed and waved back. There was instantly a look of surprise and then extreme happiness on the kids face just because I waved back to him. This remindedme of how, as children, we need very little to make us happy.

    As adults we somehow grow into the belief that we need everything to be a certain way in order to find and appreciate moments of happiness. But the truth is, to be happy we need much less than we think we need. In fact, I believe one of the best feelings comes when you realize that you can be perfectly OK and happy without the things you once thought you needed. And thats precisely what this sho

    rt article is about the things you do NOT need to be happy:

    1. Ideal circumstances.The happiest people do not live with a certain set of circumstances, but ratherwith a certain set of attitudes. Choosing to be positive and grateful for whatyou have now is going to determine how youre going to live the rest of your life. So look for something positive about today. Even if you have to look a littleharder than usual, it still exists.

    Ultimately, your greatest achievements are moments in time when what youre doingallows you to see how wonderful your life already is.

    2. Everyones approval.

    The biggest prison you will likely ever live in is your fear of what other people think.

    You cannot let other people tell you who you are or what you want. You have todecide that for yourself. When youre making big decisions, remember, what you think of yourself and your life is more important than what people think of you.Dont let others make you feel guilty for living your life. Its YOUR life. As long as youre not hurting anyone else, live it YOUR way.

    Fulfillment and success in life lie in your ability to use your entire mind to achieve your goals, dreams and desires. Take sufficient time to spend with yourself, without external interference. Youre worth it. (Angel and I discuss this in more detail in the Self-Lovechapter of 1,000 Little Things Happy, Successful Pe

    ople Do Differently.)

    3. A perfect past.Do not let the shadows of your past darken the doorstep of your present and future. Let go, forgive and move forward. Just because the past didnt turn out likeyou had hoped, doesnt mean your future cant be better than you had envisioned. In fact, we often grow stronger in the places we were once broken. Because its not until youre broken for a while that you truly learn what youre made of on the inside. And this insight gives you the ability to rebuild yourself, stronger thanever before.

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    Most of the time the only difference between long-term happiness and long-term despair is not quitting on yourself. As long as you are breathing its never too late. Today is a new beginning.

    4. Full control of lifes constant changes.Life is constantly changing and were changing with it. Were not the same person we were a year ago, a month ago, or a week ago. Lifes cycle doesnt stop. Change is what its all about. But every ending is the beginning of something else. Every exit is an entry somewhere else. Live, learn, and let go. Dont hold yourselfdown with the changes you cant control.

    Although some forces are out of your control, you can control how you react to things. Everyones life has positive and negative aspects whether youre happy or not depends greatly on which aspects you focus on. The best thing you can do is to let go of what you cant control, and invest your energy in the things you can.Live simply, love generously, speak truthfully, breathe deeply, do your best, and leave the rest to the powers above you. (Read The Road Less Traveled.)

    5. A carefree, stress-free life.Great challenges make life interesting; overcoming them makes life meaningful.Dont wait until everything is just right; it will never be perfect. There will always be challenges, obstacles and less than perfect conditions. So what! Getstarted now! With each step you take, you will grow stronger and stronger, more

    skilled, more confident, and more successful.

    Say it: I am determined to live a happy life no matter my challenges! I will turn all my tales of fury into tales of glory! I will turn all of my tales of woeinto tales of WOW! And no matter what happens, just do your best and appreciatewhat youre learning. You wont enjoy your life if you dont enjoy your challenges.

    6. All the things you dont have.You are right here, right now, with what you have, breathing. Enjoy it. Youve got nothing to do today except to smile.

    Happiness is valuing what you have, and enjoying the people, places, objects andevents in your life for what they are. Its not about changing and achieving all

    the time; sometimes its about being and appreciating. And you can nearly alwaysenjoy the things you have and the events happening around you if you make up your mind firmly that you will.

    7. A mountain of money.If we counted our blessings more often, instead of our money, we would be a lotricher. Keep money on your mind but out of your heart. Never get so busy making a living that you forget to make a life for yourself. Cultivate your spiritual growth. The real measure of your wealth is how much youd be worth if you lostall your money.

    Happiness formula = Do your best and appreciate what you have.Unhappiness formula = Compare yourself to others and the things they have.

    Its nice to have money and the things that money can buy, but its also important to make sure you havent lost track of the things that money cant buy. You dont needa lot of money to lead a rich life. Good friends and a loving family are worththeir weight in gold. It really is the little things that mean the mostlike along hug at just the right time. (Read The Happiness Project.)

    8. Any event happening in another time and place.Make your time count. Do not wish your moments away. Do not ruin today by focusing on another time and place. There is only now; realize how rich you are init.

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    Right now you are creating history your legacy. Dont let life slip by without being aware of it. Life works in a strange way: You want something and you workand wait and work and wait, and feel like its taking forever to come. Then it happens and its over and all you want to do is relive all the great memories you made along the way.

    Happiness is the journey. Open your eyes. Dont miss it.

    9. Constant happiness.The bottom line is that you cant be happy unless youre unhappy sometimes. Life isnot always perfect, and the utopian world of constant happiness in not natural,nor should you expect it.

    In the short-term, your mood will fluctuate, but it is your ability to realize and deal with these fluctuations that allows you to maintain long-term happiness. Any fool can be happy when times are good. It takes a strong soul with real heart to develop smiles out of situations that make most people weep. But it ispossible.

    Live every day of your life in full. Experience the highs and the lows, the positives and the negatives, and all the moods present between the various extremes. Dont focus on simply being happy. Focus on living a well-rounded, seasoned life. Focus on achieving completeness. Yes, happiness is part of this completene

    ss, but so is sadness, difficulty, frustration, and failure. And overcoming these latter points supports your personal growth far more than constant happiness.

    Next stepsChoose happiness today by taking life moment by moment, complaining very little,and being thankful for the little things that mean a lot.

    Your turnWhat would you add to the list? What do we sometimes forget we do NOT need to be happy? Leave a comment below and share your thoughts.