Anger Management Late Childhood

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ANGER MANAGEMENT ANGER MANAGEMENT


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D EALING WITH A D EALING WITH A

VERY ANGRY CHIL D VERY ANGRY CHIL D


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Anger is a very powerful emotion and it can be Anger is a very powerful emotion and it can bequite alarming to see your child in the throes of quite alarming to see your child in the throes of

rage.rage.

However, it is quite normal and acceptable forHowever, it is quite normal and acceptable forchildren to feel angry from time to time.children to feel angry from time to time.


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WHY IS MY CHIL D SO ANGRY WHY IS MY CHIL D SO ANGRY

C hild feeling misunderstoodC hild feeling misunderstoodFalsely accusedFalsely accused

Unfairly treatedUnfairly treatedInsecureInsecure Anger conceals vulnerable feelings Anger conceals vulnerable feelings Anger outbursts often reflect more than just Anger outbursts often reflect more than just what has happened in the immediate situation what has happened in the immediate situation(frustration,hurt & injustice) with pressure being (frustration,hurt & injustice) with pressure being built up like a volcanobuilt up like a volcano


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P ARENTING SKILLS FOR P ARENTING SKILLS FOR

ANGER MANAGEMENT ANGER MANAGEMENT

1. Increase emotional awareness1. Increase emotional awareness

The more you can encourage your childThe more you can encourage your childto express difficult feelings, the lessto express difficult feelings, the lessemotions will build up and overflow intoemotions will build up and overflow intoangry explosions.angry explosions.

Wh at s h ould you do?Wh at s h ould you do?


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2 . STAY CALM2 . STAY CALM

C hildren are like barometers for theC hildren are like barometers for theemotional climate around them. If youreemotional climate around them. If yourestressed, they will be too, if yourestressed, they will be too, if yourerelaxed so will they be.relaxed so will they be.

What to do?What to do?


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3 . Accept feelings and redirect angry3 . Accept feelings and redirect angryactionactionD

ismissing difficult feelings (e.g. hey its not aD

ismissing difficult feelings (e.g. hey its not abig deal, calm down) can be counter big deal, calm down) can be counter productive; your child will be left simmeringproductive; your child will be left simmeringabout the original source of frustration as wellabout the original source of frustration as well

as not being understood.as not being understood.



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4. 4. U se clear and consistentU se clear and consistentconsequences to limit aggressiveconsequences to limit aggressivebe h aviour be h aviour

Y our child needs to learn that althoughY our child needs to learn that althoughanger is ok, aggressive behaviour is notanger is ok, aggressive behaviour is not



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5 . HELP YO UR CHILD HAVE INNE R 5 . HELP YO UR CHILD HAVE INNE R PEACEPEACE

R esearch has shown, that connectedR esearch has shown, that connectedchildren and their parents get angry withchildren and their parents get angry witheach other less. The connectedeach other less. The connectedchild,child, growing up with a sense of wellgrowing up with a sense of well- -being, has peaceful modeling. He will getbeing, has peaceful modeling. He will getangry, but he learns to handle the anger inangry, but he learns to handle the anger insuch a way that it does not take over hissuch a way that it does not take over hispersonality.personality.



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7 . 7 . LOOK BENEATH THE "BAD" KIDLOOK BENEATH THE "BAD" KID

The habitually misbehaving child is usually an angryThe habitually misbehaving child is usually an angrychild. If your child seems "bad" all the time or you "don'tchild. If your child seems "bad" all the time or you "don'tknow what else to do" or your child seems withdrawn,know what else to do" or your child seems withdrawn,search beneath the surface for something that issearch beneath the surface for something that isangering your child.angering your child.

Two causes:Two causes:E ither there is a lot of family anger E ither there is a lot of family anger mother and/or mother and/or father is on edge all the time and the child incorporatesfather is on edge all the time and the child incorporatesthese feelings as part of himself;these feelings as part of himself;

Or the child feels angry because his sense of wellOr the child feels angry because his sense of well- -being is threatened. Helping children who misbehavebeing is threatened. Helping children who misbehaverepeatedly or seem "bad" more than "good" usuallyrepeatedly or seem "bad" more than "good" usuallybegins with a total family overhaul.begins with a total family overhaul.



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8 . LA U GHTE R 8 . LA U GHTE R THE BEST MEDICINETHE BEST MEDICINEF OR ANGE RF OR ANGE R

Humor diffuses anger and keeps trivialHumor diffuses anger and keeps trivialupsets from escalating. E xampleupsets from escalating. E xample



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9 . MODEL APP R OP R IATE EXP R ESSIONS O F 9 . MODEL APP R OP R IATE EXP R ESSIONS O F ANGE RANGE R

A nger that is expressed inappropriately A nger that is expressed inappropriatelyblocks your ability to discipline wisely.blocks your ability to discipline wisely.E xampleE xample



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10. LIGHTEN U P THE PE RF ECTIONIST10. LIGHTEN U P THE PE RF ECTIONIST

C hildren need to learn that it's all right toC hildren need to learn that it's all right to

goof. Y ou can lighten up the uptight childgoof. Y ou can lighten up the uptight childby modeling ways to handle mistakes.by modeling ways to handle mistakes.

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CONCLUSIONCONCLUSION

How to get your child to listen?How to get your child to listen?

How to handle anger positively?How to handle anger positively?

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