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At the Starting Line:Five Manhood Promises

Lesson F1.1

At the Starting Line: Five Manhood Promises Lesson F1.1Lesson Instructions

©2001-2009 Heritage House ‘76, Inc. 1-800-858-3040 Earn While You Learn, Module F1 9

Suitable for: Male clients who are fathers or may become fathers.

Time Frame: Any time curriculum is needed to help the husband or partner of the female client understand his important role as a man.

Lesson Objective: To provide an introduction and overview of the series and to begin to develop an understanding of manhood.

Instructions: Show DVD 1: At the Starting Line: Five Manhood Promises, from the series The Quest for Authentic Manhood. After the DVD, discuss questions with your client.

Homework: Copy and give the client the homework.

Supplies: DVD 1 (42 minutes): At the Starting Line: Five Manhood Promises.

Note: You do not need to remove the master sheets from the protective plas-tic to copy. You can copy right through the plastic. Start with the last page first and move forward so your copies will come out in order.

All rights reserved. These masters are intended for reproduction only by the organiza-tion that purchased them. The curriculum may not be shared with other centers or posted on the Internet. Not for use in churches. Contact www.mensfraternity.com for church materials.

Published by: The Heritage House ‘76, Inc.919 So. Main St. Snowflake, AZ 85937800-858-3040 www.hh76.com

This lesson introduces The Quest for Authentic Manhood. It describes the difficulties that today’s men have growing into authentic manhood. Five goals for the series are presented.

At the Starting Line: Five Manhood Promises Lesson F1.1


DVD Worksheet, Page 1

Some of these questions do not require a written answer. They will be dis-cussed after the DVD. These will have a (*) at the beginning of the question. For others you will fill in the information from the DVD. Fill in the written questions as you listen but don’t worry if you don’t get all of them. Your client advocate will go over this sheet with you. Don’t be afraid to ask questions and to discuss your points of view. This is how we learn.

1. The purpose of The Quest for Authentic Manhood is for you to become a _______________ _______.

2. The “gear” you need to complete this series is:

1. Toughness

2. A ___________________ to be real with other men, and

3. The _________________ to examine your life.

3. There are five “presuppositions” that Dr. Lewis talks about. A presupposition is something that we believe to be true before we even begin to talk about it. Fill in the missing words:

1. Manhood is in a state of _____________________.

2. Confused men create _____________ _________________.

3. Confused men _____________ _____ _____________ in their lives.

4. Today there is no lofty _______________ of manhood that is compelling.

5. The _____________ has insights to all of the above.

4. * Fathers come in all sorts of “shapes and sizes.” Which would best de-scribe your dad?

1. He was just never there - my parents divorced, my mom never mar-ried, my dad left home when I was young.

2. He was in the home, but he was too busy to take time with me.

3. He was there, and we did lots of things together, but I could never talk to him about important matters.

4. He was my best friend, and there was nothing I couldn’t ask him.

5. * The Industrial Revolution, World War II, and Feminism changed the way a father and son worked together.

If You Stick with It...This DVD series can richly reward you. You will grow in your understanding of what makes you tick and what makes (or made) your dad tick. Your new confidence will help you take on your true role as a man.

The Bible has a lot to say about the problems of manhood today.



1. In your own words, how did a dad’s role change when the Industrial Revolution began?

2. World War II changed how men thought about the world. Name one good trait and one bad trait that most men brought home from the war.

3. How did feminism (the belief in equality of the sexes, but often taken to the extreme) confuse the role of men in the 1970s?

6. Dr. Lewis promised you five things if you complete this series. Fill in the missing words:

1. You will have a clear _______________ of manhood.

2. You will develop a new manhood _______________.

3. You will make significant _____________ _____________ about yourself.

4. You will make new _______________ who are pursuing a common goal.

5. You will have your own personal manhood _________.

DVD Worksheet, Page 2

The Industrial Revolution began in America in the late 1800s and changed our country from one of farmers to one of factory workers.

America entered World War II in 1941. By the war’s end in 1945, the lives of millions of dads and dads-to-be had changed forever.



DVD Worksheet Key, Page 1

Some of these questions do not require a written answer. They will be dis-cussed after the DVD. These will have a (*) at the beginning of the question. For others you will fill in the information from the DVD. Fill in the written questions as you listen but don’t worry if you don’t get all of them. Your client advocate will go over this sheet with you. Don’t be afraid to ask questions and to discuss your points of view. This is how we learn.

1. The purpose of The Quest for Authentic Manhood is for you to become a better man.

2. The “gear” you need to complete this series is:

1. Toughness

2. A willingness to be real with other men, and

3. The courage to examine your life.

3. There are five “presuppositions” that Dr. Lewis talks about. A presupposition is something that we believe to be true before we even begin to talk about it. Fill in the missing words:

1. Manhood is in a state of confusion.

2. Confused men create major problems.

3. Confused men settle for less in their lives.

4. Today there is no lofty vision of manhood that is compelling.

5. The Bible has insights to all of the above.

4. * Fathers come in all sorts of “shapes and sizes.” Which would best de-scribe your dad?

1. He was just never there - my parents divorced, my mom never married, my dad left home when I was young.

2. He was in the home, but he was too busy to take time with me.

3. He was there, and we did lots of things together, but I could never talk to him about important matters.

4. He was my best friend and there was nothing I couldn’t ask him.

Answers will vary. Nonjudgmental or even sympathetic discussion can give you insight into the client’s needs.

The Bible has a lot to say about the problems of manhood today.

If You Stick with It...This DVD series can richly reward you. You will grow in your understanding of what makes you tick and what makes (or made) your dad tick. Your new confidence will help you take on your true role as a man.



5. * The Industrial Revolution, World War II, and feminism changed the way a father and son worked together.

1. In your own words, how did a dad’s role change when the Industrial Revolution began?

Answers will vary: Sons and fathers no longer worked side by side on the farm. Dads left home each day to work in the factories. Sons lost the ability to see their dads at their best, and now saw them exhausted after work. Sons lost the vital modeling that came from their dad at work. Moms took over the role of raising, educating, and disciplining sons.

2. World War II changed how men thought about the world. Name one good trait and one bad trait that most men brought home from the war.

Answers will vary: Good traits - include sacrifice, duty, a commitment to hard work. Bad traits include taking parenting too lightly, becoming emotionally disconnected from their sons, and working too much.

3. How did feminism (the belief in equality of the sexes but often taken to the extreme) confuse the role of men in the 1970s?

Answers will vary: Feminism tried to make the roles of men and women identical. As a movement, it brought women many new rights and op-portunities. However, it ignored the natural role of men and made it hard for a father to pass along a clear concept of what it means to be a man to his son.

6. Dr. Lewis promised you five things if you complete this series. Fill in the missing words:

1. You will have a clear definition of manhood.

2. You will develop a new manhood language.

3. You will make significant personal discoveries about yourself.

4. You will make new friends who are pursuing a common goal.

5. You will have your own personal manhood plan.

DVD Worksheet Key, Page 2

The Industrial Revolution began in America in the late 1800’s and changed our country from one of farmers to one of factory workers.

America entered World War II in 1941. By the war’s end in 1945, the lives of millions of dads and dads-to-be had changed forever.



Getting to Know You

Most of your homework sessions will deal more with what you learned in the DVD. But since we are just getting started on our journey, it’s a good time to get to know a little bit about you. As the series progresses, you will find that some things that Dr. Lewis speaks about apply directly to you - they kind of hit you right between the eyes - and others don’t. It really depends on how you were brought up. With that in mind, answer the questions below. Your answers will help the person taking you through this series to understand how to make the material more meaningful to you.

1. Who raised you at the different ages shown below? (Write the answer on the line below the numbers.)

Example:

A g e : 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 1 0 1 1 1 2 1 3 1 4 1 5 1 6 1 7 1 8 | _ mom and dad_ | mom | grandma

A g e : 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 1 0 1 1 1 2 1 3 1 4 1 5 1 6 1 7 1 8

2. How many brothers and sisters lived with you? Did any live elsewhere?

3. Who usually made the decisions about where you could go, who you could go out with, and what time you had to be home?

4. How did your school years go with your parent(s)? Circle the best word(s) to describe grade school; underline the word(s) that would describe high school:

happy chaotic unpredictable angry scary sad fun depressing

5. How would you describe your mom in a couple of words?

6. How would you describe your dad in a couple words?

Homework, Page 1

The Quiet Cowboy ApproachOften men don’t like to talk about themselves much, or even to talk at all for that matter. But this series is about men helping other men understand what it is to be a real man in today’s society. It’s tough to share valuable life experiences without at least a little talking to each other.



7. Did you move a lot, or did you live mostly in one place?

8. Did you ever envy someone else because their dad was the kind of per-son you wished your dad could be? If so, what was that dad like?

9. Circle the words that you would apply to your dad:

hardworking lazy smart poor

talented depressed strong disliked

mouthy strict quiet admired by all

honest jerky too busy feared by others

ambitious drug user dishonest funny

a loner never there caring warm

hated me demanding friendly self-centered

a great man argued a lot kind forgiving

loving immature bossy cruel

positive safe to talk to religious generous

dangerous drunken wild rude

conceited reliable my best friend trusting of you

9. Circle the words that you would apply to your mom:

hardworking lazy smart poor

talented depressed strong disliked

mouthy strict quiet admired by all

honest jerky too busy feared by others

ambitious drug user dishonest funny

a loner never there caring warm

hated me demanding friendly self-centered

a great woman argued a lot kind forgiving

loving immature bossy cruel

positive safe to talk to religious generous

dangerous drunken wild rude

conceited reliable my best friend trusting of you

Homework, Page 2

The Grass Is Always Greener...It always seems as if other families and other men don’t have problems. The truth is, every family and every man encounters rough spots in life. It’s how we overcome these things that make us who we are.



The homework questions in this lesson will have widely variable answers. They are meant to give you strong clues about the needs of your client. The Quest for Authentic Manhood addresses a wide variety of backgrounds but has one common goal; maturing the boy (at whatever physical age he is) into manhood.

How you proceed with your client in the weeks to come will depend greatly on how he was raised and whom he was raised by. A client who was raised in an intact family, but with an abusive, drunken father, will have different needs and perspectives from a son who was raised by a courageous, but single mom.

When you discuss the DVD or homework with him, you may find him willing and even excited to talk about certain parts of the material. This will most likely be the part that has spoken deeply to him about a past hurt or unmet need in his life. Dr. Lewis so accurately describes some of the issues confront-ing manhood in our present time that the client feels “someone understands me.” These subjects are the important ones and are worth spending time on.

This homework session is meant to get the client thinking about issues that will be discussed in the following DVDs.

Homework Key

What’s in a Word?It’s a shame we don’t have a better word than client to describe the people we are trying to help. This is a unique and complicated human being whom God has placed in our path. Discerning his particular needs, hurts, and potential is crucial to doing our work.

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