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Bullies and Victims: Who, Why, And How Julie E. Gomes Director of Curriculum and Instruction Canton Union School District #66 20 West Walnut Canton, Illinois 61520 (309) 647-1600 [email protected]

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Page 1: Bullies and Victims: Who, Why, And How Julie E. Gomes Director of Curriculum and Instruction Canton Union School District #66 20 West Walnut Canton, Illinois

Bullies and Victims:

Who, Why, And How

Julie E. GomesDirector of Curriculum and Instruction

Canton Union School District #6620 West Walnut

Canton, Illinois 61520(309) 647-1600

[email protected]

Page 2: Bullies and Victims: Who, Why, And How Julie E. Gomes Director of Curriculum and Instruction Canton Union School District #66 20 West Walnut Canton, Illinois

Informal DayLet’s get to

know each other!

Share at any time.Comments.Questions.Concerns.

Page 3: Bullies and Victims: Who, Why, And How Julie E. Gomes Director of Curriculum and Instruction Canton Union School District #66 20 West Walnut Canton, Illinois

8:30 a.m. Welcome and Introductions All About Bullies and Victims

11:30 a.m.—12:30 p.m. LUNCH 12:30 p.m. What Can We Do

3:15-3:30 p.m. Wrap-Up 

Today’s Outcomes: Participants will:Gain an awareness and knowledge of bullying and the impact on victims throughout a lifetime.Have a working knowledge of the definition of bullying and victimization, identification of bullies, victims, and bystanders within their schools, what is and is not bullying, and common errors in judgment.Gain an understanding of non-responsive tactics currently practiced within many schools.Gain a working knowledge of the variety of interventions that may be implemented into classrooms and schools.Gain an understanding of the multitude of resources available to educators.Gain an understanding of the steps needed to be taken in order to implement a campaign targeting the reduction of bullying and victimization within their schools.Develop a plan of action for dealing with the issue of bullying within their schools.

 

Agenda

Page 4: Bullies and Victims: Who, Why, And How Julie E. Gomes Director of Curriculum and Instruction Canton Union School District #66 20 West Walnut Canton, Illinois

You First… What were your

personal school experiences with bullying?

What have been your experiences as an educator?

What are your concerns? Why are you here?

Page 5: Bullies and Victims: Who, Why, And How Julie E. Gomes Director of Curriculum and Instruction Canton Union School District #66 20 West Walnut Canton, Illinois

Bully Profile What is a bully? At your tables

discuss and compile a profile of a bully.

Be prepared to share your profile with the group.

Page 6: Bullies and Victims: Who, Why, And How Julie E. Gomes Director of Curriculum and Instruction Canton Union School District #66 20 West Walnut Canton, Illinois

What Is A Bully?Someone who deliberately

intimidates, threatens, and/or hurts others repetitively over a period of time. Verbal, written, or physical threats

are made by them. Physical aggression. Rumor spreading. Teasing. Practical jokes. Extortion.

Page 7: Bullies and Victims: Who, Why, And How Julie E. Gomes Director of Curriculum and Instruction Canton Union School District #66 20 West Walnut Canton, Illinois

The Bully…Has a strong desire to hurt

others. Enjoys hurting others.

Exercises an unjust use of power.Seizes a power imbalance.

Personally stronger (physically or socially) than the victim(s).

Assembles a group that is stronger than the victim(s).

Page 8: Bullies and Victims: Who, Why, And How Julie E. Gomes Director of Curriculum and Instruction Canton Union School District #66 20 West Walnut Canton, Illinois

Why Some People Bully They are aggressive or impulsive. They enjoy the submission of others. It is part of their image or role. It is fun. They have low levels of empathy. General hostility. They are slaves to authority.

Must do the dirty work of others.

Page 9: Bullies and Victims: Who, Why, And How Julie E. Gomes Director of Curriculum and Instruction Canton Union School District #66 20 West Walnut Canton, Illinois

Why Some People Bully Boredom They are influenced by aggressive models.

Real life. Media.

They think it pays. Admired – gains status/power within the group. Less likely to be bullied.

They have prejudice towards others. They think their victims deserve it.

Page 10: Bullies and Victims: Who, Why, And How Julie E. Gomes Director of Curriculum and Instruction Canton Union School District #66 20 West Walnut Canton, Illinois

Types Of BulliesThere are two

kinds of bullies. Extrovert bullies

are outgoing, aggressive, and expressive.

Introvert bullies hide, control, and conform.

Page 11: Bullies and Victims: Who, Why, And How Julie E. Gomes Director of Curriculum and Instruction Canton Union School District #66 20 West Walnut Canton, Illinois

What All Bullies Have In Common…

They are self-absorbed. They want attention,

recognition, power, position, and fame. They are willing to use others in order to get what they want.

They want revenge. It does not matter from whom they get revenge.

They are not responsible for their own actions.

They are often jealous of others.

Page 12: Bullies and Victims: Who, Why, And How Julie E. Gomes Director of Curriculum and Instruction Canton Union School District #66 20 West Walnut Canton, Illinois

Recognizing BulliesPersistent patterns of behavior: Constant teasing of others. Intimidates, makes fun of, ridicules,

humiliates, or degrades others. Physical aggression towards others. Bossy. Picking on those smaller or weaker than

themselves. Manipulating others.

Usually has support from a group of peers. Easily angered and bad-tempered. Defiant. Lack of empathy. Low or high self-esteem.

Page 13: Bullies and Victims: Who, Why, And How Julie E. Gomes Director of Curriculum and Instruction Canton Union School District #66 20 West Walnut Canton, Illinois

Victim Profile What do some of

the victims look like in your school?

Discuss and compile a profile of a victim?

Be prepared to share your profile with the group.

Page 14: Bullies and Victims: Who, Why, And How Julie E. Gomes Director of Curriculum and Instruction Canton Union School District #66 20 West Walnut Canton, Illinois

Victimization A student is being

bullied when he/she is exposed, repeatedly over time, to negative actions on the part of one or more students. Implied is an imbalance of

power. This person has difficulty

defending himself/herself and is somewhat helpless.

Page 15: Bullies and Victims: Who, Why, And How Julie E. Gomes Director of Curriculum and Instruction Canton Union School District #66 20 West Walnut Canton, Illinois

Passive VictimsPassive victims are usually weaker

and smaller than bullies, and are unable to defend themselves.

May be different – appearance, dress, speech, gender, name, ability.

May lack social skills. May be shy, lonely, or depressed. May be anxious and insecure. May be characterized as over-

protected. Yields easily to bullying.

Page 16: Bullies and Victims: Who, Why, And How Julie E. Gomes Director of Curriculum and Instruction Canton Union School District #66 20 West Walnut Canton, Illinois

Passive Victim Reactions Fear.

Petrified. Depression. Zombie-like

appearance. Wildly-emotional

appearance. Escapes. Seeks help.

Page 17: Bullies and Victims: Who, Why, And How Julie E. Gomes Director of Curriculum and Instruction Canton Union School District #66 20 West Walnut Canton, Illinois

Provocative Victims

Provocative victims are usually difficult to recognize as victims.

Annoy others through teasing and irritating behaviors-they do not know when “enough is enough.”

May look like bullies by fighting back, but they end up losing in the end.

May have nasty habits. May be fidgety or nervous. May be easily aroused emotionally. May be diagnosed with ADD/ADHD. Tend to make you feel like they deserved

it. May be disliked by adults, including

teachers.

Page 18: Bullies and Victims: Who, Why, And How Julie E. Gomes Director of Curriculum and Instruction Canton Union School District #66 20 West Walnut Canton, Illinois

Provocative Victim Reactions

Fights back. Physically or

verbally.Acts cool.Distracts.

Amuses or placates the bully.

Page 19: Bullies and Victims: Who, Why, And How Julie E. Gomes Director of Curriculum and Instruction Canton Union School District #66 20 West Walnut Canton, Illinois

Recognizing VictimsWarning signs: Made fun of and laughed at in an

unfriendly manner. Teased-called names, taunted, belittled,

ridiculed, intimidated, degraded, given orders, dominated, or subdued.

Involved in quarrels and/or fights. Chosen last for the team/games. Alone-do not seem to have a single

friend. Never/infrequently being invited to

friend’s. Tries to stay close to the teacher or

other adults.

Page 20: Bullies and Victims: Who, Why, And How Julie E. Gomes Director of Curriculum and Instruction Canton Union School District #66 20 West Walnut Canton, Illinois

Recognizing VictimsWarning signs: Unexplained injuries. Frequent illnesses and/or absences. School problems.

Fear of going to school. Cutting classes. Poor grades. Wanders hallways between classes. Frequent requests to use the restroom during

classes. Avoiding school activities, particularly lunch

and recess. Has difficulty speaking up in class.

Page 21: Bullies and Victims: Who, Why, And How Julie E. Gomes Director of Curriculum and Instruction Canton Union School District #66 20 West Walnut Canton, Illinois

Recognizing VictimsWarning signs: Missing belongings. Torn clothing. Petty thefts. Emotional outbursts. Expressions that they are a

disappointment to others. Addictions to drugs, alcohol, pills,

movies/TV, video games, and/or the internet.

Usually are silent!

Page 22: Bullies and Victims: Who, Why, And How Julie E. Gomes Director of Curriculum and Instruction Canton Union School District #66 20 West Walnut Canton, Illinois

One Other GroupBystander

Ignores the bullying.

Supports the bully.

Sticks up for the victim.

Gets help.

Page 23: Bullies and Victims: Who, Why, And How Julie E. Gomes Director of Curriculum and Instruction Canton Union School District #66 20 West Walnut Canton, Illinois

Startling Facts about Bullying

60% of all office referrals are because of bullying.

30% of absences/tardies are a result of bullying.

Most suicides are victims of bullies. 70% of bullies have a criminal record. 95% of bullies do not go to college. Bullies are 200-300 times more likely

to be wife and/or child abusers.

National Center for Educational Statistics (2001).

Page 24: Bullies and Victims: Who, Why, And How Julie E. Gomes Director of Curriculum and Instruction Canton Union School District #66 20 West Walnut Canton, Illinois

Startling Facts About Bullying

8% of students are bullied 15-30% of students are involved in bullying as the

bully or victim. Boys are more likely to bully physically. Girls are more likely to bully by teasing, spreading

rumors, and/or isolating others. Students in lower grades are more likely to be

bullied than students in upper grades: 6th – 14% 7th – 13% 8th – 9% 9th – 9% 10th – 5% 11th – 4% 12th – 2%

National Center for Educational Statistics (2001)

Page 25: Bullies and Victims: Who, Why, And How Julie E. Gomes Director of Curriculum and Instruction Canton Union School District #66 20 West Walnut Canton, Illinois

Common Adult Responses to Bullying…

What can I do if I did not see it?

Stay away from the bully.

Stick up for yourself. Just ignore the bully.

(It is just a right of passage.)

Basically – These are non-responsive!

Page 26: Bullies and Victims: Who, Why, And How Julie E. Gomes Director of Curriculum and Instruction Canton Union School District #66 20 West Walnut Canton, Illinois

What Are The Effects Of Not Dealing With The Problem Of Bullying? Frightened students. Climate of fear,

intimidation, and hopelessness.

Academic problems occur. Confrontations take

place. Weaker students may

follow bullies. Negative atmosphere. School time is wasted!

Page 27: Bullies and Victims: Who, Why, And How Julie E. Gomes Director of Curriculum and Instruction Canton Union School District #66 20 West Walnut Canton, Illinois

Where Do We Begin? Determine need. Determine a plan of action. Establish a district policy on bullying. Provide professional development. Provide curriculum interventions. Provide support to staff and students. Establish building/classroom discipline

policies that include bullying. Clear-cut rules. Consequences for not following the rules. Reinforcement and support for those who follow the

rules. Involve all members of the school

community.

Page 28: Bullies and Victims: Who, Why, And How Julie E. Gomes Director of Curriculum and Instruction Canton Union School District #66 20 West Walnut Canton, Illinois

Planning… Acknowledge if the problem

exists. Build knowledge.

Workshops/inservices. Resource materials.

Develop policies and procedures. Involve the school community.

Implement the plan. Encourage follow-through of

all parties. Review and revise the plan.

Page 29: Bullies and Victims: Who, Why, And How Julie E. Gomes Director of Curriculum and Instruction Canton Union School District #66 20 West Walnut Canton, Illinois

Building Awareness - Is There A Problem?Find out about

bullying in your school.

Find out who the bullies are in your classes. Student

questionnaires. Student surveys.

Page 30: Bullies and Victims: Who, Why, And How Julie E. Gomes Director of Curriculum and Instruction Canton Union School District #66 20 West Walnut Canton, Illinois

Take A Look… At your tables, review

one of the surveys or questionnaires.

Discuss the grade level(s) for which it may apply and the amount of good information about bullies and/or victims it may provide.

Be prepared to share your findings with the group.

Page 31: Bullies and Victims: Who, Why, And How Julie E. Gomes Director of Curriculum and Instruction Canton Union School District #66 20 West Walnut Canton, Illinois

Building Knowledge

Page 32: Bullies and Victims: Who, Why, And How Julie E. Gomes Director of Curriculum and Instruction Canton Union School District #66 20 West Walnut Canton, Illinois

Professional DevelopmentBuy-InBuild

AwarenessBuild

Knowledge Provide Tools Provide

Resources

Page 33: Bullies and Victims: Who, Why, And How Julie E. Gomes Director of Curriculum and Instruction Canton Union School District #66 20 West Walnut Canton, Illinois

A Good Staff Member Will… Notice when a student is sad or

isolated. Look for the reasons. Respond to incidents of

bullying. Not see incidents as just playing

or just part of growing up. Work with victims to help them

feel safe and build confidence. Work with bullies to find a

solution.

Page 34: Bullies and Victims: Who, Why, And How Julie E. Gomes Director of Curriculum and Instruction Canton Union School District #66 20 West Walnut Canton, Illinois

Encourage Staff To…

Listen and pay attention to student requests for help. Discriminate

between isolated incidents and repetitive incidents.

Find out if the same students are involved.

Respond progressively. Suggest the

student: Ignore. Walk away. Avoid.

This will help you determine if the incident is truly bullying.

Aggression does not equal bullying.

Page 35: Bullies and Victims: Who, Why, And How Julie E. Gomes Director of Curriculum and Instruction Canton Union School District #66 20 West Walnut Canton, Illinois

Encourage Staff To Lend A Supportive Ear To…Reports of incidents

of bullying.By victims and

bystanders.Take all reports

seriously.Offer students an anonymous reporting system (i.e. A drop box).

Page 36: Bullies and Victims: Who, Why, And How Julie E. Gomes Director of Curriculum and Instruction Canton Union School District #66 20 West Walnut Canton, Illinois

Reactive Responses Begin sending a clear message

that bullying is not acceptable and will not be tolerated.Consistent attention and

administration.Fair and progressive discipline policy.

Not zero tolerance. Zero tolerance = zero flexibility. It takes away your ability to make a

decision based upon circumstances, history, and the effect of consequences.

Page 37: Bullies and Victims: Who, Why, And How Julie E. Gomes Director of Curriculum and Instruction Canton Union School District #66 20 West Walnut Canton, Illinois

Interviews… At your tables, review

the interview records. Discuss the grade

level(s) for which it may apply, who would be the recorder, and the amount of good information it may provide.

Be prepared to share your findings with the group.

Page 38: Bullies and Victims: Who, Why, And How Julie E. Gomes Director of Curriculum and Instruction Canton Union School District #66 20 West Walnut Canton, Illinois

Encourage Staff To Act Intervene.

Take action. Follow the discipline

procedures established.

Provide victims a safe room/place during recesses, breaks, and lunch hours.

Delay the bully after school and before recesses, lunch hours, passing times, and breaks.

Page 39: Bullies and Victims: Who, Why, And How Julie E. Gomes Director of Curriculum and Instruction Canton Union School District #66 20 West Walnut Canton, Illinois

Keep in Mind… Bullies may interpret

intervention as a direct challenge to their status.

Bullies may seek retribution on their victims.

Page 40: Bullies and Victims: Who, Why, And How Julie E. Gomes Director of Curriculum and Instruction Canton Union School District #66 20 West Walnut Canton, Illinois

Some Errors In JudgmentTo Avoid…

Saying to the bully that people will not like him/her.

Putting the bully down publicly. Prejudging the bully in every

situation. Treating the bully inconsistently. Trying to bribe the bully. Excluding the bully. Getting into a value argument

over right and wrong with the bully.

The bully wants any/all attention!!!

Page 41: Bullies and Victims: Who, Why, And How Julie E. Gomes Director of Curriculum and Instruction Canton Union School District #66 20 West Walnut Canton, Illinois

Assist Victims Encourage them to…

Stay with friends. Avoid being alone in

dangerous places (i.e. locker rooms, restrooms, hallways…).

Act confident. Stand tall. Hold head up. Make eye contact.

Ask for help.

Page 42: Bullies and Victims: Who, Why, And How Julie E. Gomes Director of Curriculum and Instruction Canton Union School District #66 20 West Walnut Canton, Illinois

Proactive Responses Teach students how to make friends.

Bullies tend to chose loners as their victims.

What are some ways you can encourage friendships in your classroom?

What opportunities are present or can be created to partner students?

Page 43: Bullies and Victims: Who, Why, And How Julie E. Gomes Director of Curriculum and Instruction Canton Union School District #66 20 West Walnut Canton, Illinois

Assist BulliesAcknowledge students who

bully.Teach students how to deal

with their bullying problem.Anger management.Conflict resolution.Problem solving.

Conference with family members.

Refer for counseling.

Page 44: Bullies and Victims: Who, Why, And How Julie E. Gomes Director of Curriculum and Instruction Canton Union School District #66 20 West Walnut Canton, Illinois

More…Discuss bullying in the classroom. Use literature and videos (published, TV, movies) to open the door.

Page 45: Bullies and Victims: Who, Why, And How Julie E. Gomes Director of Curriculum and Instruction Canton Union School District #66 20 West Walnut Canton, Illinois

Seek out resources for help.

Published materials

Internet Workshops Regional Office

of Education Universities

Page 46: Bullies and Victims: Who, Why, And How Julie E. Gomes Director of Curriculum and Instruction Canton Union School District #66 20 West Walnut Canton, Illinois

And…Model behavior

that does not include bullying (i.e. sarcasm, mean-spirited humor…).

Establish a one-to-one relationship with the bully.

Page 47: Bullies and Victims: Who, Why, And How Julie E. Gomes Director of Curriculum and Instruction Canton Union School District #66 20 West Walnut Canton, Illinois

Develop a Plan of Action

What steps will be taken? Disseminate information. Provide professional development. Develop policies.

When? Who will be involved? Who will be responsible? What resources will be needed?

Page 48: Bullies and Victims: Who, Why, And How Julie E. Gomes Director of Curriculum and Instruction Canton Union School District #66 20 West Walnut Canton, Illinois

Measure Success Record data. Determine if there is an increase or

decrease of bullying incidents. Determine if there is an increase in

“telling”. Determine if there is a reduction of

observable aggressive incidents. Determine if there is a greater staff

consistency in dealing with incidents.

Page 49: Bullies and Victims: Who, Why, And How Julie E. Gomes Director of Curriculum and Instruction Canton Union School District #66 20 West Walnut Canton, Illinois

Finally… Consider:What is the current district/

building role in dealing with bullying?

What role would you like the district/ building to play in dealing with bullying?

What steps would you like to take in achieving that role?

Page 50: Bullies and Victims: Who, Why, And How Julie E. Gomes Director of Curriculum and Instruction Canton Union School District #66 20 West Walnut Canton, Illinois

Final Thoughts?