Chapter 2 Relationships & Choosing Abstinence

Lesson 1 Relationships & Communication

Aww…baby

Clinton Bullock! What a looker!

You’ll learn to…

• Evaluate the effects of family relationships on physical, mental/emotional, and social health

• Evaluate the positive & negative effects of relationships with peers

• Demonstrate communication skills that build & maintain healthy relationships

Functions of a healthy family

• Families help provide basic physical needs. Ex. food, shelter, care when ill.

• Families provide emotional support.

• Families provide structure for our lives. Ex. organize activities and schedule times. (families look out for your best interest).

                                  

Clinton Bullock & Family

Family & Friends• Family is the basic

unit of society.• Besides ensuring

food, clothing, and shelter, family provides guidance to help children learn to function in society.

• Families teach us our values.

Harley Monk & Brothers

Values• Values- the beliefs &

standards of conduct that are important to a person

• Values are also instilled through cultural heritage, religious beliefs, and family traditions

• You apply your values to the decisions that you make everyday.

Joe Ewald at GCIT’s 10 year Reunion

Friends

• As we mature we meet people outside our families & we make friends

• Friends who share your interests and values can be a source of positive peer pressure

Hogan, Ewald, Monk & Bullock…BFF’s with matching mullets!

Relationships in Adolescent Years

• Forming mature relationships with your peers is important for your social health

• Being involved in a variety of school, religious, and community activities can promote your mental/emotional and social growth.

Peer Pressure

• As you develop relationships (individual/groups) you probably experience peer pressure.

• Peer pressure is the influence that people your age may have on you

• Peer pressure can be positive or negative

Peer pressure continued…

• Peer pressure is especially influential for adolescents with low self-esteem.

• In order to feel a sense of belonging, they may engage in high-risk behaviors or activities that go against their values.

Dating

• Considered an important social activity

• Group dates offer teens opportunities to interact with a variety of people, they may feel less nervous.

• Steady dating is when two people date each other exclusively.

Communication

• The process through which you send messages to and receive messages from others—is essential to any relationship

• Good communication skills will help you keep relationships healthy and mature

Good Communication Skills

• Means clearly expressing your feelings, thoughts, ideas, and expectations.

1. Use “I” messages to avoid placing blame.2. Maintain a polite tone in your voice.3. Speak directly to the person.4. Provide a clear, organized message that

states the situation.5. Body language should match your words.

Good Listening Skills

• Good listening skills means listening to what others say. Guidelines for being a good listener:

1. Give your full attention to the person speaking.

2. Focus on the speaker’s message.3. Indicate your interest.4. Remember what the speaker had said.5. Use positive body language.

Conflict

• Any disagreement, struggle, or fight. • Most common reasons for a conflict

include a lack of communication• When conflicts or disagreements

occur relying on T.A.L.K strategy will help reach a peaceful resolution.

T.A.L.K

• T- Take time out• A- Allow each person to express

his/her opinion uninterrupted• L- Let each person take turns to ask

questions and clarify any statements

• K- Keep brainstorming to find a good solution

Conflict & Dating

• Becoming skilled at “choosing your battles,” or deciding when it is worthwhile to take, can help you avoid unnecessary conflict.

• Good communication is especially important in dating relationships.

• Express yourselves honestly and listen to what the other person is saying.

Review Questions

1. Evaluate ways your parents, guardians, and other family members contribute to physical and mental/emotional health and help you establish healthy relationships.

2. Define the term peer pressure and evaluate the positive & negative effects of relationships with peers.

Review Questions continued…

3. List three benefits of dating.4. Explain & demonstrate the importance

of using good communication skills in building & maintaining healthy relationships. Give two examples.

5. Make a list of positive ways you can develop healthy relationships with your peers. Describe specific actions you can take to become a good friend.