CR James Reports (February 18, 2011) Women dating seduction attraction

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Hey CR.. I'm writing you because I truly believe you're one of the best in the business, sowithout further comments let me give you a little background of why I'm writing this:

I'm 33 year old industrial engineer (but thank god I look 25!) and I won a scholarship tocome get my masters degree in Dortmund, Germany. And so happens that I've been

living here in GERMANY for the past couple of months and I'm only going to be here forthe next 7 months... so here's the problem

1- NO GIRLFRIEND POSSIBLE

Because of my short time here and the fact that people interact a little different than back home, I need to change my MINDSET from "Dating" to "Having One Night Stands"(otherwise I'm going to have very very long cold nights!)

Normally I have the process of dating figured out: approach the woman, spark attraction,get the phone number and leave, then after a few days call, date 1 or 2 and finally sex.

After that you either get a girlfriend or you get a f*ck buddy.But here... THE CULTURE IS DIFFERENT.. Either girls go for one night stands or forlong term relationship. Middle grounds are not very common (and too complicated forwhat I found out so far).

And because the whole girlfriend thing is not possible... how CAN I CHANGE MYMINDSET ABOUT THIS ISSUE and start becoming successful in the one-night deal?

and numero dos...

2- LANGUAGE BARRIER

Simply put... MY GERMAN SUCKS!

It's too damn hard man! I try to speak it, but by the time I manage to actually have afluent conversation I'm afraid my time will be gone and would have to go back home.

Normally I wouldn't mind this so much but.. IT HAS BECOME MY "FREEZINGBUT"!!.

Just yesterday I was in a disco with a friend and we noticed several women checking usout. My friend kept telling me "go talk to that one" or "make your move with this one"..but I WAS FROZEN! I KEPT TELLING HIM (AND MYSELF) "yeah.. I could, BUT Idon't know how what to say.. I can't speak German".. or whatever crap like that...

This LANGUAGE BARRIER has become my mental virus!!

And I need help...



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Thanks in advanceLuis(now in Germany)

Hey Luis

I'm not sure what the cultural differences are In Germany, but I believe the "attractionsignals" are universal.

The personality type is likely to be a bigger factor. It's kind of like going to any country -let's say Japan - and not knowing the language yet being able to spot the girls who areflirty & wild and the ones who are quiet and shy ... even though you can't speak thelanguage...even though you don't fully know the cultural differences...

As far as not being able to speak German, well. I think it would help to make sure you'recapable of talking to them. LOL. If I were in your shoes, I would DEFINATELY makesure I could talk to the women in the country I'm in.

That would be priority #1.

Don't worry about if it isn't perfect. Use that to your advantage. Learn how to say:

"Hi. I'm new here. Can you help me learn how to speak German?" And then let that beyour angle.

-CR

Hey James,

Always glad to see your email man.

Been busy with work. Hope you doing fine man. Thanks for the download stuff you aresharing with us.

I have a couple of questions to see if you would like to answer. So far in my circle of friends none of them know much about seduction and those approaching women stuffs.

How do you start a conversation with a girl or woman quickly without her knowing youare trying to be a pickup artist?

Younger woman how to really get them to be attracted to me?



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Lately I know younger woman, strangely some do look for long term relationship which Ihave many people disagreed on this saying that they are young would like to enjoythemselves before so call finding Mr Right.

So what is it that as man we can attract a younger girl to go into a long term relationship?

You thoughts on this would be valuable.

I have seen girls as young as 16 or 18 getting married. Bizarre, strange or weird I don'tknow. Kind of too young for them to settle down.

You might be asking why go for younger woman. One thing for sure they have much lessemotional baggage than those girl or woman near their 30s say around the age of 28 to 30or older. These age category of woman some of them have a lot emotional baggage frompast relationship.

I am just thinking as I begin to know more younger woman why let chances slip away

when you know some of them are high quality girls beside their looks alone.Thanks James.

RegardsAlex



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Hey Alex

As far as younger women and my take. I would first classify her into some sort of "Whatdrives her?" category and a few other categories before I considered her age.

Let's say you're 35yr - 45yr and looking to hook up seriously with 21 year old. First, paymore attention to what drives her, because there is a difference between:

A 21 year old who enjoys video games, comic books, super tech stuff, etc. A 21 year old who enjoys shopping, fashion, beauty, following life style of

celebrities, etc. A 21 year old who enjoys clubbing, smoking weed, hanging out with a bunch of

male friends, A 21 year old who enjoys academics, planning for the future, focusing on career.

(And there will always be unattractive, average-looking and hot women in each

category.)

If you talk to any woman long enough, they won't let you forget what type of woman sheis. That will provide you with some basic information, but it's important to pay attentionto what she spends her time doing.

Step 2: Then pay attention to her "relationship philosophies" to determine if she's apotential quality partner (if that matters).

There are 22 year old girls who have a more grounded (reasonable) sense of how arelationship should work than some 40 year old women.

For example, if a woman is scarred (in the sense that she refuses to let things go and learnfrom her experiences), then she's likely to make negative shifts in her relationshipphilosophy.

For example, she gets cheated on and ends up creating the belief that "no man will everbe faithful" or "if you treat a guy good he'll take advantage of you" or any belief that willultimately set the pace for how she will behave in the relationship.

So always ask questions (directly and indirectly/secretly) to get her to expose herrelationship philosophies.

Step 3: Then (finally) consider the age factor...

..like how does she initially feel about dating an older guy?

If there is an issue, then you have to create a sub-strategy for it.

If not, then (age-wise) see if you can figure out how she puts things in perspective.



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She could have the maturity level of a 14 year old.

While another 22 year old could have the maturity level of a 38 year old (with her head

on her shoulders).

There are lots of people who say stuff like NEVER get into a relationship with a girl inher 20'a blah blah blah. Never do that.. No. No No.

The truth is "any reason you can come up with for not taking a younger woman seriously(relationship-wise)" could be applied to some women of all ages.

So it always makes more sense to consider what drives her (what type of woman she is)along with her outlook on relationships first and then look at her age as a "limited lifeexperiences" factor. (if that makes sense)

So to get to your question "What is it that as man we can attract a younger girl to go intoa long term relationship? ... it depends on the 'younger girl'. If she doesn't have the desireto be in a LT relationship and/or the 'perspective' to function in one, then anything you do(however skillfully executed) is likely to fail.... because you would have to 'sell her on theidea' (build the desire), then train her to function in one (which could have layers of complexity) among other things...

To me, if you want to get a relationship with a woman (young or old) it's better to figureout if she has the desire and the perspective to begin with...

Unless you're taking a controlling approach where you're getting her to do whatever youwant (so she's compelled to be a relationship only because you TOLD HER). Eventhough you'll easily keep her horny (b/c your SV is structured primarily on "Authority"and other stuff) it could to be destructive if you're reckless.

As far as your other question about starting a conversation a young girl and her notthinking you're a pickup artist.

I wouldn't be too concerned with whether she thought you were trying to pick her up. Atthat point, you don't know anything about her. Some women prefer a direct approach (nothiding that you're interested in her on some level)

As far as the strategy part of starting the conversation, I'll cut and paste this from SuperApproach Power....

The Use of Entry Points



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There are 4 easy ways to start any conversation:

[Conversation Starters]

1. State your opinion2. State a fact3. Ask for her opinion4. Ask her about a fact

And with that there are 6 basic topics

[Basic Topics]

A. YouB. HerC. Someone ElseD. Something

E. The SituationF. The Environment

So with these 4 Conversation Starters and these 6 Basic Topics, you can easily form:24 Ways To Get Her Attention: In other words, you can create 24 Entry Points.

1. State your opinion about You2. State your opinion about Her3. State your opinion about Someone Else4. State your opinion about Something5. State your opinion about The Situation6. State your opinion about The Environment7. State a fact about You8. State a fact about Her9. State a fact about Someone Else10. State a fact about Something11. State a fact about The Situation12. State a fact about The Environment13. Ask for her opinion about You14. Ask for her opinion about Her15. Ask for her opinion about Someone Else16. Ask for her opinion about Something17. Ask for her opinion about The Situation18. Ask for her opinion about The Environment19. Ask her about a fact about You20. Ask her about a fact about Her21. Ask her about a fact about Someone Else22. Ask her about a fact about Something23. Ask her about a fact about The Situation24. Ask her about a fact about The Environment

If that's too confusing, you can also use common Entry Points, like "Hello" ..lol.



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I'm not sure if this is necessarily directly related about your area of expertise, but it isn'ttoo far removed. One thing I've struggled with throughout my life is properly regulatinganxiety. I do things to attempt to regulate it, like say exercise, and meditation (for i.e.cultivating "resource states" and visualizing positive outcomes). They are beneficial.That being said, there is room for improvement. I'm reminded of a conversation I had

with a woman a few months before I was married. She mentioned attendingadministrative meetings at her workplace. She said she had ideas and didn't agree with x,y, and z...however, at the moment she said "my mind was blank...those thoughts justweren't there at the time." That describes my situation pretty well. Do you have anyadvice on how to overcome such blocks and apply what I know better in "real time?"

Regards,

Jim

Are you saying that she share her experience of wanting to think about something but it's just not there...how do you feel when this is going on?

Not quite like that, it's more like I'll realize the perfect thing to say or do 5 minutes afterthe fact...when it's too late...My goal is to get my mind focused on realizing the perfectthing to say when it's the right time to say it, not after. So, I'm trying to work on ways toremove those blocks that keep me from having the perfect thing to say at the perfect time.Hope that clarifies my question. This may be a little connected to something you havepreviously written about: "Confidence isn't something you gain, it's something youalready have." I agree with you, I want to pull away things that might be impeding me.

Oh Ok... I understand now...

Very good question...

And actually Jim, I think you're on the right track. Meaning it's good that you do that. I'mthe same way.

I had a conversation recently with a family member who just started out in sales. And wetalked about this very concept in depth for awhile. And she says she'll find the perfectthing to say after the fact - but of course, at that point it's too late.

And I thought it was interesting topic because I was like that at one point (when I was insales and in life in general). Now, for the most part I think on my feet pretty well - but (inmy opinion) I think it has to do with the HABIT of realizing I could have said thingsbetter after the fact. In some cases, I'll obsess over it too much.



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So if you do this, it's a good thing. It makes your smarter.

So even though, initially there may be a level of frustration with realizing that you couldhave potentially said something "better" than you did in the past. It's not realistic.

What takes you "a half of second to think of" shouldn't be able to compete with whatyou're about to come up with after 5-10 minutes of thinking/obsessing.

And that's all that's really happening.

The good news is this process of discovering a better version after the fact, leads to aquicker response in the future.

So looking at it numerically, if it normally takes you 5 minutes to come up with the rightthing to say, over time it will be reduced down to 3 minutes...then 1 minute... then a fewseconds (at that point it will be in 'real time').

Don't look at it as a bad thing. Of course, this basically applies to areas of life where you"kind of"know a general idea of what the question will be...or what the situation will call for...

For example, let's say you're single and you date new women quite frequently...afterawhile, you're not likely to get caught off guard with certain questions...at some point,she's likely to ask about your background, your interests and stuff like that...your brainreaction time becomes a lot quicker...

In a sales situation, the same kind of thing happens. There might be commonquestions/objections that pop up over and over again. And pretty soon, you unconsciouslybecome prepared.

But in ANY situation where you're completely caught off guard, you're speed of responseis only as good as your ability to relate it to something similar. And even if you give a"good response" (i.e. thinking on your feet) you're almost guaranteed to come up withsomething MUCH BETTER after 5-15 minutes of thinking.

Does that make sense?

Because your brain is "processing" the information longer. And not only that, just havethe DESIRE to come up with something better, stresses the brain (in a good way) to makeit think more efficiently.

It begins to run more calculations and comparisons. So you should EXPECT to produce abetter version (of what you could have said) after 5-15 minutes of thinking.

...which becomes proof that you're a good thinker.



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The cool thing is that you're the type of person who thinks after the fact. Not everyone islike that.

So that's my take on it.

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