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Creating An Irresistible Dating Profile Reb Perkins The Duggars, all 21 of them, have a word for their unusually large family: "normal." In an interview with The Wire, four of the older Duggar women â 20-something daughters Jill, Jessa, Jinger, and Jana â used the word often to explain the reasoning behind their new book, Growing Up Duggar It's a book about relationships, including romantic ones. But the Duggars, who follow a particular branch of conservative evangelical Christianity, don't date. They court. "We're even saving our first kiss," Jessa Duggar told The Wire in an interview, "for our wedding day." With such a different way of being, can the Duggars teach us anything about ourselves, as they'd very much like to do? To crib a relationship status none of the Duggars will ever use on Facebook, it's complicated. Foxton says that when he was on his mission to date 28 women, what seemed to surprise them most was that he was exactly the height he had said he was. Dating website OK Cupid notes that this is the most lied about aspect on online dating. On average, it suggests, people are two inches shorter than they say they are. Again, for Doherty, it indicates that people are still uncomfortable about looking for love on the internet. This is changing, Davis notes in the Huffington Post She cites Pew research to mark "the official demise of the online dating stigma". Some 59% of internet users agree that "online dating is a good way to meet people" and 42% of Americans know an online dater. Plenty of Fish also gives a sense of the scale of online dating. It says its own data from Comscore from 2012 in the US shows they have 55 million members, 24 million messages sent per day, 50,000 new signups per day, and 10 billion page views every month. In the world of marketing (which, in the end, is what online dating is all about), the goal is to reach the right customer, not every customer. This goal is called strategic positioning, the process of defining who you are in a way that your customers understand whether they're a good match for you. Likewise, in the world of online dating, your goal is to present yourself in a way that tends to attract the right kind of person, not every available prospect. The obvious first step is to think about the kind of match you want. Focus on the less superficial stuff, not how tall or suave or sexy you want your prospect to be. Then you need to combine that thought with something about who you are. And from there, create your tagline. Some sites automatically use the first few words of your essay to generate your tagline. This feature can cause some serious embarrassment if you aren't careful (see the section "Checking how your tagline gets displayed" for the scoop). Don't be dull. For example, say that you started your essay like 50 percent of all postings: "I'm youthful, spirited, happy, healthy" That's what your tagline will be. This tagline isn't horrible, and it won't injure anyone, but that tagline won't excite anyone either.

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The Duggars, all 21 of them, have a word for their unusually large family: "normal." In an interviewwith The Wire, four of the older Duggar women � 20-something daughters Jill, Jessa, Jinger, andJana � used the word often to explain the reasoning behind their new book, Growing UpDuggar It's a book about relationships, including romantic ones. But the Duggars, who follow aparticular branch of conservative evangelical Christianity, don't date. They court. "We're evensaving our first kiss," Jessa Duggar told The Wire in an interview, "for our wedding day." With such adifferent way of being, can the Duggars teach us anything about ourselves, as they'd very much liketo do? To crib a relationship status none of the Duggars will ever use on Facebook, it's complicated.

Foxton says that when he was on his mission to date 28 women, what seemed to surprise them mostwas that he was exactly the height he had said he was. Dating website OK Cupid notes that this isthe most lied about aspect on online dating. On average, it suggests, people are two inches shorterthan they say they are.

Again, for Doherty, it indicates that people are still uncomfortable about looking for love on theinternet. This is changing, Davis notes in the Huffington Post She cites Pew research to mark "theofficial demise of the online dating stigma". Some 59% of internet users agree that "online dating isa good way to meet people" and 42% of Americans know an online dater.

Plenty of Fish also gives a sense of the scale of online dating. It says its own data from Comscorefrom 2012 in the US shows they have 55 million members, 24 million messages sent per day, 50,000new signups per day, and 10 billion page views every month.

In the world of marketing (which, in the end, is what online dating is all about), the goal is to reachthe right customer, not every customer. This goal is called strategic positioning, the process ofdefining who you are in a way that your customers understand whether they're a good match foryou. Likewise, in the world of online dating, your goal is to present yourself in a way that tends toattract the right kind of person, not every available prospect.

The obvious first step is to think about the kind of match you want. Focus on the less superficialstuff, not how tall or suave or sexy you want your prospect to be. Then you need to combine thatthought with something about who you are. And from there, create your tagline.

Some sites automatically use the first few words of your essay to generate your tagline. This featurecan cause some serious embarrassment if you aren't careful (see the section "Checking how yourtagline gets displayed" for the scoop). Don't be dull. For example, say that you started your essaylike 50 percent of all postings: "I'm youthful, spirited, happy, healthy" That's what your tagline willbe. This tagline isn't horrible, and it won't injure anyone, but that tagline won't excite anyone either.