December 2011 Bulletin

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Soloway Blood Bank DriveSunday, December 18

9 AM - 12:30 PM

When you "deposit" in our "account"you and your family can "makewithdrawals," AND you are helpingyour Temple "family" and community.The greatest gifts are health and life,so our Blood Bank is scheduled, foryour convenience, on the day ofChanukahMania.Email Marla Ostroff [email protected] or Jamie Ostroff [email protected] with your phone number and thetime you'd like to give.

Fun for the whole family!Crafts and Activities

for Preschoolers and older!

Two new exciting additions this year!We will be producing “Peace Poles”, to be used inour new outdoor classroom. Everyone whoattends will be asked to contribute a word ofpeace in one of the many world languages. Ourwishes for peace are much stronger when wework together.

Recycled Menorah contest ~ families or groupswill work together to make a Menorah out ofrecycled items you bring with you. Start savingyour recyclables for this fun event right now!Please bring in a brown bag filled with food itemsto be donated to the Interfaith Food Pantry. Thentake your brown bag and fill it with your artprojects. We are assisting others and being greenat the same time.

Happy Chanukah

A specialway to give . . . . . . . . . . . . . . And to Enjoy

ChanukahMania!Sunday, December 18

9 AM - 11:30 AM

NEVER TOO EARLYNEVER TOO EARLYNEVER TOO EARLYNEVER TOO EARLYNEVER TOO EARLYTO SHOP FOR CHANUKAH!TO SHOP FOR CHANUKAH!TO SHOP FOR CHANUKAH!TO SHOP FOR CHANUKAH!TO SHOP FOR CHANUKAH!

Visit the Women’s Connection Gift Shop whereyou’ll find the very best in gifts for the home, for

your children and grandchildren and maybea little something just for yourself . TheGift Shop is open on Tuesdays duringReligious School hours, during the oneg

shabbat on Fridays, and on Sundays andother days by appointment.

DECEMBER 2011/KISLEV-TEVET, 5772

ClergyRabbi Daniel M. Cohen, D.Min.Rabbi Ellie Lynn Miller, M.A.R.E.Rabbi Harvey S. Goldman, EmeritusRabbi Herbert Weiner, EmeritusCantor Theodore AronsonCantor Joan Finn

Lay LeadershipJay Rice, PresidentRob Ozer, VPJules Nissim, VPSue Wishnow, VPMax Weisenfeld, VPLisa Tilton-Levine, VPDavid Leit, VPWendy Ferber, VPJeff DuBowy, TreasurerLynne Crawford, Secretary

Executive DirectorLeslie Y. SpornSchool DirectorsCarol Paster, PreschoolMindy Schreff, Religious SchoolProgram DirectorTracy Horwitz, LSWJFS Social Worker at TSTIBeth Sandweiss, MA, MSWBulletinSunny Seglin

Phone: 973-763-4116

MEMBER CONGREGATIONUNION FOR REFORM JUDAISM

Schedule of ServicesSchedule of ServicesSchedule of ServicesSchedule of ServicesSchedule of Services

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Contact us at [email protected] our website at www.tsti.orgPh: 973-763-4116 Fax: 973-763-3941

Friday, December 2VayetzeWomen’s ConnectionShabbat Service, 7:30 P.M.Bass Sanctuary Building

Saturday, December 3Minyan Service, 9:15 A.M.Gross Bet MidrashB’not Mitzvah of Lucy Reynal andEmelia Gertner 10:15 A.M.Bar Mitzvah of Jared Levi 10:30 A.M.

Friday, December 9VayishlachShabbat Service and Scholar,Jane S. Gerber, “The Impact of SephardicJews on the Contemporary Jewish World”,6:00 P.M.Bass Sanctuary Building

Saturday, December 10Minyan Service, 9:15 A.M.Gross Bet MidrashBar Mitzvah of Claudia Steiner andMarc Steiner, 10:15 A.M.

Friday, December 16VayashevShabbat Service, 7:30 P.M.

Saturday, December 17Minyan Service, 9:15 A.M.Gross Bet Midrash

Friday, December 23MiketzShabbat Service, 6:00 P.M.Bass Sanctuary Building


Friday, December 30VayigashShabbat Service, 6:00 P.M.Bass Sanctuary Building


Friday, January 6VeyechiFamily Shabbat Service, “A Biblical Journey”6:00 P.M.Shabbat Service, 7:30 P.M.

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iPads at temple we will be able to ensurethat all students will have access and wecan begin to implement this approach.

Finally, the built-in camera on the iPadmeans that our students can be morecreative than ever in putting togetherlearning opportunities, demonstratingtheir knowledge, sharing their creativity.In addition, they will make it easier thanever to capture what takes place in ourcongregation on a daily basis.

Happy Chanukah!Light your first Chanukah

candle onTuesday, December 20

(24 Kislev) in the evening.

On November 6, we began an open conversation discussing innovative wayswe can create additional meaningful experiences here at TSTI. OnDecember 18 at 11:30 a.m., the conversation will continue and we wouldlove for you to join us. In addition to sharing specific programmatic ideas wewill examine the core values that make our congregation what it is andexplore how we might better share, enrich and deepen them.

If you were not able to attend the first meeting we encourage you to attendthis one.

Rabbi Cohen, Rabbi Miller, President Jay Rice

Temple Innovations:A Think Tank You Can Join!

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From theRabbi’s Study

A Thoughtto Share

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The snow that fell this October causedan unbelievable level of destruction.As I drove around, our local streetslooked more like the streets of a war

torn village than the beautiful colorful neighborhoods we expectat this time of year. I felt such a tremendous level of sadness forthe trees that were so broken and battered. Many of us were leftwithout power, experiencing a new level of cold. I know therewere some that stayed in their homes and braved the cold whileothers moved in with neighbors , family or friends whofortunately still had power and heat. I was impressed with thecare that people had for one another. Everyone was asking, “Areyou okay?” “Is there anything you need?” “How can I help?”

At the end of what was a very long week for many, my son Jackwas the Shabbat child in his preschool class. As always it was apleasure to sit on the Bima with our preschool studentswelcoming Shabbat with story and song. In Jack’s classroom thechildren were seated waiting to say the Shabbat blessings whenthe teacher began to say, “We are so lucky today…” and a littleboy jumped in and shouted, “Because we have power!” All thekids agreed.

This October, many of us experienced the discomfort of beingcold and or homeless for just a few days but far too many in ourcountry experience this everyday. As we prepare to go into thewinter holiday season we are lucky enough that we can begenerous and give to those who have very little. If you havenew/unopened toiletry items, new or gently used toys, booksand clothing, and small household items in good conditionplease drop them off at temple from December 9-14. Theseitems will be taken to the Interfaith Food Pantry of the Orangesto be distributed prior to the start of the holidays.

Another way that we can express appreciation and gratitude isto say blessings. For 8 nights of Chanukah we are able to take afew minutes to light the Chanukiah and say the blessings beforetearing into presents. On the first night we say 3 blessings, onefor lighting the candles, one for miracles and finally theshehechiyanu (for giving us life, sustaining us and enabling usto reach this season). On nights 2-8 we say only the first twoblessing. By saying the blessings it reminds us to take just alittle bit of time to be thankful. So here is a bit of a challenge-On the first night of Chanukah after lighting the candles haveyour family take a minute to answer the questions, “What areyou grateful for and why?” and “What modern day miracles doyou see in the world?” Then write a blessing of your own thatcan be included as part of your Chanukah tradition. I would loveto hear the blessings that you create.

Dear Friends

I am thrilled to share with all of you thatThe Carvel Foundation has approved agrant of almost $20,000 which will allow TSTI to create a state-of-the-art technology lab filled with iMacs and iPads. Theobvious benefits will be felt by the students in our Iris FamilyCenter for Early Childhood Education and the Linda and RudySlucker Religious School, but the impact will hopefully be feltcongregation-wide.

For the past few years we have been urged to do more withtechnology in our school. Despite my love of technology, untilnow I believed it would be a distraction from our coreeducational goals rather than an enhancement to them.

Two things have changed over the past months that now make itthe right time to pursue this educational enhancement. First, weare a beta site for a new Jewish online learning endeavor byBehrman House publishers. Second, because of the amazing workRabbi Miller and the Religious School Board have done over thelast few years, as well as the transformative impact our newReligious School Director Mindy Schreff has already had, ourdays of organizational and communication strife within thereligious school are thankfully behind us.

Our grant request was presented to the Thomas and Agnes CarvelFoundation Board of Directors this past summer and unanimouslyapproved last month.

I am excited about the possibilities that this grant affords us as acongregation, and I am excited to have the opportunity to be amodel for what other religious institutions can do withtechnology if they are similarly inclined.

So what will this new technology lab enable us to do?

First, the new Behrman House technology portal is something thathas the potential to transform Jewish education. While much of itwill be focused on what students do at home, there is an in-schoolcomponent. This lab makes this possible.

Second, there is some excellent education material available forboth desktop and iPad environments and the purchase of saidsoftware is built into the grant. In addition, I have personallybeen working on an iPad-based tutorial software system forprayer preparation. Previously this would have excluded anystudent who did not have an iPad in their homes and wastherefore not acceptable for us to employ. Now that we will have

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Mindy SchreffReligious School Director

Linda and RudySlucker

Religious School

The President’sPoint of View

Chanukah, also known as the Festivalof Lights, occurs very close to theWinter Solstice, the shortest day ofthe year. This is a time of year when

we really concentrate on bringing our unique “light” to theworld. The Jewish call for peace, equality and justice is morerelevant now than ever, and it is incumbent upon us to continuethe work of spreading peace and light in the dark months ofwinter.

This year, as part of our ChanukahMania celebration, we will beproducing “Peace Poles” to be used in our new outdoorclassroom. Everyone who attends will be asked to contribute aword of peace in one of many world languages. Our wishes forpeace are much stronger when we work together. The Peace PoleProject started in Japan in 1955 by Masahisa Goi, who decided todedicate his life to spreading the message, “May Peace Prevail onEarth” in response to the bombings on Hiroshima and Nagasaki.Peace Poles are handcrafted monuments erected the world overas international symbols of Peace. As we continue to learn tohonor one another, our environment, plants, animals and allcreations on Earth, we hope the vision of global peace willgradually become a natural way of life. We look forward notonly to the process of working together to spread messages ofpeace, but to having our messages shared with everyone whovisits our outdoor classroom.

ChanukahMania is just around the corner. This is a wonderfulopportunity for our congregation to come together during thedark days of winter. We hope that you will join us on Sunday,December 18 from 9-11:30 as we celebrate the holiday togetherwith crafts, food and meaningful mitzvah projects.

I must confess, December 25 has alwaysbeen a special day for me.

My mother’s mother was a Polish bornimmigrant. She was the most revered

and loved person in our family. She was the loving wife of mygrandfather, a committed socialist who was regularly fired fromjobs every time he tried to unionize the workers. She raised notonly her three children (my mother was the youngest) but twocousins whose mother had died at an earlier age. These “5”children gave her 8 grandchildren (I was the youngest).

In her later years, my Grandmother came to live with us. I got tosee firsthand just how amazing she was. Despite having arthritisso severe that she could not straighten her hands, she wasconstantly cooking and baking for our family. When I wouldcome home from school to do my newspaper route, I would findthat she had rolled and rubber banded all my papers. I neverheard her say a harsh word about anyone.

My Grandmother had so many wonderful attributes. What shedid not have was … a birthday. She just did not know the date ofher birth. This was not uncommon among Eastern Europeanimmigrants. The Jewish communities of Eastern Europe wereleery of going to the towns where the gentiles lived. Registeringa birth required such a visit. In our case, the family decided thatDecember 25 would be my Grandmother’s birthday. WhyDecember 25? It was the one day that everyone would have offfrom work. It allowed the whole family to come together tocelebrate.

There was a beehive of activity the days before December 25.My Grandmother would be working and baking non-stop, herspecial chopped eggplant, chopped liver and other Jewishdelicacies. And she would bake dozens of cookies which Ialways believed were baked just for me.

December 25 would arrive and my family would come from allover; from Brooklyn and Atlantic City. My aunt and uncle whowintered in Florida would come back; my aunt and uncle fromRochester, New York would drive down to New Jersey, oftendriving through blizzards. Nothing would stop my family frombeing with my Grandmother on her special day.

My grandmother died in 1968 when I was 16 years old. I still tryto visit her gravesite once a year. When I read the date of herbirth inscribed on her memorial stone, December 25, so manywonderful memories return.

TSTI’s opportunity for 12th gradersto explore thoughts and issues regarding

college preparation

TUESDAY, JANUARY 3, 7PM-8:30PMMeet with a panel of currently enrolled college students.Explorewhat college life is all about. Three colleges will be representedto allow you to hear different experiences and perspectives.Programs take place during Hebrew High School butyou do not have to be registered in Hebrew High to attend theseprograms.

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College PrepCollege PrepCollege PrepCollege PrepCollege Prep

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The Iris FamilyThe Iris FamilyThe Iris FamilyThe Iris FamilyThe Iris Family

Carol PasterPreschool Director

It’s hard to ignore writing about the incredible freak snowstormthat we experienced at the end of October even though you arereading this article most likely after Thanksgiving. It wasn’t somuch the snow that we were all talking about in the preschoolthe next few days. It wasn’t even the loss of power we had allexperienced. What touched us all was how much devastation ofthe trees had occurred. It wasn’t just the fact that branches fellon property or that they had blocked streets. It was the sheervolume of the loss of limbs from old trees that had been in ourneighborhoods for a century.

Perhaps we are more in tune with the effects the storm had onour natural environment as a school because we are committedto exposing children to the awe and wonder of the greatoutdoors. As you read this article, TSTI’s Iris Family Center willhave already broken ground for its Outdoor Classroom. The newproject has been designed to balance the effects of too muchscreen time and not enough ‘green’ time. We want the childrento use all 5 senses in the garden areas. They should see thevariety of colors and shapes in the natural world, they shouldhear the sounds of rustling leaves, smell the scent of flowersand herbs. They should be able to taste the literal fruits of theirlabors. They should touch the difference between a fuzzy lamb’sear leaf and a plant with thistles. We are not alone in ourconcerns about too much screen time. In an October 21, 2011New York Times article entitled “A Silicon Valley School ThatDoesn’t Compute,” Matt Richtel reports that “the chieftechnology officer of eBay sends his children to a nine-classroom school here. So do employees of Silicon Valley giantslike Google, Apple, Yahoo and Hewlett-Packard. But theschool’s chief teaching tools are anything but high-tech: pensand paper, knitting needles and, occasionally, mud. Not acomputer to be found. No screens at all. They are not allowed inthe classroom, and the school even frowns on their use at home.”

I am proud that our teachers were all concerned about the lossof so much of our natural landscape. I am even more proud thatmany of them spent the past few weeks wondering how to getall those tree stumps and odd logs over to the school so we coulduse them as teaching tools, as benches, as climbingopportunities, and as ‘flooring’ for our natural pathways.

Treat yourself to a Spa Retreat! Join the Women’sConnection on Sun., Jan. 29, from 11am-5pm at the Short HillsHilton Eforea Spa. Enjoy the pool, gym, spa lunch and yoga, plusa 15% discount on spa services. There is a 24 person limit, soplease reserve your spot with a check of $50 made out to TSTIWomen’s Connection addressed to: Ilysse Rimalovski, 24 EuclidAvenue, Maplewood, NJ 07040. Please RSVP by Nov. 21. Questions? Email [email protected].

Book Discussion with Rabbi Cohen: What’s better duringthe winter than curling up with a good book, and then talkingabout it with friends? Come join Rabbi Cohen and WC Membersin the mansion to discuss Joan Leegant’s novel “Wherever YouGo.” Monday, February 13, 7:30-9:00. RSVP to Sue Brandat [email protected].

Save the Date for Seder: Thursday, March 15, 6:00-9:00 pm. You don’t want to miss this annual event where WC members,friends, mothers and daughters come together to celebratePassover!

Summer Camp Scholarships: Women’s Connection isoffering scholarships for Camp! If your child will be attending aReform Summer Program for the first time, he/she may be eligiblefor a WC Scholarship. E-mail Wendy Ferber for detailsat [email protected].

TSTI Women’s Connection

Spa RetreatE

Please return to: Ilysse Rimalovski, 24 Euclid Avenue,Maplewood, NJ 07040. Please RSVP by Nov. 21.

Name________________________________________________

Phone________________________________________________

Email_________________________________________________

Check enclosed $___________________

Women’sConnection

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Renaissance Group

Mimi Braun

Old Friends and New – Come watch the NFLGame and participate in some great activitieswith fellow TSTI members atMiami Mikes, a sports bar at 130 Route 10W in East Hanover. (Near the Ramada Inn.)We have a private room for TV viewing and some footballrelated activities involving Picking Teams/Players/Trivia –Chance to Win $$ Contact Andy NadelAndy NadelAndy NadelAndy NadelAndy Nadel – [email protected] or Jeff KarpJeff KarpJeff KarpJeff KarpJeff Karp – [email protected] if you wouldlike to attend.

TEMPLE LOVES FOOTBALL!NFL NIGHT FOR TSTITHURSDAY, DECEMBER 8 at 7:30 P.M.

Elly Elly Elly Elly Elly and Larry SilversteinLarry SilversteinLarry SilversteinLarry SilversteinLarry Silverstein, chairs of our annual Chanukahdinner are looking forward to seeing you on Friday,December 23. Preceding the Chanukah dinner, we will take partin Shabbat services which begin at 6:00 P.M. As in past years weask that you bring a gift suitable for a child up to 13 years ofage…gifts no more than $10.00…which will be distributed toneedy children in our area. Hats, gloves, mittens, scarves are justsome of the items you might select.

Mark your new 2012 calendars for Wednesday, January 18 forour LUNCH AND LEARN afternoon to be led by Sheila Sheila Sheila Sheila Sheila and TomTomTomTomTomSlutskSlutskSlutskSlutskSlutskererererer..... Detaiiled information to follow

Our beloved Cantor Aronson is retiring on June 30, 2012. We arecurrently planning a series of events to express our appreciationand thanks to him. At the same time, we have begun our searchfor a new Cantor, something we have not had to do for 45 years.

This is an exciting and challenging journey. To ensure the verybest outcome, I have appointed a Cantorial Search Committee. Ihave chosen 9 temple members who I believe represent thediversity of our congregation and bring to the process a wealthof talent and wisdom. The committee is chaired by Past PresidentArnie Budin and consists of Matty Goldberg, AdamArnie Budin and consists of Matty Goldberg, AdamArnie Budin and consists of Matty Goldberg, AdamArnie Budin and consists of Matty Goldberg, AdamArnie Budin and consists of Matty Goldberg, AdamLeight, Judy Epstein, Peter Messeri, Debbie Bernstein,Leight, Judy Epstein, Peter Messeri, Debbie Bernstein,Leight, Judy Epstein, Peter Messeri, Debbie Bernstein,Leight, Judy Epstein, Peter Messeri, Debbie Bernstein,Leight, Judy Epstein, Peter Messeri, Debbie Bernstein,Breena Fishback, Andrea Baum Breena Fishback, Andrea Baum Breena Fishback, Andrea Baum Breena Fishback, Andrea Baum Breena Fishback, Andrea Baum and Renee Helfenstein.Renee Helfenstein.Renee Helfenstein.Renee Helfenstein.Renee Helfenstein.Rabbi Cohen, Rabbi Miller and I will sit as ad hoc, but activemembers.

The Committee would like to hear from you if you have ideas toshare about the qualities and skills we should be looking for in aCantor. Please submit your comments to Chairman Budin [email protected]; and Thank You!

Shabbat, Scholarand Supper

Join the congregation as we hear from Shabbat Scholars at our6:00 pm worship services. Continue learning at the Shabbatdinner following services. All are welcome to attend services;registration and fee required for dinners.

Jane S. GerberDecember 9 at 6:00 pmShabbat dinner to followJane Gerber is Professor of JewishHistory and Director of theInstitute for Sephardic Studies andthe Center for Jewish Studies at theGraduate School of the CityUniversity of New York.

Topic: The Impact of Sephardic Jews on theContemporary Jewish WorldIn 1948 approximately one million Jews lived in the Muslimworld. Their roots stretched back over two thousand years, insome cases pre-dating the arrival of Islam by over onemillenium. By the year 2000 only about 60,000 Jews remained inMuslim lands. Professor Jane. Gerber will offer an overview ofwhy the Jews of the Middle East and North Africa left theirancestral homes, where they went and how they impacted theJewish communities in their lands of refuge. After dinner shewill answer questions on her presentation and discuss thehistoric relationship of Jews and Muslims and of Judaism andIslam.

Name(s): ______________________________________

Day Phone: ____________________________________

Eve phone: ____________________________________

Email: ________________________________________

Jane S. Gerber December 9, 2011Shabbat Supper: ______ @ $25 per member = _________TOTAL = _________

Please return to Temple, 432 Scotland Rd., South Orange, NJ07079 c/o Tracy Horwitz

SHABBAT SCHOLARAND SUPPER

Dinner fee is $25 per member, $36 per non-member.Registration and payment due one week prior to event.

The Search Begins

Jay Rice, President

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Our B’nai Mitzvah

STISY/Hebrew HighPizza Party

December 6, 7-7:30pm9th – 12th graders - All are welcome!!Enjoy some delectable Pizza, Pasta, Salad andDessert! Come have an awesome time! Enjoy the trueSTISY experience, followed by Hebrew High!!You do not need to be enrolled in Hebrew High to attend,Please bring one can of food to donate to a local soupkitchen!

Jared Evan LeviDecember 3, 2011Jared is the son of Renee and Andrew Levi,brother of Jaime, and grandson of IngridLevi.Mitzvah Project: Jared volunteered withThe Friendship Circle and developed aspecial relationship with a child withautism.

Lucy Rose ReynalDecember 3, 2011Lucy is the daughter of Pam and JonathanDavis and Kristine and Max Reynal, sisterof Ted, Charlotte and Julien, andgranddaughter of Marjorie Abel andMarjory and Richard Davis.Mitzvah Project: Lucy befriended a womanat a senior citizen’s center and wrote herbiography.

Emelia Jane GertnerDecember 3, 2011Emmy is the daughter of Liz and JonGertner, sister of Ben, and granddaughterof Doreen Gertner and Roz and HenryWeinstein.Mitzvah Project: Emmy is raising money for“Paws for Patients,” a program that bringstherapy dogs to St. Barnabas Hospital tointeract with patients.

Claudia Marguerite SteinerDecember 10, 2011Claudia is the daughter of Alison and PaulSteiner, sister of Kate and Marc, andgranddaughter of Joy and Justin Stone andPatricia and Ralph Steiner.Mitzvah Project: Claudia revisted herelementary school for a few months andhelped second graders with theirhomework.

Marc Brian SteinerDecember 10, 2011Marc is the son of Alison and Paul Steiner,brother of Kate and Claudia, and grandsonof Joy and Justin Stone and Patricia andRalph Steiner.Mitzvah Project: Marc provided a fosterhome for dogs that would have beeneuthanized in shelters.

Taste of Junior Youth Grouping8th GradersTuesday, December 137-9pm

8th grade students -- take this greatopportunity to try youth grouping forthe evening. Creative programs aredesigned and implemented by our 12th grade Hebrew Highstudents. 8th graders will enjoy a fun, active, educationalprogram followed by a great dessert. This program takesplace during our Religious School 8th grade program; you donot have to be enrolled to attend the program. If you do notcurrently attend our 8th grade program, please RSVP to TracyHorwitz at [email protected].

STISY MIDNIGHT RUNSTISY MIDNIGHT RUNSTISY MIDNIGHT RUNSTISY MIDNIGHT RUNSTISY MIDNIGHT RUNDecember 3 5pm-11:00pm

We’re collecting warm winter sweaters, jackets, scarvesand toiletries to distribute to those in need in NYC onDecember 3 -- and we’ll take donations right up to thatdate. Please drop off your donations in the bins in theReligious School wing.

Little MermaidIf your young ones aren’t so young anymore, consider sendingtheir favorite childhood DVDs to Kidflicks, an organizationrun by four sisters whose goal is a library of family-friendlymovies for every Children’s Hospital and pediatric departmentin the country. (kidflicks.org)

Green Team Recycling Tip

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TRIBUTES

In Memoriam

Contributions in memory of loved ones and in honor of the simchas in our livesare acts of loving kindness. We are grateful for your generous support of

Temple through various Temple Funds.

All in the FamilyAll in the FamilyAll in the FamilyAll in the FamilyAll in the FamilyMazel tov to:

May their memoriesbe for a blessing

TEMPLE TRIBUTES

IN MEMORY OFRobert Geffen, stepfather ofHelene Sorin

Jay & Ellen RiceAquella Pechura, mother of Paula Lieber

Helene & Jack FerskoRichard Annisfield

Helen & Frank Davis

IN HONOR OFBar Mitzvah of Joshua Baum

The Bernstein-Donald FamilyCindy, Mike, Danny & TracySonnabend

Sunny & Mark Seglin’s newgranddaughter

Cindy, Mike, Danny & TracySonnabend

Lauren & Rob Jacobson’s new grandchildE,E,M & E Grosovsky

Bat Mitzvah of Melanie AlbertCindy, Mike,Danny & Tracy Sonnabend

Bat Mitzvah of Rebecca ConnellyCindy, Mike,Danny & Tracy Sonnabend

Bar Mitzvah of Jack LangbergMargie Feinberg

Bat Mitzvah of Marleigh FreidmanJoanne Hill

RABBI COHEN’SDISCRETIONARY FUND


Emily & Alex FriendArlene & Michael GordonElyse GreenbaumSusan & Jules Nissim

IN HONOR OFMilestone birthday for Elissa Caterfino &Hal Mandel

Felice & Glenn Zalk

IN APPRECIATIONSherrie & Jeff BinderBarbara GlickmanHelene & Rob Sorin

RABBI MILLER’SDISCRETIONARY FUND


The Wishnow FamilyLisa & Rob Ozer

Aquella Pechura, mother of Paula LieberLisa & Rob Ozer

IN HONOR OFJanet Schwamm’s dedication to theInterfaith Food Pantry

Hope PomerantzBar Mitzvah of Joshua Baum.

Lisa & Rob OzerBar Mitzvah of Adam Present

Lisa & Rob Ozer

IN APPRECIATIONEd Schwarz, Sarah Jane Jelin &

Willa

CANTOR ARONSON’SDISCRETIONARY FUND

IN APPRECIATIONSherrie & Jeff Binder

CANTOR FINN’SDISCRETIONARY FUND

IN APPRECIATIONSherrie & Jeff Binder

NORMA BENISCH MANSIONRESTORATION FUND

IN MEMORY OFRobert Lowell, husband of BarbaraLowell

Norma Benisch

MELVILLE & ROSEBERLOW FUND

IN MEMORY OFRobert Geffen, stepfather of HeleneSorin

Matty Goldberg

SPEEDY RECOVERYFrankie Weiss

The Renaissance Group

PEARL & SAM GREENPRESCHOOL FUND

IN MEMORY OFAquella Pechura, mother of Paula Lieber

Jesse & Leslie Bayer

JOSH LITTMAN VIDEO FUND


Matty & Dan Goldberg

ALEXANDER PERMISON FUNDFOR ADULT EDUCATION

IN HONOR OFGary Potters becoming President ofMaplewood Country Club

Ellen & Jay Rice

POMERANTZ FUND FOR ADULTJEWISH ENRICHMENT


Hope PomerantzSteven Pomerantz


Hope PomerantzAndy Bernstein receiving the RikiJacobs Award

Hope Pomerantz

SPEEDY RECOVERYMimi Braun

Hope Pomerantz

PRAYER BOOK FUND

IN MEMORY OFJoe Resnick

Jerome LiebPhilip Grand, husband of Susan Grand

Judie & Ed GoldHelen Sopko

Wendy & Michael Kay

IN HONOR OF90th birthday of Dr. Norman Lieb

Jerry Lieb


Arnold & Gert Zoref

LINDA & RUDY SLUCKERRELIGIOUS SCHOOL FUND

IN MEMORY OFFrieda Mayers, grandmother of RachelPasternakSandy & Don MillerAquella Pechura, mother of Paula Lieber

Ellen & Jay Rice

IN HONOR OFLinda & Rudy Slucker’s newgranddaughter, Avery Caroline Slucker.Ellen & Jay Rice

SUSAN ACKERMAN SOMMERFUND FOR SOCIAL JUSTICE

IN HONOR OFThe marriage of Joshua, son of Anne &Bart Sussman

Ellen & Jay Rice

WOMEN’S CONNECTION FUNDFOR REFORM JEWISH SUMMERS

IN MEMORY OFRobert Geffen, stepfather of HeleneSorin

Sunny & Mark SeglinDeborah & Gary Shedlin

Robin Maxwell and CharlesKligman on the birth of agranddaughter, Sadie JulietteKligman. Parents are JoshKligman and Libby Henninger.

Leslie and Jerry Holtz on themarriage of their son, Josh, toJennifer Rosen.

Linda and Rudy Slucker onthe birth of a granddaughter,Avery Caroline Slucker. Parentsare Jody and Ron Slucker.

Susan Holzman on theengagement of her daughter,Laura, to Patrick Quinn.

Toby and Rick Staenberg onthe birth of a granddaughter,Avi Ilana Staenberg. Parentsare Jordan and AaronStaenberg.

HELENE HEMMENDINGERWife of Joel Hemmendinger

ROBERT MARLINFather of

Suzanne Ben-Menachem

AQUELLA PECHURAMother of Paula Lieber

BERNICE PLAFSKYWife of Nathan Plafsky

STEVEN SCHILSKYHusband of Beth DiDomenico

HY STARRFather of Jerry Starr

DANIEL WEISBERGERFather of Carol Eckenthal

LAWRENCE WEISSFather of Judy Konicov


Ellen & Jay Rice

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Manuel MillerRemembered by Gail Amsterdam

Ria ZucrowRemembered by Lisa Block

Beatrice BlockEmil Block

Remembered byPaula BlockHarry Brody

Remembered by Robert BrodyStacey Solomon

Remembered by Greg BuschMelvin Chirls

Remembered by Allen ChirlsNathan Cohn

Remembered by Steven CohnPaul Densen

Remembered by Sarah DensenBarry Silverstein

Remembered by Janis DrakeMarilyn Druin

Remembered by Melvin DruinMarvin Epstein

Remembered by Richard EpsteinMeyer Roesch

Remembered by Estelle FineJoseph Fink

Remembered by Gloria FinkJohn Matlosz

Remembered byMarianne Gershon

Jill GilesRemembered byGerald & Roslyn Giles

Helen GellisRemembered by Howard Gellis

Kurt KombertRemembered by Lorie Grebin

Melba LapidusRemembered by Bettye Green

Charles KahnRemembered by Robin Kahn

Jane KochRemembered by Richard Koch

Eileen KrandelRemembered by Craig Krandel

Mary Malkin KushnerRemembered by Robb Kushner

Barney LarkeyRemembered by Lois Larkey

Marvn MesnickRememered by Wendy Lazarus

Albert KaplanRemembered by Irene Leiwant

Celia LiebermanRemembered byRonald Lieberman

Alvin MeiselesRemembered byBruce Meiseles

Sandi MillerRemembered by Scott Miller

Sidney SchillingRemembered by Miriam Payson

Richard PeckmanBertha PeckmanMildred Hall

Remembered by Mildred PeckmanJacob Rosen

Remembered by Howard RosenDavid Lenusky

Remembered by Ruth RossRose Rosenbaum

Remembered by Eileen RothEdith Scharf

Remembered by Joel ScharfJudy Mello

Remembered by MichaelSchwamm

David FeldmanRemembered by Robin Slavit

Robert BraitmanRemembered by Renee Spelman

Sonia SteinhauerRemembered byWilliam Steinhauer

Louis TurenRemembered by Elaine Turen

Henry GerstlRemembered by Joan Turk

Anna GrushkinRemembered by Frankie Weiss

Peter WeissenbergRemembered byAdam Weissenberg

Alice WhittyRemembered by Stephen Whitty

(cont. from page 4)

This story is just one of themany stories I have about theexperiences of mygrandparents and my fatherwho immigrated to the UnitedState from Eastern Europe. I amsure that all of us have similarwonderful stories. Will thesestories survive? As the years goby and we are farther awayfrom these events, I fear thatstories of the Jewishimmigration and absorptioninto American society will dieaway. That would be such ashame because our childrenand grandchildren shouldknow about their heritage. Assinger songwriter Marc Cohnwrote “From places no onehere remembers come thethings we’ve handed down.”So, I suggest that we all take alittle time to write down thestories of the immigrantgeneration and pass them ontothe new generation. And, ifyou want to share them, Iwould love to read them. Pleasesend them [email protected].

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Assisted Listening DevicesDid you know that both the Chapel and Sanctuary provide devices toassist the hearing-impaired? There are a limited number of devicesavailable, so if you need one, please ask an usher when you come forservices.

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Positively Me Groups for Children• A 6-week program focused on promoting healthy emotional

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• Topics include: empathy, assertiveness, problem solvingskills, and stress management

• Small, interactive groups starting in January 2012 forchildren in grades 2-5

• Parent Workshops (one 90 minute session each)

• Sibling Relationships: Everyday Strategies for Keeping thePeace with Elena Jeffries, Ph.D.

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Each parent is given time to discuss discoveries with his/herbaby. The presence of the babies in the room, sparksobservation, conversation, and reflection, which adds to amulti-layered group experience!

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December 2011 Bulletin