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F O R E W O R D B Y T O M M Y B A R N E T T
L U K E B A R N E T TS E N I O R P A S T O R , P H O E N I X F I R S T
Pursuing God ‘s dream for your life
the
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conten
tsINTRO Endorsem
ents
00A
cknowledgem
ents
00
Foreword by Tom
my B
arnett
00W
elcome
00U
sing This Workbook (Read This First)
00O
utline for Each Session
00
SESSIONSSession O
ne: Everything Starts with a D
ream
00
Session Two: The Pit Stop
00
Session Three: Fatal Distractions
00Session Four: D
ream D
ungeon
00Session Five: From
Dream
to Destiny
00Session Six: D
ream A
gain
00
APPENDICESFrequently A
sked Questions
00
Small G
roup Agreem
ent
00
Small G
roup Calendar
00Spiritual Partners
00
SMALL GROUP LEADERSH
osting an Open H
ouse
00
Leading for the First Time
00Leadership Training
00Prayer and Praise Report
00Sm
all Group Roster
00N
otes
00
PURSUING GOD’S DREAM FOR YOUR LIFE.
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aining essentially unchanged. It was popularised in
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centuries, but also the leap into electronic typesetting, rem
aining essentially unchanged. It was popularised in
all Group C
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n printer took a galley of type and scram
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centuries, but also the leap into electronic typesetting, rem
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all Group C
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n printer took a galley of type and scram
bled it to make
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centuries, but also the leap into electronic typesetting, rem
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all Group C
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ACKNOWLEDGMENTSTo m
y wife, A
ngel, whose C
hrist-like love and compassion inspires m
e more
and more every day. Thank you for your support and for partnering w
ith me
in ministry and life.
To my children, A
ubrey and Annalee. I love you both so m
uch and I have enjoyed w
atching each of you mature into w
omen of G
od. I can’t wait to see
the dreams that G
od will spark in your hearts, and I am
excited to see the lives that w
ill be changed as a result of what you w
ill do for His Kingdom
.
To my parents, Tom
my and M
arja Barnett. D
ad, you encourage me daily w
ith your passion for G
od and your desire to see the impossible m
ade possible through H
im. You inspire m
e to dream big and to never give up on the
dreams G
od places in my heart. M
om, I thank you for all of the w
ays you have supported m
e through the years. Your gentle strength has been my
rock.
To the staff of Phoenix First. Your comm
itment and dedication drives this
ministry, and your hard w
ork lines the path. Thank you for linking arms
with m
e. I look forward to seeing G
od bring our dreams for this m
inistry to fruition, even as H
e ignites new, bigger dream
s for the glory of His nam
e!
To Brett Eastm
an and the Lifetogether team. It has been an honor to w
ork alongside you. Thank you for your belief in The D
ream C
entered Life, and for nurturing this vision w
ith your generosity and guidance.
To the Phoenix First congregation, for whom
this book is written. I hope it
will encourage you to dream
bigger than you have ever dreamed before.
Imagine how
this church could impact the w
orld if each and every one of us w
alked within the prom
ise of our God-given dream
s! Thank you for allowing
me to be your pastor. I enjoy every m
oment of our journey together and I
can’t wait to hear your stories about the dream
s that came true because you
dared to dream them
.
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FOREWORDEverybody has a dream
, and every dream is built on som
ething. Is yours built on the shifting sands of an uncertain w
orld or on the solid rock of God’s prom
ises?
When w
e allow our dream
s to be shaped by circumstances w
e limit them
to what w
e can see and hear, but w
hen we open our eyes to the possibilities of an infinite, unchanging, and
omniscient G
od, we leap into the supernatural. That is w
here you can begin to dream beyond
your wildest im
agination, and where the im
possible becomes possible.
The Dream
Centered Life, by Pastors Luke and A
ngel Barnett of Phoenix First, com
bines key com
ponents for discovering and cultivating your God-given dream
s. It includes daily devotions to guide your personal prayer tim
es throughout the week, along w
ith an opportunity each w
eek to meet w
ith others and watch a video teaching, discuss G
od’s Word and share your
experiences. You will be blessed as you grow
together and dig deep to mine the dream
s that G
od has already placed inside each of you.
There are songs not yet composed, books not yet w
ritten, businesses not yet started, and m
inistries not yet developed. The potential resides in you, but don’t let it stay there! Only G
od can m
ake a God-sized dream
come to fruition and only G
od can broaden your vision to help you see w
hat you cannot yet fathom.
My prayer for you is that this study w
ill ignite a powerful dream
that will change you, change the
people around you, and ultimately change the w
orld. You will be encouraged to dream
bigger than ever before and to believe G
od for the impossible as you take this journey from
dream to
destiny. Get ready, because you’ll never be the sam
e!
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MY
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RNETT
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USINGOUTLINE EACH SESSION
WORKBOOKth
isof
Tools to Help You Have a Great Small Group Experience!A typical group session for The Dream-Centered Life study will include the following sections. Read through this to get a clear idea of how each group meeting will be structured:
Notice in the Table of C
ontents there are three sections: (1) Sessions; (2) A
ppendix; and (3) Small G
roup Leaders. It will be helpful for you to get to
know the A
ppendix sections. Some of them
will be used in the sessions.
If you are leading or co-leading a small group, the section for Sm
all Group
Leaders will offer som
e hard-learned experiences of others that will
encourage you and help you avoid many com
mon obstacles to effective
small group leadership. M
ake sure you take some tim
e to read through the m
aterial – it will be a great help in your preparation.
Use this w
orkbook as a guide, but put the needs of the group first. If you think of a better question than the next one in the lesson, ask it. If you sense that the m
embers of
your group want to spend som
e extra tim
e in a particular section, do it. Don’t
measure success by how
much m
aterial your group covers; Jesus did not say, “G
o therefore and complete
the curriculum.” The goal is to
have holy mom
ents and to go deeper into com
munity.
The best way to prepare
for a great group experience is to pray. Pray for every group m
ember and w
atch your heart for the group grow
. Bring
great expectation for G
od to show
up in your group. B
e specific in your prayers for w
hat you are expecting G
od to do. If you aim
for nothing, you’ll hit it every tim
e.
INTRODUCTION. Each lesson opens with a brief thought that w
ill help you prepare for the session and get you thinking about the particular subject you w
ill explore with your group. M
ake it a practice to read these before the session. You m
ay want to have the group read them
aloud.
SHARING TOGETHER. The foundation for spiritual growth is an intim
ate connection with G
od and His fam
ily. You build that connection by sharing your story w
ith a few people w
ho really know you and w
ho earn your trust. This section includes som
e simple questions to get you talking—
letting you share as much or as little of your story as
you feel comfortable w
ith. Each session typically offers you two options. You can get to know
your whole group by
using the icebreaker question(s), or you can check in with one or tw
o group mem
bers, your spiritual partner(s), for a deeper connection and encouragem
ent in your spiritual journey.
GROWING TOGETHER. In this section, you’ll read the Bible and listen to teaching in order to hear G
od’s story—and begin to see how
His story aligns w
ith yours. When the study directs you to, you’ll pop in the D
VD
and watch
a short teaching segment. You’ll then have an opportunity to read a passage of Scripture, and discuss both the
teaching and the text. You won’t focus on accum
ulating information but on how
you should live in light of the Word
of God. W
e want to help you apply the insights from
Scripture practically and creatively, from your heart as w
ell as your head. A
t the end of the day, allowing the tim
eless truths from G
od’s Word to transform
our lives in Christ
should be your greatest aim.
SERVING TOGETHER. Jesus trained his disciples to discover and develop their gifts to serve others. God has
designed you to uniquely serve him in a w
ay no other person can. This section will offer suggestions for using your
God-given design and your unique dream
to serve others in your group and beyond.
PRAYING TOGETHER. This is a time to cem
ent what you’ve learned and ask G
od for help in applying it as you move
forward. If you’ve never prayed aloud in a group before, no one w
ill put pressure on you. Instead, you’ll experience the support of others w
ho are praying for you. This time w
ill knit your hearts in comm
unity and help you surrender both your hurts and your dream
s to the One w
ho knows you best.
STUDY NOTES. This brief section provides additional comm
entary, background or insights on this week’s teaching.
DAILY DEVOTIONS. Each week on the D
aily Devotions pages, w
e provide scriptures to read and reflect on between
sessions. This provides you with a chance to slow
down, read just a sm
all portion of Scripture each day, and reflect and pray through it. You’ll then have a chance to journal your response to w
hat you’ve read. Use this section to
seek God on your ow
n throughout the week. This tim
e at home should begin and end w
ith prayer. Don’t get in a
hurry; take enough time to hear G
od’s direction.
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one
SESSIONEVERYTHING STARTS WITH A DREAM.
In his famous speech at the M
arch on Washington, M
artin Luther King, Jr. famously said, “I
have a dream.” Steven Spielberg, one of the best film
directors of his generation, said, “I don’t dream
at night, I dream all day; I dream
for a living.” And of course W
alt Disney, w
ho has created m
agical places for the dreams of children, once said, “ A
ll of our dreams can
come true, if w
e have the courage to pursue them.”
We can learn a lot from
what leaders like these have to say about our dream
s, but if we
really want to live dream
-centered lives we need to learn from
the Creator of the universe
and the Creator of every good dream
. Today we’ll learn w
hat it means to have a G
od-sized dream
and how w
e can imagine the future w
ith Him
.
FOLLOW YOUR
DREAMS
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SHARINGGROWING
togeth
ertog
ether
Each of us has a story. The events of our life—
good, bad, wonderful or
challenging—have shaped w
ho we
are. When w
e share our stories with
others, we give them
the opportunity to see G
od at work. W
e also real-ize w
e’re not alone—others share
our fears, doubts, and feelings, and can understand w
hat we’re going
through. Take a few m
inutes to answ
er these questions, either with
the entire group as an icebreaker or one-on-one w
ith another person in the group.
Watch the D
VD
for this session now. U
se the Notes space provided
on page __ to record key thoughts, questions, and things you want to
remem
ber or follow up on. A
fter you finish watching the video, have
someone read the discussion questions below
and direct the discussion am
ong the group. As you go through each of the subsequent sections,
ask someone else to read the questions and direct the discussion.
WHAT ARE YOU DREAM
ING ABOUT DOING, BECOM
ING, OR EXPERIENCING? W
HY ARE DREAMS SO IM
PORTANT?
PASTOR TOMM
Y SAYS THE REAL JOY OF DREAMING
IS CLIMBING TOW
ARD THE DREAM, NOT NECESSARI-
LY ACHIEVING IT. DO YOU AGREE? WHAT DOES THIS
MEAN FOR YOUR DREAM
?
IS THERE A DREAM “IM
PRISONING” YOU?
WHY DO DREAM
S BEGIN ON THE INSIDE?
IS YOUR DREAM BIGGER THAN YOU? W
ILL IT TAKE GOD TO M
AKE IT HAPPEN?
WHY IS THE ROAD TO A DREAM
SO OFTEN FULL OF TW
ISTS AND TURNS?
AS A CHILD, WHAT DID YOU DREAM
OF BEING W
HEN YOU GREW UP?
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MORE IMPORTANT THAN REACHING
YOUR DREAM IS TO HAVE A DREAM
BECAUSE THE REAL JOY OF DREAM-
ING IS THE CLIMBING.
TO
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Y
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RN
ET
T
2021
READ
Gen
esis 37:5
-11.
5 Joseph had a dream, and w
hen he told it to his brothers, they hated him
all the more. 6 H
e said to them,
“Listen to this dream I had: 7 W
e w
ere binding sheaves of grain out in the field w
hen suddenly my
sheaf rose and stood upright, while
your sheaves gathered around m
ine and bowed dow
n to it.”
8 His brothers said to him
, “Do you
intend to reign over us? Will you
actually rule us?” And they hated
him all the m
ore because of his dream
and what he had said.
9 Then he had another dream, and
he told it to his brothers. “Listen,” he said, “I had another dream
, and this tim
e the sun and moon and
eleven stars were bow
ing down to
me.”
10 When he told his father as w
ell as his brothers, his father rebuked him
and said, “W
hat is this dream you
had? Will your m
other and I and your brothers actually com
e and bow
down to the ground before
you?” 11 His brothers w
ere jealous of him
, but his father kept the m
atter in mind.
SERVINGtog
ether
What did you see w
hen Pastor Luke asked you to envision your dream? H
ow did that vision m
ake you feel—
anxious, excited, overwhelm
ed, encouraged? Take a few m
inutes for each person to share their dream
with the group (and if you’re not sure about your dream
yet, or not ready to share, that’s okay!). As
each person shares, focus on affirm
ing statements. This is not the tim
e to give advice or share reasons their dream
might be diffi
cult. Simply listen and encourage!
Take a look at the Circles of Life
diagram and w
rite the names
of two or three people you
know w
ho need to know C
hrist. C
omm
it to praying for God’s
guidance and an opportunity to share w
ith each of them.
Perhaps they would be open to
joining the group? Share your lists w
ith the group so you can all be praying for the people you’ve identified.
ONCE YOU’VE DISCOVERED YOUR DREAM, YOU CAN
BEGIN IDENTIFYING ACTION STEPS TO MAKING IT
A REALITY. WHAT’S ONE THING YOU CAN DO THIS
WEEK TO M
AKE PROGRESS IN YOUR DREAM? HOW
CAN YOU HELP SOMEONE ELSE IN THE GROUP TAKE
A NEXT STEP?
WHAT ARE SOM
E WAYS YOU CAN ENJOY THE JOUR-
NEY TO YOUR DREAM? HOW
CAN YOU HAVE JOY ON THE W
AY TO YOUR DESTINATION?
FAMILY(immediate or extended)
FAMILIAR(neighbors, kids, sports
teams, school, and so forth)FUN(gym, hobbies, hangouts)
FIRM(work)
FRIENDS
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PRAYINGSTUDY
togeth
ernotes
You’ve now heard the dream
s of your group and possibly shared your ow
n dream. This w
ill be a key prayer focus for the next six w
eeks. As a large group or in sm
aller teams of tw
o or three, spend som
e time praying for each person: that they w
ould hear from G
od w
hat they need to hear during this study and that they would be
open to what G
od has for them on this journey. C
lose with a prayer
of thanks for each person and the dream G
od has put in their heart.
Several years ago, Stephen Covey published his groundbreaking
book The 7 Habits of H
ighly Effective People. Each one of these habits or life skills could be helpful as you pursue your dream
, but habit #2—
“Begin w
ith the end in mind”—
is especially important.
This habit “is based on the principle that all things are created tw
ice,” Covey w
rites. There is a mental (first) creation, and a
physical (second) creation. The physical creation follows the
mental, just as a building follow
s a blueprint. If you don’t make a
conscious effort to visualize who you are and w
hat you want in
life, then you empow
er other people and circumstances to shape
you and your life by default. It’s about connecting again with your
own uniqueness and then defining the personal, m
oral, and ethical guidelines w
ithin which you can m
ost happily express and fulfill yourself. B
egin with the End in M
ind means to begin each day,
task, or project with a clear vision of your desired direction and
destination, and then continue by flexing your proactive muscles to
make things happen.”
Just like Pastor Luke says, our dreams begin in our m
ind and heart before they can find outw
ard expression. Take some tim
e this w
eek to not only consider your dream, but to think about w
hat it w
ill ultimately look like. B
e as specific as possible—and then m
ake choices tow
ard your dream that align w
ith that destination you have im
agined.
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DAY
DAILYdevotionals
DAYDAY
DAYDAY
DAYon
efou
rtw
ofive
three
sixRead Matthew 6:33
But seek first his kingdom
and his righteousness, and all these things w
ill be given to you as w
ell.
Respond: In all this talk of dream
s, it’s im
portant to remem
ber that our first goal in life is to seek G
od. If w
e do this, He w
ill be faithful to w
ork in all the other areas of our lives.
Read Matthew 19:26
Jesus looked at them and
said, “With m
an this is im
possible, but with G
od all things are possible.”
Respond:This w
eek we talked about
having a dream so big that only
God can do it. Is your dream
G
od-sized?
Read Proverbs 16:3
Com
mit to the Lord w
hatever you do, and he w
ill establish your plans.
Respond:W
hether you are considering a brand-new
dream or pursuing a
dream you’ve had for decades,
take some tim
e today to comm
it it or re-com
mit it to the Lord.
Read Numbers 23:19
God is not hum
an, that he should lie, not a hum
an being, that he should change his m
ind.D
oes he speak and then not act? D
oes he promise and not
fulfill?
Respond: If G
od has spoken a word to
you or given you a dream, you
can trust Him
. Thank him for H
is faithfulness!
Read Psalm 37:4
Take delight in the Lord, and he w
ill give you the desires of your heart.
Respond:W
hat does it mean to delight
yourself in God? H
ow does that
relationship with H
im influence
what your heart w
ants?
Use the follow
ing space to write
any thoughts God has put in
your heart and mind about the
things we have looked at in this
session and during your Daily
Devotions tim
e this week.
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two
SESSIONTHE PIT STOP
A journalist once found a set of identical tw
ins who grew
up in a home w
ith an alcoholic father. O
ne of the twins grew
up to be an alcoholic herself, and the other one never touched a drop of alcohol. The journalist w
anted to investigate this—how
could two people
with exactly the sam
e genetics and environment grow
up to be completely different?
When she interview
ed the twin w
ho had become an alcoholic and asked w
hy she had developed a drinking problem
, the young wom
an said, “What do you expect from
the daughter of an alcoholic?” A
nd when she interview
ed the twin w
ho totally abstained from
alcohol and asked why she had never started drinking, that tw
in said, “What do you expect
from the daughter of an alcoholic?”
Life throws all of us into the pit som
etimes. W
e all have to deal with diffi
cult struggles and discouraging situations. B
ut we get to choose how
we w
ill respond to our time in
the pit—w
ill we allow
it to make us better or w
ill we choose to get bitter? O
ur temporary
circumstances do not have to determ
ine our future! Today we’ll see how
Joseph responded to the pit in his ow
n life, and how G
od used it to bring him closer to his dream
.
YOU DETERMINE YOUR
OWN FUTURE
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SHARINGGROWING
togeth
ertog
ether
Each of us has a story. The events of our life—
good, bad, wonderful or
challenging—have shaped w
ho we
are. When w
e share our stories with
others, we give them
the opportunity to see G
od at work. W
e also realize w
e’re not alone—others share our
fears, doubts, and feelings, and can understand w
hat we’re going
through. Take a few m
inutes to answ
er these questions, either with
the entire group as an icebreaker or one-on-one w
ith another person in the group.
Watch the D
VD
for this session now. U
se the Notes space provided
on page __ to record key thoughts, questions, and things you want to
remem
ber or follow up on. A
fter you finish watching the video, have
someone read the discussion questions below
and direct the discussion am
ong the group. As you go through each of the subsequent sections,
ask someone else to read the questions and direct the discussion.
HAVE YOU EVER BEEN JEALOUS OF SOM
EONE’S ELSE DREAM OR
ACCOMPLISHM
ENTS?W
HY IS IT SO IMPORTANT TO GOD THAT W
E HAVE A DREAM
?
HOW DO PRESSURE AND “HEAT” TRANSFORM
OUR CHARACTERS?
HOW DOES IT M
AKE YOU FEEL TO KNOW YOU W
ILL HAVE TROUBLE IN LIFE?
REFLECT ON _____’S STORY. WHAT IS THE
DIFFERENCE BETWEEN A DREAM
FROM GOD AND A
DREAM BASED ON OUR PLANS?
WHAT VALUE DO STRUGGLES AND TRIALS PLAY IN
OUR GROWTH? HOW
DOES THAT HELP US PURSUE OUR DREAM
?
HOW DO W
E KEEP A PIT STOP FROM BECOM
ING A “PIT STAY”?
WHAT’S “IN YOUR HAND” THAT YOU COULD GIVE TO
GOD AS A WAY TO GET STARTED ON A DREAM
?
DO YOU HAVE A FAVORITE SCRIPTURE THAT SUSTAINS YOU DURING DIFFICULT TIM
ES? SHARE IT WITH THE GROUP.
30
THE PIT-STOP DOESN’T HAVE TO BE A PIT-STAY.
YOU CAN’T HELP THE PIT-STOP, BUT YOU CAN
KEEP FROM MAKING IT A PIT-STAY.
LU
KE
B
AR
NE
TT
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READ
Gen
esis 37:17
-2
0,
23
-2
4
So Joseph went after his brothers
and found them near D
othan. 18 B
ut they saw him
in the distance, and before he reached them
, they plotted to kill him
.
19 “Here com
es that dreamer!” they
said to each other. 20 “Com
e now,
let’s kill him and throw
him into
one of these cisterns and say that a ferocious anim
al devoured him.
Then we’ll see w
hat comes of his
dreams.”
23 So when Joseph cam
e to his brothers, they stripped him
of his robe—
the ornate robe he was
wearing—
24 and they took him
and threw him
into the cistern. The cistern w
as empty; there w
as no w
ater in it.
SERVINGtog
ether
Joseph’s issue was not that G
od gave him a dream
or that he had leadership potential; it’s that he did not yet have the m
aturity of a leader or the character to keep from bragging about these dream
s to his fam
ily. Make sure that as you pray about and pursue your dream
, that you are walking hum
bly with G
od, and definitely avoid “pulling a Joseph” and boasting about your dream
before you’ve even done any-thing! A
s you continue to share your dreams w
ith each other as a group, give others permission to speak
into your journey and even to address areas where you need to grow
as a person. Your group loves you and w
ants to see your dream com
e true—so risk vulnerability and accountability as you m
ove forward
together.
____ TALKED ABOUT LEADING PRAYER MEETINGS IN
HIS HOME, AND HOW
GOD USED THAT AS A TRAIN-ING GROUND FOR THINGS HE W
ANTED THEIR FAMILY
TO DO DECADES LATER. IF YOU’RE IN A PIT STOP TODAY, W
HAT ARE SOME W
AYS GOD MIGHT BE US-
ING THIS TIME TO PREPARE YOU FOR W
HAT’S NEXT? BREAK INTO SM
ALLER GROUPS AND DISCUSS THIS. HOW
DO YOUR GROUP MEM
BERS SEE GOD WORKING
IN YOUR LIFE?
WHAT LESSONS HAVE YOU LEARNED FROM
THE “PITS” YOU’VE EXPERIENCED IN THE PAST? W
HAT LESSONS COULD YOU LEARN IF YOU’RE IN THE PIT RIGHT NOW
?
BESIDES BASIC JEALOUSY, WHY DO YOU THINK
JOSEPH’S BROTHERS WERE THIS THREATENED BY
HIS DREAMS? DO YOU THINK THEY SUSPECTED
THOSE DREAMS W
OULD COME TRUE?
IF THE PIT CONTAINED WATER, JOSEPH W
OULD LIKELY HAVE DROW
NED. HOW DOES THIS SM
ALL DETAIL SHOW
GOD’S CARE FOR JOSEPH?
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PRAYINGSTUDY
togeth
ernotes
When w
e’re in the pit, it’s easy to feel very alone. That’s one reason it’s so great to travel this journey w
ith a group! To close this session, ask anyone in your group w
ho feels like they’re experiencing a pit stop to sit in the center of the group. Place your hands on them
and pray for them, either silently or out loud. A
sk G
od for wisdom
for each one of them, pray that they w
ould be strong and faithful w
hile they live through this time, and even be
bold and offer prayers of thanks for the ways G
od is being good despite this tem
porary pit stop.
Invite group mem
bers to share other prayer requests, as well, and
write them
on your Prayer and Praise report on page ___.
In this week’s teaching, A
ngel read that well-know
n verse from
John 16: “In this world you w
ill have trouble. But take heart! I have
overcome the w
orld.”
We typically read the w
ords “take heart” as a comm
and. We
interpret it as Jesus saying to us, “Do this! B
e brave! Don’t
be afraid!” And there are certainly plenty of tim
es in scripture w
hen God tells his people to be strong and courageous. B
ut som
e scholars believe, based on the original text in the original language, that Jesus w
as speaking not to the disciples in this passage, but to their hearts. In other w
ords, Jesus was saying,
“Hearts of these m
en—don’t be afraid!”
God is not only the D
esigner of our dreams, he’s the C
reator of our hearts. W
hatever you’re facing right now, know
that God can calm
your heart and give you peace.
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DAY
DAILYdevotionals
DAYDAY
DAYDAY
DAYon
efou
rtw
ofive
three
sixRead Psalm 34:18
The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those w
ho are crushed in spirit.
Respond: G
od hadn’t forsaken Joseph during his tim
e in the pit, and he hasn’t left us alone either. If your heart is hurting today, reflect on this verse and thank G
od for being close to you.
Read Romans 15:13
May the G
od of hope fill you w
ith all joy and peace as you trust in him
, so that you may
overflow w
ith hope by the pow
er of the Holy Spirit.
Respond:A
re you in need of hope today? A
sk God to fill you w
ith hope by the pow
er of the Spirit.
Read 2 Corinthians 4:8-9
We are hard pressed on
every side, but not crushed; perplexed, but not in despair; persecuted, but not abandoned; struck dow
n, but not destroyed.
Respond:W
hat part of this passage espe-cially resonates w
ith you? How
can w
e experience difficulty
without despair?
Read Romans 8:31
What, then, shall w
e say in response to these things? If G
od is for us, w
ho can be against us?
Respond: G
od is for you today! Thank him
for his blessings and his care for you no m
atter what is
happening in your life.
Read 1 Peter 1:6-7
In all this you greatly rejoice, though now
for a little while you
may have had to suffer grief
in all kinds of trials. 7 These have com
e so that the proven genuineness of your faith—
of greater w
orth than gold, which
perishes even though refined by fire—
may result in praise, glory
and honor when Jesus C
hrist is revealed.
Respond:Trials are tem
porary, but the faith and m
aturity they create in us last for a lifetim
e—and be-
yond!
Use the follow
ing space to write
any thoughts God has put in
your heart and mind about the
things we have looked at in this
session and during your Daily
Devotions tim
e this week.
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three
SESSIONFATAL DISTRACTIONS
We’ve all experienced distractions. Perhaps you have a co-w
orker who insists on talking
to you all day, every day—even after you put on your noise-canceling headphones! M
aybe your kids scream
and yell and sing at the top of their lungs from the back seat every tim
e you drive. O
r maybe the distractions are your ow
n fault—have you checked your sm
art phone w
hile reading this?
Today we’re going to talk about m
ore serious distractions—situations in life that threaten to
take our focus off God. Let’s learn w
hat the story of Joseph has to teach us about resisting distractions and focusing on our dream
s.
WE’VE ALL EXPERI-
ENCED DISTRACTIONS
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SHARINGGROWINGtog
ether
Each of us has a story. The events of our life—
good, bad, wonderful or
challenging—have shaped w
ho we
are. When w
e share our stories with
others, we give them
the opportunity to see G
od at work. W
e also real-ize w
e’re not alone—others share
our fears, doubts, and feelings, and can understand w
hat we’re going
through. Take a few m
inutes to answ
er these questions, either with
the entire group as an icebreaker or one-on-one w
ith another person in the group.
Watch the D
VD
for this session now. U
se the Notes space provided
on page __ to record key thoughts, questions, and things you want to
remem
ber or follow up on. A
fter you finish watching the video, have
someone read the discussion questions below
and direct the discussion am
ong the group. As you go through each of the subsequent sections,
ask someone else to read the questions and direct the discussion.
PASTOR LUKE SAYS THERE ARE ALMOST ALW
AYS TW
ISTS AND TURNS ON THE WAY TO OUR DREAM
S. W
HY DO YOU THINK THIS IS? HAVE YOU EXPERI-ENCED THIS?
“BEING FAITHFUL AND FRUITFUL TODAY SETS US UP FOR OUR DREAM
TOMORROW
.” WHY IS IT SO IM
-PORTANT TO W
ORK HARD EVEN WHEN W
E MAY HAVE
SO LITTLE TO WORK W
ITH?
WHY DOES THE W
IND OF RESISTANCE BLOW THE
STRONGEST WHEN YOU’RE AT THE TOP?
WE LAUGH AT THE BASEBALL IN HEAVEN STORY,
BUT ACTUALLY THERE IS ALMOST ALW
AYS GOOD AND BAD IN EVERY SITUATION. ON THE JOURNEY TO YOUR DREAM
, WHAT’S THE GOOD NEW
S RIGHT NOW
? WHAT’S THE BAD NEW
S? HOW CAN YOU KEEP
THE BAD NEWS FROM
BECOMING A FATAL DISTRAC-
TION TO YOUR DREAM?
HOW CAN YOU FIND JOY BEFORE YOU REACH YOUR
DREAM?
PASTOR LUKE SAYS THE MORE W
E FOCUS ON A TEM
PTATION, THE MORE OUR POW
ER GOES THAT DIRECTION. HAVE YOU FOUND THIS TO BE TRUE IN YOUR OW
N LIFE?
togeth
er
WHAT IS YOUR DREAM
JOB?
WHAT IS A FOOD THAT YOU SIM
PLY CAN’T RESIST, NO M
ATTER HOW UNHEALTHY IT
IS?
4445
READ
Gen
esis 39
:7-12
.
Now
Joseph was w
ell-built and handsom
e, 7 and after a w
hile his master’s w
ife took notice of Joseph and said, “C
ome to bed
with m
e!”
8 But he refused. “W
ith me
in charge,” he told her, “my m
aster does not concern him
self with anything
in the house; everything he owns he has
entrusted to my care. 9 N
o one is greater in this house than I am
. My m
aster has w
ithheld nothing from m
e except you, because you are his w
ife. How
then could I do such a w
icked thing and sin against G
od?” 10 And though she spoke to Joseph
day after day, he refused to go to bed w
ith her or even be with her.
11 One day he w
ent into the house to attend to his duties, and none of the household servants w
as inside. 12 She caught him
by his cloak and said, “Com
e to bed w
ith me!” B
ut he left his cloak in her hand and ran out of the house.
SERVINGtog
ether
Consider how
you could make the best of w
hatever negative circumstances or situations you’re dealing
with right now
. What w
ould it look like to “bloom w
here you’re planted”? Do you need to w
ork hard, like Joseph did? D
o you need to change your thinking about something? D
o you need to improve a skill,
pour into a relationship, spend more tim
e in prayer? Talk about your ideas with the group and get their
feedback about how you can “im
prove your bloom.” If you’re brave, ask another m
ember of the group to
hold you accountable for this!
IT’S SO DIFFICULT NOT TO GIVE IN TO THE “SOME-
DAY SYNDROME.” ARE THERE CIRCUM
STANCES THAT NEED TO CHANGE OR GOALS YOU NEED TO ACHIEVE BEFORE YOU THINK YOU CAN BE HAPPY? TALK ABOUT THOSE W
ITH YOUR GROUP. HOW CAN YOU
EXPERIENCE THE JOY OF THE LORD NOW?
HOW DO YOU KNOW
WHEN TO FIGHT TEM
PTATION? HOW
DO YOU KNOW W
HEN TO FLEE FROM IT?
WHAT REASON DOES JOSEPH GIVE FOR REFUSING
POTIPHAR? (VERSE 8-9) JOSEPH DIDN’T JUST SAY NO TO HER ADVANCES, HE REFUSED “EVEN TO BE W
ITH HER” (VERSE 10). W
HAT DOES THIS TEACH US ABOUT DEALING WITH
TEMPTATION?
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PRAYINGSTUDY
togeth
ernotes
The higher Joseph rose in power and responsibility, the stronger
the winds blew
against him. The sam
e can be true for us—the
closer we com
e achieving the dream G
od’s given us, the more
resistance and temptation w
e’re likely to experience. Take some
time to share how
this is playing out in your own journey. If
you’re just beginning to chase after your dream, talk about the
distractions you think could come your w
ay down the line. If you’re
in the thick of it, share honestly about the temptations or struggles
that are pushing back against your dream. Then take som
e time to
pray for each other, that every mem
ber of the group would be able
to stand strong.
Invite group mem
bers to share other prayer requests, as well, and
write them
on your Prayer and Praise report on page ___.
A recent W
all Street Journal article confirms w
hat the story of Joseph teaches: that the best w
ay to resist temptation is to avoid it
completely.
In one study, “53 subjects ages 18 to 60 w
ere recruited to take an online intelligence test in one of tw
o formats: a standard black-and-
white version or a stylized version w
ith artwork on both sides of the
screen,” the article reports.
“The subjects were told the artw
ork would change frequently and
might be distracting. Participants’ self-control w
as rated on the 13-point scale. O
f those with relatively low
self-control, 43% picked
the standard version and 57% picked the stylized version. B
ut am
ong high-self-control subjects, 67% chose the standard version
and 33% chose the stylized version.”
Those with low
er self-control chose the option with distractions
more often than those w
ith higher self-control. In other words,
those who eventually tested as m
ore able to resist temptation w
ere those w
ho proactively chose a test option with less tem
ptation!
Consider areas in life w
here you know you w
ill be tempted to sin,
to lose focus, or to do less than your best. How
can you follow
Joseph’s example and avoid those situations?
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DAY
DAILYdevotionals
DAYDAY
DAYDAY
DAYon
efou
rtw
ofive
three
sixRead Luke 4:13
When the devil had finished all
this tempting, he left him
until an opportune tim
e.
Respond: The m
ore we resist the devil,
the more he w
ill leave us alone. Rem
ember that Jesus know
s w
hat it means to be tem
pted and can help you resist!
Read Matthew 6:13
And lead us not into tem
ptation,but deliver us from
the evil one.’
Respond:Jesus taught us to pray for strength to resist the tem
ptations we face. A
sk him
for that strength today, and thank him
for the way H
e delivers you.
1 Corinthians 10:13
No tem
ptation has overtaken you except w
hat is comm
on to m
ankind. And G
od is faithful; he w
ill not let you be tempted
beyond what you can bear. B
ut w
hen you are tempted, he w
ill also provide a w
ay out so that you can endure it.
Respond:W
hen we face those headw
inds, it’s easy to feel that no one has experienced a challenge like ours. B
ut we share com
mon
struggles. How
can your group provide encouragem
ent and support so you can endure?
Read James 1:2-4
Consider it pure joy, m
y brothers and sisters, w
henever you face trials of m
any kinds, because you know
that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. Let perseverance finish its w
ork so that you m
ay be mature and
complete, not lacking anything.
Respond: If you’re struggling right now
, rem
ember that G
od can use these trials to build your character—
and that strong character rooted in C
hrist enables you to overcom
e every distraction.
Read Luke 16:10
Whoever can be trusted w
ith very little can also be trusted w
ith much, and w
hoever is dishonest w
ith very little will
also be dishonest with m
uch.
Respond:Joseph rose in pow
er and authority because he w
orked hard at every job, no m
atter how
small. W
hat are some sm
all tasks you’re tem
pted to skip over? C
an you comm
it to doing them
with excellence?
Use the follow
ing space to write
any thoughts God has put in
your heart and mind about the
things we have looked at in this
session and during your Daily
Devotions tim
e this week.
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four
SESSIONDREAM DUNGEON
We serve a G
od of surprises.
Abraham
waited years for the son G
od promised, only for G
od to comm
and him to kill that
son—and then provide an anim
al substitute at the last minute.
Moses m
urdered a man, then ran aw
ay from Egypt—
but years later God called him
to lead the entire Israelite nation to freedom
.
And Jesus w
as crucified on a Roman cross—
and then raised to life three days later.
You can’t read much of the B
ible without noticing that G
od often does the opposite of what
we expect. W
hile He is alw
ays faithful to His people, H
e usually does things differently than w
e would—
and waits a little longer than w
e’d like!
When you follow
God, trials and diffi
culties still come. H
owever, as w
e learn from our study
of Joseph today, God is alw
ays present in those struggles and working for our good. Even
when w
e’re in a dungeon of doom, our dream
may be right around the corner—
and it may
surprise us.
A GOD OF SURPRISE
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SHARINGGROWINGtog
ether
Each of us has a story. The events of our life—
good, bad, wonderful or
challenging—have shaped w
ho we
are. When w
e share our stories with
others, we give them
the opportunity to see G
od at work. W
e also real-ize w
e’re not alone—others share
our fears, doubts, and feelings, and can understand w
hat we’re going
through. Take a few m
inutes to answ
er these questions, either with
the entire group as an icebreaker or one-on-one w
ith another person in the group.
Watch the D
VD
for this session now. U
se the Notes space provided
on page __ to record key thoughts, questions, and things you want to
remem
ber or follow up on. A
fter you finish watching the video, have
someone read the discussion questions below
and direct the discussion am
ong the group. As you go through each of the subsequent sections,
ask someone else to read the questions and direct the discussion.
PASTOR LUKE REMINDS US TO LOCK IN ON W
HAT WE
KNOW. W
HAT ARE SOME TRUTHS YOU KNOW
ABOUT GOD THAT YOU CAN CLING TO DURING DIFFICULT TIM
ES?
WHY IS PATIENCE SO IM
PORTANT WHEN W
E’RE IN THE DUNGEON?
BRAD SHARED THAT THE GREATEST DREAMS ARE
OFTEN BIRTHED OUT OF OUR GREATEST HURTS. W
HAT ARE SOME HURTS THAT GOD M
IGHT BE ABLE TO—
SURPRISE!—TURN INTO A M
INISTRY OR A DREAM
IN YOUR LIFE?
WHY ARE W
E SO QUICK TO “FOLLOW W
HAT WE
FEEL”? HOW DID JOSEPH M
ODEL A DIFFERENT WAY
TO LIVE?
WHERE IS THE FOG CROW
DING INTO YOUR LIFE? W
HERE DO YOU NEED CLARITY SO YOU CAN FOLLOW YOUR FAITH INSTEAD OF YOUR FEELINGS?
“IT’S NOT ABOUT ME.” HOW
CAN THIS ATTITUDE CHANGE YOUR PERSPECTIVE ON LIVING IN THE DUNGEON?
togeth
er
THINK OF A SITUATION IN WHICH IT
SEEMED GOD W
AS NOWHERE TO BE
FOUND. IF YOU FEEL COMFORTABLE,
SHARE IT (BRIEFLY!) WITH THE GROUP.
WHO HAS BEEN AN ENCOURAGER TO YOUR
DREAMS?
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READ
Gen
esis 39
:20
-2
3.
Now
Joseph was w
ell-built and handsom
e, 7 and after a while his
master’s w
ife took notice of Joseph and said, “C
ome to bed w
ith me!”
8 But he refused. “W
ith me in charge,”
he told her, “my m
aster does not concern him
self with anything in the
house; everything he owns he has
entrusted to my care. 9 N
o one is greater in this house than I am
. My
master has w
ithheld nothing from m
e except you, because you are his w
ife. H
ow then could I do such a w
icked thing and sin against G
od?” 10 And
though she spoke to Joseph day after day, he refused to go to bed w
ith her or even be with her.
11 One day he w
ent into the house to attend to his duties, and none of the household servants w
as inside. 12 She caught him
by his cloak and said, “C
ome to bed w
ith me!” B
ut he left his cloak in her hand and ran out of the house.
SERVINGtog
ether
Joseph used the dungeon to develop his gifts. Before you can conquer the dungeon or fulfill your dream
, you need to identify your ow
n gifts and talents. Turn to page __ to discover a list of spiritual gifts men-
tioned in the Bible and consider w
hich ones you have or think you might have. C
onsider asking other group m
embers for feedback!
PASTOR LUKE SAYS IT’S IMPORTANT TO NOT ONLY
DISCOVER OUR GIFTS, BUT TO DEVELOP THEM. ARE
THERE GIFTS AND TALENTS YOU NEED TO SHARPEN? ARE THERE W
AYS YOU CAN DEVELOP THOSE TAL-ENTS BY SERVING THIS GROUP?
WHAT REASON DOES JOSEPH GIVE FOR REFUSING
POTIPHAR? (VERSE 8-9) JOSEPH DIDN’T JUST SAY NO TO HER ADVANCES, HE REFUSED “EVEN TO BE W
ITH HER” (VERSE 10). W
HAT DOES THIS TEACH US ABOUT DEALING WITH
TEMPTATION?
HOW CAN YOU BE A “DREAM
RELEASER” FOR SOME-
ONE ELSE IN YOUR GROUP?
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PRAYINGSTUDY
togeth
ernotes
You’ve probably already shared some of your ow
n “dungeon stories” w
ith each other in the course of your discussion, but before you close this session m
ake sure that anyone who w
ants to has a chance to briefly share w
ith the group. Then break into sm
aller groups of two or three people and pray the follow
ing for each other:
• That we w
ould experience God “now
here” in our pain• That G
od would give us the perspective and the strength to sail in
the right direction with H
im• For patience and peace as w
e wait for H
im to act
• For the discipline to sharpen our skills so we can serve H
im better
Invite group mem
bers to share other prayer requests, as well, and
write them
on your Prayer and Praise report on page ___.
The Indonesian language has no word that m
eans “privacy.” While
in our country we value our personal space, our “alone tim
e,” and our independence from
others, in Indonesia this is not a cultural value. Instead, w
hen someone finds him
self in a private location, the Indonesian w
ord means “a place w
here he feels lonely.” Being
alone automatically equals loneliness, and is to be avoided at all
costs!
In day-to-day life you probably value your privacy, but when
it comes to our relationship w
ith Jesus, we can relate to the
Indonesian perspective. We definitely don’t w
ant to be in a lonely place in life w
here we have no connection to H
im. This w
eek’s study rem
inds us that there is no place or situation in which w
e have to experience this kind of loneliness. Rom
ans 8 reminds us:
Who shall separate us from
the love of Christ? Shall trouble or
hardship or persecution or famine or nakedness or danger or
sword?...... N
o, in all these things we are m
ore than conquerors through him
who loved us. For I am
convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor dem
ons, neither the present nor the future, nor any pow
ers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, w
ill be able to separate us from the love of G
od that is in C
hrist Jesus our Lord.
HE IS WITH YOU, NO M
ATTER WHERE YOU ARE AND NO M
ATTER WHAT
YOU FACE TODAY!
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DAY
DAILYdevotionals
DAYDAY
DAYDAY
DAYon
efou
rtw
ofive
three
sixRead Romans 8:28
And w
e know that in all things
God w
orks for the good of those w
ho love him, w
ho have been called according to his purpose.
Respond: This verse doesn’t say only good things w
ill happen to us if w
e follow G
od, but that He
can bring good out of all things. In w
hat part of your life do you need to claim
that promise
today?
Read Psalm 143:8
Let the morning bring m
e word
of your unfailing love, for I have put m
y trust in you. Show m
e the w
ay I should go, for to you I entrust m
y life.
Respond:Rem
ember, G
od is the power in
your sails, but you get to decide the direction. A
sk God to help
you know the w
ay you should go.
Read Isaiah 41:10
So do not fear, for I am w
ith you;do not be dism
ayed, for I am
your God. I w
ill strengthen you and help you; I w
ill uphold you w
ith my righteous right hand.
Respond:G
od reminds us over and over
in his Word that he is “now
here.” Spend som
e time praying
through this verse, asking God
to help you have courage and to have insight on how
He is
working in your life.
Read Proverbs 29:25
Fear of man w
ill prove to be a snare, but w
hoever trusts in the Lord is kept safe.
Respond: H
ow does w
orrying about other people’s actions trip us up? Is there som
ething you need to entrust to G
od today?
Read Matthew 1:23
“The virgin will conceive and
give birth to a son, and they w
ill call him Im
manuel” (w
hich m
eans “God w
ith us”).
Respond:The very nam
e of Jesus means
that He is w
ith us! No m
atter w
hat you are going through today, take com
fort in knowing
that Jesus is walking you
through it.
Use the follow
ing space to write
any thoughts God has put in
your heart and mind about the
things we have looked at in this
session and during your Daily
Devotions tim
e this week.
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fiveSESSIONFROM DREAM TO DESTINY
“When G
od closes a door, he opens a window
.” This popular saying is not from
the Bible, although w
e’ve heard it and said it so much
it may seem
like the gospel! But it’s a w
ell-known saying because
it contains a nugget of truth—although the journey to our dream
s is usually not a sm
ooth path without any problem
s, we can count
on God to m
ake a way even w
hen our next step isn’t obvious. Just because a door closes doesn’t m
ean the dream is over—
it just m
eans God’s got a better plan in m
ind!
Today we’re talking about seizing those w
indows of opportunity.
What does it m
ean to be ready for our dream, and how
do we
deal with the problem
s we encounter along the w
ay? The story of Joseph continues to be a m
odel for us as we m
ove forward on this
journey from dream
to destiny.
SEIZE THE OPPORTUNITY
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Each of us has a story. The events of our life—
good, bad, wonderful or
challenging—have shaped w
ho we
are. When w
e share our stories with
others, we give them
the opportunity to see G
od at work. W
e also realize w
e’re not alone—others share our
fears, doubts, and feelings, and can understand w
hat we’re going
through. Take a few m
inutes to answ
er these questions, either with
the entire group as an icebreaker or one-on-one w
ith another person in the group.
Watch the D
VD
for this session now. U
se the Notes space provided
on page __ to record key thoughts, questions, and things you want to
remem
ber or follow up on. A
fter you finish watching the video, have
someone read the discussion questions below
and direct the discussion am
ong the group. As you go through each of the subsequent sections,
ask someone else to read the questions and direct the discussion.
HAVE YOU EVER MISSED OUT ON A GREAT
OPPORTUNITY BECAUSE YOU DIDN’T ACT IN TIM
E? HOW
DOES KNOWING YOUR DREAM
IS FROM GOD
GIVE YOU SECURITY IN THE MIDST OF TRIALS?
HOW DO W
E GET READY TO “SEE AND SEIZE” OUR W
INDOW OF OPPORTUNITY? HOW
DO WE STAY
READY IF WE HAVE BEEN W
AITING ON GOD FOR A W
HILE?
WHY IS IT SO IM
PORTANT TO NOT ONLY FIND PROBLEM
S, BUT ALSO IDENTIFY SOLUTIONS?
JOSEPH WENT THROUGH A NUM
BER OF UP AND DOW
N EMOTIONS AND EXPERIENCES ON THE W
AY TO HIS DREAM
. PASTOR LUKE NAMED SEVERAL:
EXCITEMENT, PAIN, DISILLUSIONM
ENT, HOPE, AND EVEN DESPAIR. W
HICH EMOTIONS HAVE BEEN PART
OF YOUR DREAM SO FAR? W
HAT CAN YOU LEARN FROM
JOSEPH’S LIFE THAT CAN HELP YOU DEAL W
ITH THOSE EMOTIONS?
WHAT IS THE DIFFERENCE BETW
EEN REMEM
BERING THE PAST AND DW
ELLING ON IT?
HOW OPEN ARE YOU TO TAKING RISKS?
ON A SCALE OF ONE TO TEN, WITH ONE
BEING “I NEVER WANT TO LEAVE M
Y HOUSE!” AND TEN BEING “I’M
UP FOR ANYTHING!” HOW
WOULD YOU RANK
YOURSELF?
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WHEN YOU GET A GOD-SIZED DREAM, YOU HAVE
TO BE READY FOR THE WINDOW OF OPPORTUNITY
TO OPEN BECAUSE THE WINDOW ISN’T ALWAYS
OPEN... YOU NEED TO BE READY TO SEE IT,
AND TO SEIZE IT.
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WHAT IS THE PROBLEM
THAT JOSEPH IDENTIFIES? W
HAT IS HIS SOLUTION?
RE-READ VERSES 39-40. WHAT CAN W
E LEARN FROM THESE VERSES ABOUT PURSUING OUR OW
N DREAMS?
WHAT IS SIGNIFICANT ABOUT PHARAOH’S QUESTION
IN VERSE 38?READ
Gen
esis 41: 2
8-4
0.
28 “It is just as I said to Pharaoh: God has show
n Pharaoh what he is about to do. 29 Seven years of great
abundance are coming throughout the land of Egypt, 30 but seven years of fam
ine will follow
them. Then
all the abundance in Egypt will be forgotten, and the fam
ine will ravage the land. 31 The abundance in
the land will not be rem
embered, because the fam
ine that follows it w
ill be so severe. 32 The reason the dream
was given to Pharaoh in tw
o forms is that the m
atter has been firmly decided by G
od, and God
will do it soon.
33 “And now
let Pharaoh look for a discerning and wise m
an and put him in charge of the land of
Egypt. 34 Let Pharaoh appoint comm
issioners over the land to take a fifth of the harvest of Egypt during the seven years of abundance. 35 They should collect all the food of these good years that are com
ing and store up the grain under the authority of Pharaoh, to be kept in the cities for food. 36 This food should be held in reserve for the country, to be used during the seven years of fam
ine that will com
e upon Egypt, so that the country m
ay not be ruined by the famine.”
37 The plan seemed good to Pharaoh and to all his offi
cials. 38 So Pharaoh asked them, “C
an we find
anyone like this man, one in w
hom is the spirit of G
od?”
39 Then Pharaoh said to Joseph, “Since God has m
ade all this known to you,
there is no one so discerning and wise as you. 40 You shall be in charge
of my palace, and all m
y people are to submit to your orders. O
nly with
respect to the throne will I be greater than you.”
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Are you read for your dream
to come true? If not, w
hat steps do you need to take? As a group, discuss
what each of you need to do to be ready for the w
indow of opportunity to open. H
ow can you help
someone else in the group to get ready? H
ow could others help you?
Reflect on ____’s story about obeying the call of God, m
oving from Kansas C
ity to Phoenix, remaining
faithful during hard years, and ultimately finding a m
inistry and a husband at Phoenix First. God had
so many good things for her, but she had to take a risk! Som
etime our w
indows of opportunity w
ill be obvious and open right into our com
fort zones, but often they will require us to step out in faith. D
iscuss this idea as a group. W
hich of you are facing potential risks on the way to your dream
? How
do you know
whether they are opportunities from
God?
“Every problem is really an opportunity to com
e up with a solution.” N
o doubt some m
embers of your
group are facing significant problems on the w
ay to their dream. Take som
e time to brainstorm
solutions. D
on’t limit yourself—
in fact, dream about how
these problems m
ight be solved! Who know
s—perhaps
this can be the breakthrough for a mem
ber of your group.
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Are you struggling w
ith any “baggage” like bitterness or unforgiveness that is holding you back from
enjoying your dream?
As a group, set aside a few
minutes of silence to think about this
individually. You might w
ant to write dow
n a list of things that are w
eighing you down, or w
rite a prayer giving them over to G
od. A
fter this time of silent reflection, com
e back together as a group and spend the last few
minutes of your gathering talking about
what you identified. This m
ight require a high level of vulnerability, so m
ake sure no one feels any pressure to share. Close in prayer.
Invite group mem
bers to share other prayer requests, as well, and
write them
on your Prayer and Praise report on page ___.
In this week’s video, Pastor Luke rem
inded us that just as one small
seed can produce a plant full of fruit, so our lives can be multiplied
when w
e give them to G
od.
You’ve probably seen this for yourself—if you’ve ever grow
n a tom
ato plant in your garden, you know how
one small seed can
grow into a huge vine full of tom
atoes. But think about this: not
only does that one seed lead to perhaps 50 tom
atoes during a grow
ing season, each one of those tomatoes has m
ore than 50 seeds. A
nd each one of those 50 seeds can grow
another plant…..
with 50
more tom
atoes…..each of w
hich have 50 m
ore seeds.
Pretty soon the number of potential plants and size of the total
crop gets bigger than we can com
prehend! And that’s how
it is w
hen we give our dream
s to God. In M
atthew 17:20, Jesus says,
“Truly I tell you, if you have faith as small as a m
ustard seed, you can say to this m
ountain, ‘Move from
here to there,’ and it will
move. N
othing will be im
possible for you.” Even the biggest God-
sized dream begins w
ith small seeds and sm
all steps. Whatever
dream G
od has put in your heart, keep planting and believing that H
e will som
eday produce a harvest bigger than you can imagine.
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DAYDAY
DAYon
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three
sixRead 1 Timothy 4:12
Don’t let anyone look dow
n on you because you are young, but set an exam
ple for the believers in speech, in conduct, in love, in faith and in purity.
Respond: Joseph w
as just a young m
an, but he was a person of
character who knew
what it
meant to follow
God. N
o matter
what your age, G
od has a dream
for you!
Read 2 Timothy 1:7
For the Spirit God gave us does
not make us tim
id, but gives us pow
er, love and self-discipline.
Respond:A
s you take risks on the way to
your dream, it’s tem
pting to be afraid. Spend som
e time today
asking God for boldness!
Read Proverbs 6:6-8
Go to the ant, you sluggard;
consider its ways and be w
ise!It has no com
mander, no
overseer or ruler, yet it stores its provisions in sum
mer and
gathers its food at harvest.
Respond:Just as the ant is m
otivated to w
ork hard and prepare for the future, w
e must be ready for the
window
s God w
ill open. How
can you prepare for w
hat’s next in your dream
?
Read Romans 12:12
Be joyful in hope, patient in
affliction, faithful in prayer.
Respond: This verse gives us three great steps w
e can take as w
e get ready for our window
of opportunity: hope w
ith joy, endure struggles w
ith patience, and pray faithfully.
Read Mark 12:25
And w
hen you stand praying, if you hold anything against anyone, forgive them
, so that your Father in heaven m
ay forgive you your sins.”
Respond:W
e are comm
anded to forgive! W
hat old hurts or resentments
do you need to let go of in order to m
ove forward and enjoy your
dream?
Use the follow
ing space to write
any thoughts God has put in
your heart and mind about the
things we have looked at in this
session and during your Daily
Devotions tim
e this week.
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Over and over, w
e’ve watched the m
oments on television: the football team
wins the Super
Bow
l, the baseball team w
ins the World Series, or the O
lympian grabs the gold m
edal. Suddenly the cam
eras arein the winners’ faces, and the interview
er asks, “What are you
going to do now?”
You know w
hat comes next: “I’m
going to Disney W
orld!”
It’s a brilliant marketing strategy on D
isney’s part, but the reality is that all of us who have
reached our dream are faced w
ith that question: what now
? I’ve accomplished w
hat I set out to accom
plish. I’ve achieved what I w
anted to achieve. I have what I w
ant, or I’ve done w
hat I want, or I’ve becom
e what I w
ant. What do I do now
?
Whether you are just beginning to seek your dream
or your dream has already com
e true, the question for all of us today is the sam
e: what’s next?
I’M GOING TO DISNEY
WORLD!
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Each of us has a story. The events of our life—
good, bad, wonderful or
challenging—have shaped w
ho we
are. When w
e share our stories with
others, we give them
the opportunity to see G
od at work. W
e also real-ize w
e’re not alone—others share
our fears, doubts, and feelings, and can understand w
hat we’re going
through. Take a few m
inutes to answ
er these questions, either with
the entire group as an icebreaker or one-on-one w
ith another person in the group.
Watch the D
VD
for this session now. U
se the Notes space provided
on page __ to record key thoughts, questions, and things you want to
remem
ber or follow up on. A
fter you finish watching the video, have
someone read the discussion questions below
and direct the discussion am
ong the group. As you go through each of the subsequent sections,
ask someone else to read the questions and direct the discussion.
HAVE YOU ALREADY ACHIEVED ONE OF YOUR GOD-GIVEN DREAM
S? IF SO, HOW
DID IT FEEL TO ARRIVE AT THE DESTINATION?
“YOU SHOULD NEVER CATCH UP TO YOUR DREAM.”
REACT TO THIS STATEMENT. DO YOU AGREE?
WHY DOES TESTING ACTUALLY VALIDATE OUR
DREAM?
WHAT IS THE DIFFERENCE BETW
EEN A DARING DREAM
AND A DAYDREAM? HAVE YOU SETTLED FOR
DAYDREAMS?
HOW DOES QUITTING ONCE M
AKE IT EASIER TO QUIT THE NEXT TIM
E?
HOW ARE OUR DREAM
S PART OF THE MEANING OR
PURPOSE OF OUR LIVES?
WHY IS IT SO IM
PORTANT NOT TO COMPARE YOUR
DREAMS W
ITH OTHER PEOPLE’S?
DO YOU HAVE A SUPPORT SYSTEM THAT CAN CHEER
YOU ON AS YOU PURSUE YOUR DREAM? IS SOM
EONE IN THE BALCONY OF YOUR LIFE? IF NOT, IS THERE SOM
EONE IN THE GROUP YOU COULD PARTNER W
ITH? CONSIDER ASKING ANOTHER GROUP MEM
BER TO BE AN ACCOUNTABILITY AND ENCOURAGEM
ENT PARTNER FOR THE NEXT M
ONTH OR THE NEXT THREE M
ONTHS—W
HATEVER FEELS COMFORTABLE
FOR THE TWO OF YOU. THEN COM
MIT TO PRAYING
FOR EACH OTHER DAILY AND CHECKING IN WITH
EACH OTHER ONCE A WEEK.
WHO HAVE BEEN ENCOURAGERS IN YOUR
LIFE?
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WITHOUT THE PEOPLE, THE DREAM PERISHES.
GOD USES PEOPLE TO CARRY OUT HIS DREAMS.
THERE WOULD NOT BE ANY GREAT DREAMS IF
THERE WERE NOT DREAM-MAKERS HERE... THESE
ARE THE PEOPLE THAT PUT LEGS TO THE DREAM.
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Gen
esis 3:12
-14
.
12 Not that I have already obtained
all this, or have already arrived at m
y goal, but I press on to take hold of that for w
hich Christ Jesus took
hold of me. 13 B
rothers and sisters, I do not consider m
yself yet to have taken hold of it. B
ut one thing I do: Forgetting w
hat is behind and straining tow
ard what is ahead, 14 I
press on toward the goal to w
in the prize for w
hich God has called m
e heavenw
ard in Christ Jesus.
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Your group has experienced a lot together during this study. You’ve grown closer to each other as you’ve
shared your dreams and pushed each other to follow
God even if you’re in the pit or facing distractions.
Now
it’s time to dream
together. What is next for your group? H
ow can you harness the dream
s of each m
ember to do som
ething greater than you could alone? How
can you continue to support each other’s dream
s?
Take a few m
inutes to dream bigger about your ow
n dream. Perhaps turn to the notes pages on __-__
and journal about your dream. W
hat would it look like for you to dream
bigger? Be audacious. W
rite dow
n something you think could never, ever happen. Then be brave—
share those wild ideas w
ith the group!
WHAT HAS SURPRISED YOU DURING THESE SIX W
EEKS? WHAT HAVE YOU LEARNED THAT W
ILL CONTINUE TO W
ORK IN YOUR HEART DURING THE WEEKS TO COM
E? WHAT QUESTIONS DO YOU STILL HAVE?
VERSE 12 SAYS THAT JESUS “TOOK HOLD” OF US BECAUSE HE HAS THINGS FOR US TO DO! HOW
DOES THIS CHANGE YOUR PERSPECTIVE ON W
HAT IT M
EANS TO DREAM?
WHY IS IT IM
PORTANT TO FOCUS ON THE FUTURE INSTEAD OF THE PAST?
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ernotes
Pastor Luke reminded us that G
od can do more than w
e can ask H
im for or even im
agine. So now that the group has dream
ed together about w
hat might be next, take som
e time to ask G
od for H
is vision and dreams to becom
e real. Ask H
im for insight
into next steps, the faithfulness to take those steps of faith as He
reveals them, and the passion to follow
as He does m
ore than you can dream
of. Then—celebrate! End w
ith a time of praise and
thanksgiving for all He has done in your group and for H
is love, pow
er, and grace in your lives.
Invite group mem
bers to share other prayer requests, as well, and
write them
on your Prayer and Praise report on page ___.
Marathon runners like to say that running is 10
% physical and 90
%
mental. C
ertainly it requires a huge amount of physical training to
prepare for such a long race, but those hours of preparation must
also include mental conditioning.
“Science has confirmed that perform
ance at the end of an endurance event has as m
uch to do with psychology as
physiology,” writes M
ichelle Ham
ilton in Runner’s W
orld magazine.
Paul knew this—
that’s why he w
rote about “straining” toward
what’s ahead and “pressing on” to reach the goal. There’s nothing
easy about enduring, but our perspective on the challenges can determ
ine how w
e run the race—and how
much joy w
e have along the w
ay.
Dream
s can be like a marathon. They often take m
onths or years to com
e true. Pastor Tomm
y says it might take five years! W
hat do you need to focus on as you endure, strain, and press on during this tim
e? It can make all the difference in reaching your dream
.
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DAYDAY
DAYDAY
DAYon
efou
rtw
ofive
three
sixRead Proverbs 21:5
The plans of the diligent lead to profit as surely as haste leads to poverty.
Respond: B
ig mom
ents of breakthrough happen occasionally, but m
uch of success is daily hard w
ork. H
ow can you be m
ore diligent and consistent in w
orking tow
ard your dream?
Read Zephaniah 3:17
The Lord your God is w
ith you,the M
ighty Warrior w
ho saves.H
e will take great delight in
you; in his love he will no longer
rebuke you, but will rejoice over
you with singing.
Respond:Take a few
minutes today to
remem
ber that the great God of
dreams is also a loving Father
who delights in you. Rest in H
is presence and H
is peace.
Read 1 Timothy 4:8
For physical training is of some
value, but godliness has value for all things, holding prom
ise for both the present life and the life to com
e.
Respond:To continue the race m
etaphor, how
can you be training for godliness as you pursue your dream
? Ask G
od to grow your
character and maturity as you
seek His w
ill.
Read Proverbs 19:21
Many are the plans in a
person’s heart, but it is the Lord’s purpose that prevails.
Respond: A
s we w
rap up this study, rem
ember that w
e are to work
hard at identifying and working
toward our G
od-sized dreams—
but that ultimately H
is purposes w
ill come to pass. A
nd those plans are bigger than you can im
agine!
Read Habakkuk 2:3
For the revelation awaits an
appointed time; it speaks of the
end and will not prove false.
Though it linger, wait for it; it w
ill certainly com
e and will not
delay.
Respond:If you are still w
aiting for God
to reveal His dream
for you, do not be discouraged! C
ontinue to ask H
im to reveal his revelation
to you. It will certainly com
e!
Use the follow
ing space to write
any thoughts God has put in
your heart and mind about the
things we have looked at in this
session and during your Daily
Devotions tim
e this week.
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QUESTIONSLike all fun things in life—
have a party! A “get to know
you” coffee, dinner, or dessert is a great w
ay to launch a new study. It w
ill also help people feel com
fortable and welcom
e. You may w
ant to review the G
roup A
greement (page 76) and share the nam
es of a few friends you can invite
to join. But m
ost importantly, have fun before your study tim
e begins.
This can be troubling, especially for new groups that have only a few
people or for existing groups that lose a few
people along the way. W
e encourage you to pray w
ith your group and then brainstorm a list of
people from w
ork, church, your neighborhood, your children’s school, fam
ily, the gym, etc. Then have each group m
ember invite som
e of the people on his or her list.
No m
atter how you find m
embers, try to stay on the lookout for new
people to join your group. A
ll groups tend to go through healthy attrition–the result of m
oves, releasing new leaders, m
inistry opportunities, and so forth–and if the group gets too sm
all, it could be at risk of shutting down.
If you and your group stay open, you’ll be amazed at the people G
od sends your w
ay. The next person just might becom
e a friend for life. You never know
!
It’s totally up to the group. Most groups m
eet weekly. W
e strongly recom
mend that the group m
eet every week for tw
o six-week sessions.
This allows for continuity, and if people m
iss a meeting they aren’t gone
for a whole m
onth.
At the end of this study, each group m
ember w
ill decide if he or she w
ants to continue on for another study. Some groups launch relationships
for years to come, and others are stepping-stones into another group
experience. Either way, enjoy the journey.
Absolutely! This m
ay sound crazy but one of the best ways to do a study
is not with a full house but w
ith a few friends. You m
ay choose to gather w
ith one other couple who w
ould enjoy going to the movies or having a
quiet dinner and then walking through this study. Jesus w
ill be with you
even if there are only two of you (M
atthew 18:20).
You’re not alone! This could be the result of a personality conflict, life stage difference, geographical distance, level of spiritual m
aturity, or any num
ber of things. Relax. Pray for God’s direction, and at the end of
this six-week study, decide w
hether to continue with this group or find
another. You don’t buy the first car you test drive or marry the first person
you date, and the same goes w
ith a group. Don’t bail out before the six
weeks are up–G
od might have som
ething to teach you. Also, don’t run
from conflict or prejudge people before you have given them
a chance. G
od is still working in you too!
Most groups have an offi
cial leader. But ideally, the group w
ill mature and
mem
bers will rotate the leadership of m
eetings. We have discovered that
healthy groups rotate hosts/leaders and homes on a regular basis. This
model ensures that all m
embers grow
, give their unique contribution, and develop their gifts. C
hrist has promised to be in your m
idst as you gather, w
hich means that ultim
ately, God is your leader each step of the w
ay. That should give your group (and w
hoever may be leading each w
eek) confidence.
Very carefully, as this can be a sensitive issue. We suggest that the group
spend some tim
e openly brainstorming solutions. You m
ay try one option that w
orks for a while and then adjust over tim
e. Our favorite approach
is for adults to meet in the living room
or dining room, and to share the
cost of a babysitter (or two) w
ho can be with the kids in a different part of
the house. That way, parents don’t have to be aw
ay from their children
all evening when they are too young to be left at hom
e. A second option
is to use one home for the kids and a second hom
e (close by or a phone call aw
ay) for the adults. A third idea is to rotate the responsibility of
providing a lesson or care for the children either in the same hom
e or in another hom
e nearby. This can be an incredible blessing for kids. Finally, the m
ost comm
on idea is to make your ow
n arrangements for child care.
No m
atter what decision the group m
akes, the best approach is to talk openly about both the problem
and the solution.
What do w
e do on the first night of our group?
Where do w
e find new
mem
bers for our group?
How
long will this
group meet?
Can w
e do this study on our ow
n?
What if this group is
not working for us?
Who is the leader?
How
do we handle
the child care needs in our group?
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pAGREEMENT
OUR time
TOGETHER
Group A
ttendance
Safe Environment
Respect Differences
Confidentiality
Encouragement for
Grow
th
Shared Ow
nership
Rotating Hosts/Leaders
and Hom
es
To give priority to the group meeting. W
e will call or em
ail if we w
ill be late or absent. (C
ompleting the G
roup Calendar on page 78 w
ill m
inimize this issue.)
Refreshments/m
ealtimes be provided by:
The arrangement for childcare w
ill be:
When w
e will m
eet (day of week):
Where w
e will m
eet (place):
We w
ill begin at (time):
We w
ill do our best to have some or all of us
attend a worship service together. O
ur primary
worship service tim
e will be:
Date of this agreem
ent:
Date w
e will review
this agreement again:
To help create a safe place where people can be heard and feel
loved.
To be gentle and gracious toward people w
ith different spiritual m
aturity, personal opinions, temperam
ents, or “imperfections” in
fellow group m
embers. W
e are all works in progress.
To keep anything that is shared strictly confidential and within the
group, and to avoid sharing improper inform
ation about those outside the group.
Accept one another as w
e are while encouraging one another to
grow.
To remem
ber that every mem
ber is a minister and to ensure that
each attender will share a sm
all team role or responsibility over
time.
To encourage different people to host the group in their homes,
and to rotate the responsibility of facilitating each meeting. (See the
Group C
alendar on page 78.)
OU
R PURPO
SE:To talk about w
hat it means to live a G
od-first life with a few
friends.
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eeting. At the end of each m
eeting, review this calendar. B
e sure to include a regular rotation of host hom
es/leaders, and don’t forget birthdays, socials, church events, holidays, and m
ission/m
inistry projects.
DATE
LESSON
HO
ST HO
ME
REFRESHM
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LEADER
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Jan 15
1Bill
Joe
Bill
Week 6 Week 5 Week 4 Week 3 Week 2 Week 1
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am
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iritual P
artn
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If you’re starting a new group, or if this is your first tim
e leading a sm
all group, you should consider planning an “open house” before your first form
al group meeting.
Even if you only have two to four core m
embers, it’s a
great way to break the ice and to consider prayerfully
who else m
ight be open to join you over the next few
weeks. You can also use this kick-off m
eeting to hand out study guides, spend som
e time getting to know
each other, discuss each person’s expectations for the group, and briefly pray for each other.
A sim
ple meal or good desserts alw
ays make a kick-off
meeting m
ore fun. After people introduce them
selves and share how
they ended up being at the meeting,
have everyone respond to a few icebreaker questions,
like: “What is your favorite fam
ily vacation?” or “What is
one thing you love about your church/our comm
unity?” or “W
hat are three things about your life growing up that
most people here don’t know
?” Finally, ask everyone to tell w
hat he or she hopes to get out of the study. You m
ight want to review
the Small G
roup Agreem
ent and talk about each person’s expectations and priorities.
You can skip this kick-off meeting if your time is limited, but an open house can help set your group up for success.
Sweaty palms are a healthy sign.The B
ible says God is gracious to the hum
ble. Remem
ber who is in control. Those w
ho are soft in heart (and sw
eaty palmed) are those w
hom G
od is sure to speak through. God w
ants to use you exactly as you are to lead your group this w
eek.
Seek support. A
sk your co-leader or a close friend to pray for you and prepare with you before the session. W
alking through the study w
ill help you anticipate potentially difficult questions and discussion topics.
Prepare. Prepare. Prepare. G
o through the session several times prior to m
eeting. If you are using the DV
D, w
atch the teaching segm
ent. Consider w
riting in a journal or fasting for a day to prepare yourself for what G
od w
ants to do.
Ask for feedback so you can grow. Perhaps in an em
ail or on cards handed out at the study, have everyone write dow
n three things you did w
ell and one thing you could improve. D
on’t get defensive; instead, show an openness to learn and
grow.
Share with your group what God is doing in your heart. G
od is searching for those whose hearts are fully his. Share your struggles and your victories. People w
ill relate and your w
illingness to share will encourage them
to do the same.
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OPEN HOUSELEADING forTHE FIRST TIME
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Thank you! You have responded to the call to help shepherd Jesus’ flock. There are few other tasks in the family of God that are as challenging, rewarding, and humbling as this. As you prepare to lead – whether it is one session or the entire series – here are a few thoughts to keep in mind. It might be helpful for you to read these and review them before each session.
1. Rem
ember that you are not alone. G
od knows everything about you, and he knew
that you w
ould be asked to lead your group. God prom
ises, “Never w
ill I leave you; never will I forsake
you” (Hebrew
s 13:5). Whether you are leading for one evening or for the w
hole study, you will be
blessed as you serve. It might be helpful to enlist a co-leader to help you lead the group. This is
your chance to involve as many people as you can in building a healthy group. A
ll you have to do is call and ask people to help; you’ll be surprised at the response.
2. Just be yourself. Your group needs you to be you! G
od wants you to use your unique gifts and
personality. Don’t try to do things exactly like another leader; do them
in a way that fits you. A
dmit
it when you don’t have an answ
er, and apologize when you m
ake a mistake. Your group w
ill love you for it, and you’ll sleep better at night!
3. Prepare for your m
eeting ahead of time. Review
the session along with the leader’s notes, and
write dow
n your responses to each question. Be sure you understand how
an exercise works,
and bring any necessary supplies (such as paper and pens) to your meeting. If the exercise
employs one of the item
s in the appendix, be sure to look over that item so you’ll be fam
iliar w
ith it. For encouragement, look up each of the five passages listed below
. Read each one as a devotional exercise to help equip yourself w
ith a shepherd’s heart. If you do this, you will be m
ore than ready for each m
eeting.
Matthew
9:36 | 1 Peter 5:2-4 | Psalm 23
Ezekiel 34:11-16 | 1 Thessalonians 2:7-8, 11-12
4. Pray for your group m
embers by nam
e. Before you begin your
session, go around the room in your m
ind and pray for each m
ember by nam
e. You may w
ant to review the prayer list at least
once a week. A
sk God to use your tim
e together to touch the heart of every person uniquely. Expect G
od to lead you to whom
ever He
wants you to encourage or challenge in a special w
ay. If you listen, G
od will surely lead!
5. Learn the rhythm
of asking questions. When guiding the discussion,
always read aloud the transitional paragraphs and the questions.
This will help the group to transition to a tim
e of reflection and response. You can read them
yourself, or you can ask for a volunteer, and then be patient until som
eone begins. Be sure to
thank the person who reads aloud.
W
hen you ask the group a question, be patient. Someone w
ill eventually respond. Som
etimes people need a m
oment or tw
o of silence to think about the question, and if silence doesn’t bother you, it w
on’t bother anyone else. After som
eone responds, thank them
and then ask if anyone else would like to share. B
e sensitive to new
people or reluctant mem
bers who aren’t ready to say, pray
or do anything. If you give them a safe setting, they w
ill open up over tim
e.
6. B
e attentive to the needs of the group. If your group has more
than seven people, it might be a good idea to gather in discussion
circles of three or four people during the DISC
USSIO
N or
APPLIC
ATION
sections of the study. With a greater opportunity
to talk in a small circle, people w
ill connect more w
ith the study. A
small circle also encourages a quiet person to participate and
tends to minim
ize the effects of a more vocal or dom
inant mem
ber. Sm
all circles are also helpful during prayer time. People w
ho are unaccustom
ed to praying aloud will feel m
ore comfortable trying it
with just tw
o or three others. When you gather back w
ith the whole
group, you can have one person summ
arize the highlights and prayer requests from
each circle.
7. Rotate leaders w
eekly. At the end of each m
eeting, ask the group w
ho should lead the following w
eek. Let the group help select your w
eekly facilitator. You may be perfectly capable of leading each
time but you w
ill help others grow in their faith and gifts if you give
them opportunities to lead. If you and your group prefer, you can
use the Small G
roup Calendar to fill in the nam
es of all meeting
leaders at once.
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