Enneagram

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Select the slide that has the most number of bullet points that you resonate with.

Grew up with parents who expected the best - grades always were not good enough—“good boy/ good girl”

Principled and strong Strong need to be right and to do the right thing Tendency to correct errors - of self and of others Voice inside the mind constantly challenging—inner critic Fears being condemned—in the process has a tendency to

condemn others Others may see you as judgmental Difficulty in experiencing pleasure or having fun Anger

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Generous, brings out best in others Charming, caring, loving Relationship is central Everything is perceived through relationships “I am needed”, “They can’t do without me” Need induces them to love others in order to be

loved Finds it difficult to express own need May be dependent on the response or need of the

other

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Eager, responsible, goal-oriented, persistent, organized

“Doing rather than being” “Just do it” Focuses on tasks “One must succeed at all costs” Highly competitive High need to be accepted, fears rejection Looking good is important - image Need to have others see that they can make things

happen—efficient

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Unique “Why can’t I have the same as everyone else?” Sensitive, refined, profound Moody, difficult to please Feelings are paramount In touch with feelings of others - empathic Intense Attached to the past Sense of abandonment Aesthetics - sense of beauty Indulges in fantasy

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Unquenchable taste for knowledge Thinking instead of doing Wise, perceptive, analytic, respectful Need to analyze, to understand the world Detached - isolation mechanism - from

feelings Minimalist - reduce needs to basic Able to compartmentalized life Avoids intrusion - privacy - withdrawn Seen as cold, arrogant, intellectual

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Dutiful, clever, committed, builder of coalition Loyal to authority, structures, organizations Strong sense of Fear Vigilance, safety Complains, cross-examines Prepares for battle “Devil’s advocate” “Be prepared”, “Readiness is all” Fears being abandoned

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Charming Playful Explores the world Gluttony Difficulty with commitment—I don’t want limits Wants variety Fascination - many interests Able to shift mind and interests Active Avoids pain, gets bored easily

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Concerned with strength Being in power, in charge Self reliant - independent Doesn’t know when to stop - Lust My way or no way Likes to confront Protective of the weak Justice Direct to the point, dominant, domineering

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Empathic, available, steady, reliable Ambivalent, too accommodating, apathetic,

resistant to change “Let it be”, “Don’t rock the boat” Harmonizing Calm, simple, comfy, sometimes disheveled

and unkempt Likes repetitive tasks Wanting to belong Open to others - accepting Need for union - ignoring reality

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ENNEAGRAM

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EnneagramEnneagram

“Can help understand fears and desires, strengths And

weaknesses, defenses and anxieties, how we react to

frustration and disappointment—and, more positively, what our

truest capacities and greatest strengths are so that we can

build on those rather than on misjudgments and illusions.”

EnneagramEnneagram

Comes from the Greek words ennea, meaning “nine” and

gram, meaning “something drawn or written”.

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EnneagramEnneagram

A system that describes nine different personality types and

how they interact with each other. Each type is defined by an

emotional HABIT, a characteristic pattern of THOUGHT, and a

style of RELATING TO OTHERS, which together produces a

DISTINCT POINT OF VIEW.

EnneagramEnneagramUses a revered ethical framework or model called VICE to VIRTUE

transformation.

VICE – a protective shield in early life to cushion emotional discomfort;

served a useful purpose; an emotional survival strategy

But once we understand this childhood basis as our defensive core, we can

develop ways to transform the VICE into its opposite VIRTUE

VICE VIRTUE

EnneagramEnneagramProcess:

Uncover your characteristic survival strategy (VICE)

Cultivate the opposite constructive way of being (VIRTUE)

EnneagramEnneagram

self-understanding

self awareness

self-transcendence

self-transformation

Circle of Personality Types with the Circle of Personality Types with the CentersCenters

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HEADHEART

HEADHEAD Brain Put things Sight Fear Central Nervous together System

HEARTHEART Hypothalamus Relationships Taste Shame Heart Lungs

GUT GUT Alimentary Energy Hearing Anger conservation Smelling Survival

CENTERS BODY INSTINCT SENSES CENTERS BODY INSTINCT SENSES EMOTIONAL EMOTIONAL REACTION REACTION GROUP GROUP

HEADHEAD Where am I? Inner world to What will I gain From it? Outer world

HEART HEART Who am I with? Outer reality to inner reality

GUTGUT Who am I? From past to present How will it help me move in life? Where do I stand?

LIFE QUESTIONSLIFE QUESTIONS MOVEMENTSMOVEMENTS

CENTER

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SEVEN (E)

TWO (E)

THREE

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ONE (I)

NINE

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CHARACTERISTICS

Escapes fear by withdrawing and not being involvedAlternates between avoiding and confronting fearEscapes fear through plans and diversions

Over relates with people

Denies own feelingsAssumes image and role from society

Relates to self-image

Keeps cold anger within

Denies own anger

Expresses hot anger to others

Peacemaker9

The Boss 8 1 The Reformer

The Generalist 7 2 The Helper

The Thinker 5 4 The Artist 3

The Loyalist 6 3 The Motivator

The Enneagram of Personality TypesThe Enneagram of Personality Types

I am Peaceful9

I am Strong 8 1 I am Perfect

I am Happy 7 2 I am Caring

I am Knowledgeable 5 4 I am Special 3

I am Loyal 6 3 I am Successful

The Enneagram of Personality StatementsThe Enneagram of Personality Statements

To Be In Harmony9

To Be Strong 8 1 To Be Right

To Be Joyful; Satisfied 7 2 To Be Loved

To Understand the 5 4 To Understand The SelfEnvironment

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To Have Security 6 3 To Be Accepted

The Enneagram of Basic DesiresThe Enneagram of Basic Desires

Of Separation/Conflict9

Of Being Weak 8 1 Of Being Imperfect

Of Being Deprived 7 2 Of Own Needs

Of Being Overwhelmed 5 4 Of Being Ordinary 3

Of Being Abandoned 6 3 Of Failure/Of Being Rejected

The Enneagram of Basic FearsThe Enneagram of Basic Fears

Gifts of Each Personality TypeGifts of Each Personality Type

11 DiscernerReformer

22 Emphatizer/Symphatizer Generous Compassionate

33 Performer, achiever, efficientDedicated to workConcerned with productivity

44 Sensitive, tragic romanticCreative with a new way of looking at lifeLooks at life through art

55 Wise, intelligent, observer, thinkerAble to make meaning out of experiencesMake the misunderstood understood

understandable

66 Responsible, dependable, trustworthyLoyal to what is lawful

77 Optimitist, enthusiasticHappy - go - luckyAlways a “silver - lining”

88 Leader, magnanimous, empoweringChallenge taker

99 Peace makerMediator

TYPE VICE VIRTUE

ONE Anger Serenity

TWO Pride Humility

THREE Deceit Honesty

FOUR Envy Emotional Equanimity

FIVE Avarice Non attachment

SIX Fear Courage

SEVEN Gluttony Moderation

EIGHT Lust Appropriate force

NINE Sloth (Self-forgetting)

Action

Life Story/Childhood HistoryLife Story/Childhood History

1 Negative to FatherHigh standards of excellence“Good boy/girl”Important adult who was highly critical

2 Ambivalent to FatherLived in the shadow of somebody importantCherished as helpful, attentive, caringMade responsible beyond their years

3 Positive to MotherPut up a frontParents valued achievement - “good grades prove your worth”

4 Negative to Both ParentsSense of “trip - drama”World as a child disrupted by a devastating event -”where did it go wrong?”

5 Ambivalent to Both ParentsAuthoritarian mothersIntrusive adult - felt need for space ignoredFeel that they have not been loved enough

6 Positive to FatherExperienced crisis of faith in authorityMemories of warmth prematurely cut - offViolation of trust

7 Negative to MotherExperience of happiness early in life,but prematurely cut-offWorld is scary and painful - I’ll just play

8 Ambivalent to MotherAdult at an early ageEarly source of difficultySaw injustice at an early age

99 Positive to Both ParentsFamily members not emotionally close to one another but in good terms with one anotherLearned to repress own longings for the sake of avoiding conflict

1 1 Perfect

2 2 Needed

33 Successful

44 Unique

5 5 Knowledgeable

66 Responsible

77 Joyful

88 Content

99 Peaceful

LIFE STATEMENT SELF-CONCEPT LIFE STATEMENT SELF-CONCEPT MOTIVESMOTIVES Life is being… I am … Life is being… I am … To/To be... To/To be... Right

Generous

Efficient

Different

Wise

Faithful

Fun

Powerful

Peaceful

Correct

Needed/Loved

Approved/Affirmed

Understand the self

To know/understand

Approved the authority

Have fun

Self-reliant

Have unity and harmony

11 Perfect Anger Judgmental

2 2 Service Pride Possessiveness Manipulative

3 3 Efficiency Deceit Overly competitive Basic lack of trust Vain

44 Authenticity Envy Putting others down Envious

5 5 Knowledge Stinginess Overly critical Cynical

66 Security Fear “Rightly obedient”

77 Idealism Over-Indulgence Gluttony Insensitivity

88 Power Arrogance Sarcasm Verbal put-down

99 Self-abasement Laziness Over-patience

Lack of involvement

TRAPS PASSION TRAPS PASSION MANIFESTATIONMANIFESTATION

11 Anger Resentment Hardworking

22 Need Flattery Helpful 33 Failure Vanity Successful 44 Ordinariness Melancholy Unique

55 Emptiness Stinginess Knowing

6 6 Deviance Cowardice Loyal

77 Pain Planning Nice

88 Weakness Vengeance Powerful

99 Conflict Indolence Okay

AVOIDANCE EGO-FIXATION PRIDE AVOIDANCE EGO-FIXATION PRIDE (Idealized Image)(Idealized Image)

I am...I am...

FACIAL EXPRESSION

Sharpness of features

Concerned look

Youthful looking

Casual/Sad look

Hard posty look

Hyper-alert/Scanning look

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PHYSICAL APPEARANCE

Neat and well-srubbedTightness in the mouth or jawUsually thin

Warm and attractive smileComfortable clothingUsually a little overweight

Dresses well/StylishTry to be fit and trim

Dresses with a sense of uniqueness of “drama”

Uncomfortable smilesBeard for menCouldn’t care less for fashion

Radiate a nervous energyComfort rather than style

SPEECH

SermonizeWith authority that sounds right

ComplimentaryFlattery“Advise getting”

PropagandizesDemonstrative

DramaticLamentations

Summarizes

CautionsPuts limitsProtected

FACIAL EXPRESSION

Cheery, chubby look

Weather-beaten face

Plain/Blank look

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Smile a lotTeddy bearish but not fatSense of style

Husky sideLiable to wear massive outfit

Fairly relaxed and pleasantComfortable clothing

SPEECH

Story-tellingTalkativeHumorousEntertaining

Sarcastic“NO”Debunks

Monotone‘Matter-of-factly”

TYPE HEALTHY POINTS UNHEALTHY TYPE HEALTHY POINTS UNHEALTHY POINTSPOINTS

1 1 Perfectionist

22 Helper

3 3 Achiever

4 4 Romantic

55 Observer

6 6 Questioner

7 7 Adventurer

88 Asserter

99 Peacemaker

Ethical, fair, honest, idealistic, orderly, Productive, reliable, self-discipline

Adaptable, caring, compassionate, emphatic,Generous, insightful, loving, sympathizer

Confident, efficient, energetic, industriousOptimistic, practical, self-propelled

Compassionate, creative, expressive, introspective, intuitive, refined, supportive, warm

Analytical, objective, perceptive, persevering, self-contained, sensitive, wise

Caring, dependable, loyal, practical, responsible, warm, witty

Charming, confident, curious, enthusiastic, fun-loving, imaginative, spontaneous, quick

Authoritative, direct, earthy, energetic, loyal, protective, self-confident

Diplomatic, emphatic, generous, open-minded, patient, peaceful, pleasant, receptive

Anxious, critical, controlling, dogmatic, inflexible, judgmental, overly serious, obsessive-compulsive

Hysterical, indirect, manipulative, martyrlike, over-attention, over-doting, possessive

Deceptive, narcissistic, overly competitive, pretentious, superficial, vain, vindictive

Depressive, guilt-ridden, moody, melancholic, self-absorbed, self-conscious, stubborn

Critical, cynical, distant, intellectually, arrogant, stingly, stubborn, unassertive

Controlling, defensive, hypervigilant, judgmental, paranoid, rigid, self-defeating, testy, unpredictable

Impulsive, manic, narcissistic, possessive, rebellious, restless, self-destructive, undisciplined, unfocused

Aggressive, controlling, domineering, insensitive, rebellious, self-centered, skeptical, vengeful

Apathetic, forgetful, judgmental, obsessive, passive-aggressive, spaced-out, stubborn, unassertive

AUTHENTIC SELF

looking deeply into our true identity through the perspective of the

nine attributes of human nature

looking deeply into our true identity through the perspective of the

nine attributes of human nature

WISDOM OF THE ENNEAGRAMWISDOM OF THE ENNEAGRAM

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AUTHENTIC SELF

we are not our personality fallling asleep

to our true nature

we are not our personality fallling asleep

to our true nature

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AUTHENTIC SELF

STRESS Point: FOLLOW the arrow’s direction SECURE Point: GO AGAINST the

arrows direction

STRESS Point: FOLLOW the arrow’s direction SECURE Point: GO AGAINST the

arrows direction

THE ARROW THEORY

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STRESS POINT

4: Suffer and feel misunderstood

8: Irrational anger

9: Out of touch with their feelings and operates mechanically

2: Please, charm and flatter others

7: Plan and daydream instead of action

3: Become anxious and take action defensively

SECURE POINT(Against the Arrow)

7: Becomes playful, less perfectionist; relaxed

4: Able to express sadness, tears and one’s personal needs

6: More cooperative and less concerned with status

1: Become more neat and in order

8: Become assertive and involved with others

9: More relaxed, self-assured and makes decisions

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STRESS POINT

1: Judgmental, pessimistic, perfectionist

5: Runs away, hides and concocts revenge

6: Becomes afraid; self-doubting and indecisive

SECURE POINT(Against the Arrow)

5: Move into work and production and spends less time daydreaming

2: More playful, joyful and interested in pleasing people

3: Becomes more energetic, involved with life and successful

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9: Less self-concerned, less vain and more easy-going

2: Concerned with their appearance, more sensitive to others, dramatic in their presentations and more proud

1: Lazier, have less energy, and more concerned with things being right

3: More aggressive, but aggressive seduction

2: Takes on the feelings of others

4: Dramatizes their own feelings

3: More aggressive and focuses on external accomplishments, but sabotages success in private life

5: Withdrawn and isolated

4: Into their feelings, artistic and melancholic

6: Operates intellectually, disconnected from their feelings and the emotions of others

5: Softer, quieter and more withdrawn

7: More aggressive, optimistic and relates with the world

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6: Unsure of themselves and carries a slight nervous energy; hesitates to act

8: A sense of internal power, tougher and more aggressive

7: More Intellectual, idealistic and into planning

9: More pragmatic and acts more from the gut than the head

8: Sloppy dresser and overtly angry

1: In control of themselves and the environment, repressed anger, have sense of how things should be

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STRENGTHS

Does the right thing and not easily swayed by external pressuresCareful

Sensitive to emotional levelsExcellent caretakers/care-givers

Goal OrientedHave an innate way of knowing how to relate to the world

Highly developed artistic senseDeeply in touch with the pain and sadness in lifeKeen sense of style and fashion

Good sense of objectivityUtilizes resources efficientlyExcellent listenersIndependent that they don’t seek others to take care of them

Long attention spanCareful and preciseFocused concentration

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STRENGTHS

Pleasant and very easy to get along withImaginative brainstormers and visionariesPositive approach to life

What is within, so withoutDefenders of the weakConfronts life as it is

Sees all sides of an issueFairly generous and easy-goingDoes not expect something in return

Levels of DevelopmentFor each type, there are levels of development.

With this concept, a dynamic element is introduced that reflects the changing nature of the personality patterns themselves.

You have probably noticed that people change constantly—sometimes they are clearer, more free, grounded, and emotionally available, while at other times they are more anxious, resistant, reactive, emotionally volatile and less free.

Levels of Development

Understanding the Levels makes it clear that when people change states within their personality, they are shifting within the spectrum of motivations, traits, and defenses that make up their personality type.

On the continuum, the healthiest traits appear first, at the top, so to speak.

As we move down the continuum in a spiral pattern, we progressively pass through each Level of Development marking a distinct shift in the personality's deterioration to the pure black of psychological breakdown at the bottom.

The continuum is comprised of nine internal Levels of Development —briefly, there are three Levels in the healthy section, three Levels in the average section, and three Levels in the unhealthy section.

It may help you to think of the continuum of Levels as a photographer's gray scale which has gradations from pure white to pure black with many shades of gray in between.

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Healthy

1 Level of Liberation: Ego Trans cended — Balance & Freedom

2 Level of Psychological Capacity: Ego is Identified with as the basis of a Particular Mode of Being

3 Level of Social Gift: Ego Operating in a Constructive Way, Successfully Sublimating

Average

4 Level of Fixation: Losing Contact with Presence and Awareness, the Beginning of “Sleep” — as Ego-Role assumed

5 Level of Interpersonal Conflict: Ego Controlling Environment to get its needs met — Manipulative & Defended

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Level of Overcompensation: Ego Inf lation, Aggressive defense of Ego-Identity. Demanding that others/reality support the ego-agenda

Unhealthy

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Level of Violation: Ego willing to violate self and others to maintain itself. Abusive, Devaluing, Desperate (Serious pathology arises)

8 Level of Delusion and Compulsion: Ego-self out of Control and Out of Touc h with Reality (Major Personality Disorders)

9 Level of Pathological Destructiveness: Extreme Pathology or death (Psychosis)

One of the most profound ways of understanding the Levels is as a measure of our capacity to be present. The more we move down the Levels, the more identified we are with our ego and its increasingly negative and restrictive patterns.

Our personality becomes more defensive, reactive, and automatic— and we consequently have less and less real freedom and less real consciousness. As we move down the Levels, we become caught in more compulsive, destructive actions which are ultimately self-defeating.

By contrast, the movement toward health, up the Levels, is simultaneous with being more present and awake in our minds, hearts, and bodies. As we become more present, we become less fixated in the defensive structures of our personality and are more attuned and open to ourselves and our environment.

We see our personality objectively in action rather than "falling asleep" to our automatic personality patterns. There is therefore the possibility of "not doing" our personality and of gaining some real distance the negative consequences of getting caught in it.

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OCCUPATIONS

Physician Teacher LibrarianNurse Accountant SecretaryClergy Technician

Social Worker NursePsychologist Executive SecretaryPhysician Clergy

Acting AdvertisingMedicine Corporate ManagementMarketing BankingSales EntrepreneurshipPromotion Politics

Acting Critic CounselorDancing EntertainerPainting Interior decoration

Accountant Computer Programmer Academic PositionsArchaeologist Research ScientistWriter Librarian

Engineer Civil Servant Officer in the armed forcesMachinist Technologist Police OfficerBuilder School Instructor Fire fighter

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Consultant Entrepreneur Public relationsEditor WriterManagement staff Scientist

Police Officer Armed forces officer BusinessmanLawyer Union OrganizerSports figure Manager

Arbitrator Umpire BureaucratAmbassador RefereeAdministrator Lab Technician

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ATTRACTIVE

Quality controlMeticulous attention to detailClear organizational structureCorrecting errorsWork that requires continuous improvement

Associations with othersAssociations with the “needy” others

Space for continuing developmentWhere potentials excel the mostPerformance-orientedQuick turn-overs and results

Creative jobs that facilitate unique, strange or eccentric approach

Analysis and reanalysisLimited association with othersInformation and research

UNATTRACTIVE

No clear-cut guidelinesWork that requires on-the-spot decisions with minimal information

Work that provides the least stroking, positive feedback and gratitude

RoutinaryWork that involves time and experimentation

Mundane and ordinary

Open competitionConfirmation and direct association with others

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ATTRACTIVE

Hierarchy-orientedBeing with authority or being authority to oneself

Planning and conceptualizingVisioningBeing in the new

Leadership

Mediatorship

UNATTRACTIVE

On-the-spot decisions

ImplementationFixed guidelines

Following orders

Conflict

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HELPING THE OTHER

Don’t like to be toldShow interest in what they are doingTeach them to relax

Help them to be aware of their feelingsAcknowledge their needsAssure themHelp them express their needDelay your “thank you’s”

Affirm what is real in themHelp them to accept failure

Ride on to the mental framework but be in touch with the truthHelp them to focus on the ordinary

Help them to come out of their curve. Do not wait for them to come out for you will be out-wittedBy coaxing their creativity, challenge them and affirm themShow interest in their writingChallenge them to something new

Call to test courageAffirm themFollow them through

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HELPING THE OTHER

Don’t like to be toldCall them to be accountable of their own plansGive them the hardworkDo not pick up pieces for them, let them do itCall them to awareness of what they are doing

Call their gentlenessDo not counter aggressionDisarm them in a gentle way

Help them manage the conflictCall them out of their shells for they contain gold

Invitation to Abundance1 – THE REFORMER

To live for a Higher Purpose – It is your true nature to be wise and discerning

2 – THE HELPER To nurture yourself and others – It is your true nature to be good to yourself and have compassion for others

3 – THE ACHIEVER

To develop yourself and set an example for others – it is your true nature to take pleasure in your own existence and to esteem and value others

4 – THE INDIVIDUALIST

To let go of the past and be renewed by your experience – It is your true nature to be forgiving and to use everything as gift

5 – THE INVESTIGATOR

To observe yourself and others without judgment or expectation – It is your true nature to be engaged with reality

6 – THE LOYALIST

To have faith in yourself and trust in the goodness of life – it is your true nature to be courageous and capable of dealing with life under all conditions

7 – THE ENTHUSIAST

To joyously celebrate existence and share your happiness – It is your true nature to be happy and to add to the richness of experience of everyone

8 – THE CHALLENGER

To stand up for yourself and to speak out for what you believe in – it is your nature to be strong and capable of affecting the world in many positive ways

9 – THE PEACEMAKER

To bring peace and healing – It is your nature to be an inexhaustible source of serenity in the world.

Practices that may help: ONE Become acquainted with your superego. Begin to think of that

commanding voice as “it” not I, that it only sounds like the voice of God.

Be aware of your tendency to push yourself beyond your limits of endurance. Leave time for play.

Let others help you. Understand that their contribution may help enhance your perspective.

Let others know your own needs. Being open and honest about your vulnerabilities is a key element to developing greater integrity.

Realize that you are not going to be able to get rid of the parts of yourself that you do not like. You cannot transform yourself – none of us can.

Learn to recognize and process your anger. Practice exercises that help you release your tension and stress.

Practices that may help: TWO Do not be so concerned about what others think of you, and be

particularly aware of trying to win over everyone.

Learn to recognize the affection and good wishes of others, even when they are not in terms that you are familiar with.

Develop good boundaries. Learn how to “sit in your own skin” when others are troubled or need something from you. Even when helping, stay connected to yourself.

Become more aware of moments when you are flattering people or in any way trying to ingratiate yourself with them.

Work on your pride by seeing the many ways in which it subtly manifests itself. Only true humility and the acknowledgement that your are loved will dissolve pride.

Practices that may help: THREE Learn to recognize when you are “turning it on” for someone – when you

are becoming your image instead of speaking and acting authentically.

Give yourself a break once in a while – check in with yourself

Seek out people you trust with whom you can share your anxieties and vulnerabilities. Revealing some of your vulnerability to healthy friends will endear you to them, not disappoint them.

Find creative outlets that is for yourself, and not for an audience. It can help you get in touch with your feelings, and bring you to greater alignment with yourself.

Learn to be silent. Meditate. “Doing nothing” does not make sense to your task-driven ego, but it makes a lot of sense to your soul.

Find areas in your life where you can be of service as part of a team, but NOT as head of the team.

Practices that may help: FOUR Be aware that emotional volatility and moodiness are not the same

as real sensitivity.

Recognize the aspects of your Fantasy Self that are not in alignment with the reality of your life. Similarly, learn to accept and appreciate your genuine talents and not to reject them because some other ability seems more glamorous or desirable. This is envy at its most self-destructive.

Seek out truthful friends who will mirror you honestly and accurately.

Beware of unconsciously expecting friends to be a dumping ground for your emotional upheavals.

Set up positive, constructive routines for yourself. A little structure will go a long way in freeing up your creativity.

Practices that may help: FIVE Remember that your mind is clearest and most powerful when it is quiet.

Take the time to cultivate this quiet in yourself, and do not confuse it with an insistence that your external world be quiet.

Use your body. Your balance requires more physical activity.

Make the effort to reach out to others, especially when you are feeling vulnerable and afraid. Speak up. Make your needs known, and you may be surprised. Your tendency to isolate usually gets you deeper into your trap.

Think carefully about what areas are most debilitating to your self confidence. You can continue doing projects that interest you, but it can be very powerful to explore more directly some of the areas of your life that you have cut off

Risk feeling your grief. In a safe and appropriate place, allow yourself to sense your heart. This can even be more powerful with a friend, a therapist, anyone you trust. Ask him to be there as a witness to your pain and struggle.

Practices that may help: SIX Notice how much time you spend trying to figure out how to handle possible

future problems. In reality, how often do these imagined events come to pass? Quieting the mind through disciplined meditation practices can help Sixes clear out the chorus of voices in their heads.

When you achieve a goal, large or small, stop long enough to relax, breathe, and savor the moment. Take in the impression of your competence. This feeling will help you see the ways in which you consistently support yourself and others.

Get in the practice of noticing what you trust and how you come to decisions. Notice especially the procedures or allies you automatically turn to when you are unsure of yourself. Turn more to what your heart and instincts are telling you in the moment. Many internal voices are more fearful aspects of your imagination and superego. The more you see the truth in this, the more you will find your quiet mind.

Take risks, especially when it comes to moving out of familiar, safe patterns. Seek out diversity and variety.

Practices that may help: SEVEN When you are mentally revved up, take a moment to breathe and see what

is really going on with you. Notice especially if you are afraid or upset about something. Any time you feel in danger of being “bored”, stop and see what you are avoiding.

Allow the events of your life, even the painful ones, to touch you deeply. Simply identifying a feeling is a beginning but not the same as fully experiencing and being affected by them.

Learn to notice your impatience and its roots. Because you are talented in many areas, you tend not to develop any one fully. Be on guard for the “instant expert” syndrome. Do your homework. Take time to bring your abilities to fruition.

Find the joy of the ordinary. When you are truly present, all of your experiences are extraordinary. Make each moment a unique source of delight and amazement.

Learn to meditate.

Practices that may help: EIGHT Get in touch with your feelings. Vulnerability lets

others know that they matter, that you care for them. You do not need to wear your heart on your sleeve, but do not deny the hurt either.

Find people you can really trust, and talk with them about matters that are eating at you. Notice that you are being heard when you are – and do the same for others.

A little restraint on the intensity levels in work and in play can help ensure that you will be around longer to enjoy your life in deeper and subtler ways. Question your need for intensity and ask where it comes from.

Practices that may help: NINE Learn to discriminate between genuine humility and the tendency to

discount yourself and your abilities. You may feel overwhelmed by life’s problems and that you have little to offer others, but a quick look at the discord, violence, and pain in the world may guide you to a quiet wisdom about what you can do.

Learn the value of the word NO. When presented with a proposition that you are uncomfortable with, it is better to make your misgivings known at the onset rather than silently agreeing and regretting it later. Most people want to know what your real opinion or preference is – even if it seems unimportant to you at the time.

Learn to recognize what YOU want from a given situation. Often you will be so busy taking into account the positions of others that you will tend to neglect your own. If necessary, do not be afraid to ask others to give you a moment to consider the options. And do not be afraid to pursue the opinion you prefer it arises.

Invest time and energy in developing yourself and your talents.

What is your Enneagram number? How does your profile manifest itself in your personal and student life? How does it impact on your ability to influence (rightly or wrongly) other people?

If possible, can you identify critical incidents in your life that may help explain your Enneagram number

Identify action points that can help you move from your Vice to your Virtue.

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