FAMILY AND PEER RELATIONSHIPS

Chapter 6

FRIENDSHIPS

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TYPES OF FRIENDSHIPS

Acquaintances are people you know but who are not your close friends

Good Friends are people you see often. You spend enough time with them to know each other quite well

Close Friend/Best Friend are usually only a few people in your life

WHAT IS A FRIEND?

What qualities do you look for in a friend?

In order for a friendship to develop both people must have similar traits for the friendship to grown

• Someone with whom you can talk• Someone who accepts you• Someone who supports you• Someone you can trust• Someone who is open

WHY DO YOU NEED FRIENDS?

Friendships take time and commitment to develop.

Benefits of Friendship• Helps you to mature intellectually, emotionally and

socially • Get to know yourself better• Source of companionship• Contribute to personal development

WHY DO YOU NEED FRIENDS?

Can help you know and understand your own thoughts and feelings

Help you to accept yourself as a person and increase your self-esteem

Helps you develop empathy (an emotion in which you feel what another is feeling)

Increase you communication skills

Learn how to work cooperatively

Satisfy the need for companionship

Prepare for future lone-term relationships

DEVELOPING A CLOSE FRIENDSHIP

How do you develop a friendship?

What qualities do you have for building a friendship?

What qualities are you looking for in a friend?

DEVELOPING A CLOSE FRIENDSHIP

Be Friendly

Develop Rapport• An atmosphere in which the other person feels

comfortable and wants to talk

Share Yourself

Build Trust• Most relationship MUST have • For trust to develop and grow, both people must

believe the other person is honest• Both must believe information share will not be used

against them in any way

DEVELOPING A CLOSE FRIENDSHIP

Respond with empathy

Be open to growth• Blind spots – your blind spot are factors that you did

not know about yourself

THE GO AL O F A CL O SE REL ATIO NSHIP

Experience fulfillment through sharing in the areas of intellectual, emotional, spiritual or physical

A friendships may provide a few of the areas but a marriage can provide in all these areas

Commitment

PEER RELATIONSHIPS

Your peers are at the same stage of their life path as you

HANDL ING N EGATIVE PEER PRESSUR E

Passive- go along with what is said or the group

Aggressive behavior – yelling, calling names, criticizing, etc. will often lead to more intense violence

Assertive- letting peers know what you think and feel by using good communication skills, this is the best way to respond

HANDLING BULLYING

Using aggressive behavior to intentionally harm another person is called bullying

Bullying is a sing of social immaturity because bullies are not concerned about the well-being of others

BULLYING

1.Physical Bullying – punching, poking, hair-pulling, beating

2.Emotional Bullying – rejecting, defaming, humiliation, blackmailing, manipulation friends, isolating, pressuring peers

3.Sexual Bullying – exhibitionism, requests for sexual activities, sexual harassment, abuse involving physical contact and assault

4.Verbal Bullying – name calling, teasing, gossip

CYBERBULLYING

Using technology such as internet or cell phones to send hurtful or threating messages to another person

1.Spreading lies or rumors through e-mail or instant message

2.Registering another person form something online without permission

3.Posting pictures with the subject’s permission

RELATIONSHIPS IN THE FAMILY

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FAC TORS I NF LUENCI NG FAM ILY RELATIONSHIP S

How well do family members know each other?

How much time do family members spend together?

What common interest do family members share?

What kind of communications occur in the family?

Does acceptance and support exist in the family?

Does love and concern exist in the family?

UN DER STAN DING Y OU R PARENT ’S POIN T OF V IEW

Your parent’s point of view

Cultural role expectations

Providing for the family

Support network

Protect the well-being of the family

PARENT-TEEN CONFLICT

Adjusting to changes such as teen’s independence

Different point of view

NEGOTIATING SOLUTIONS

Shows a positive attitude

Good communication skills

RELATIONSHIPS WITH SIBLINGS

Encourage each other

Sibling rivalry

With a close sibling relationship it can be the core of a strong support group

RELATIONSHIPS IN THE WORLD AROUND

YOU

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RELATION SHIPS WITH S IGNIF ICANT ADU LTS

Significant Adults• Grandparents, aunts, uncles, teachers, youth

leaders, religious leaders, coaches• Relationships is usually less stressful than with

parents

WORK RELATIONSHIPS

Customer Relations• Friendly services

Relating to Fellow Employees

Relationship with Supervisors

RELATION SHIPS W ITH PEO PLE O F O THER CULTUR ES

Multiculturalism – a society with people of different cultural backgrounds

Diversity – the unique qualities of people form different cultural backgrounds

ACCEPTING DIFFERENCES

Getting to know people

Meeting people of other cultures

Take the initiative to introduce yourself and be friendly