Finding Your Dream Job

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Finding Your Dream Job. Lawyers Assistance Program Facilitated by Robert Bircher. Going for What you Really Want. Making transitions in jobs is a normal part of career development-not an aberration - PowerPoint PPT Presentation

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<p>Creating a Vision of your Ideal Job</p> <p>Finding Your Dream JobLawyers Assistance Program</p> <p>Facilitated by Robert Bircher1Going for What you Really WantMaking transitions in jobs is a normal part of career development-not an aberrationMost lawyers accept the first (or only) articling job they are offered and many clamor to be kept on after articles-this is not career planning!!In fact, the chances of being in the ideal job for you -after articling is remote-most people need to make several moves before they hit on the best one for them2Going for what You really WantFortunately, law is a wide field offering many variations-legal, quasi legal and non legalLaw offers many cultures including large firms, solo practice, corporate, government etc.Finding the job you love is about inner self examination. It is not knowing what is available-out there What is out there are 15,000 separate occupations in BC-if you dont stay in private practice you will only have 14,999 options left!!It is not written in stone tablets that you have to stay in any particular area of law or even law it all-although this is a revelation to some lawyers</p> <p>3What do you Want?Lawyers often do their career planning after they have practiced a while-the first clue being a sense of discomfort ranging from mild dissatisfaction to overt misery, anxiety or depressionAt this point lawyers are often lost and waste time hoping for something to come along - it rarely willThe most effective first step is to get a more accurate sense of what you want or like4What do you Want?Many lawyers are unclear about what they want-they have been conditioned to want what others tell them they should want parents, society, teachers etc.Mom or Dad might have said" You will be happy if you get a high paying job in a big firm you may now have that -yet are miserable due to the long hours and pressure and feel the trade off for big money was a mistakeGoing to another big firm simply means you will have the same job in a different building-no real change has occurred</p> <p>5Why Cant I Figure Out What I Want?Finding your passion or dream job, theoretically should be easy-in practice it is actually quite difficult for several excellent reasonsTwo theories help explain why it is so hardBrain hemisphere theory: The left side of the brain processes information sequentially and specializes in logic and analytical thinking: the right side processes information holistically,all at once and intuitivelyOne side tends to dominate or become the default processor-for various reasons, including the filtering process of getting into law schools, the left side dominates in most lawyers6Why Cant I Figure Out What I want?Both sides function almost as separate entities or personalitiesThe left side functions to safeguard the person by keeping them where they are-in familiar safe, non-threatening territory (safekeeping self)The right side functions to lead the person into new adventures and exploration of uncharted territory (Experimental self)7Why Cant I Figure Out What I want?The problem is that the left brain tends to override the right brain leaving us without the proper thinking tools to create a new life-fear confusion and delay result-see chart on brain functionTo do brainstorming you must get access to your right brainLeft brain-Right brain Exercise-what thoughts do you have about career change and what side of the brain are they coming from? </p> <p>8The Sound of the Safekeeping SelfYour Left brain is overriding your right brain when; you talk about the reasons you shouldn't do this, you think things like: I need to do or complete x before I make a move, this isnt realistic, I cant etcOr you confuse yourself every step of the wayOr you find diversions or digressions rather than do your job hunt</p> <p>9Getting UnstuckIn order to find out what your dream job is you need to be in your right brain-tough to do for many lawyersOne way is to take a sabbatical or break and do something radically different-as long a break as you can afford-travel, teach English, live in a monastery in Bali etc.Another way is to engage more in right brain activities-listening to music-physical activities or creative activities (non competitive)-having fun etcTrying to over-think (ruminating, obsessing) your situation has the opposite effect-it creates problems not solutions-gathering more information however is useful-informational interviews etc.10Ideal Self and Authentic SelfAnother Theory about getting unstuck involves a psychological approach (Wong, McKeen) Imagine having 3 parts to your personality-an Ideal Self, an Authentic Self and an Actual SelfAuthentic self-your basic nature and personality which your mother could attest to even in your earliest days-this will be your unique and individual way of being in the world-it will be with you all your life and although the form may look different the essence never changes11Ideal Self and Authentic SelfIdeal self-this the part of you that is created by parental attitudes and expectations and the culture itselfChildren soon realize that their behavior must be modified to please their parents if they are to survive-children then form an image of how they must be to please their parents-whom they are entirely dependant on for survival. This image of self that will be acceptable and gain approval is your Ideal selfOften the impulses of the authentic self will be in opposition to what parents (or any authority figure) want-this creates conflict-which later becomes internalized and continues long after we are beyond the control of our parentsFor example many people are lawyers because their parents wanted them to be, or approved of it or for bragging rights," my daughter is a lawyer (therefore I must have been a great parent!!)12Ideal SelfBeing in Law to satisfy your ideal self is common-unfortunately it doesnt result in much happiness.Lawyers who are lawyers because it is in alignment with their authentic self are easy to spot: they absolutely love being lawyers and will take law books or files to the beach or on holidays-they are genuinely happy and look and act like it-they are also uncommonIf you rate your experience of being a lawyer out of 10 and it is less than 5 you probably are impacted by this phenomenon-you are in law because somebody else thought it was a good idea13Actual SelfYour Actual self is the compromise between your ideal and authentic selvesFrom the outside the child grows up and becomes responsible, cooperative, a good student etc. The compromises are made for the Childs own goodUnfortunately, every time that the Authentic Self is betrayed in an effort to behave more like the Ideal self, the person recognizes that abandonment and reacts with inner conflict (sometimes called self hate)14Ideal Self in PracticeTo develop the ideal self, people learn socially acceptable roles (i.e. Lawyer) which are a social vehicle which helps maintain the image of the ideal selfIf these roles are against your deep nature people learn to become disconnected or numb and lose touch with their feelings-in this state it is almost impossible to have any sense of what you really wantOther symptoms of this disconnect are anxiety, depression, addictions, phobias or obsessive compulsive disorders (workaholics)-also there is a lack of direction and a feeling of emptinessWhat is missing in your life?-YOU!!15Conflict Between Ideal and Authentic SelfIf there is a large disparity between these two parts a great deal of pain ,conflict and misery resultsFortunately law is such a huge field many widely different careers are possible, some may go to quasi-legal areas, some may need to leave law. Also in many small or solo practices you can write your own ticket as far as how you practice-thus, it is not difficult to find a niche-you dont have to leave town, move to the gulf islands and make pottery to be happy-although for some people this is perfect!!Exercise-write a job description for your ideal self and one for your authentic self-in or out of law and dont worry about whether it is practical or not16Getting UnstuckEveryone is faced with this dilemma to a greater or lesser degree-one path that doesnt work is the Path of Glory-trying to achieve and strive your way out of it-denying your authentic self or trying to get rid of it-the thinking here is maybe if I achieve and accomplish a lot I will finally be rid of this inner conflict" this of course only results in an endless treadmill of ultimately meaningless achievementA more productive path is one of compassion-awareness of self and acceptance of these partsStriving to be more in your authentic self is simply your ideal self sneaking in the back door17Getting UnstuckStriving to get away from your ideal self wont work either-it is part of you and wont disappearSelf compassion and accepting that you have these parts is the way outYou can then listen to these parts and make good choices in lifeThis will result in an experimental approach to moving towards your perfect job-allowing a number of experiments along the wayMaking changes becomes part of the process -not a failure to be ashamed ofAlmost all really happy people have done lots of experimenting18How do I Get There? What do I need to do?You need to know your interests, skills, values, people and environment preferencesIt is like having a shopping list before you go shopping-you wont forget things and you will go to the right stores if you have one-if you have no idea what you want you will wander aimlesslyInterests-Subject matters to which you are drawn-topics that you read about 19Creating a Job Shopping listSkills-abilities you have developed over your lifetimeValues-intangible guiding principles, motivators or drivers-everything you do is driven by your values-unfortunately they are often unconsciousPeople preferences-type of people, how many, what kind of interaction with co-workers etc.Environment-office atmosphere, physical structure, work schedule, degree of freedom and flexibility20What do I have Passion for?EG.-I want to be paid massive amounts of money to have coffee with interesting people and be on TV sounds impossible until you talk with Oprah WinfreyAssume you will be paid what you are now or what you want-dont assume your dream job is poorly paidThere are many amazing jobs out thereThe impediment always boils down your own fear-courage to change is what works!!21Completing the ListCreativity is a right brain activity, do not be practical, sensible or realistic i.e. asking yourself how am I ever going to get paid for this or there is no such thing as a good paying job doing that-This your left brain making a mess of thingsFocusing on How am I going to get it before you are clear on what you want is a grievous error!!-This using your left brain for a right brain jobWhen you are clear on what you want the how follows even if what you want seems ridiculous22Finding your Ideal JobLooking at your list what types of jobs would be perfect for you??Does it utilize what you love to do?Show your list to a friend/partner what would they recommend?If you get some ideas the next step is to talk to somebody who already does itHave faith you can do it-doubt doesnt mean it cant be done- it is just your left brain trying to help-if however it goes on overdrive it will talk you out of anything risky or scary and you will stay stuckYou may reach a point where any change can be considered positive-doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results is craziness!!23</p>