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Finding your soulmate

We at Kasamba see our clients’ day to day struggle to

find and keep the love they deserve. Therefore we

decided to gather words of wisdom from our best

advisors who were handpicked by our staff.

The advisors’ wisdom encapsulate dozens of years of

global experience that was designed to help you through

one of the biggest challenges of our time- finding your

soulmate.

We invite you to take in every chapter in this eBook and

use its insight to help you in your journey.

“A lover has to be chosen from soul-

craving. To choose just because

something mouthwatering stands before

you will never satisfy the hunger of the

soul. And that is what the intuition is for;

it is the direct messenger of the soul.”

Dr. Clarissa Pinkola Estes

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Table of contents

1. Finding your soul-mate

Page 4

2. Four big questions

to ask yourself after the first date

Page 8

3. How to overcome

emotional baggage before starting a new relationship?

Page 12

4. What if he's not

really the one?

Page 16

5. What if your

soulmate is already married?

Page 20

6. A practical guide to

tuning your intuition for finding a loving soulmate

7. Five Love Myths That May Be Hurting Your Relationship

Page 26

Page 32

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The drive behind our desire for “the one” and how to align with its energy

– by Maya Moon

While there is certainly no denying the romantic, sexual,

emotional and general sense of happiness finding our

soul-mate brings, if we look deeper into the spiritual and

universal drive that both humans and all "earthlings"

share, we find an interesting common denominator.

Whether following Christian-Judaism, the Darwin theory

or alternate theories of how we came to be, one thing

stands vividly clear; without procreation no species would

continue to exist.

Our deepest spiritual and ancient ancestral drives and

instincts for survival quite clearly support that a "soul-

mate" or companion is as much a need as it is a desire.

Whether we imagine Adam and Eve wandering through

Eden or the evolution of the Homo sapiens and even

earlier instances of what we now call "man"; the survival

of self and species literally depended on finding others.

Without this instinct to secure a life mate, companion or

partner the world would be a place of chaos and almost

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no variation of species including the rainbow of culture,

color and existence of human beings.

Our spiritual core or self is in a sense the "control center"

for guiding us towards love and in the recognition of our

soul mate, twin flame or life partner. It could be said that

our spirituality is "hard-wired" for love; and has the

innate ability to be the source and path that unites us

with the person we are intended to share our lives with

for the highest possible outcome. If you have ever

attended a social function or party and amongst a large

group found your attention drawn to a particular

individual, perhaps noticing that person also seems to be

focused on you. This is an example of our spiritual

essence and energy at work, the higher power that exists

within all humans to fulfill the destiny of love and spiritual

connection.

It is that unexplained drive that urges us to seek a

particular individual above another. And for those that

follow this natural and highly evolved guidance, we often

find that person we have dreamt of, imagined or longed

for.

In the same context that our body alerts us to thirst,

hunger or other needs, our spiritual energy or core is truly

our "love monitoring center". For those that have learned

to rely on this energy and influence, they are led not only

to love but to those best suited, compatible and often

"meant to be". And is why we should follow our spiritual

influences even when perhaps we are guided towards

someone not within our usual or traditional type or social

network.

Love is a basic instinct and just as vital to our survival as

all other instincts. Sometimes we just need a reminder

that our spirituality serves that purpose much better and

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more fully than any matchmaker or trying to force our self

to love or unite with someone, when that special

something just doesn't seem to exist. From that first

glimpse or first kiss, true love is not just emotional but

one of the strongest and most spiritual experiences

humans are blessed with.

For no matter what has been, or lies behind; ahead just

up the road love waits, always, forever and for all. And

with a little faith and a lot of hope; your spiritual instinct,

all that drives each earthling to continually exist and

persevere lives the undeniable and core existence for the

survival of love.

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Top psychic Maya Moon – see profile

Years on Kasamba: 10

Client reviews: 5700

Reading tools: Spirit guides, Channeling

About Maya Moon:

It is always my intention to honor and serve your highest

self and path.

I use a variety of techniques utilizing my connection to

spirit. Each reading is customized to your particular issues

and needs.

I do not judge, nor do I give my "personal opinion”.

I am a teacher, mentor, prophet and advisor.

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Four big questions to ask yourself after the first date – by Psychic Yazmin

There are some relationships that have such strong

chemistry that regardless of the circumstances you still

somehow seem to gravitate together (soulmate) bonds

and just simple destiny!

There are other relationships that start off more

differently and when or having gone out on your first date

it is always good to figure out or ask yourself a few

personal questions about your new date/relationship.

Here are four important questions that you should think

about whilst moving ahead in a relationship and sharing

a soulmate link with a partner.

The following simple questions you could ask yourself in

order to make a decision on moving ahead more

harmoniously and giving the chances of the relationship

being a long term union.

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1. First instant connection:

When seeing your date: How did it feel? Was it like

connecting with someone that you had already met with

before? Seeing your soulmate has been heard of to be

just like “connecting with a best friend” even though you

have never spent time with this person before.

Sharing similar sense of humor and being able to share an

understanding of simplistic jokes points of view in life and

maybe even other simple subjects.

You will feel an instant connection and will thrive off that

connection (becoming who you are at your best).

Sharing these deep connections on first instance shows

you the soul mate connection, but also gives you an

indication of where you see things heading.

2. Feeling a strong sexual attraction:

When on first instance meeting your potential partner, it

is not uncommon to feel a strong sexual chemistry -

feeling an emotion of pure lust and desire. A soulmate

relationship or a past life’s connection mean that you are

reconnecting with that person from another life. Also,

connecting with them is like re- establishing a former

sexual relationship past bond.

Asking yourself how you feel and how you see them also

can intensify that desire lust and sexual intensity.

3. Understanding one another’s needs:

How you feel with your date being involved in

conversation? How at ease you were with debating or

talking about things or uneasy circumstances/situations?

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While being with your soulmate, you should feel an

instant feeling of understanding and knowing them. This

may make you feel uncomfortable.

Sharing that intense spiritual soulmate bond will give you

a sense of unity understanding as if it was a team

relationship. Even while just being together in the most

difficult of situations or circumstances, you shall feel a

collectiveness and confidence in them and their way of

communicating with you and others on your behalf.

4. Did you feel safe?

Feeling a sense of togetherness and just knowing this

person has your best interests at heart.

They may have gone out of their way to make sure that

you have travel arrangements sorted out for your way

back home. Feeling that definite assurance and support a

bonding with your soulmate that you feel with no other.

Having a soulmates connection, it is very likely that you

feel a deep sense of “home”, that you are in a place

position and situation where you are being taken care of

love, safety and comfort. When you are at home you feel

safe and an assurance that you can be you in every way

possible.

Thinking about these key things and emotional feelings

can help you make a safe soulmate relationship based on

these intense feelings and help you move forward in a

harmonious bonding soulmate relationship.

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Top Psychic Yazmin – see

profile

Years on Kasamba: 11

Client reviews: 18,408

Reading tools: Spirit guides, Dream interpretation,

Crystal ball

About Psychic Yazmin:

I am a spirituality and religion expert who can give clear

guidance and accuracy on whatever area of your life you

seek guidance in through spiritual means.

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How to overcome emotional baggage before starting a new relationship?

– by Divine Messenger Zuco

So you might have some baggage. Welcome to the club! Baggage is of itself not a bad thing. But if your baggage is getting in the way, it may be time to empty that cute Hello Kitty suitcase and see what can stay and what should go. The first step is the easiest. Be honest with yourself. You’d be surprised how little of that we actually do. By honesty, I mean be clear with yourself about who you are, what you need and what you are dealing with right now. What is your issue? Everyone has at least one... or a million. Every one of our life paths is different. It’s ok to have them. But be straight with yourself about what and why. Now that you know what you’re dealing with and why, you cannot ignore it. Somethings can take time to resolve. Some problems don’t have immediate answers. If you lack a cure, then don’t fall back on treatment. That means having an outlet to discuss your worries, concerns, stressors and triggers. Having a strong support system that includes, friends,

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family and even advisors can ensure that you don’t become overwhelmed! The problems and memories that you had before your prince came into your life are all still very much there. Life is and feels better. But the past hasn’t vanished. You still need to maintain all your coping skills and still deal with the stress that you will inevitably have to confront during a relationship. Past relationships do have a way of leaving a mark on us that can cause us to become anxious around similar situations. You might find yourself tripping up and reacting out of memory. An example would be if your new partner did or said something to remind you of an unpleasant event. In turn, without thinking you overreact. You’re now in a situation where you have to explain yourself. Worse yet, you have to try to justify why him suggesting that you catch a movie on a Thursday is one of the most offensive things that he could do. You can’t. So be prepared to be honest about why you reacted. It can become an opportunity for much more closeness and a way to build trust. It’s obviously not as easy as just getting over it. Some problems have solutions, while others don’t. Now I’ll outline a way of overcoming and managing those pesky heavy items that you can’t take with you on your flight. Overcoming is the act of successfully dealing with or gaining control of something difficult. You gain experience through overcoming your baggage. Baggage that has become too heavy or difficult to carry around. You’ve overcome a lot in your life. The fact that you are even here is proof of that. Baggage is defined as personal belongings that are confined to a compartment or vessel. Baggage is about

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what’s in the bag. It’s not garbage. It’s part of who you are. It’s like your life could be if it fit into a bag. In that bag has all your experiences, tools and memories. Some are heavier to carry around. Some are like a Rubik’s cube that you haven’t figured out yet. But still essential in you being able to navigate this world and your life. As your relationship grows, as you get to know and understand your new partner, you may discover that they too have similar baggage. That you both “get it”. There is nothing quite like being able to understand and understood at exactly the same time. It’s even better when you can share how you feel about an experience that your partner can not only identify with, but help you overcome. Yes, your partner may be the only person that can help you identify and overcome some issues. Not all, of course. No one is in your life to solve all your problems. But everyone has something that they can add to your baggage or take away from it. Make sure that when it's time to board that flight to the moon, that you travel light! Leave the oversize issues behind and be ready to enjoy life to the fullest!

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Divine Messenger Zuco – see profile

Years on Kasamba: 9

Client reviews: 9,757

Reading tools: Spirit guides, Tarot, Channeling

About Divine Messenger Zuco:

Are they going to call? What do they feel? What is going

to happen next? These and other questions can

sometimes take a toll on us. Get the answers that you

seek from someone who will be honest, direct and to the

point. No fluff, just the truth. Hopeful and caring. All are

welcome.

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What if he's not really the one? – by Chrisalis

Ever felt like you are banging your head off a brick wall when it comes to love? Feels as if no matter what you try you cannot get ahead in a relationship or smooth over the problems you are experiencing with your partner? What if he is not really “the one” or not “the one for right now”? You do have choices, you do have free will and you do have the right to decide on what you want in your own life.

No one said soul mate relationships are easy

In fact, they can be the most difficult relationships we encounter as they not only make our emotions and responses so intense but can also make us crazy with wanting to stay in a relationship that is not working for us on any level.

Relationships take work and if your partner is not putting in their fair share of the emotional, physical and mental work then it should not be left to you alone to fix things.

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If one person is doing all the work in a relationship they can find themselves drained and resentful pretty quickly.

If you are used to always being the one giving then you may see this as normal behavior when in reality you are setting yourself up for the very outcome you are trying to avoid. You are also teaching you partner that they only have to give in small amounts back in order to receive plenty from you. Sometimes you are teaching them that they don’t need to give at all or give in a negative way to receive the best from you.

When all else fails you may be desperate enough to think a spell will work in your favor. Now I am all for you making your wishes come true. The operative words in there being “you” making “your” wishes come true. However, think long and hard before you put your wishes into the hands of someone else. This is the time to take your own power back not hand it over to a third party who promises you a quick fix to your love problems.

No one knows you and your hopes and wishes better than you do. Think on those words because within them is your own power. It starts with you and it ends with you. If you use your own power to make your wishes come true then you not only start directing your life more clearly you also start acting in your own best interests which allows your soul to shine through and remove blocks around you.

It took you time and energy to get you were you are today in your relationship and it will take you time and energy to get you back to where you want to be in your life and away from being drained.

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Of course, you may have already decided that you need to end this relationship in order to get your “self” and your life back on track. If so, do not let anyone keep you in there. Think for yourself and act accordingly. No one knows better than you do what you really want.

You may feel as if you are trapped and have nowhere to turn so your first step is to find someone who is supportive of your thoughts, feelings and actions so you can talk them through and actually “hear” what your “self” is telling you. This may be a soulmate relationship but you also have a relationship with your own soul and may have lost yourself so much to the relationship that you are not listening to your own soul’s wisdom.

Often when you verbalize your emotions and thoughts out loud they resonate back to you and you can see a pattern and a path forward for you to get back into your “self”. As your partner sees you changing because of this it often has the effect that they try to control you more or they change themselves in order to keep you in their lives.

The magic is in you

It starts with you and it ends with you. Do not give over your own power to your partner or anyone else who promises you a quick fix. Be you dream, live your dream and if that dream has turned into a nightmare then walk away and start a new dream. Sometimes, it is not about saving the relationship or saving the other person. Sometimes it is about saving your “self”.

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Top Advisor Chrisalis –

see profile

Years on Kasamba: 8 Client reviews: 1,730 Reading tools: Tarot, Astrology, Channeling About Chrisalis: I do not only focus on the present and future, but also

look at the past to see where the problems being faced

right now have originated. This can help you in finding the

answer to the best way forward as it can show you how

to change patterns in relationships and take control

again.

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What if your soulmate is already married? – by Mrs. Donna

There are times in life when we just aren’t sure what the

next move should be. We get lost in a jumble of different

emotions and become confused by the vast number of

different experiences that we encounter. Sometimes, our

very soul is conflicted.

When we find love, we are bombarded by countless

energies and emotions; every nerve in our body is firing

and sending shockwaves throughout our being. It’s

invigorating and exciting and we become thrilled with the

possibilities for the future with the one we love. What

happens if the one we love; our soul mate, is already

married?

What do we do when we don’t know what to do? There

is bound to be internal and moral conflict in this situation.

Our soul is screaming out for its mate, and yet, we cannot

or should not proceed to make the connection because

the person it’s attached to is already committed to

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someone else through marriage. We are left to wonder,

can a married person truly be my soul mate? Is it possible

that I have made a mistake? What steps do I take next?

There are so many questions that we send out into the

universe, just hoping for an answer.

Sometimes, the answers don’t come as you had hoped or

even as you had expected. We cannot help how we feel.

Unfortunately, we are tightly woven by our emotions and

the energies that they present. However, we can decide

how we will behave according to those emotions.

The truth is that the term soul-mate is often

misunderstood. It can come in the forms of friends,

lovers, family, or even strangers in brief passing who

change the trajectory of our lives. There are multiple

opportunities to make connections to other human

beings on a spiritual and soulful level.

A situation such as this one requires careful choices,

discernment, and thoughtful action. There is no room for

negative judgments when it comes to matters of the

heart and soul. Some of the biggest questions in this

situation are regarding When, How, and IF the other

person is going to deal with their legal marriage.

You could also ask, “IF they are really my soul-mate, won’t

they automatically choose me?” Well, the short answer is

no. Having a soul-to-soul connection doesn’t mean that

you are guaranteed to spend eternity together.

Sometimes, we have to take on these very difficult

challenges and accept them as important lessons for us in

this lifetime.

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We must understand that when two people meet, there

is a vibration that occurs between them, it is unique only

to these two people and it can jolt our spirit into chaos.

These vibrations can send the message that we have

found our soul-mate. It’s important to be conscious of

how many times we have experienced this feeling so that

we can use discernment when making choices about how

to proceed. Is it REAL? Is it definite? Is it forever?

When people marry, they believe that they are marrying

their soul-mate. Then, the mundane tasks and stressors

of life begin to interfere with the cosmic connection

between the two, and they simply forget that they are

soul-mates. If two do not practice tuning into the

vibrations that brought them together in the first place,

they can become confused when they encounter similar

emotions in someone other than their spouse. All

relationships have the potential to become soul-mates;

however, not all relationship already are.

So, the dilemma of encountering your soul-mate when

they are already married can be summed up in three

questions:

Where are you on the path to spiritual marriage?

Are you or your prospective soul-mate in a soul-

mate relationship/marriage already?

Is the new relationship between you just an

attempt to recall the intensity of what it feels like

to be in a soul-mate relationship?

As we elevate our consciousness, we can see that all

human beings are really part of the same spiritual plane.

We are all connected in a cosmic and otherworldly chain

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that provides us with many opportunities to create the

lives and loves that our souls ache for.

If the one that you have found is married and they

recognize that their spouse is indeed not their soul-mate.

The universe will open up the path for you to be together,

if it is meant to be. It is also important to remember that

human beings sometimes create relationships that are

temporary to teach or learn something from one another.

Not all relationships are meant to last forever in the

physical. Yet, some relationships are meant to last a

lifetime, and continue on through various forms and

expressions from lifetime to lifetime.

These relationships can be counted among the deep

spiritual marriage and soul mate connections. How do

you know if the soul-to-soul connection that you have

experienced with this other person (who is married) is

real and true? What questions do you need to ask? What

questions do you need answered? It can be extremely

difficult to navigate such deep and murky spiritual

waters.

How do you react if your soul mate chooses to stay

married? Can you love and connect to another human

being in such an intense and fulfilling way? Will you be

destined to be alone and wandering in this life? These are

all very emotional questions that undoubtedly can cause

a lot of inner turmoil and spiritual conflict.

As I said, there are times in life that we come to an

impasse and we just aren’t sure which path to take. The

majority of human beings do not wish to hurt others; we

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want to be happy and to see other people happy.

However, when we come to this very conflicting situation,

how can we know what we should do next?

I am here to help answer all of these pressing questions

and help you choose a path that you can be happy and

comfortable with. Allow me to help you make decisions

that will mold your life and love into what you want and

deserve. You don’t have to be overwhelmed by making

these important decisions alone.

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Top Advisor Mrs Donna – see profile

Years on Kasamba: 5

Client reviews: 4,808

Reading tools: Spirit guides, Tarot, Channeling

About Mrs Donna:

I am experienced with 40 years + of working with people

in the area of love and life. I walk a spiritual path daily to

always understand the true spirituality of love and the

importance of the soul being committed to another.

Where life sometimes will give you many options on what

paths to walk I can ensure you that I can put you on the

right path.

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A practical guide to tuning your intuition for finding a loving soulmate – by Totem Aion

Soul mates come into our lives in various types and

sometimes under unusual circumstances. There are those

who come to teach us lessons -often the hard way-, there

are those who come to nurture and support us, while

some believe that a soul mate could be even a random

person on the street, who will give an important message

we need to hear. It’s crucial to not confuse enthusiasm

for someone we just met with the deep, often instant

connection we feel, when we meet a true soul mate.

But how to tune your intuition to attract a loving soul

mate for a healthy relationship?

The first step is to have a clear understanding of which

you want the desirable -as well as the undesirable- traits

of your soul mate to be, so as to avoid attracting an

energetically challenging soul mate. A good way to do this

is by placing a psychic request, an order if you prefer, so

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that the universe/God will deliver that special someone

to you. What we actually want to do is to create a psychic

imprint of the request on your subconscious that through

a simple and short ritual will be projected to the collective

subconscious, in order to facilitate and speed up the

process of meeting your soul mate. The ritual will

strengthen your spiritual connection with the elemental

energies that surround you -the ones that will carry your

message to the spiritual realm- and also with the soul

mate you want to bring into your life.

We know now that our subconscious minds are chiefly

responsible for any decisions we make, so although this

ritual may appear to be magic, it's actually a self-hypnosis

session, which will make your subconscious mind fertile

ground for decisions and choices that will lead you to

meeting your ideal partner. For that reason, feel free to

change any ingredients or "props" mentioned in this

article. The important thing is to use whichever item or

symbol has a special meaning for you, as symbols are a

language our subconscious can understand really well.

The instructions given here are just for guidance and

inspiration.

It’s good to perform the soul mate attraction ritual on the

right day. Friday is always an ideal choice, as it’s related

to the goddess of love, Venus, but Sunday –the day of the

Sun – would also do. If you are into astrology and familiar

with planetary hours, you could also choose a Venus hour

for even better results. Before starting the attunement

ritual, perform a standard cleansing: take a warm bath

adding some salt and a few drops of sage essential oil,

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drink a glass of water with a few drops of lemon and quiet

your mind for five minutes or so, following your breath.

On a table, make a small altar to honor the elements and

ask for their protection and assistance. Place a gemstone

on the north side of your altar to represent earth. Pink

quartz would do, but if you don’t have one, you could use

any type of pink gemstone. Alternatively, you can just use

some salt as a symbol of earthy energies. On the east -the

direction traditionally associated with air- light a jasmine

or rose scented incense stick. To symbolize fire, a pink

candle would go to the south and a cup of red wine on

the west for honoring water.

Take a few deep breaths, close your eyes if you want, stay

still and silent for a few minutes to ground yourself. Then

open your eyes, take pen and paper and start writing your

list. State your will to the universe/God first, by writing “I

ask God/the universe to bring me a soul mate for a loving

relationship, who will have the following traits”. Make

two lists, one with the desirable traits and one with the

unwanted ones. Compose your list, without holding back.

State clearly everything you want your soul mate to have

with as many details as possible. When you’re done, keep

the list in an envelope and hide it away in a place that only

you know. Close your ritual by thanking the elements and

the divine powers for their help. Repeat the ritual once a

month, if needed. Trust that the universe will bring you

your heart’s desire!

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Sings that you’ve met a soul mate

Many strange sensations could be felt in the presence of

a soul mate. Watch for any unusual impressions and

feelings in the physical, emotional or psychological body.

Some of them are:

• Together, you experience changes through unusual

situations and synchronicities, often totally

unexpected.

• There’s a sense of knowing each other on a deeper

level, even if you have just met.

• You feel an unexplained, deep connection to each

other.

• You feel instant rapport and a sense of unity.

• You feel that you have met for a reason and that

there’s some sort of goal that needs to be achieved

by combining your energies, even if that goal is not

clear or is just intuitively felt.

• You experience time distortion when you are

together. Time could feel like speeding up or

slowing down, so weeks may seem like years or the

opposite.

• Your meeting happens under suspiciously unusual

circumstances.

It’s very common to notice these symptoms when you

meet someone new and exciting. But not everyone we

like or fall in love with is necessarily a soul mate. So before

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jumping into conclusions, it’s always wise to let some

time pass and see if the aforementioned feelings persist

after enthusiasm subsides.

Remember that the purpose of meeting a soul mate could

be much bigger than your personal agendas. It’s about

contributing your soul essence to the physical world in

ways that are not always clear or comprehensible. Souls

always know what they’re doing regardless of what our

limited minds think or expect. Treat your soul mate

relationship with respect and curiosity, trying to avoid

limiting it by egoistical or narrow-minded expectations.

Good luck!

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Top psychic Totem Aion – see profile

Years on Kasamba: 3

Client reviews: 479

Reading tools: Tarot

About Totem Aion:

Tarot is a tool for guidance and inner reflection. Apart

from their powerful predictive ability, the cards will also

show you what is blocking you and what needs to be

changed, before you can move ahead, towards a better

or different future. After all, the purpose of divination is

to provide practical ways that will help you move on from

situations that doesn't serve you anymore, rather than

passively accepting decisions imposed by others

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Five Love Myths That May Be Hurting Your Relationship – By Kasamba Team

Myth #1 Love just happens Whoever came up with Cupid misled our hearts into dreamy expectations. We’ve been disconnected from reality. Truth is true love doesn’t just happen - there are no magical arrows, nor does your Prince Charming come in the package you expect. True love comes to those who are prepared to receive it. Are you prepared? Are you REALLY prepared? You know, prepared to take a chance, be vulnerable, get to know yourself better, acknowledge your imperfections, grow through your partner, experience pain at times, compromise, trust your experience and really let go? If you are in the right place, you’ll attract the right relationship - one that’s worth it. Myth #2 Real love is easy Sure, falling in love with an attractive guy is easy. He enters the room, your heart skips a beat, you get excited

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and everything just feels magical. Everyone falls in this kind of infatuation because “falling” is easy. It’s “rising in love” that is the real deal and that needs work. If the painful phases in your dating curve and in your long-term relationship challenge you to grow and bring you to a better place inside of you, it is good pain. You’re rebirthing yourself into a new, more loving, more compassionate, better, bigger being. It’s not easy but you are rising in love. The "pain" is worth it, because real love is supposed to change you. It’s not supposed to hurt badly, so if you find that your relationship goes in cycles with no growth or change, it may be time to rethink everything. Myth #3 True Love is Always 50/50 Don’t you wish there was a machine that could gauge how many units of love a heart can produce? You’d whip it out on the first date, scan your date’s heart and not waste any precious time! Unfortunately, there is no real way to know how deeply we’re in someone’s heart. We either feel loved enough or not. And this changes over time also. The solution is to accept that love isn’t 50/50 when things are rosy. And neither is it supposed to be tit-for-tat during a rough patch. Score keeping doesn’t help anyone. If you feel that your partner is holding back from giving or receiving love, your best course of action is to openly and calmly bring it up. Forget about fifties and numbers - love should just flow freely. Myth #4 Love is ALL you need

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Not at all: even in clichéd fairy tales, love isn’t all that the princess needs. The plot has struggle in it. There are bad people, poisonous apples, and dragons to fight… There’s work to do. This is true in real life also. Before any happy ending, a lot of experiences need to be lived, challenges need to be surmounted and the lovers need to be happy with each other’s tackling of these tasks. Both lovers need to be willing to grow and change. As renowned psychologist Scott M. Peck famously put it, “Love is the will to extend one's self for the purpose of nurturing one's own or another's spiritual growth [...] Love is an act of will - namely, both an intention and an action.” Merely having feelings of love isn’t enough. Are you and your partner both willing to extend yourselves through intention and action? The answer to this question lets you know if you have a future together. Myth #5 True Love Equals Compatibility You are unique - you come with your own perks, qualities, ambitions, and things you need to work on. So does your partner. In the long run, feelings of love alone won’t be enough to sustain a healthy relationship between you two. Compatibility is the fire that keeps love alive - without it, love extinguishes. Do you prefer watching a thriller while he needs to jump off airplanes to feel alive? Do you have a dog while he has

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a pet tarantula? Do you prefer a stable desk job while he wants to travel the world and live on the beach? You get the point: What does “living” mean to you, each? Can you imagine the same, or at least a similar future? True love isn’t blind - true love sees when things don’t work out. True love will ultimately make you do what’s right for you.

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