Generation Next:Keeping Digital Teenagers

Safe

Good Rules for Online Behavior

Copyright ©Mark Fasciana 2010

“How do I keep my kids safe online?”

Question: What do our kids do

online?

Answer:Everything.

Listen to MusicDo Homework

Instant MessageVideo Chat

Watch VideoResearch

Play Games

Most of all…

They Explore

Question: What did WE do without the Internet when we

were their age?

Answer:Everything.

Listen to MusicDid Homework

Wrote MessagesChatted about Video

Watched VideoResearched

Played Games

We Explored!

Question: Are our kids different today?

Of course they are!

They’re not little US’s anymore.

They live in a constantly CHANGING world!

They’re changing at an incredible rate.

Almost as incredible as the rate technology changes.

Rapid Change

Our teenagers were BORN to the idea of rapid change. They embrace it.

The rapid change that is EMPOWERING to teenagers…

is often THREATENING

to parents

A middle school parent:

“My kids are like aliens. They speak a completely different

language.”

t2ylidk

cu2mrwafclol

k cya ltrzz

“omg I cnt blev hez goin tuh semi wit tht grl…=/ ”

“yeh ik but w.eva shez ok I gess but hez sooo kewl tho yuh git

mi?!”

Do you really understand your children?

We think about what they CAN and WILL BECOME

instead of who they are right now.

“Okay, so how do I deal with Facebook??”

Approximately Usage- Facebook6th graders = 15-20%7th graders = 40-55%

8th graders = 75% or more

Let’s talk Facebook

Things our kids should know….

Employers sometimes use Facebook in background

checks

Photos and videos on the Internet never really go away, even if you delete them.

What you say online is real and can be used against you in a court of law.

Becoming a Fan of a Facebook page means you agree with what is said.

What your friends post on your Wall is a reflection of YOU.

The Good Things About Facebook

=

ResponsibilityOwnership of ActionsCommunication Skills

LanguageSocial CuesCore Values

Consequences of ActionsMoralityEtiquette

Anonymity is very popular now.

formspring.me

omegle.com

chatroulette.com

gettingrandom.com

gettingrandom.com is linked from Facebook

ivideochat.com

randomdorm.com

Online Live Gaming is HUGE

Your parents used to say:

“Don’t talk to strangers.”

But strangers aren’t so strange anymore.

Not to our kids.

TechLife.com estimates that the average teenager communicates

online with strangers 20-30 times each month.

Kids really ARE different today!

Ten tips for you to come away with tonight:

1. Educate yourself first, then your children

Knowing what your children are exposed to will give you answers you need.

2. Teach your children the identity rules

No personal information or photos on public sites.

3. Install an Internet filter

Inexpensive, easy to use and provides peace of mind.

4. Insist on access to their Facebook pages

Randomly but consistently monitor their online activities from the inside out.

5. Teach them what to do if they encounter pornography

Pulling the plug on the computer quickly and getting an adult will help minimize the

problem.

6. Manage your child’s time online

Create a schedule and promote real world interactions rather than all online. Reduce

free reign.

7. Create consequences, and stick by them

If you don’t follow through with consequences, they mean nothing.

8. Keep computers out of bedrooms and in more open areas

of the home

Privacy could mean more ability to access inappropriate material.

9. Keep an open communication with your child

Allow them the chance to talk about things that happen online, and listen to their

concerns. This will also help when problems arise.

10. Keep up with the latest trends

Don’t ignore new Internet and technology trends. Explore them and understand them so you can teach your children the benefits

and the dangers.

What will happen in the next ten years?

Predictions for the Future:

Free wireless will be everywhere

Laptops will fall below the $100 mark

Several communication avenues will close

Keyboards and mice will disappear in favor of touch screens

Voice-to-text will be the norm

Video chat will be standard on cell phones

TV will be easily accessible on cell phones

Cell phones will become an essential part of education

Batteries will become stronger, smaller and lighter

Wireless electricity will be increasingly more popular

When will this change end?

Change

Time

It won’t!

Resources

• WiredSafety.org• FBI Parent Resources• NetSmartz.org• Books on Internet Safe

ty• Kids

Online: Parent's Guide to Internet Safety

• GetNetWise.org• SafeKids.com

• The Smart Parents Guide to Facebook

• Pulling the Plug on Facebook

• RandomDorm vs. Chatroulette

• The Surreal World of Chatroulette

• What can Strangers Learn about You Online?

• How Privacy Vanishes Online

• Facebook’s New Safety

Questions and Comments

Generation Next:Keeping Digital Teenagers

Safe

Good Rules for Online Behavior