West Ridge Academy- How To Connect With Your Teenager In Times Of Trouble
Parents, do you spend enough time with your teen? Do you know the positive and negative things to discuss? This article, West Ridge Academy- How To Connect With Your Teenager In Times Of Trouble is here to help. We believe that every parent should have a set time to set aside and just spend time and talk with their teen.
Teens need their parents to reach out for an open connection. Think for a minute about why you want to be close to your teenager. Think about what you used to love to do with him or her, and what has been fun recently. Think about his or her longings and the things your teen is interested in. Offer to spend one-on-one time, not because you "should," or because a problem needs to be solved, but because you want your life and his life to be good, and good together.
Don't bring up sore subjects. You need to also focus on the good things about your teen, not just on your irritations or worries. If you must bring up difficult topics, find a different time for that, totally separate from the time that you are trying to connect with your teen. Let this time be led by your teen, not your worries or upsets.
Your teen might not take immediate advantage of your attempt to connect with them. He/she may look like he/she doesn't notice. That's fine. You're learning to let them be in the driver's seat during these times. You are making a commitment in your mind and heart to offer your attention, and to trust them to take the offer eventually. Every time you hang around, content to be in your teen's presence, you're making it safer for your teen to eventually talk with you about important things. The path won't be short or certain, but carving out times when you decide not to be busy, and you set out no demands or expectations, will take you in a good direction.
The time that you set aside to spend with your teen can also provide them in a way to create times with you that they'll remember all of their life, because they were able to be in charge, and to feel your support as they did what they loved, or tried something new. The more time you organize for yourself, so you can release the emotions that your teenager ignites in you, the fuller your reach for connection with your teenager will be. Genuine caring makes a huge difference to teenagers. Whether they're fighting caring or absorbing it, they need to feel their parents sending it. This time, announced or unannounced, is a tool that helps parents send that vital caring toward their child. Not every set aside time with your teen may yield important insights that make a marked change in the parent/teen relationship. But it is a practice with great potential for improving relationships, and one that can be used to build love and respect in both good times and hard times.