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How to

MAKE FRIENDSWITH

ANYONE

J A M E S S K I N N E RM A R K V I C T O R H A N S E N

R O I C E K R U E G E R

Seven Simple Steps to Finding Friends Forever

© 2007, James Skinner, Roice Krueger, and Mark Victor Hansen, All rights reserved. 1

Ideas That Can Change Your Life™ in Relationships

How to Make Friends

with Anyone Seven Simple Steps to Finding Friends Forever

James Skinner, Roice Krueger, and Mark Victor Hansen

“How to Make Friends with Anyone” is your

guidebook to friendship—lots and lots of it.

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How to Make Friends with Anyone

The Authors

JAMES SKINNER is the founder of two global financial

groups that manage billions of dollars of assets. He is

also recognized as one of the world’s foremost business

thinkers and appears regularly on Japanese television.

ROICE KRUEGER co-founded Franklin Covey, the

world’s largest training company, and has supervised

consulting projects for 80 percent of the Fortune 500.

MARK VICTOR HANSEN is the co-creator of the Chicken

Soup for the Soul empire and is the best-selling nonfiction

author of all time. His goal is to make the planet work

for all humanity!

NOTE: Ideas That Can Change Your Life™ is a

collaboration of three of the world’s most amazing

authors, speakers, and thinkers. The first person “I” may

refer to any of the authors.




Making Friends Is Easy!

Making friends is easy. The reason is everybody wants

more friends. So whenever we become somebody’s

friend, we give them what they want; and at the same

time, they give us what we want!

Friendship truly is a win-win game.

In fact, there are more than 6 billion people on the

planet, and all of them want friends.

There is no shortage, only abundance; and the only

thing we need to do is know where to look and how to

find, and how to let everybody else know we are willing

to be their friend too.

In fact, if you understand the Seven Steps of

Friendship outlined in this book, you can go out on the

street right now and start making friends—and you can

have a great time doing it.




Smile!

A warm, sincere smile is the world’s universal

icebreaker. It is sunshine in the winter of loneliness. It

disarms the angry. It is the sign of friendship.

In fact, a smile says, “I am already your friend.”

Think about your ancestors living in a jungle

thousands of years ago. The environment is harsh and

often unfriendly. You have to be on the lookout for

danger at every turn. When you meet someone you

don’t know, your first thought is “Have they come to

steal my food or my horse?”

Many people feel like this today. They live in

concrete jungles filled with people they don’t know.

A smile says “I am not your enemy. I come in

friendship. I am already happy and do not need to take

anything from you. I am here to be friends with you.”

It really is as simple as that.




Practice your smile.

Walk down the street and smile at everybody you

meet.

Smile at the waiter at lunch. Smile at the woman at

the bank window. Smile at the man driving your taxi.

Smile at your spouse and your children. Smile at the

people you see jogging and the people you see tending

their gardens.

You will be well down the road to friendship.

Share Their Reality

The simple truth is we like to be friends with people that

are in some way like us. We are all looking for people

who share our experience, our hobbies, our interests,

our fears, and our dreams. If we share the reality of

other people, they will make friends with us easily and

naturally.




This is so easy to do. There are many, many things

that we can share with other people to show them that

we are the same as they are:

1. We may have the same work

2. We may have the same hobbies

3. We may come from the same place

4. We may know some of the same people

5. We can speak the same language

6. We can use the same words

7. We can speak with the same tone they do

8. We can dress in the same way

9. We can use the same gestures

10. We can breathe at the same speed

11. We can read the same books

12. We can watch the same movies

13. We can enjoy the same food

14. We can try the same choice from the menu

15. We can use the same brand of computer, or car,

or clothing

The list is endless!




At every chance you get, share something with the

other person, some little thing that shows them you are

the same as they are.

Remember, everybody wants to be with people that

are just like them!

Be Happy to See Them

Dogs are friends with everyone, and the reason is

simple: A dog is always happy to see you!

Everyone wants to be appreciated, not just for what

they do but for who they are. In fact, we all want to be

appreciated for just showing up!

When others are sincerely and obviously happy to

see us, you can be sure we will also be happy to see

them!

Listen

We have all heard it before: God gave us one mouth and

two ears.




Everybody wants a friend who will lend us their ear.

In fact, most people will talk your ear off if given half a

chance.

If you want people to be with you, get interested in

them. Listen to them, their stories, their achievements,

their triumphs, and their travails.

Listen twice as much as you speak, and then listen

some more.

Ask questions that show your interest and desire to

understand.

If you become a good listener, you will never want

for friends. They will flock to you to hear themselves

speak!

Use Their Name

Everybody loves to hear their own name. A person’s

name is sweet music to their ears. Hearing it tells them

that they are noticed and cared for—and everyone wants

to be noticed and cared for.




Ask the person for their name. Ask them how they

pronounce it. Where does it come from? What does it

mean?

How many bank tellers, waiters and waitresses, hotel

staff, taxi drivers, and bus drivers have you called by

their names during the past week?

If you can name them, they are your friend! It is as

simple and straightforward as that.

Remember: Anybody you can call by their name you

can count as your friend!

Ask for Their Help

People want to feel important and powerful. When we

ask for someone’s help, it tells them that they are

needed; and they will call us their friends because of it.

Do not be too shy to ask for help. Remember, when

you ask for help, you are doing the other person a favor

just as much as they are doing a favor for you.




Giving a person a chance to help you lets them

know that they are needed in this world, that they are

important to you!

Take Time

The greatest gift that you can ever give to another

person is your time. It is the essence of your life, the

most precious thing that you possess.

Never let other people feel that you are in a hurry to

get away from them.

If you must leave, express your sincere regret that

you cannot spend more time with them.

Spend time with your friends, and they will be your

friends for a long time to come!

Summary

Making friends is easy because everybody wants friends.




There are only seven things that we need to do to

have as many friends as we desire:

1. Smile

2. Share the other person’s reality

3. Be happy to see them

4. Listen with interest

5. Call the other person by their name

6. Ask other people for help

7. Take time to be there for them

Best wishes,

James Skinner, Roice Krueger, Mark Victor Hansen

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