Let’s Do Friending!

-Nov 2013-

-What’s Friending?

-START FREINDING.

-Tradition&modern

-Why FRIENDING? A sherry Fan Shimeng’s Production

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Let’s Do Friending!

What’s Friending?

 “According to the urban dictionary, friending is the act of

adding to a list of friends on social networking sites such as

Facebook and Twitter. It is also a key component and

fundamental part of those sites (Boyd, 2006).”

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Start Friending

 “Facebook, a place where people stay connected with their

friends and family, and express what they want to share with

the world (Facebook Current Report, 2012).”

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Tradition& Modern

-What has been missing . . .  

“Interview findings indicated that it is often difficult for two

users who both call each other a friend to know if they are

talking about the same thing (Fono, D., & Raynes-Goldie,

K.)” 4  

Why Friending?

 

“Social networking sites help maintain relations as people

move from one offline community to another. (Ellision,

Steinfield& Lampe, 2007).” 5

Social Media

Friending

An

Undergraduate’s

Responsibility

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Social media is one of the most varied and developing domains in the 21st Century. Hard

as it is to believe, by January 2009, the number of active users on Facebook is only slightly less

than the population of Brazil (Kaplan & Haenlein, 2010). It is not an exaggeration to say that

social media not only is a means of communication but also becomes a new virtual empire that

influence and may even take control of people’s life especially their social interaction. Among

numerous uses of social media, perhaps one of the most popular ones is ‘friending’. According

to the urban dictionary, friending is the act of adding to a list of friends on social networking

sites such as Facebook and Twitter. It is also a key component and fundamental part of those

sites (Boyd, 2006). Regarding the indispensability of social networking in undergraduates’

campus life, it is quite meaningful and necessary to illuminate their responsibility in friending.

Within this general definition, there are several types of friending that need to be

distinguished further. Friends on social networking sites can be classified into two categories:

actual friends and virtual ones. The first type includes family, schoolmates or friends whom

people have lost touch with in real life. Strangers, also known as e-friends, whom one gets to

know through social media and have only online connections with are included. Virtual

friends include companies or organizations created by people for advertising or commercial

purposes. The relationship with virtual friends can often provide information that people are

interested in. For example, NUS students’ sports club has a Facebook page. By adding its

members to the friend list, sports enthusiasts can receive updates about their events for better

participation. In conclusion, Friending refers to a new way through which people build

relationships online.

Social Media

What’s Friending?

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 Social Media

 

Start Friending Now!

Every day people do friending on different social

networking sites (SNS). Friending, as a new trend

of making friends, has infiltrated nearly every corner

of modern life. To arouse undergraduates’ awareness

of their responsibility in friending, it is fundamental

to show how to add friends. Among all these

websites, the most popular one must be Facebook.

Friending on Facebook requires only three simple

steps: logging in your account, finding potential

friends, and making a friend request.

To start with, you need to visit

www.facebook.com or use your app to sign in your

facebook account. After that, you should click on the

“Friends” tab on the left side of home page to see

your current friends list. In the step of “finding

potential friends”, potential friends mainly include

two categories, which are acquaintances and

same-interest friends. The searching method for your

acquaintances is to input their names into the search

box at the top of the page.

After viewing basic personal information of

possible results such as image, age, and

hometown, it should be easy to recognize the one

that you are looking for. You can also input key

words about your interests such as movies and

sports to find some relevant pages and to see the

other type of potential friends. When you have a

few confirmed friends, it is likely that you can find

someone you know in the friend lists on their

profiles. After finding those whom you want to

add, the last step is to click the “Add Friend”

button next to his name. This will send a friend

request from you to him. Then, all your work is

done. You can either wait for the acceptance of

your request or start to add another friend.

Start friending now! See how greatly facebook

can change your friendship!

 

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 Social Media

 

Romeo and Juliet Using Facebook -What has been missing when friending replaces the traditional way of making friends?

With the impact of social networking sites, the traditional way of

making friends does not fit in this social media era. ‘Friending’, as the

alternative, has many differences with the old way at several aspects such

as distance, time, and types of friends. Nevertheless, they still have one

trait in common. They are all developed through communication.

The traditional way of making friends is based on proximity. Usually, it

requires repeatedly encountering the person and having opportunities to

communicate with him. The traditional way lasted for hundreds of

thousands of year until the Internet shortens the distance among people

throughout the world. People can get to know strangers from the places

they have never been. Since they can simply send a request and add

anyone to their friends list at any time, it does not require timing as well.

On the positive sides of friending mechanism it can be said that the process of making friends becomes

easier and provides more opportunities. For example, Romeo meets Juliet and they get along well. In the

traditional way, for further improvement on their relationship, Romeo needs to wait for a few days to

encounter her again and it will take longer time for him to know how Juliet feels about him before they

become friends. Now, as long as they have social media like Facebook, the whole process can be done in a

few minutes and Romeo will have the chance to meet more “Juliets”. Talking about the negatives, since

friends online rarely see each other and the majority of friend list usually keep silence, the intimacy between

friends has decreased. It also brings us concern about whether undergraduates now know how to interact

with others offline. However, no matter which way people use to make friends, friendship still develops

through communication between different minds.

 

Juliet updates “she is in a

complicated relationship” on

Facebook. And Romeo likes this.

“Romeo, Romeo, wherefore art thou, Romeo?”  

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 Social Media

Why Do People Do Friending?

 

Nowadays, almost everyone does Friending.

Socialization is as important as grades to college

students, and Friending is a major way of socialization.

With the fast development of social media, more and

more undergraduates engage in this new way of making

friends. Although there are various purposes for

friending, As Facebook’s aim shows, which is to let

people stay connected with friends and family, to know

what is going on in the world, and to share and express

the information that matters to them (Facebook Current

Report, 2012), three main ones can be identified: for

contact, information, and fun.

The first cause is to keep in touch with friends and

families. Social networking sites allow individuals to

maintain connection with each other. They also help

maintain relations as people move from one offline

community to another. (Ellision, Steinfield& Lampe,

2007). People can search by conditions to find friends

whom they lost touch with. Secondly, friending can

bring many information resources. Instead of other

methods such as phone calls and newspapers, Friending

is the most easy and fast way to gain useful information,

which could have strong payoffs in terms of jobs,

internships, and other opportunities (Ellision,

Steinfield& Lampe, 2007). For example, if a person

would like to get a job in certain company, friending an

employee working in it will be a good start to know the

company better and deeper. The third one is

entertainment purpose. Friending is fun, especially for

the undergraduates. Through chatting and sharing

interesting information, they can get relaxation as well as

satisfaction, which make social networking site an

indispensable part in their entertainment life.

Behind the trend of friending in today’s campus

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Friending, a new word created for the act of adding virtual accounts to friend list on social networking sites, is

a different way of making friends from the traditional one. As one of the most popular uses of social media, it is

faster and simpler. It also offers more opportunities and choices of friends who they may never encounter in their

lifetime. With these changes, the intimacy between friends has decreased. People also question undergraduates’

ability of offline socializing. However, online friendship still develops through communication between one and

another. There are two types of friending. One is actual friends, which can continuingly classified into friends

people know in their real life and strangers. The other type is virtual friends including organizational friends and

public pages. No matter which type of friends people add to their friends list, the main three reasons for doing

friending are for contact, information and entertainment.

To become a friending expert with a long friend list on his facebook, you need to know how to add friends on

facebook first. There are only three simple steps that are logging in account, finding potential friends, and

making friend request. If you do not have an account, you will have to set up a new account before all these steps.

As we see the changes that social media makes in our contact and relationship with the rest of the world, this

new way requires undergraduates to be more responsible for their behavior in making friends.

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Social Nerworking Sites First Monday 11:12, December.

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