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MENTORING
IS IT A GORDIAN KNOT?
Mentoring vs Coaching
Top performer DeficiencyBased on desire Based on needEquivalence HierarchyEvolution EvaluationSupport Appraisal Studies rolemodel Self examinationFuture oriented Current situationFree Fees
SHOWING YOUR TRUE COLOURS
• KNOW YOURSELF• BE AWARE WHAT IT EVOKES
IN OTHERS• SEE THINGS IN PERSPECTIVE
A LITTLE HELP
• 10 questions• Select 3 statements that match your habits• Assign 10, 5 qnd 3 points in line with the
extend to which they describe you• Do not take too long, it is only to get a feel
for your drives
1.What would trigger your irritation?
• O: If your manager keeps stressing the fact that all employees are equal
• Y: If you have to execute repetitive tasks• R: If your manager or peer shows weakness or emotion• P: If the organization decides to do away with proven
routines • G: If your manager keeps encouraging competition• T: If your teammembers or manager focus on self-
interest• B: If people revoke agreements
2.When do you speak up?
• Y: If you have to participate in compulsory group activities
• R: If someone doubts your strength or ability• O: If people focus on the investment and cost rather
than the revenue• G: If less talented employees are pressured to
perform better• T: If decisions are based on dogmatism• P: If overnight a turn-around in management is
introduced• B: If people make fun of rules and regulations
3.When do you loose interest?
• R: If your teammembers deny the hierarchy• Y: If the team lacks vision and a conceptual strategy• G: If your colleagues show opportunistic behaviour• P: If the organizational structure lacks a clear
hierarchy• O: If the management fails to reward achievement• B: If level-skipping takes place• T: If your manager or teammembers display
narrow-minded views
4. Which of the following reasons are acceptable to you for not sticking to an agreement?
• P: ‘We are used to do it in a different way and that has always worked well.’
• R: ‘I was pressed for time so I did something else.’• B: ‘It was against the rules.’• O: ‘It was the only way to meet the desired targets.’• G: ‘The agreement was humanly speaking
impossible.’• Y: ‘At second thought, the idea behind the agreement
was not correct.’• T: ‘The agreement was petty and irrelevant.’
5. What would cause you to consider leaving your organization?
• O: If rules and procedures become more important then results and bottomline
• R: If they don’t give me enough room to do things my way
• Y: If they lack a clear mission• G: If it becomes impossible to socialize during
workhours• B: If people fail to meet deadlines and ignore
procedures• P: If I can no longer take pride in what we do• T: If profit is the only purpose
6. Which statement represents your reaction to change?
• B: ‘Does this comply with the agreed procedures?’
• G: ‘Why change a winning team?’• Y: ‘Interesting, how does it fit in with our
concept and vision?’• R: ‘What is wrong with the way we are doing it?’• P: ‘Why don’t we respect tradition?’• O:‘Where is the beef? What is the benefit?’
7. What gives you a kick?
• G: Harmony and equality• B: Order and mutual appreciation• O: Being better then the others• R: Power and respect• P: Security and honour• Y: Working with a complex theory or concept
8. How do you define good teamwork?
• Y: When everybody contributes what he likes to do most
• G: When the team communicates well• O: When the team has a shared goal and interest• B: When everybody knows his task and the order of
activities• P: When we are like a family• R: When the team can rely on one another• T: When the members take an interest in one
another’s expertise knowledge
9. What do you consider one of your shortcomings?
• Y: I can be too theoretical• O: I can be too sensitive to status• R: I can be too impulsive• G: I can be too naive when it comes to
hidden agenda’s of others• T: I can be a dreamer• B: I can be too attached to procedures• P: I can be too informal
10. When do you consider something a good idea?
• P: When customs and tradition say it is so• R: When it suits me right here and now • B: When it conforms to the rules• O: When it serves my plans and objectives• G: When we have reached consensus on it• Y: When it is the most effective and functional
approach• T: When the living system of the world
ultimately benefits
SCORES
• Add up the totals• Rank them from high to low
MEANING OF THE PROFILES• Graves colour code on drives.• Researched and developed in 1957.• Human nature is not static. • Humans change as life conditions change. • New life conditions demand new rules for
thinking and acting, new drives.• ‘Old’ drives stay with us, though.• Thus, each person has different drives,
sometimes complementing, but often conflicting.
Drives, what is it about?
• Each person has his own drives. Drives are important in explaining behaviour and feelings, thinking and acting
• Drives derive from the way we look at this world: from world views
• But people have more world views at the same time …
World views
This world is full of chances. Go for
them!
The world is a place where people should
live in harmony
This world will be chaos if we do not stick to rules and
agreements
This world is actually a
jungle
This world is a nice complex puzzle
5 billion people on this earth, that
creates problems we should solve
We are all just a small piece in the
big circle of life
GRAVES PRINCIPLES
• There is no statistical relation between drives and:
sex intelligence ethnic background age
• Drives give direction to a person’s resources: his intelligence, emotions and his senses, regardless of the quality of those resources.
Purple
Blue
Red
Orange
Green
Yellow
Turquiose
safety, security
order, rules, duty
speed,power
Graves’ values theory
competition,be better
intellecual,conceptual
ideals, community
holistic,global
individual drives
groupdrives
Purple
Blue
Red
Orange
Green
Yellow
safety, security
order, rules duty
speed, power
competition,be better
intellecual,conceptual
ideals, community
holistic,globalTurquiose
Strengths Weaknesses
the real problems
theory is interesting
sense of community
purposeful, effective
loyal, reliable
conflict is OK
spirituality
vague, far-fetched
unpractical talk
soft, unrealistic
opportunist, egoïst
bureaucratic, rigid
conflict is damage
primitivePurple
Red
Blue
Orange
Green
Yellow
Turquoise
When you have a high PURPLE score:* you feel there is more between heaven and
earth.* the team you work with is important to you.* you value regular returning moments.* you have a feeling for the cyclical in life.* you are emphatic to the meaning of symbols.* if required, you’re willing to sacrifice yourself
for the good of the group.* you don’t always find it necessary to
manifest yourself as an individual.
Purple world view: This world is unsafe and incomprehensible. We must stick together and bond through rituals
Red world view: life is a jungle, everybody has to fight for his own space
When you have a high RED score: * you are decisive and sometimes impatient* you want things to be done NOW* you can react quick and impulsive * you have a keen eye on danger* you wanted to be treated with respect* you respect strength* you don’t have much faith in authorities* you are loyal to those you regard as your
friends
Blue world view: this world needs order which requires truthfulness, dedication, control and
discipline.When BLUE is dominant in your profile:* you are loyal to the systems you’ve chosen* you value rules and discipline* you truly finish what you started* you want your efforts to be appreciated* you value certainties and clear agreements* you observe if agreements are carried out
properly* you value justice* you think disobedience of agreements should be
punished
Orange world view: this world is full of opportunities. It’s up to you, and if you really want it, you can be succesful.
When there is a large quantity of ORANGE in your profile:
* you are competitive* you are strongly focused on changes and achieving
success* you take on challenges* you are strongly focused on targets and means* you think ”wanting” is more important than “being
able”* you want to be taken serious
Green world view: we are all equal, and all looking for love, harmony and warmth. It is important to
contribute to the community
When GREEN is dominant in your profile:* you have a social attitude* you can sense others feelings* you pay attention to the weak* you find mutual warmth and commitment
important* you think in essence all people are equal* you find normal behaviour foolish enough* you’re not after status and money* you loathe arrogance
Yellow world view: this world is full of complex systems, full of choices and dilemma’s. It is important to understand and
knowledge is a guarantee for freedom.
When YELLOW is dominant in your profile:* you are focused on knowledge and
understanding* you want freedom to act and think* you prefer to understand others, rather than to
judge and condemn them* fun motivates you* you think academically and often use models* you are inclined to view matters in a broader
perspective* you judge new ideas and theories with an
inquisitive mind
Turquoise world view: this world is a network of mutually dependant entities which are part
of a holistic organism.When TURQUOISE is dominant in your profile:* you view the world from a great distance* you value all that lives* you will put daily problems and fears into a
broad perspective* you’re not afraid of uncertainty and chaos* you’re not interested in material matters* you regard ecological- and foreign-aid issues
relevant to everyone* you are convinced that important problems
require a global and holistic approach
MENTOR
• Has travelled the route• Personal experience• Is a rolemodel• Looks at future success
COACH
• Knows how to read a map• Professional cognitive
expertise• Is a mirror• Looks at current success
MENTEE
• Rounded personality• Tangible achievements• Clear objective• Can point out why this
individual is the right mentor for her
Mentoring vs Coaching
Top performer DeficiencyBased on desire Based on needEquivalence HierarchyEvolution EvaluationSupport Appraisal Studies rolemodel Self examinationFuture oriented Current situationFree Fees
TOP PERFORMER
• Excells at her job• Lack of peers• Plenty of competitors• In between levels
DESIRE
• Looks for rolemodel• Seeks challenge• Outlet for courage and vision•Wants to achieve
EQUIVALENCE
• Mutual respect(experience mentor- courage mentee)• Vision on future trends (lessons
from the past - window on new generation’s views and drives)
EVOLUTION
• Based on talent and skill• Targetted actions• Targetted networking• Trial and error
SUPPORT
• Encouragement• Realistic feedback• Pull the brake• Share personal experience
and network
STUDY ROLEMODEL
• Identify specific skill or achievement• Analyse with what traits it was
achieved• Determine how it can be
acquired• Ask feedback on attempts
FUTURE ORIENTED
• Identify opportunities• Analyse what it requires to be in
the picture• Determine initiatives• Go for it• Ask feedback on outcome
WHAT CAN GO WRONG?
• Keeping the mentor happy• Pampering the mentee• Lack of mutual accountability• No sense of priority• Mismatch in terms of carreer, personality or
drives• No mutual understanding on frequency,
efforts required and goals
HOW TO PREVENT IT
• Open up to one another (mutual trust)• Talk TO and not ABOUT one another• Set goals and define expectations• Determine a frequency and plan ahead• Make action lists• Be transparant and realistic in feedback• Explore possible conflicts and how you will deal
with them• Mutual respect
OPEN UP
• Admit your failures and disappointments• Analyse what caused it• Share your pitfalls• Admit your insecurity or
doubt
TALKING TO AND NOT ABOUT
• Never air disappointment to third parties
• Don’t feel hurt, appreciate that the other takes the risk of evoking anger
• Word your comments from your perspective and ask how the other experiences it
GOALS AND EXPECTATIONS
• Be clear about individual goals and interests• Calibrate goals and expectations• Set tangible limits and priorities• Accept that you cannot address
everything at the time
LOGISTICS
• Plan the project and its ending• Make it a priority• Stick to promissed actions and
meetings• Use Skype if travel is a problem• Prepare yourself for meetings• Touch base frequently
FEEDBACK
• Is a gift• Communicate with respect• Sometimes says more about the
giver than the receiver• Do with it as you please
POSSIBLE CONFLICTS
• Explore what eachother’s attitude towards conflict is• Explain to one another what can
irritate you• Spend time to get to know
eachother’s habits and preferences• Decide how you will deal with
conflict beforehand
MUTUAL RESPECT
• Be aware of your individual habits and preferences• Be aware what you evoke in others• Word what you experience from
your own perspective• Don’t become eachother’s therapist
GOOD LUCKHAVE FUN
BENEFIT MUTUALLY