RELATIONSHIPS Evaluating and Identifying Healthy Relationships

RELATIONSHIPSRELATIONSHIPS

Evaluating and Identifying Healthy Relationships

Types of Relationships:Types of Relationships:

Parents Siblings Peers Romantic Relationships Work Relationships

ParentsParents Care for infants and

create first bonds through physical, emotional, and social needs.

Children need to feel secure and loved.

During adolescence the weight of responsibility begins to shift away from parent to child.

Families who build positive relationships tend to produce future families who also build positive relationships.

SiblingsSiblings

Siblings are brothers and sisters

Sometimes jealousies emerge as siblings compete with one another.

Building positive relationships with siblings prepares children to build positive relationships with their peers.

PeersPeers

Peers are important during teen years to help form a support system.

You can choose who your friends are…can be positive or negative.

You have to expect that they are not perfect or fit an exact mold.

Not everyone will be your friend but acquaintances are still important for networking.

Romantic RelationshipsRomantic Relationships

Romantic relationships are positive because caring for someone and knowing he or she cares for you adds meaning to life.

Partners encourage the other half to develop their full potential.

To keep marriage relationships positive, couples need to work to keep lines of communication open.

The relationship needs to work like a two way street…give and pull.

Work RelationshipsWork Relationships

This type of relationship is less intimate but can be enjoyable by having common desires in the work force.

Positivity is based on respect for the feelings of others.

Always accept your fair share of the responsibilities.

You also cannot do without your coworkers.

It is a team effort Cooperation is key

What Relationships ProvideWhat Relationships Provide

Emotional needsSocial satisfactionsBasic needs like shelter and foodEconomic well-being

Qualities for Positive Qualities for Positive RelationshipsRelationships

Mutual Resect– Each person regards the

other with honor and esteem

– Respect each other’s right to differ

Trust– Having confidence in

another– You must also be

trustworthy

Openness– Atmosphere in which

people feel free to share their thoughts and feelings

Reliability– If you say you will do

something, people must be able to count on you to do it

EVALUATINGEVALUATING

How does your relationship affect your life? In school At work My physical health My emotional health My use of drugs or alcohol My family and friends My ability to function independently

In SchoolIn School

How does this person encourage me?Have my grades improved or fallen?Have I missed school because of this

person?Have I limited my extracurricular activities

so I can spend time with this person?

At WorkAt Work

Have I ever missed work because of this person?

Has this person ever come to my place of work to check up on me or embarrass me?

Does this person give me any support in my career?

My Physical HealthMy Physical Health

Have I had any physical injuries due to a fight with this individual?

Have I gained or lost weight? Have I contracted any sexually transmitted diseases

from this person? Have I become physically upset because of

confrontation with this individual? Have I been coerced into having sex? Have I had any unplanned pregnancy from this

relationship?

My Emotional HealthMy Emotional Health

Do I feel better or worse about myself since entering this relationship?

Am I more stressed, anxious, depressed?

Do I have trouble sleeping?

My Family and FriendshipsMy Family and Friendships How do my family and friends feel about this

person? How does this person feel about them? Have I grown apart from family and friends since

forming this relationship? Does this person ever act jealous of my

family/friends? Do I lie to my family and friends to cover up for this

person? Do we spend time separately with others we know?

Ability to Function Ability to Function IndependentlyIndependently

Do I have control over my own money?Have I become dependent on this person for

my living arrangements?Do I feel that I just couldn’t make it on my

own without this person?

A Balancing ActA Balancing Act

Healthy relationships maintain a balance between the individuals involved in the relationship.


me you

us


If the relationship is all about ME, then I am focusing on getting my needs met and expect you to make my needs your priority as well—and your needs suffer.

meyou


If the relationship is all about YOU, then I am focusing on getting your needs met at the expense of my own.

youme


If the relationship is about US, then we are both focused on the relationship that we lose our individuality.

us


In a healthy relationship, YOU, ME and US are in balance most of the time.

However, sometimes YOU or ME may need more attention…and that’s ok.

usme you

Healthy RelationshipsHealthy Relationships

How healthy is your relationship?

The next few slides contain questions that may help you determine the health of your relationships.


1. Can you name 2-4 things about this person you really like?

2. Can your name 2-4 things about this person you really dislike?

3. Can you name 3 things this person is interested in besides you?

4. Can you name 3 activities you can be involved in without this person?


5. Do you both have equal decision-making power in the relationship?

6. How do you handle conflicts?7. Do you think this person’s relationships

with family/friends are healthy?8. Since forming this relationship, do you

generally feel worse, better, or the same about yourself?


If you’re confused about your relationship and where it’s going and what it’s doing for you, please get help from the appropriate counseling services.

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