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Sex in America: From Alfred Kinsey to Fifty Shades. Debby Herbenick, PhD, MPH Associate Research Scientist, The Center for Sexual Health Promotion School of Public Health-Bloomington, Indiana University - PowerPoint PPT Presentation
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+Sex in America: From Alfred Kinsey to Fifty Shades
Debby Herbenick, PhD, MPHAssociate Research Scientist,
The Center for Sexual Health PromotionSchool of Public Health-Bloomington, Indiana University
Sexual Health Educator, The Kinsey Institute for Research in Sex, Gender, & Reproduction
[email protected] Twitter @DebbyHerbenick
+Kama (love) & Rati (desire/lust)
+
+
+A Bit of Background
Dr. Alfred Kinsey and his team conducted the first large systematic study of sexual behavior in the US (1938-1963) More than 10,000 surveyed Mostly white. Mostly < age 50.
Our recent research from IUâs Center for Sexual Health Promotion includes nationally representative surveys of American women and men: 2008 study of vibrator use & sexual enhancement in the
US Ages 18 - 60
2009 National Survey of Sexual Health and Behavior Ages 14 - 94
2012 National Survey of Sexual Health and Behavior Ages 18 â 91; GLB oversample; English & Spanish
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1. Why We Have Sex
+Why We Have Sex
Why Humans Have Sex (2007) Attraction Physical pleasure Because it feels good Itâs fun (Men) Show affection (Women)
But is this really why âhumansâ have sex?
+Sex in America, Ages 14 to 94 ~6000 Americans, nationally rep.
Because it feels good, Pleasure, Attraction, Fun, Affection still common reasons
Age Differences Opportunity, convenience, special days
Gender differences Duty/Obligation Attraction
Sex to âgetâ things⌠attention, revenge, love, bingo And to give things: condolences, love,
affection, a gift
+2. Sexual behavior and orientation donât always match up - and thatâs okay.
+ Kinsey noted it was impossible to determine the
number of persons who are "homosexual" or "heterosexualâ; he focused more on sexual behaviors.
Instances of at least one same-sex experience to orgasm:
13% of females & about 37% of men
4-10% of men & 2 - 6% women had been exclusively homosexual in their sexual behaviors for at least a few years during late adolescence/adulthood
+2009 & 2012 NSSHB Data
About 8 to 15% of Americans ages 18 to 50 have had oral sex from a same-sex partner
Yet < 5% of women as lesbian or bisexual And about 7% of men identify as gay or bisexual
However, sexual orientation and RECENT (past year) sexual behavior are much more closely aligned
Overall, only ~1-2% of straight and gay/lesbian individuals report sex with same- or other-sex partners, respectively
+Gay-Identified Menâs Sexual Partners in the Past Year
+Lesbian-Identified Womenâs Sexual Partners in the Past Year
+
3. Anal Sex
+Anal Sex
THEN (Kinseyâs data): About 11% of men reported trying anal sex at least one
during marriage No good data overall for men of any orientation or same-
sex/other-sex sexual behavior
NOW (NSSHB): Any guesses?
+4.Vibrator Use & Masturbation
+U.S. Adults 18-60:% Having Ever Used a Vibrator by Gender (N = 2302)
In comparison, 52.5% of women and 44.8% of men ages 18 to 60 reported having ever used a vibrator in the 2008 National Vibrator Study.
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+Vibrator Use
Most women use vibrators alone & with a partner
About 1 in 6 men have used a vibrator alone
Vibrator use linked to positive sexual function (e.g., higher desire, arousal, easier orgasm, less pain during sex)
+ âForeign Objectsâ
1938: A garden hose with an attached balloon found in a 59 year old man
+Source: 2003 article in the Journal of the Chinese Medical Association
+5. Weâre still trying to understand orgasms.
+What We Know about Orgasms
Most people have orgasms Many have pretended/faked
Orgasm likelihood is linked to sexual variety
Men tend to over-estimate female partnersâ orgasmic experience
+The Orgasm Gap
+Multiple Orgasm
THEN (Kinsey data)
14% of women & about 15% of men reported multiple orgasm
NOW (NSSHB data)
About 1/3 of women and about 15% of men
Why the shift for women?
+6. Maybe orgasms arenât necessarily about sex.
+
-Kinsey noted that some women & men experienced orgasm during exercise
-Seemed uncommon (<5%)
-No other research on the topic until 2010.
EXERCISE AND ORGASMS
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-Data from about 600 women124 had experienced orgasm during exercise96 had come close150 experienced sexual pleasure during exercise, not orgasm
Most common from exercises that work the core abdominal muscles
Happens to men, too.
OUR EXERCISE-INDUCED ORGASM STUDY (2010)
+Ongoing Research
Identifying exercises linked to Exercise-Induced Orgasm (EIO) and/or arousal
Exercise as a desire/arousal-enhancer?
Hopefully identify the internal mechanisms linked to EIO
Exploring diverse ways that people have orgasms (reading, eating, sleeping, listening to music, etc).
Maybe sex orgasms are just a âspecial caseâ of orgasm
+
7. Relationship Structures
+Relationship Structures: 2012 NSSHB Data
Of Americans living with a relationship partnerâŚ
Straight-identified men and women
Entirely monogamous in the past year: ~90% Supposedly monogamous: ~6% of men & 5% of womenOpen relationships: <1%âSomething Elseâ <1% men, 2% women4% of men, 2% of women = Not Discussed
+Relationship Structures
Gay-identified Men
52% Entirely Monogamous32% Open Relationships9% Supposedly Monogamous5% Not Discussed3% Something Else
Lesbian Women
92% Entirely Monogamous4% Open Relationships5% Something Else
(No âSupposedlyâ, no âNot Discussedâ)
+Relationship Structures
Bisexual Men
Most common â Open relationships (33%)About 20% each: Entirely monogamous, supposedly monogamous, not discussed
Bisexual Women
Most common: Entirely monogamous (68%)16% Supposedly monogamous10% Not discussed4% Something else3% Open
+What do we know? What do our partners know?
When people who are in relationships had sex with other people (e.g., âoutside partnersâ) in the past year: Gay men & bisexual women were most likely to say that
their partner knows about all of the outside partners (50-60%)
Bisexual men (40%) Straight women (25%) Straight men (6%)
+
8. Painful sex.
+Pain is an unacknowledged part of many peopleâs sexual experience.
30% of women reported (unwanted) pain during their most recent sexual event So did 5-7% of men
+Pain During Vaginal Intercourse
+Pain During Anal Intercourse
+Characteristics of Pain
The pain is: Mostly genital Mostly NOT pleasurable/wanted. Largely NOT communicated to their partner (especially for
men - 2/3 donât tell their partner for vaginal or anal sex pain)
Far more prevalent (70% women), more painful, and more consistently painful in connection with anal sex
+9. Our Favorite Things
about Sex
+
MEN
pages & pages of kissing, cuddling, love, intimacy (and orgasms)
+
âGetting off, duh. Iâm only 18. Fuck it or suck it, I donât care.â
+ âI like the intimacy of a partner.
Loving and feeling loved. Hugging, kissing, touching, sharing. At 83 years old, I
sorely miss having a partner but that is no longer an option.â
+
âFeels good, of course. Bonding. Occasionally children
happen.â
+
âI am 65, kissing my wife is about it for me and a pat on the
butt now and then. Any more and it would probably kill me.â
+
âBeing kinky with each other, getting to be comfortable with someone on a level no one else
is.â
+
âBeing a Christian, when I engaged in sexual activities a
couple of years ago, I had extreme a couple of years ago,
I had extreme guilt until I stopped and repented. I liked
the closeness I had, the feeling of connectivity to that person.â
+
âDue to health, my wife is non-sexual. I have a very close female friend that really enjoys sex. She enjoys all aspects of sex which
makes it really enjoyable for me.â
+
âI have been married for 40 years. My wife and I had sex last
in 1999. I miss it⌠she has no interest at all. We donât kiss or
even touch very much and donât sleep together. I masturbate
often because I will not have an affair.â
+ âAttraction and desire for them
as a person. When younger I was always looking to connect and/or hook up⌠I love my wife
and she loves me and when sheâs in the mood we have
these moments but we do not often have intercourse.â
+
âMaking a baby.â
+
âBeing with my partner, and spending time with him, having
him close to me, and the excitement of orgasm with him. We both enjoy my muscles and
being manly together.â
+
âIt is a very pleasant habit we started 40 years ago. It makes
the marriage better.â
+
âMakes you feel like your life is worth a little bit.â
+
WOMEN
Like men, pages & pages of kissing, cuddling, love, intimacy (and orgasms)
+
âDeep kissing, oral sex, vaginal sex, heavy petting, undressing in
front of him.â
+
âFeeling completely loved, like I was the only person in the
world he wanted to be with.â
+ âBefore my husband passed he
just made me feel good. I missed the way he would make
me feel.â
+ âGetting the chance to actually
âdo itâ without the 3 kids bothering us! Thatâs the biggest problem, worrying that one of
the kids will walk in!â
+ âIt is an expression of our love for
each other. And it is fun. And each of us love to have an
orgasm⌠she is 77 and I am 83 years old. I have had a lot of experience in my life. I was
married, also had male partners, then became a lesbian, and had female partners, and have been in this relationship for 21 years.â
+
âHis scent when he has been working all day and needs to
take a shower. I get very aroused burying my face in his neck and breathing it all in. I also like the smell of his arm
pits after a long day.â
+ âFalling asleep spooned together when we get back into
bed.â
+
âThis is terrible but I cannot think of a thing⌠this is just
part of my job being married. I usually plan my grocery list.â
+
I DEEPLY loved BOTH my husbands. Our sex lives were an expression of that love. We were always in bed. It was by mutual consent. We hugged and kissed,
oral sex was VERY occasional and special. Now, at 82, I miss that persona contact but not
enough to do something âcasualââ.
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âI like how it makes me feel young and how I can help please my
husband.â
+ âIt feels good. It makes me feel
loved and connected to my husband. It feels like weâre
getting one over on our cock blocking babies.â
+Sex in America
A complicated and beautiful landscape
Sex changes, but itâs always diverse The only ânormalâ is variation
All that said, sex is enormously rich and textured and human. People mostly enjoy sex for physical, emotional,
relational, procreational, and very personal reasons (e.g., it makes me feel young, that life is worth living)
+Tom Daley
âSo, young man: you just did a beautiful thing. I'd guess a part of your internal discourse these last few months has been thinking "What's it got to do with anyone else?" The nasty comments from the more intelligently unpleasant members of the public will use that very trope â "I don't care what they do, why can't they just keep it to themselves?", etc etc â to signal their own inadequate psychologies.
âIt's not viable, though, pretending to be something you're not â not in practice. It might just about work for a while, in theory, and particularly when you're alone. But it's not possible to be in love and not wish to share that fact. Indeed, it would be an obscenity to demand that harmless young people in love should keep the best thing about being alive a secret, as though they're ashamed of being human.â
- Graeme Archer, The Telegraph, December 2, 2013
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Twitter @DebbyHerbenick