Simple non dangerous tips to Be happier now

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Simple non dangerous tips to Be happier NOW -NLP life coaching

You probably have met so many people in your life. That is good.How many of them were happy?How many of them found happiness without the use of drugs, alcohol or any other external,dangerous help?The other day I talked to this stunning female and she told me stories of her life. She hadjust gratuated from a prestigious architecture university, she danced salsa like no one elseand when she entered a room half of the male population would turn their heads to have alook at her.But still, she was not happy.Why?

I mean people are extremely similar in form and in essence. If you think that you areunique then you will be surprised to learn that there are .

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other people that think, walk and feel just like you and me on this planet. In other wordsyou are like me.Most people are very extrovert when it has to do with sharing informationabout the X, Y or Z technological hack but they are extremely shy when it has to do withtheir inner world. I bet that you havent realised yet that when you are in the same room


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with other people you share EXACTLY the same fears and hopes with most of them. Insteadyou sit inside your small head and you try to find solutions for the same challenges andproblems that every man and woman have been struggling with, since the day Adam andHot Eve sat down and smoked a joint together.Dont try to re-invent the Wheel because ithas already been done. [True. And I know the guy that tried to patent it. Amazing guy withvery interesting haircut.]

The Inner Game ( Not The One of Tennis )So lets call it a Game: The goal of the game is to be happier and to get what you want fromlife. Here comes the question: How do you handle your inner feelings and how do youmanage your thoughts?You need 21 days to set a habit. If you decide that today is your day one and you keep for21 days concentrating and constantly guiding your thoughts then, chances are that you willfind your self richer and happier after those first 21 days.

1) Do the positivity drillThere was an amazing experiment done some time ago. What they did is, they took a biggroup of university students and strapped a microphone to their clothes for 24 hours.Whenever the student was having a thought then he/she had to vocalise it. At they end ofthe day, they counted the number of positive and negative thoughts they had made. They

found out that for a normal person the ratio of negative to positive thoughts is around 80/20. Yet, even with this grim ratio we manage to stay fairly positive through out our day.What if you would be able to enhance that? Mmmmm? Wouldnt it be better? [ By the way ifyou want the number of the guy with the haircut, I can give you his email if you promise meyou will not tell. Promise? ]SUMMARY: Take the trash out of your head.2) Adopt empowering beliefs

My grandma believes in God. I am not in a position to judge if God really exists or not. Butthe fact that my grandma went through a war with five children and she coped with povertywith a huge smile in her face, makes me wonder. Because of her beliefs, she was sure thatthings would come out well. Amazing Grandma. I am not saying you have to do the same.

But if you decide to believe that you are the best and you live everyday with that thought, itwill become a self fulfilling prophecy. If you BELIEVE at that it will change your life as beliefshave a deep impact on our neurology.3) Embrace the Power of Now


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This comes from the revolutionary book of Eckhart Tolle, The Power of Now. What hepropose is very simple. Silence your internal dialog. Stop thinking and look around you.Come out of your head. Really observe the world around you. Because most of the time youare lost in past memories and non existent future scenarios. Silence them all and live in thenow. Accept the now as it is and if you dont like it do your maximum to change it. If notjust accept it. But be in the now. Because it is all that ever existed. Every past memory youhave is a past now that you remember. [Duh] You remember it though because at that

moment you were not day dreaming but you were fully present. If you walk your everydaylife and focus on the moment you are in, it is inevitable that you will always be your best atthe moment you are in NOW. If you think back and you remember some intense momentsin your life where something happened or when you went for vacations you were always outof your head and fully present. It was good, wasnt it?4) Force yourself to seek and find the good in all people around you

Remember that there arent ANY bad people: Peoples end goals are always positive : To behappier, to survive, to help others, to provoke happier feelings to them selves etc. What isoften flawed, its the STRATEGY they choose to achieve those end goals. So, blame thegame: NOT the player. Learn how to separate strategies from intentions and try to findthe good end goal to their game. However, if their strategy is energy consuming for you,you have your right to decide to keep them away and save your energy money for morerewarding friendsEvery person has a positive side. Search for it.So, starting by today, go out and try to find those positive end goals or even positive

strategies at all people around you. Do that for some time and you will not only find yourselfliking people more, but you will also end up with more friends all together. It isexactly like the half empty, half full glass example. By accepting people as they are, peoplewill like you even more.5) Use only positive words to describe the world around you


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You see, there is an old man with a moustache that lives in your subconscious. Maybe youhavent been told about that, but this is the truth. I am your friend. I tell you everything.Because after all you are like me.Every time you make use of a negative word, either by thinking of it or by saying it loud,the old man (Who is called by the way, John. Arent they all? ) opens a vault and takes outall the negative images and memories you have connected to that word. Good thing is thatthe subconscious does not understand the negation so you can go around that.Look at the phrase.This is not pretty. I dont feel very happy.Look again.This is ugly. I feel a bit depressed.They both mean the same. But. The first is neutral; It does not carry the emotionalbaggage of the second one.5.55555) Reframe everything as positive. Think positively whatever the case maybe.Emotions are energy that is trapped in the body provoked by thoughts. Learn how to guide

those thoughts. The more positive thoughts you have, the more happy you will be. Learnhow to reframe every problem as a challenge and how to turn everything to somethingmore positive. You see we dont really see the real world: What we percieve as reality isonly a model of reality that has been filtered through our neurology and beliefs. Muchinformation has been deleted, distorted, transformated and overgeneralised. What you thinkas true is actually not true to another person on this globe.This means that even if something doesnt seem true, believe at it as long as it isEMPOWERING. It will become a Self Fulfilling Prophecy and it will come to life. I once met aguy that was not only very short but also quite bald :) . However, he believed he was farmore interesting and sexy than any other guy. As a result, every time he would meet apretty lady he communicated that thought and sooner or later that lady started to believe atthat also. That guy managed to have more ladies than any of his fit and athletic friends.Adopt EMPOWERING befiefs even if they dont seem true. Be Always Positive.

6) Make a plan for your life goalsNot having a plan in your life is like driving a car on the highway with no map or sense ofdirection. You are driving fast and you are passing by all these exits. You imagine to whatdestinations they would have led you to if you had taken them, but at that point, it isalready too late as you have passed by. However, you keep driving and looking at thoseexits signs, while listening to the radio and watching the other fellow cars at the highway.I do have some worrying news for you, though: You have no map my friend, you dontknow when the car will break down and you have no idea when it will run out of fuel. Whatthe bad news are?
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It may be at any moment.Get a freaking map.

The next three tips, they all come together from the best book ever: Carlos CastanedasJourney to Ixtlan. There are so many advices on personal development in that book thatwe should baptise it as the Bible of the Living.7) Use Death as an AdvisorThis is crazy but bear with me, it is life changing. Any survivor of cancer can tell you aboutit. In one phrase Live your every moment as if it were your last. As Castaneda says: Theissue of our death is never pressed far enough. Death is the only wise adviser that we have.Whenever you feel, as you always do, that everything is going wrong and youre about to beannihilated, turn to your death and ask if that is so. Your death will tell you that yourewrong; that nothing really matters outside its touch. Your death will tell you, I haventtouched you yet.For the next moment I would advice you to pay close attention. Put some strong music on.Switch off the telephone. Chase the cat off. And read on what the amazing Castaneda said.Imagine one time that you were stressed about something. Anything.You dont have time for this display. This, whatever youre doing now, may be your last acton earth. It may very well be your last battle. There is no power which could guarantee thatyou are going to live one more minute. If this were your last battle on earth, I would saythat you are an idiot. You are wasting your last act on earth in some stupid mood.You have no time, my friend, no time. None of us have time. Dont just agree with me. Actupon it. What I recommend you to do is to notice that we do not have any assurance thatour lives will go on indefinitely. Change comes suddenly and unexpectedly, and so doesdeath. There are some people who are very careful about the nature of their acts. Their

happiness is to act with the full knowledge that they dont have time; therefore, their actshave a peculiar power.


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Acts have power. Especially when the person acting knows that those acts are his lastbattle. There is a strange consuming happiness in acting with the full knowledge thatwhatever one is doing may very well be ones last act on earth. I recommend that youreconsider your life and bring your acts into that light.You dont have time, my friend. That is the misfortune of human beings. None of us havesufficient time. Your acts cannot possibly have the flair, the power, the compelling force ofthe acts performed by a man who knows that he is fighting his last battle on earth.8) Take full responsibility of your actionsWhen a man decides to do something he must go all the way, but he must takeresponsibility for what he does. No matter what he does, he must know first why he is doingit, and then he must proceed with his actions without having doubts or remorse about them.9) Lose your sense of Self ImportanceDont take yourself too seriously, dont be so damn important in your own mind. That mustbe changed! If you are too important then you feel justified to be annoyed with everything.You can not afford to leave if things dont go your way. If you let go your ego then it will beeasier to go around your everyday life. You will be happier.10) Always remember the GOLDEN LAW of human relations: People like youbecause of the way you make them FEEL.11) Let your self be humanPermit yourself to make mistakes, cry, be happy, un happy or unsatisfied. It has beenproven that people that accept their human nature are generally happier than the rest that

think that being unhappy is abnormal. There is often a misconseption in people minds thatthere are good and bad feelings. This is not true. Feelings is energy coming from yourthoughts. Accept those feelings and find out what is there that bothers the sweet, little childthat lives inside your self. Happiness will come to your life if you accept the fact that sometimes you will not be happy.We are ALL children deep inside and all we want is to PLAY.Be playful.

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Simple non dangerous tips to Be happier now