1. Social Comfort ~ It can set you apart! Jan Bilgen, Associate Director Career Leadership Development 2. Social Comfort Knowledge = Awareness Awareness + Practice = Comfort 3. Todays To Do List: Actively acquire knowledge Develop individually and as a group Practice professional integrity Serve and have fun! Develop respect for the group and for the institution 4. Manners and Social Grace 5. Manners and Social Grace Manners include: Greetings Hospitality Contributing to Conversation Proper Clothing Eating with dignity Promptness Comfort newcomers, bereavement Gifts and Invitations 6. Why be friendly have good manners? Part of your future success Sets you apart An opportunity to meet new and different people Youre a campus leader Leadership is an influence relationship among leaders and followers who intend real changes that reflect their mutual purposes. - Joseph C. Rost 7. Communicating Welcome Physically Body Posture Confidence Open to conversation The Look Handshake Vocal tone, speed and inflection 8. Communicating Welcome Intellectually Sincerity Not Forced Open to conversation Knowing who you are Intentionality intentionally inviting 9. Mingle is an Art form! 3 top Fears of Americans 3 rd Death 2 nd Public Speaking 1 st Mingling Key to a Quality Mingle Think Ahead Ask Leading Questions 10. Mingle is an Art form! Key Mingle Lifesavers Think AheadPrepare Develop a comfort plan Elevator Intro Practice Lets hear it!! Ask Leading Questions Examples?? Lets hear more! 11. Mingle is an Art form! Ask Leading Questions Examples Travel far today? What has pleased you about your visit today? How have you found campus today? What questions do you have? How do you celebrate summer? Whats on tap for the weekend? 12. Introductions to Foster Conversations Introductions Leaders should always . . . . Eye Contact Initiates Sets friendly, inclusive tone Purpose of Introductions whats in a name? Why its important to complete Intros well Communicates sincerity Contributes to a welcoming atmosphere Flatters Creates more cordial relationships opinions 13. Introductions to Foster Conversations Introductions What to DO Give Information when you introduce Use their name 2x youll remember more Remember to use titlespositive labels when introducing people Be A good sport: Always give your own name Responsibility hostinclude the new comer Dont worry if you forget just confess on the spot LISTEN Dont think ahead 14. Introductions to Foster Conversations Introductions Execution Stance, Special Considerations Vocal Tone and Inflection Physical limitations When Food Present With or Without Handshake When to shake When not to shake 15. Introductions to Foster Conversations Introductions Order Position, AgeGender Younger TO an Older Junior TO Senior Manager Unofficial person to an Official person Responsibility host, not the new comer 16. Introductions to Foster Conversations You are talking with: Sally Vogl-Bauer, Faculty Member Andrew you dont know his last name What would you do? Dr Vogl-Bauer Id like you to meet Andrew. Andrew, this is Dr Sally Vogl-Bauer of the Communication department and the Chancellor joins your group? 17. Recap! Dos and Donts Social Comfort As a team come up with the most Dos and Donts that you can. Pick your top 3 in each category Physical, Verbal, Duh?! Pick a spokesperson for your group Others we forgot? 18. Where to learn more Observation Etiquette DinnersDress for Success events Any book by Letitia Baldride THINK AHEAD!