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Social Dexterity for incoming college Freshmen

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  • 1. Social Comfort ~ It can set you apart! Jan Bilgen, Associate Director Career & Leadership Development
  • 2. Social Comfort
    • Knowledge = Awareness
    • Awareness + Practice = Comfort
  • 3. Todays To Do List:
    • Actively acquire knowledge
    • Develop individually and as a group
    • Practice professional integrity
    • Serve and have fun!
    • Develop respect for the group and for the institution
  • 4. Manners and Social Grace
  • 5. Manners and Social Grace
    • Manners include:
      • Greetings
      • Hospitality
      • Contributing to Conversation
      • Proper Clothing
      • Eating with dignity
      • Promptness
      • Comfort ( newcomers, bereavement)
      • Gifts and Invitations
  • 6. Why be friendly have good manners?
    • Part of your future & success
    • Sets you apart
    • An opportunity to meet new and different people
    • Youre a campus leader
    • "Leadership is an influence relationship among leaders and followers who intend real changes that reflect their mutual purposes."
    • - Joseph C. Rost
  • 7. Communicating Welcome
    • Physically
      • Body Posture
        • Confidence
        • Open to conversation
      • The Look
      • Handshake
      • Vocal tone, speed and inflection
  • 8. Communicating Welcome
    • Intellectually
      • Sincerity
        • Not Forced
        • Open to conversation
      • Knowing who you are
      • Intentionality intentionally inviting
  • 9. Mingle is an Art form!
    • 3 top Fears of Americans
      • 3 rd Death
      • 2 nd Public Speaking
      • 1 st Mingling
    • Key to a Quality Mingle
        • Think Ahead
        • Ask Leading Questions
  • 10. Mingle is an Art form!
    • Key Mingle Lifesavers
        • Think Ahead/Prepare
          • Develop a comfort plan
          • Elevator Intro Practice
          • Lets hear it!!
        • Ask Leading Questions
          • Examples?? Lets hear more!
  • 11. Mingle is an Art form!
        • Ask Leading Questions Examples
          • Travel far today?
          • What has pleased you about your visit today?
          • How have you found campus today?
          • What questions do you have?
          • How do you celebrate summer?
          • Whats on tap for the weekend?
  • 12. Introductions to Foster Conversations
    • Introductions
      • Leaders should always . . . .
        • Eye Contact Initiates Sets friendly, inclusive tone
      • Purpose of Introductions whats in a name?
        • Why its important to complete Intros well
            • Communicates sincerity
            • Contributes to a welcoming atmosphere
            • Flatters
            • Creates more cordial relationships & opinions
  • 13. Introductions to Foster Conversations
    • Introductions
      • What to DO
        • Give Information when you introduce
        • Use their name 2x youll remember more
        • Remember to use titles/positive labels when introducing people
        • Be A good sport: Always give your own name
        • Responsibility host/include the new comer
        • Dont worry if you forget just confess on the spot
        • LISTEN Dont think ahead
  • 14. Introductions to Foster Conversations
    • Introductions
      • Execution
        • Stance,
        • Special Considerations
          • Vocal Tone and Inflection
          • Physical limitations
          • When Food Present
          • With or Without Handshake
            • When to shake
            • When not to shake
  • 15. Introductions to Foster Conversations
    • Introductions
      • Order Position, Age/Gender
        • Younger TO an Older
        • Junior TO Senior Manager
        • Unofficial person to an Official person
        • Responsibility host, not the new comer
  • 16. Introductions to Foster Conversations
    • You are talking with:
      • Sally Vogl-Bauer, Faculty Member
      • Andrew ( you dont know his last name)
      • What would you do?
      • Dr Vogl-Bauer Id like you to meet Andrew. Andrew, this is Dr Sally Vogl-Bauer of the Communication department
    • and the Chancellor joins your group?
  • 17. Recap!
    • Dos and Donts Social Comfort
      • As a team come up with the most
        • Dos and Donts that you can.
      • Pick your top 3 in each category Physical, Verbal, Duh?!
      • Pick a spokesperson for your group
      • Others we forgot?
  • 18. Where to learn more
    • Observation
    • Etiquette Dinners/Dress for Success events
    • Any book by Letitia Baldride
    • THINK AHEAD!