AUGUSTINE ANAK DIANORAL COMMUNICATION
Good morning ladies and gentlemen. Welcome to Brainy Montessoris
Open Day in conjunction with our 10th anniversary. I am Augustine
Dian , the founder of Brainy Montessori. How is your day here at
Brainy Montesorri today? Are you guys having a great time? I hope
you enjoy your day today. This morning I would like to give you all
some tips on parenting. I believed most of us here are parents. But
do we know how to be good parents?I will give you some tips on what
does it take to be a good parent. Its not like what we have seen in
the televisions where shows the child and her parent mixes well
without any problem and its look so simple. In real life its
totally different. We do not have any script to follows to be good
parents just like on the television or drama. Its all depend on us
how to be good parents. I believe most of us think that we, as
parent, has done enough for our children and consider ourselves as
a good parent. Your answer might be no or maybe yes. If yes, then
the talks that I will deliver now can help to make you a batter
parent than before you listen to my speech. After having hard days
at work, we should know how to adjust with different situation at
home.Nowadays, we can see that most father and mother are both
working and that leave our kids alone at home with less
communication with us, as a parent. So from this talk, I hope, I
can give some tips that you can follow in order to makes us a
better parent.Being a good parent is our main goal when we entered
parenthood. So we must be ready to face all of the possible
situation that might happen in the future if we fail to be a good
parent. My first tips to be good parents is self-efficacy.
According to Albert Bandura self-efficacy is a persons belief in
his or her ability to succeed in a particular situation. Bandura
described these beliefs as determinants of how people think,
behave, and feel (1994). We must believe in ourself that we can be
a good parent. We must belief that we can raise our won child. By
having all this belief, it will gives us as a parents strength and
the confidence to be a leader at home. With this the child will
have healthy self-esteem and set a good example of self-sufficiency
for the child. For example, if both father and mothers plan to have
children they must have a good psychological state and must be
ready to have kids or new family members.
Ladies and gentlemen,
To be a good parent, we must place our children first ahead of
any other things that we are doing. Placing the child first will
shows him that he (the child) is important and nurtures his
self-esteem. It will make him feel loved. Its not about giving the
child new toys and gadgets, but giving the child more time to spend
with us. We must take note that good parent listen when the child
shares his thought and fears. We must spend more time with our
child on a regular basis, away from television and computers so
that we as a parent can connect well with our kids. We can do so by
having some outing together. It is not necessary an expensive
outing but just like walk around the neighborhood together and have
a chit chat with him / her. Sometimes, we can bring our family for
some vacation like go to a new place or go to our village for
visiting their grandparents. For example, I did bring my kids to
the playground in the city. The visit there can helps them to
communicate with other children who are about the same age as
their. This indirectly will help them to socialize with other kids.
For your information I have kids who are 3 and 5 years old.
Ladies and gentlemen,We must know how to handle our own stress
and anger. All of us have our own stress and anger especially when
we are having a hard time at work. Being a leader in this company,
there is up and down. So stress management is very important for me
so that I do not bring all of those things that matters at
workplace to my house. Though sometimes I did carried away and
brought it at home. We must know that children do not understand if
we have had a hard day at work. They do know whether their mother
is worried about family finances. The children just clamor for
attention and want to be with us. If we had an older children and
teens, then it will do and say things that make us to be mad. I
belief some of you may have encounter this problems. But to be a
good parent, we must know how to manage stress that comes with
parenting. We must try to relax and must let go of our anger as
quickly as possible. We must forgive the child while holding the
child accountable for his own actions.
Some time as parents, we must know when time to have fun with
our child. These fun activities will both benefit to both children
and parents as it will helps to relieve the stress for both
children and parents. When we are having fun time with our
children, it makes more than any memories for both sets of
individuals. By making time for fun will shows the child her
importance, and models good balance between responsibility and
recreation. Playing with our child when they are young to
adulthood, helps parents connect to the rapidly changing
temperament and understanding of the child. It will help both
father and mother to make the right decisions for and with the
child. Like I had said earlier, we can go for picnic, fishing and
playing football with your child. These activities will strengthen
the relationships between us and our children. As we have known
that kids nowadays are more reliant on playing computer games and
more towards introvert types of attitude. Yes I know, the computer
games will make our children to exposed to outside world , which
might be dangerous to our kids. I still remember my father had
bought me a computer and game console when I was very young, so
that I can be easily being monitored while at home as compared to
the outside world. But I still involve with the outdoor activities,
and thats make me who I am now. Can be easily socialized and mixes
around with people.
As a parent, we must teach our children about the moral values
that what one must have. We must show and teach our children on all
the values that we possess. Discuss with our children the
importance of being honest, of being fair, of being respectful, of
caring for each others and of being patient and understanding.
Model all these values for them, as children ar astute in watching
how adult behave and imitating that behavior. Whatever our
spiritual beliefs may be, teach them to your children in a way that
they can understand. By doing these things, you are laying an
important foundation that will guide your children throughout their
lives. For example, if you are in Christian religion, you can bring
your children to the church on Sunday and send them to the Sunday
class during weekend. By doing so, the children will always keep in
their mind that every Sunday they must go to the church to
prayLadies and gentlemen,A good parent will always set reasonable
expectations on what the children need to achieved. It is very
important because that will help to build their future. Children
like to know what is expected of them, so the consistency is very
important. For example if you have a kid who is studying in
elementary school, you must make sure that they can do a minimum of
three basic skill that is reading, calculating and writing. Yes if
they have lots of As in their exam it will be a great achievement
from them.We must also try to develop a daily routine, such as time
for meals, playtime, naptime and time to do revisions and homework.
Children will feel comfortable if they know what is coming next.
Likewise, try to be consistent in how you expect your children to
behave. Showing your children the right behavior is an important
part of parenting. Depending on our childs age, you can discuss
your expectation with them. But like I had said before, it must be
realistic, and know what your child is capable of at different
ages. For instance, if your young children do not understand your
directions clearly, so you have to model or communicate your
request to them. A good communication is very important. For
example, instead of saying, Your room is a mess, you can say, Lets
clean your room together and Ill show you how to do it. Young
children also have a limited attention span, so doing most things
for more than ten minutes is unrealistic. Be positive with your
children, make chores into game, and reward them with praise when
they do things well.
Ladies and gentlemen,Have you ever read for your children? If
you have read for your children, then it is good for your child. By
reading to your child, even at an early age, you are helping your
child to develop language. You can go to the library to check out
books, and ask the librarian for age appropriate book for your
child. What I mentioned here is traditional old fashion ways. You
can now get book or we called it e-book from the internet too. But
remember, you need to help your children to select the books that
he or she is interested in, although at times you may need to
provide guidance. Reading on a daily basis will help to develop the
joy of reading in your child.If your child does not seem interested
in a book that you are reading, dont push, but try something else
some other time.For a two year old, books with bright pictures that
name things and tell simple stories are appropriate. Three year
olds also like naming books, rhyming books and simple story books.
Four and five year olds can listen to longer stories, but you must
make sure he or she is interested in the story. Show your child the
right way to hold a book, and point out the illustration as you
read, so your child will realize that the story and the
illustration go together. If you read the stories online, follow
the print of your finger, so that your child will understand that
the story you are reading comes from those words. Ask your child to
connect what you are reading to his or her own experiences.
Encourage your child to talk and explain new words. By doing so, it
will help to increase his or her vocabulary. Ask your child to
retell favorite stories or even read it to you. Try to encourage
your children to use his or her own words. We must remember that,
children enjoy hearing the same story over and over again. Reading
with your children is a way to spend valuable time together, and to
foster the foundation of literacy skills. Besides of all of the
tips thats I have given above, I would like to add one more useful
tips, that is we should encourage them to be responsible. We must
know that, even young children can learn to be responsible for them
and to be helpful. By the time we feel that they are ready, we
should try to encourage them to dress themselves or to help clean
up their own toys around the house and to help with other minor
household chores. It is easier to teaches them when they are
younger to do all these things as it will establish their good
habits. However, if it is dangerous for them to do it, then we
might do it for them. But if not, we just monitor them and let them
do it.
Ladies and gentlemen,We must know how that when the time come,
our children will become an adult and will not need the guidance of
us every day. We must know how to let it go. We would have
difference approach when our child starts to grow older. They may
starts to leave our home and live elsewhere. We should not feel bad
or dread but we must look forward and celebrate. This is because
when the child starts to try to be independent and its shows we had
done a very good job in nurturing and guiding to be a person that
has something to be proud off.
I think all of you will be laughing at me I tell you that my
parent still treat me as a teenager even I am 42 years old and a
father of 2 kids. Now I know why they treat me like that. They are
care for me. Will I be acting the way they did to me, to my kid?
Well, only time will tell.
I guess thats all from me. Be good parents. I hope all of the
tips thats I had mentioned in my speech will be beneficial to you
and your family. Remember that being a good parent to our children
will make them want to be like us or even better when they have
their own.
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