Dating Tips: Using Storytelling to Attract WomenBy: Vin DiCarlo of www.vindicarlo.comToday I want to talk to you about a subject that I feel is very

important and powerful when it comes to meeting and holding

the

interest of not only women but anyone in your life.

This subject is none other than Storytelling and when used

correctly,

can make your desirability with women sky rocket.

Before I jump into the tips and secrets behind successful story

telling

and how to construct a powerful story (which will be covered

more in

depth in Part II) I want to clear up a few myths when it comes to

the

matter of story telling.

Myth one: My stories have to be true and about me.

Now this is ultimately up for you to decide but as long as you

keep the

conversation fun, apply the right story telling techniques, and

can keep

the conversation moving, then your story does not have to be

true.

1

Even if the women does not believe the story, if you kept it fun,

she

will be entertained and most likely run with new conversation

topics

developed from your stories.

I am not encouraging you to lie though, the most powerful

stories are

ones that are true and come from a place of emotion.

You can be so over the top with stories where the unbelievably

becomes so fun that she gets involved and becomes part of a

newly

painted reality that you and the girl get to share and more

importantly

create together. (This becomes a key factor in "Role Playing"

and by

mastering storytelling, your creativity in "Role Play

Conversations"

raises but sadly, the subject of role playing will have to be

saved for a

later issue.)

However I think the biggest misconception is not whether the

stories

have to be true, but is more about whether or not they have to

be

about the story teller.

One of the main goals of story telling is to communicate to the

listener

about you. Surprisingly, it is easier to convey things about

yourself by

HOW you tell a story, not the actual content of it.

2

Through the power of expressions, energy, and vivid language,

you can

convey to your listeners such things as, dominance, humor,

interests,

and over all personality.

When applying the proper techniques of a story, you should be

able to

repeat what you heard on the news but in such a fashion that

directly

makes you more interesting and displays your personality.

Myth Two: As you get better with women you become less

dependent

on story telling.

Now there is some truth to this myth in the sense that you do

not go

into interactions with prescripted stories as much as you may

starting

out. However, it is through the skills that storytelling develops

that

make you less dependent.

Instead of going into in interaction with a story you have made

up or

written down and rehearsed, you are able to share any subject

in an

interesting fashion that makes people listen.

This skill is enhanced by applying the arts of storytelling and is

one of

the key reasons learning and mastering storytelling is a great

way to

improve not only your skills with women, but your overall social

skills.

3

What is storytelling and why is it important?

Storytelling is the direct means of communication when

highlighting

important parts of your life to the listener. Not only through

context,

but through delivery.

Storytelling plays a very important part in getting to know

someone and

the great thing about telling a story, is that it creates so many

other

subject matters to talk about and that a story is almost always

followed by another story.

If you are familiar with "The Canterbury Tales" by Geoffrey

Chaucer,

you will see how each story is molded by the one told before it

and by

who told the story. (Don't worry; your stories don't have to have

a

rhyme scheme during the interaction like many of Chaucer's do)

There are many reasons storytelling is important and if you are

not

currently utilizing storytelling then consider these following

facts:

*Storytelling is a great way to save dying conversations

This is one of the most common problems that I see with many

guys. An

interaction will be going great, then conversation starts to die

and

4

there is that awkward silence. This is a great time to bust out a

story

from your arsenal and revive the interaction.

Knowing you are armed with a story creates more approach

confidence

when entering an interaction.

People are afraid to enter interactions because of the fear of

running

out of things to say. By developing a great story or two and

keeping

them in your back pocket for when you need them creates a

great since

of confidence during the initial approach and can really help

limit the

anxiety that one gets when approaching a beautiful women.

You are

guaranteed that the interaction will last at least the length of

your

story.

*Storytelling is a great way to display dominance

When you are telling a story the right way, all eyes are on you,

you are

the center of attention, and everyone lingers off your next word.

Holding the attention of the group through storytelling puts you

in a

dominant frame of you being the leader of the interaction and

everyone else being the listener, waiting to see where you take

the

group next.

What you convey through your stories is how you will be

remembered.

5

Unlike most things you say during an interaction, a good story

is

unforgettable. How many times have you had someone tell you

about

some crazy story that one of their friends told them? Stories

have

been passed down for ages; it is an old custom and still exists

till this

day. The girl should be able to look back on the interaction and

be like

"Oh yeah, that was the guy who (did whatever interesting

activity that

relates to you)."

*Storytelling develops stronger social skills

This is one of the biggest reasons that I like to make sure

everyone

masters storytelling. Through storytelling you learn to capture

the

entire attention of the group. Also you directly convey your

personality

and it gets you accustomed to doing so. The skills that are

developed

from strong storytelling directly carry over into your social

personality

that make all conversation with you more exciting and vivid.

The

expressiveness you show in stories ties into your future

interactions

and directly improves your social personality.

*You can convey things through storytelling that you normally

could not

say.

There may be some interesting details of your life that said

outside

the context of a story may come off as bragging. But in a story,

these

6

little details are never the subject of the story thus they remain

subtle but are powerful when displaying aspects of your

identity.

Now that you have an idea of why storytelling is so effective

and what

you should be aiming for when telling a story we are going to

work on

creating your very own powerful stories that cannot be ignored.

All this

will be covered in Part II of this newsletter, but there is an

exercise I

want you to do right now so you can directly apply all the tips

and

tactics to create an amazing story.

Exercise 1: Write down anywhere from seven to ten moments in

your

life that you feel changed or defined who you are.

If you have a funny story then that is just a humorous time then

you

can feel free to include that. But even if the story does not

seem

major, just entertaining, the fact that you can remember it

means it

has a bigger effect than you realize.

This can be happy, fun, or even sad (not depressing) but we do

learn

through negative experiences. We will eventually cut these

down to

just a couple stories in Part II but for now I just want you to get

into

the habit of taking note of interesting experiences in your life.

8

Ideas: Vacations, Life/Death Experiences, an unforgettable

concert or

sporting event, a moment you succeeded, something funny that

happened to you or a friend.

Now I know that there are going to be people that say they

have no

interesting stories. This is just not the truth; everyone has

something

interesting that has shaped who they are. Do not be modest;

even if

it's a silly story write it down. You can't be afraid to share a

story,

sometimes they are hard to think of and if you really can't think

of a

past story, starting paying more attention to your every day life.

And if

you still can’t think of one then go take a vacation, you will

return with

hundreds of them.

So many things happen in one day that people don't even think

would be

a story. But every past event being told is a story. There is no

excuse

not to have one.

Exercise Two: Write down at least 5 things that you would like

people

to know about you.

This is going to tie into personality conveying. Think of the

things that

you would like any friend or new acquaintance to know about

you. These

are the things that directly relate to your identity and make you

who

you are. Do not be surprised if these things are directly related

in

some way to the stories you wrote down in exercise one.

9

Ideas: Hobbies, Sports you play, instruments you play, your job,

your

goals, your skills and achievements.

Now save this list, we are going to use it a lot in Part II of this

newsletter to create some super powerful stories that you can

always

rely on. Also I will further go into the skills of storytelling and

how to

use them to make every story and conversation more

interesting.

I am going to do this very exercise along with you guys so you

will get

to see my story end product as well.

Till then keep an eye out for the next letter and great ready to

really

take storytelling to the next level.

10