Dealing with Anger

AngerEveryone deals with anger at

some point It is important that when you

experience anger, it is dealt with in a health way

Hostility- Negative Effects Definition: The intentional use of

unfriendly or nasty behavior Can affect not only others but can also

affect your own health Those who are constantly hostile are 4-7

times more likely to develop heart disease

Silent “seethers” are more like to die early then those who are even openly hostile

Dealing with Emotions Look below surface of problem See if the problem will matter tomorrow,

next week or next year Do not take action with strong emotion

until you have had time to think about it Remember, feelings are feelings; not

facts Strong feelings can be used as a sign.

Think about those feelings

Continued… Use positive feelings to inspire you. Use

upset feelings to motivate you Remember your not alone, everyone has

strong feelings If the feeling doesn’t go away, seek help

from a parent, a trusted person, or a professional

Unhealthy solutionsTemper tantrumGeneral hostility towards othersLet it build up and lash out on

othersUsing Defense Mechanisms

Defense Mechanisms Repression Suppression Rationalization Regression Denial Compensation Projection Idealization

Managing Anger Re-channel your anger Get away by yourself, or even cry. Anger

is often mistaken for sadness Talk to a close friend about the problem Write down what you are feeling and

why. You don’t need to show anyone. Count to 10 and try to relax

Anger Clear the air of anger in a healthy way.

Do not bring anger around with you. There are many things that affect anger

including environment. Understand that not everyone deals with anger the same way.

Everyone can learn healthy ways to express your feelings and deal with anger.