LETS ENJOY OUR
MARRIAGESHealth marriages appear as if they are a mirage nowadays. There are very many conflicts in our marriages and people are wondering whether marriages can still be healthy.
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Marriage is hard work. In order
for marriage to really work, God
MUST be at the center of the
relationship. We are unable to
know how to love our spouse
unconditionally, unless we have
God's love and know of His love.
There will be ups and downs
in marriage
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When the storms clouds enter
into your marriage, keep God as
your “ALL IN ALL". He will not
allow your marriage to get end.
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It’s important to understand
that love is not just about
finding the right person; it’s
about working with them to
create the right relationship.
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Many couples don’t expect to be
happy and harmonious all the
time. They deal with their conflicts
and make conscious choices that
lead to happiness as a couple in
the long-term.
It’s not about finding the right
person, but rather about being the
right person.
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Healthy marriage requires total commitment to the marriage. You cannot have divided loyalty in the marriage.
Despite the various ups and downs all marriages are subject to, you can still strive to have a healthy marriage.
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HAVING HEALTHY MARRIAGES
1. Both spouses must seek
rapport even in moments of
conflict.
Smart couples know the
importance of their spouse’s
feelings and avoid hurting
them.
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Honoring each other’s feelings
reinforces mutual trust and
respect and builds deep
understanding.
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2. Both spouses cherish their
differences.
Healthy couples are
interdependent.
They’re aligned on the big things
like life goals. They don’t expect
their partner to approve of all their
choices.
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Each partner stands in his or
her own power and respects the
other’s opinion.
Each partner is a happy and
successful person in his or her
own right.
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3. Both spouses do their best to step into each other’s shoes.
They are mindful of each other’s unique perspective. They can also go along way because of their spouses.
A little empathy driven shift in perspective goes a really long way.
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4. Both spouses must assume the best of intentions.
Life throws a lot of challenges in every couple’s way. Healthy couples have figured out the solution lies in consciously adopting an optimistic attitude towards each other and the world in general.
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They choose to look for good
intentions behind each other’s
actions rather than assuming
the worst. They build their
relationship on this platform
of faith in each other.
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5. Both spouses figure out a way to reconnect.
The main reason couples fight is because they feel disconnected. Healthy couples figure out ways to reconnect. They both take individual responsibility to reconnect after a little argument or any sort of friction that inevitably creeps into their day-to-day lives.
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They don’t let their daily
resentments eat away at the
relationship.
They do something to
reconnect and they do it as
soon as possible.
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6. Both spouses make time to nurture their relationship.
Healthy couples make time to spend exclusively with each other.
It’s essential to make time! I can’t stress it enough. Don’t do this and it could be years before you really connect with each again — if at all!
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7. Both spouses keep their
assumptions in check.
We go into most situations with
certain assumptions —based
on our life experiences.
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8. Both spouses make a conscious
effort to communicate their needs
to each other — even if it seems
obvious.
Especially when it seems obvious.
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9. Both spouses recognize the
value of personal growth.
Great relationships usually
have partners committed to
lifelong learning and
growth. They’re curious about
things. They are keen to learn
from the world and from each
other.
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Because of their love for learning
they afford each other the freedom
to develop as individuals within
the relationship.
If you want to have a successful
relationship you’ve got to embrace
learning and personal growth with
open arms.
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10. They are committed to the
peaks and valleys in their marriage.
This is the most crucial point in
marriage. You have to be together
in all circumstances.
You must be committed to making
your relationship work. No matter
what.
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They fight, but they admit to their mistakes and apologize. They argue, but make the effort to understand the other’s perspective.
Because every healthy relationship needs an argument every now and then… just to prove that it is strong enough to survive.
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Long-term relationships, the
ones that matter, are all about
commitments to the peaks and
the valleys.
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‘What you bring into the
relationship has a direct impact
on what you get out of it’.
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The Christian marriage is to be the
example to all marriages and to the
world. We represent the
relationship of Christ and the
church. If the enemy can enter into
our marriages, we would set a
poor example to the world of
Christ's relationship with the
church.
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I am passionate about marriage and the lives of people. I desire to see us reach new levels in life, to come out of frustration, which is a place a lot of people live, to become into the person you know you should be but do not know where to start to be it, and to growing into Christian maturity.
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Marriage is a journey, with
rough roads and some rocks
and pebbles along the path, the
kind that get in your shoes. But
just like when that pebble get
into your shoe, you take it off,
shake it out and put it back on
and go on to your designation.
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