““Where Love Is In The Where Love Is In The HomeHome… there’s … there’s

happiness… joy…happiness… joy…harmony…bliss… harmony…bliss…

contentment…peace.”contentment…peace.”

Husband – agapao (Eph. 5:25,28,33)Husband – agapao (Eph. 5:25,28,33)

Balances headship with selflessness – Balances headship with selflessness – “as Christ loved the church” “as Christ loved the church”

Communicates by words and actionsCommunicates by words and actions

““Poor communication is the main problem Poor communication is the main problem in 86% of all troubled marriages”in 86% of all troubled marriages”

Wife – phileo (Tit. 2:4) – directed Wife – phileo (Tit. 2:4) – directed at great problem of feeling at great problem of feeling

absence of affectionabsence of affection

Both words apply to each – but a Both words apply to each – but a reason for the different wordsreason for the different words

The weaker vessel – physical, emotional, position, The weaker vessel – physical, emotional, position, more delicate (1 Pet. 3:7).more delicate (1 Pet. 3:7).

Understanding the differenceUnderstanding the difference

““MenMen are from Mars, are from Mars, WomenWomen are From Venus” are From Venus” (John Gray)(John Gray)

Solve, not share - Talk, not solutionsSolve, not share - Talk, not solutionsThink and react - Feel and respondThink and react - Feel and respondFix it without help - Share feelingsFix it without help - Share feelings

Hunt, shoot, bag & go home - ShoppingHunt, shoot, bag & go home - Shopping

(Reader’s Digest, Feb. (Reader’s Digest, Feb. 1988)1988)

“She’s glorious – But she’s not Sarita from Kiniwata. I heard she

was homely.”

“You think eight cows were too many?...Do you ever think what it must mean to a woman to know that her husband has settled on the lowest price for which she can be bought?...

When the women talk, they boast about what their husbands paid for them. One says four cows, another maybe six. How does she feel, the woman who was sold for one or two? This could not happen to my Sarita…

I wanted Sarita to be happy…But, I wanted an eight-cow wife.”

Honor his Honor his position/responsibilities (Eph. position/responsibilities (Eph.

5:33)5:33)

As the church honors its head As the church honors its head (Eph. 5:28-33) (Eph. 5:28-33)

Shown by way she speaks Shown by way she speaks toto and and aboutabout him him

As his own body; as Christ the As his own body; as Christ the church (Eph. 5:28,29)church (Eph. 5:28,29)

““To keep warm, as of birds To keep warm, as of birds covering their young with their covering their young with their feathers, Dt. 22:6” (Vine)feathers, Dt. 22:6” (Vine)

He protects her and provides her He protects her and provides her needsneeds

Headship likened to Christ over the Headship likened to Christ over the church (Eph. 5:22-24)church (Eph. 5:22-24)

God’s plan for happinessGod’s plan for happiness

““But I want you to know that the But I want you to know that the head of every man is Christ, the head of every man is Christ, the head of woman is man, and the head of woman is man, and the

head of Christ is God” (1 Cor. 11:3)head of Christ is God” (1 Cor. 11:3)

“…“…obedient to their own husbands, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be that the word of God may not be blasphemed”blasphemed” (Tit. 2:5 1 Pet. 3:1-2) (Tit. 2:5 1 Pet. 3:1-2)

LListenistenCommunication involves talking and Communication involves talking and listeninglistening

OOverlook faultsverlook faultsMajor on the positive; minor on Major on the positive; minor on negativenegative

VValue Opinionsalue OpinionsBe considerate of othersBe considerate of others

EExpress yourselfxpress yourselfSpeak well Speak well of of and and toto one another one another

Wives – Have you heard these Wives – Have you heard these words – “Love, honor and obey”?words – “Love, honor and obey”?

Husbands – Have you heard these Husbands – Have you heard these words – “Love, honor and words – “Love, honor and

cherish”?cherish”?

That’s what God teaches, and That’s what God teaches, and that’s what we promised!that’s what we promised!