Let's be honest, there are times when you want to

know how to make friends. You may be reading this

because you are shy, unsure of how to approach a

person, or maybe you are just not confident because

they may not react the way you would like them to.

Here are some steps and tips to help you overcome

these obstacles to making friends.

1 Spend more time around people. If

you want to make friends, you first

need to put yourself out there somehow

in order to meet people. it doesn't have

to be the 'popular' , or a crowded one,

but one with at least two other people.

Because the 'populars' won't matter

when you're older.

2 Join an organization or

club with people who have

common interests. You don't

necessarily need to have a

lot of common interests with

people in order to make

friends with them.

3 Join a sports team. A common misconception

about this is that you have to be really good at

playing a particular sport in order to make

friends with others on the team, but not all

teams are so competitive. As long as you enjoy

the sport and support your teammates, joining a

local team with a laid-back attitude could be a

great way to make new friends.

4 Volunteer. Volunteering. is also a

great way for people of all ages to meet others. By working together you build bonds with people, and you might meet others who have a passion for changing things the way you do (a common cause)

5Talk to people. You can join a club, go to

school, or go to church but you still won't make friends if you don't actually talk to people. By the same token, you don't have to be involved with an organization to be social, and any time you talk to someone.

6 Make eye contact and smile. If you have an

unfriendly countenance, people are less likely to be receptive to your friendship. Try not squinting (get some glasses), looking bored, frowning or appearing blankly deadpan, folding your arms (this practically screams "don't talk to me") or hanging out in a corner; such habits may make you look troubled or disinterested.

7 Start a conversation.

There are many ways to do

this. Such a comment about

your immediate environment

8 Make small talk. Keep the 30%

talking .70% listening, ratio in mind

during small talk when possible.

9 Introduce yourself at the end of

the conversation. It can be as simple

as saying. Once you introduce

yourself, the other person will

typically do the same. Remember his

or her name! If you show that you

remembered things from your past

conversation(s) with the person, not

only will you look intelligent but he

or she will see that you were paying

attention and are willing to be a true

friend.

10 Initiate a get-together. You

can chat your heart out but it

won't get you a friend if you

don't open up the opportunity

for another conversation or

meeting. This is especially

important if you meet someone

who you aren't otherwise likely

to meet again. Seize the day!

11 Pursue common interests. If

you've discovered that the person

you're talking to has a common

interest, ask him or her more about it

and, if appropriate, whether they get

together with others (they'll probably

invite you. If you have a club, band,

church, etc. that you think they might

enjoy, take the opportunity to give

them your number or email address

and invite them to join you.

12 Ask them out for lunch or coffee.

That will give you a better

opportunity to talk and get to know

each other a little bit better.

13 Be trustworthy. One of the best

things about having a friend is that

you have someone to whom you can

talk about anything, even secrets that

you hide from the rest of the world.

The key to being a good confidante is

the ability to keep secrets, so it's no

secret that you shouldn't tell other

people things that were told to you in

confidence. Keep in mind that recent

studies show that people rarely keep

secrets. Before people even feel

comfortable opening up to you,

however, you need to build trust.

14 Don't separate your friend

from the rest of the group.

Some people get jealous of

their friends if they talk to

other people or make other

friends. Most people don't like

it and would no longer want

to hang out with you.

15 Keep in Contact. Many people

often times lose contact with

their friends because they're

either too busy, or just don't value

their friends enough. When you

lose connection with a friend, the

friendship may fizzle out, and

when you do try to contact them

again, it's hard to rekindle the

friendship.