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EFFECTS TO A PERSON ON HAVING FALSE FRIENDS
A Baby Thesis
Laguna State Polytechnic University
Siniloan, Laguna
In Partial Fulfillment
Of the Requirements for the Finals
Of Second Semester
RENZHIE PEDRON KATIGBAK
2014
CHAPTER 1
Introduction
Human beings are social creatures. They strive for companionship with others. Although
there are some people that might find pleasure in solitude, it seems clear that the majority of
people do seek companionship if possible. Central among these companionships are
friendships. For some people, this is what make worthwhile, the presence of friends. Friendship
is a source of goodness, or at least implies it. When taking a closer, more specific look at this
kind of relationship, one is not only able to create connotations for the word, but are also able
to experience the through advantages gained through virtue of friendship. Friendship is essence
is what really measures a good person. The relationship of friendship differs from other
interpersonal relationships, even those characterized by mutual caring, such as relationships
among colleagues: friendships are, intuitively, “deeper,” more intimate relationships. With
friendship is not following laws, one is naturally giving and receiving, a mutual sharing of things
in life. Wanting of friendship is natural instinct, and for the most part there is no escaping
friendship in some form or another. If one is involved in community life, marriage, or plainly has
a family in general, friendship will cross the path. Throughout our lives, we get into diff kinds of
relationships. Some relationships we cannot choose like family ties. These are relationships we
are born in, and we cannot break them anymore than we can stop breathing. Even denying
their existence does not change the fact that your mother and father, brother and sister, and
who they are. Our relationships are not forced upon us but we do not have complex control
over them, like who we fall in love with. We do not choose who we want to full in love with
even though we do choose the situations that makes it possible for the feelings to appear. The
third kind of relationships are friendships. Friendship is one of the most important kind of
relationship you can be involved in. One reason for this is that you can choose your friend,
unlike your family.
Based upon Webster’s Dictionary the definition of a friend is a person whom one knows
likes and trust but to al, friendship has no defined terminology. The definition of it is based
upon on one’s own notions. Friendship of Acquaintances. This is the beginning of all basics and
deeper friendship. This is the type wherein you only them in pure, and basic level. The insights
to this person’s life, is merely an observation from a person’s perception. Usually, these are the
type of friends that a person may meet in school, at work, local hangouts’, or somewhere that
is frequented often. They are greeted with a mere smile, and daily greeting. These are the
people that know their acquaintances existence and appreciate their effort. Their kind words
can put a smile on the face of anyone, but the true meaning is hardly truth. Another type of
friend is that false friend. False friend is somebody who will just be with us for their own
benefits, they are parasite. They stick to us as long as we serve their purposes. A fake friend is
somebody who will share a good relationship with us when we are useful to them and
abundant as when we are in trouble. They are mean, insincere and more are likely to betray us.
The researcher was motivated to purse this study for her to know what the effects on
having false friends are.
Statement of the Problem
This study aimed to find out the effects on a person being used by their friends.
Specifically, it sought answers to the following questions.
1. What is the profile of the Key Informants in terms of?
1.1 Gender
1.2 Age
1.3 Religion
1.4 Hobby
1.5 Parents Occupation
2. What was the causes of having a false friends?
3. What were the effects on the kay Informants of having false friends?
Significance of the study
This study can serve as reference and give relevance for the following:
To the key Informants, findings of this research’s will inspired them to stay think positive and to
choose which friends is loyal to them.
To the future researcher, this study may be used as reference to further research.
Scope and Limitation of the Study
This study focus on the effects to a person being used by their friends/peers. It was
conducted in the Laguna State Polytechnic University Siniloan (host) Campus which will focused
on selected students from different colleges.
CHAPTER 2
Review of Related Literature
Anuj Somany (2004) there is no respect between the souls of two individuals if their
minds can’t trust each other and there is no trust between them if their hearts can’t accept the
truth of each other.
Habeeb Akande (2010) fake friends are like shadows: always near you at your brightest
moments, but nowhere to be seen at your darkest hour. True friends are like stars, you don't
always see them but they are always there.
Michael Bassey Johnson (2001) stay away from lazy parasites, who perch on you just to
satisfy their needs, they do not come to alleviate your burdens, hence, their mission is to
distract, detract and extract, and make you live in abject poverty.
Israelmore Ayivor, Shaping the dream (1997) fake friends; those who only drill holes
under your boat to get it leaking; those who discredit your ambitions and those who pretend
they love you, but behind their backs they know they are in to destroy your legacies.
Edmond Mbiaka (2001) when you are swimming in success, a lot of fake friends would
show up in your life. But when things get hard, you would think that all those unfriendly friends
probably lost your phone number by accident, because you would barely or never hear from
them again. So be wise with the caliber of people that you keep in your inner circle.
Mary Jo Rapini (2012) no matter what these fake friends say, they are not your friends.
They are people who came into your life to compete with you and drag you back, so they can
move forward feeling good when they compare themselves to you.
Sophie Kinsella, Shopaholic Ties the Knot (2008) says that false friends is what this
happens. You tell your friends your most personal secrets, and they use them against you.
Theresa M. Akey (2006) a visiting scientist at Indiana University, also found that
Friendships are not always what they seem. Sometimes friendships have aspects to them that
are not apparent on the surface. One such aspect of friendship can be competition. While
friendly competition is a natural part of friendships between people of all ages, it can become a
problem when you or the friend become too competitive. If you have a friend that you feel is
competitive to the point of potentially destroying your friendship, try to get the problem under
control before it becomes worse.
Friedman (1989) argues for bestowal, saying that if we were to base our friendship
on positive appraisals of our friend's excellences, “to that extent our commitment to that
person is subordinate to our commitment to the relevant [evaluative] standards and is not
intrinsically a commitment to that person.” However, this is too quick, for to appeal to an
appraisal of the good qualities of your friend's character in order to justify your friendship is
not on its own to subordinate your friendship to that appraisal. Rather, through the
friendship, and through changes in your friend over time, you may come to change your
evaluative outlook, thereby in effect subordinating your commitment to certain values to
your commitment to your friend. Of course, within friendship the influence need not go
only one direction: friends influence each other's conceptions of value and how to live.
Indeed, that friends have a reciprocal effect on each other is a part of the concern for
equality many find essential to friendship.
Thomas (1987; 1989; 1993) and Annis (1987) claims that we should understand
what is here called the intimacy of friendship in terms of mutual self-disclosure: I tell my
friends things about myself that I would not dream of telling others, and I expect them to
make me privy to intimate details of their lives. The point of such mutual self-disclosure,
Thomas argues, is to create the “bond of trust” essential to friendship, for through such self-
disclosure we simultaneously make ourselves vulnerable to each other and acknowledge the
goodwill the other has for us. Such a bond of trust is what institutes the kind of intimacy
characteristic of friendship
Annas's summary of Aristotle's view of friendship this way (1988, 1) An important
question to ask, however, is what precisely is meant by the “sharing” of a sense of value. Once
again there are weaker and stronger versions. On the weak side, a sense of value is shared in
the sense that a coincidence of interests and values is a necessary condition of developing and
sustaining a friendship; when that happy coincidence dissipates, so too does the friendship.
Cocking & Kennett (1998) argue against such a mirroring view in two ways. First, they
claim that this view places too much emphasis on similarity as motivating and sustaining the
friendship. Friends can be very different from each other, and although within a friendship
there is a tendency for the friends to become more and more alike, this should be understood
as an effect of friendship, not something constitutive of it. Second, they argue that the appeal
to the friend's role as a mirror to explain the increasing similarity involves assigning too much
passivity to the friend. Our friends, they argue, play a more active role in shaping us, and the
mirroring view fails to acknowledge this.
Brink (1999) and Jeske 1997 criticizes Whiting's account of friendship as too
impersonal because it fails to understand the relationship of friendship itself to be
intrinsically valuable. In part, the complaint is the same as that which Friedman (1989)
offered against any conception of friendship that bases that friendship on appraisals of the
friend's properties such a conception of friendship subordinates our concern for the friend to
our concern for the values, thereby neglecting what makes friendship a distinctively personal
relationship. Given Whiting's understanding of the sense in which friends share values in
terms of their appeal to the intrinsic and impersonal worth of those values.
Conceptual Framework’
Figure 1 shows the research paradigm. The first box is the independent variables while
the second box is the dependent variable. The Independent Variables are the profile of
the Key Informants including their Gender, Age, Religion, Hobby, Parents Occupation
and the Dependent variable is the .
Figure 1.The Research Paradigm
Definition of terms
Friends. A relationship between two or more people who are friends
Peer. A social group consisting of people who are equal in such respects as age, education, or
social class Teenagers usually prefer to spend time with their own peer group.
Fake friend. Someone who only acts as your friend when they require a service from you.
Notion. Basically a bigger word for idea.
Insincere. Not expressing or showing a true feelings.
Dependent Variable Independent Variable
Effects of having Fake Friends
The profile of the Key
Informants in terms of
1.1 Gender
1.2 Age
1.3 Religion
1.4 Hobby
1.5 Parents Occupation
Connotation. An idea or quality that a word makes you think about in addition to its meaning.
Perception. The way you think about or understand someone or something.
Abundant. Existing or occurring in large amounts.
Trust. Belief that someone or something is reliable, good, honest, effective, etc
CHAPTER 3
Nature of the Study
This study used the descriptive method of research through the analysis using self-
formulated questionnaire and interview in order to know the effects on having false friends in
selected students in Laguna State Polytechnic University Siniloan (Host) Campus Siniloan,
Laguna.
The method is used because descriptive method of research as certain and be able to
describe the effects of the variable of interest in a situation, it give the relevant aspects of the
phenomena of interest from an individual in order to test the hypothesis or to answer thre
concerning the current status of the subject of the study.
Population and Sampling
The study utilized the purposive sampling technique. Purposive sampling technique is a
type of non-probability sampling where the researcher consciously se4lected particular
elements or subjects for addition in a study so as to make sure that the elements had certain
characteristics pertinent to the study. It normally targeted a particular group of people.
The researcher engaged selected students from LSPU Siniloan (host) Campus. Following
the desired sampling technique, the researcher looked for key informants who fit the
manipulative variable of this study.
Research Instrument
The main tool used in this study was research-made questionnaire and on the spot
questions in order to accomplish this research.
Data Gathering Procedure
Alter Constructing the title of the study, the researcher pursued on doing the following
procedures of this study. The researcher formulated a research-made questionnaire answered
by the respondents and open-ended questions was used to evaluate the data gathered. After
that, the researcher gather the data and tabulated the result.
_____________________________________________________________________________
Sample Questionnaire/Interview Guide
Section A: Details about Respondents
1. Name (Optional): ______________________________
2. Gender: Female ( ) Male ( )
3. Age: _______
4. Hobby: ___________
5. Parents Occupation:
Father: ______________
Mother: ______________
Section B: Open-Ended Questions about the topic
1. Have you encountered false friend, even once in your life? ________________________
2. Described False Friend.
________________________________________________________________________
________________________________________________________________________
3. What was your perception in terms of your
Physical Outlook :
__________________________________________________________________
__________________________________________________________________
Intellectual Capacity:
__________________________________________________________________
__________________________________________________________________
Good Moral Character:
__________________________________________________________________
__________________________________________________________________
4. How false friend did affects the whole you?
________________________________________________________________________
________________________________________________________________________
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