EFFECTS TO A PERSON ON HAVING FALSE FRIENDS

A Baby Thesis

Laguna State Polytechnic University

Siniloan, Laguna

In Partial Fulfillment

Of the Requirements for the Finals

Of Second Semester

RENZHIE PEDRON KATIGBAK

2014

CHAPTER 1

Introduction

Human beings are social creatures. They strive for companionship with others. Although

there are some people that might find pleasure in solitude, it seems clear that the majority of

people do seek companionship if possible. Central among these companionships are

friendships. For some people, this is what make worthwhile, the presence of friends. Friendship

is a source of goodness, or at least implies it. When taking a closer, more specific look at this

kind of relationship, one is not only able to create connotations for the word, but are also able

to experience the through advantages gained through virtue of friendship. Friendship is essence

is what really measures a good person. The relationship of friendship differs from other

interpersonal relationships, even those characterized by mutual caring, such as relationships

among colleagues: friendships are, intuitively, “deeper,” more intimate relationships. With

friendship is not following laws, one is naturally giving and receiving, a mutual sharing of things

in life. Wanting of friendship is natural instinct, and for the most part there is no escaping

friendship in some form or another. If one is involved in community life, marriage, or plainly has

a family in general, friendship will cross the path. Throughout our lives, we get into diff kinds of

relationships. Some relationships we cannot choose like family ties. These are relationships we

are born in, and we cannot break them anymore than we can stop breathing. Even denying

their existence does not change the fact that your mother and father, brother and sister, and

who they are. Our relationships are not forced upon us but we do not have complex control

over them, like who we fall in love with. We do not choose who we want to full in love with

even though we do choose the situations that makes it possible for the feelings to appear. The

third kind of relationships are friendships. Friendship is one of the most important kind of

relationship you can be involved in. One reason for this is that you can choose your friend,

unlike your family.

Based upon Webster’s Dictionary the definition of a friend is a person whom one knows

likes and trust but to al, friendship has no defined terminology. The definition of it is based

upon on one’s own notions. Friendship of Acquaintances. This is the beginning of all basics and

deeper friendship. This is the type wherein you only them in pure, and basic level. The insights

to this person’s life, is merely an observation from a person’s perception. Usually, these are the

type of friends that a person may meet in school, at work, local hangouts’, or somewhere that

is frequented often. They are greeted with a mere smile, and daily greeting. These are the

people that know their acquaintances existence and appreciate their effort. Their kind words

can put a smile on the face of anyone, but the true meaning is hardly truth. Another type of

friend is that false friend. False friend is somebody who will just be with us for their own

benefits, they are parasite. They stick to us as long as we serve their purposes. A fake friend is

somebody who will share a good relationship with us when we are useful to them and

abundant as when we are in trouble. They are mean, insincere and more are likely to betray us.

The researcher was motivated to purse this study for her to know what the effects on

having false friends are.

Statement of the Problem

This study aimed to find out the effects on a person being used by their friends.

Specifically, it sought answers to the following questions.

1. What is the profile of the Key Informants in terms of?

1.1 Gender

1.2 Age

1.3 Religion

1.4 Hobby

1.5 Parents Occupation

2. What was the causes of having a false friends?

3. What were the effects on the kay Informants of having false friends?

Significance of the study

This study can serve as reference and give relevance for the following:

To the key Informants, findings of this research’s will inspired them to stay think positive and to

choose which friends is loyal to them.

To the future researcher, this study may be used as reference to further research.

Scope and Limitation of the Study

This study focus on the effects to a person being used by their friends/peers. It was

conducted in the Laguna State Polytechnic University Siniloan (host) Campus which will focused

on selected students from different colleges.

CHAPTER 2

Review of Related Literature

Anuj Somany (2004) there is no respect between the souls of two individuals if their

minds can’t trust each other and there is no trust between them if their hearts can’t accept the

truth of each other.

Habeeb Akande (2010) fake friends are like shadows: always near you at your brightest

moments, but nowhere to be seen at your darkest hour. True friends are like stars, you don't

always see them but they are always there.

Michael Bassey Johnson (2001) stay away from lazy parasites, who perch on you just to

satisfy their needs, they do not come to alleviate your burdens, hence, their mission is to

distract, detract and extract, and make you live in abject poverty.

Israelmore Ayivor, Shaping the dream (1997) fake friends; those who only drill holes

under your boat to get it leaking; those who discredit your ambitions and those who pretend

they love you, but behind their backs they know they are in to destroy your legacies.

Edmond Mbiaka (2001) when you are swimming in success, a lot of fake friends would

show up in your life. But when things get hard, you would think that all those unfriendly friends

probably lost your phone number by accident, because you would barely or never hear from

them again. So be wise with the caliber of people that you keep in your inner circle.

Mary Jo Rapini (2012) no matter what these fake friends say, they are not your friends.

They are people who came into your life to compete with you and drag you back, so they can

move forward feeling good when they compare themselves to you.

Sophie Kinsella, Shopaholic Ties the Knot (2008) says that false friends is what this

happens. You tell your friends your most personal secrets, and they use them against you.

Theresa M. Akey (2006) a visiting scientist at Indiana University, also found that

Friendships are not always what they seem. Sometimes friendships have aspects to them that

are not apparent on the surface. One such aspect of friendship can be competition. While

friendly competition is a natural part of friendships between people of all ages, it can become a

problem when you or the friend become too competitive. If you have a friend that you feel is

competitive to the point of potentially destroying your friendship, try to get the problem under

control before it becomes worse.

Friedman (1989) argues for bestowal, saying that if we were to base our friendship

on positive appraisals of our friend's excellences, “to that extent our commitment to that

person is subordinate to our commitment to the relevant [evaluative] standards and is not

intrinsically a commitment to that person.” However, this is too quick, for to appeal to an

appraisal of the good qualities of your friend's character in order to justify your friendship is

not on its own to subordinate your friendship to that appraisal. Rather, through the

friendship, and through changes in your friend over time, you may come to change your

evaluative outlook, thereby in effect subordinating your commitment to certain values to

your commitment to your friend. Of course, within friendship the influence need not go

only one direction: friends influence each other's conceptions of value and how to live.

Indeed, that friends have a reciprocal effect on each other is a part of the concern for

equality many find essential to friendship.

Thomas (1987; 1989; 1993) and Annis (1987) claims that we should understand

what is here called the intimacy of friendship in terms of mutual self-disclosure: I tell my

friends things about myself that I would not dream of telling others, and I expect them to

make me privy to intimate details of their lives. The point of such mutual self-disclosure,

Thomas argues, is to create the “bond of trust” essential to friendship, for through such self-

disclosure we simultaneously make ourselves vulnerable to each other and acknowledge the

goodwill the other has for us. Such a bond of trust is what institutes the kind of intimacy

characteristic of friendship

Annas's summary of Aristotle's view of friendship this way (1988, 1) An important

question to ask, however, is what precisely is meant by the “sharing” of a sense of value. Once

again there are weaker and stronger versions. On the weak side, a sense of value is shared in

the sense that a coincidence of interests and values is a necessary condition of developing and

sustaining a friendship; when that happy coincidence dissipates, so too does the friendship.

Cocking & Kennett (1998) argue against such a mirroring view in two ways. First, they

claim that this view places too much emphasis on similarity as motivating and sustaining the

friendship. Friends can be very different from each other, and although within a friendship

there is a tendency for the friends to become more and more alike, this should be understood

as an effect of friendship, not something constitutive of it. Second, they argue that the appeal

to the friend's role as a mirror to explain the increasing similarity involves assigning too much

passivity to the friend. Our friends, they argue, play a more active role in shaping us, and the

mirroring view fails to acknowledge this.

Brink (1999) and Jeske 1997 criticizes Whiting's account of friendship as too

impersonal because it fails to understand the relationship of friendship itself to be

intrinsically valuable. In part, the complaint is the same as that which Friedman (1989)

offered against any conception of friendship that bases that friendship on appraisals of the

friend's properties such a conception of friendship subordinates our concern for the friend to

our concern for the values, thereby neglecting what makes friendship a distinctively personal

relationship. Given Whiting's understanding of the sense in which friends share values in

terms of their appeal to the intrinsic and impersonal worth of those values.

Conceptual Framework’

Figure 1 shows the research paradigm. The first box is the independent variables while

the second box is the dependent variable. The Independent Variables are the profile of

the Key Informants including their Gender, Age, Religion, Hobby, Parents Occupation

and the Dependent variable is the .

Figure 1.The Research Paradigm

Definition of terms

Friends. A relationship between two or more people who are friends

Peer. A social group consisting of people who are equal in such respects as age, education, or

social class Teenagers usually prefer to spend time with their own peer group.

Fake friend. Someone who only acts as your friend when they require a service from you.

Notion. Basically a bigger word for idea.

Insincere. Not expressing or showing a true feelings.

Dependent Variable Independent Variable

Effects of having Fake Friends

The profile of the Key

Informants in terms of

1.1 Gender

1.2 Age

1.3 Religion

1.4 Hobby

1.5 Parents Occupation

Connotation. An idea or quality that a word makes you think about in addition to its meaning.

Perception. The way you think about or understand someone or something.

Abundant. Existing or occurring in large amounts.

Trust. Belief that someone or something is reliable, good, honest, effective, etc

CHAPTER 3

Nature of the Study

This study used the descriptive method of research through the analysis using self-

formulated questionnaire and interview in order to know the effects on having false friends in

selected students in Laguna State Polytechnic University Siniloan (Host) Campus Siniloan,

Laguna.

The method is used because descriptive method of research as certain and be able to

describe the effects of the variable of interest in a situation, it give the relevant aspects of the

phenomena of interest from an individual in order to test the hypothesis or to answer thre

concerning the current status of the subject of the study.

Population and Sampling

The study utilized the purposive sampling technique. Purposive sampling technique is a

type of non-probability sampling where the researcher consciously se4lected particular

elements or subjects for addition in a study so as to make sure that the elements had certain

characteristics pertinent to the study. It normally targeted a particular group of people.

The researcher engaged selected students from LSPU Siniloan (host) Campus. Following

the desired sampling technique, the researcher looked for key informants who fit the

manipulative variable of this study.

Research Instrument

The main tool used in this study was research-made questionnaire and on the spot

questions in order to accomplish this research.

Data Gathering Procedure

Alter Constructing the title of the study, the researcher pursued on doing the following

procedures of this study. The researcher formulated a research-made questionnaire answered

by the respondents and open-ended questions was used to evaluate the data gathered. After

that, the researcher gather the data and tabulated the result.

_____________________________________________________________________________

Sample Questionnaire/Interview Guide

Section A: Details about Respondents

1. Name (Optional): ______________________________

2. Gender: Female ( ) Male ( )

3. Age: _______

4. Hobby: ___________

5. Parents Occupation:

Father: ______________

Mother: ______________

Section B: Open-Ended Questions about the topic

1. Have you encountered false friend, even once in your life? ________________________

2. Described False Friend.

________________________________________________________________________

________________________________________________________________________

3. What was your perception in terms of your

Physical Outlook :

__________________________________________________________________

__________________________________________________________________

Intellectual Capacity:

__________________________________________________________________

__________________________________________________________________

Good Moral Character:

__________________________________________________________________

__________________________________________________________________

4. How false friend did affects the whole you?

________________________________________________________________________

________________________________________________________________________

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