Self Esteem

Self-EsteemSelf-Esteem

DefinitionsDefinitions

Self-concept: Picture or perception of Self-concept: Picture or perception of ourselves/ a person's mental model of his ourselves/ a person's mental model of his or her abilities and attributes or her abilities and attributes

Self Efficacy: The set of beliefs that one Self Efficacy: The set of beliefs that one can perform adequately in a particular can perform adequately in a particular situation.situation.

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Self-idealSelf-ideal: The way we would like to be: The way we would like to be Self-actualizationSelf-actualization A concept in personality A concept in personality

psychology referring to a person's constant psychology referring to a person's constant striving to realize his or her potential and to striving to realize his or her potential and to develop inherent talents and capabilities.develop inherent talents and capabilities.

Self-awarenessSelf-awareness The top level of consciousness; The top level of consciousness; cognizance of the autobiographical character of cognizance of the autobiographical character of personally experienced events.personally experienced events.


Self Esteem: Feelings we have about Self Esteem: Feelings we have about ourselves ourselves

Self Esteem: A realistic respect for or Self Esteem: A realistic respect for or favorable impression of one self; Self favorable impression of one self; Self respectrespect

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What is Self Esteem?What is Self Esteem?

Self + EsteemSelf + Esteem The total, essential, or particular being The total, essential, or particular being

of a person; the individual:of a person; the individual: +Worth, +Worth, Value, Opinion ,judgmentValue, Opinion ,judgment


Self-Esteem…What’s it made of?Self-Esteem…What’s it made of?

Your self-esteem is Your self-esteem is made up of all the made up of all the experiences and experiences and interpersonal interpersonal relationships you’ve relationships you’ve had in your life. had in your life. Everyone you’ve ever Everyone you’ve ever met has added to or met has added to or taken away from how taken away from how you see yourself!you see yourself!


Self-EsteemSelf-Esteem

Self-esteem refers to th way Self-esteem refers to th way we see and think about we see and think about ourselvesourselves

Self esteemSelf esteem is your opinion of is your opinion of yourself. yourself.

High self esteem is a good High self esteem is a good opinion of yourself and opinion of yourself and

low self esteem is a bad low self esteem is a bad opinion of yourself.opinion of yourself.


What Self Esteem is NotWhat Self Esteem is Not

Self Esteem is NOT dependant upon what Self Esteem is NOT dependant upon what other people think of youother people think of you

Self Esteem is not egotism, arrogance, Self Esteem is not egotism, arrogance, narcissism/selfishness, or a desire to feel narcissism/selfishness, or a desire to feel superior to others superior to others

Self Esteem is not temporary euphoriaSelf Esteem is not temporary euphoria


How should we measure self-esteem?


Factors affecting on high and low Factors affecting on high and low self esteemself esteem

Your self esteem depends on many questions:Your self esteem depends on many questions: Is your job worthwhile? Do others respect what you do? Do Is your job worthwhile? Do others respect what you do? Do

you?you?

Do you believe you are successful?Do you believe you are successful?

How do you see yourself (your self image)? How do you see yourself (your self image)? - Improve your self esteem- Improve your self esteem- Boost your self confidence- Boost your self confidence- -

How do you feel about your strengths and weaknesses? How do you feel about your strengths and weaknesses?

What do you think of your social status? What do you think of your social status?

How do you relate to others? How do you relate to others?

Can you make your own decisions? A lack of choices leads to Can you make your own decisions? A lack of choices leads to low self esteem. low self esteem.


Development of Self EsteemDevelopment of Self Esteem

A person develops his/her self esteem A person develops his/her self esteem throughout the life through experiences.throughout the life through experiences.

In this regard childhood experiences play In this regard childhood experiences play an important role in shaping self esteem. an important role in shaping self esteem.


Factors that develop High and Low Factors that develop High and Low Self EsteemSelf Esteem

High Self EsteemHigh Self Esteem If you are being praisedIf you are being praised If you are listened toIf you are listened to If you are being spoken If you are being spoken

to respectfullyto respectfully If you are getting If you are getting

attention attention Experiencing successExperiencing success Having trust worthy Having trust worthy

friendsfriends

Low Self EsteemLow Self Esteem Experiencing Continuous Experiencing Continuous

FailureFailure Being expected to perfect Being expected to perfect

all the timeall the time Being Ignored or made Being Ignored or made

fun offun of Having physical or Having physical or

emotional punishmentemotional punishment Being criticizedBeing criticized


Why Self Esteem is important?Why Self Esteem is important? Having a healthy self – esteem Having a healthy self – esteem

creates confidence, self-reliance, creates confidence, self-reliance, and overall happiness in an and overall happiness in an individual individual

Self esteem increases your confidence. If Self esteem increases your confidence. If you have confidence you will respect you have confidence you will respect yourself and then you can respect others, yourself and then you can respect others, improve your relationships and improve your relationships and become happier....this is not a selfish goal become happier....this is not a selfish goal as you will contribute more and share as you will contribute more and share yourself with the world and those around yourself with the world and those around you.you.


Low esteem causes depression, Low esteem causes depression, unhappiness, insecurity and low unhappiness, insecurity and low confidence. confidence.

Other's desires may take preference over Other's desires may take preference over yours. yours.

Inner criticism, that nagging voice of Inner criticism, that nagging voice of disapproval inside you, causes you to disapproval inside you, causes you to stumble at every challenge and challenges stumble at every challenge and challenges seem impossibleseem impossible


Change the bad

Appreciate life

Willing to try

new things Believes in self

Is not a threat to others

Doesn’t submit to

peer pressure

Accept failure

Leader to

others

Good Self

Esteem


Who has Who has contributed to contributed to

your self your self esteem?esteem?


No one can Make you feel inferior Without your Consent. Eleanor Roosevelt


Tips for building Self EsteemTips for building Self Esteem Learn to be more assertive and not Learn to be more assertive and not

feel guilty about saying no feel guilty about saying no Think positivelyThink positively Believe on your selfBelieve on your self Make plans for the future .Set and Make plans for the future .Set and

achieve goalsachieve goals Do something challenging each dayDo something challenging each day Look your bestLook your best Eat correctlyEat correctly Do something for someone elseDo something for someone else Learn a new skillLearn a new skill 1818Mrs.Najam-un-NissaMrs.Najam-un-Nissa

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Handle things one at a timeHandle things one at a time Use criticism constructivelyUse criticism constructively Ask for help – take advantage of learning Ask for help – take advantage of learning

opportunitiesopportunities Allow personal growth time each dayAllow personal growth time each day Do not say negative things about yourselfDo not say negative things about yourself Reward yourself oftenReward yourself often List your accomplishments each evening List your accomplishments each evening Volunteer to share your skills with othersVolunteer to share your skills with others


Accept yourself: Stop worrying about the things Accept yourself: Stop worrying about the things you can’t change. Be more accepting of others you can’t change. Be more accepting of others and the things they can’t change.and the things they can’t change.

Try not to compare with others. It’s unfair. You Try not to compare with others. It’s unfair. You may compare their strengths with your may compare their strengths with your weaknesses. Judge yourself in terms of your weaknesses. Judge yourself in terms of your own growth own growth


Have Realistic Expectations – We expect too Have Realistic Expectations – We expect too much from ourselves. Perfection is not possible much from ourselves. Perfection is not possible but bettering our-self should be a lifetime goal. but bettering our-self should be a lifetime goal.


Emphasize your strengths.Emphasize your strengths.

Change what can be changed. Some Change what can be changed. Some things fast, others gradual, and others things fast, others gradual, and others never. There are things we inherit but we never. There are things we inherit but we can change our attitude about it. Try new can change our attitude about it. Try new experiences.experiences.


Best FriendsBest Friends

Would you take better care of yourself?Would you take better care of yourself?Would you be kinder to yourself?Would you be kinder to yourself?Would you be more forgiving of your humanWould you be more forgiving of your human imperfections?imperfections?If you realized your best friend was yourself?If you realized your best friend was yourself?

Who is always with you everywhere?Who is always with you everywhere?Who is on your side when others are unfair?Who is on your side when others are unfair?And tell me, who will never let you down in any situation?And tell me, who will never let you down in any situation?Who will always see you get your share?Who will always see you get your share?

And that’s why I’m a best friend to myself.And that’s why I’m a best friend to myself.And I take me out whenever I feel low.And I take me out whenever I feel low.And I make my life as happy as a best friend wouldAnd I make my life as happy as a best friend wouldI’m as nice to me as anyone I know!I’m as nice to me as anyone I know!


There are two different people in the There are two different people in the world. One that says “I wish I had” and world. One that says “I wish I had” and the one that says “I’m glad I did”. the one that says “I’m glad I did”. Remember you can have anything in this Remember you can have anything in this world if you just believe in yourself.world if you just believe in yourself.


Final ThoughtFinal Thought

You are a unique individual. No one else is You are a unique individual. No one else is like you in the whole world. This makes like you in the whole world. This makes you special already!you special already!

Our time in this world is limited. Make it Our time in this world is limited. Make it happen for you so you leave your mark in happen for you so you leave your mark in history!history!


““Commercial of Me”Commercial of Me”

Emphasizing the positive characteristics and Emphasizing the positive characteristics and capabilities of you, develop an advertisement or capabilities of you, develop an advertisement or

commercial to commercial to

““sell oneself”. sell oneself”.

It may be a radio or television ad, billboard, It may be a radio or television ad, billboard, sweepstakes, etc.sweepstakes, etc.

Due next class period.Due next class period.


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Self Esteem