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Constellations-TheoryandpracticeBringingtheunseenexternalintothecontextoftheseeninternaldynamicsofsystemsCopyright©2015RafeNauenAll rightsreserved.

ISBN:1507841949ISBN-13:978-1507841945DEDICATION

Tothestudentsofthisextraordinarywork,whoputtheirfaithinnoticingthehiddenelementswithin.

ACKNOWLEDGMENTS

Italsogoeswithoutsayingthatwithouttheemotional,spiritual,physicalandpracticalsupportofmywonderfulwifeJulieBowman,thisbookwouldnotexist.Andwithoutmyfamilyoforigin,Iwouldn’tevenexist.

Page|iiContentsForeword..............................................................................4

Introduction..........................................................................5Chapter1–Systemsthinking................................................6Chapter2-Whatisaconstellation?.....................................8Chapter3–ThelawsofbeingHuman.................................10Chapter4-Shamanicelements..........................................13Chapter5–Themechanicsofaworkshop..........................14Chapter6–Whyrunaconstellation?.................................15

Chapter7–Toolsforthejob...............................................16Chapter8–Scopeofconstellationwork.............................24Appendix.............................................................................28Bibliography........................................................................281

Foreword

Thisbookispartofaseriesthataccompanyfivetrainingmodulesinsystemicconstellationtherapy.

TheoryandPracticeFamily–seebibliographyHealthBusiness

Money

Constellationsareaboutmappingtheelementsofasystemthatappearwhenyouaskthatsystemtoreveal.Themapthenhelpstheindividualtobecomeacutelyawareofthepartheorsheplaysinthebiggerpictureoftheirlife,work,orsimplejourney.

InthisbookIsometimesrefertohe,sometimesshebutinallcasesIamalludingtoeitherorboth.

Inworkingwithindividualsitisoftentruethattheissueorchallengeappearstobeoutsidethatindividual,andresidesinsteadinthesystemtowhichshebelongs.Theconstellationmodelenablesthefacilitator/therapisttoenquireintothatsystembyusingrepresentativesoftheobservedelementsofthesystem.

Introduction

IgotintoconstellationworkasaresultofneedingpersonalcounsellinginconnectionwiththeimminentdeathofmythenwifeMaia.ThepsychotherapistIsaacPizerintroducedmetoconstellationstherapyalmoststraightawayandIwasblownaway.ItshowedthatIcouldseewhatIwascarryinginmylife,whatbelongedtomeandwhatdidn’t.ThatstoryisdescribedmorefullyinmyfirstbookFamilyConstellations–Unravellingthemysteryofourancestraltimeline.

Ihavehadanumberofcareerchannelsinmylifethusfar,andtheworkseemedtofitexactlywithwhatIwantedtodonext.Thestudybroughtupthefactthatconstellations(socalledbecausetheapparentconnectionbetweenconstellationsintheskyisnotbyanyphysicalmeans–theyjustappeartobegroupedthus,becausethat’showweobservethem–insystems,orgroups!Andsoitiswithbusinessesandfamilies–evenhealthandmoneymayrevealinfluencesfromoutsidetheindividualthatcanbeclearedbyenquiringintothesystem.

Ifindthatmanypeopleandbusinesseswouldwelcomeavirtualmapoftheinfluencesandpeopleinsideandoutsidetheirorganisationespeciallyifitweresimple,andnotrequireanyprioradaptionsorchanges.Hereistheanswertothatparticularprayer.Howeverwhatwillalsobeexploredinthetraining,andinthesebooks,ishowthesemattersalsorelatetohealthwellbeingandevenmoney.TheexampleIusealotisastereotype.Awomaninherlatefiftieswhosechildrenhavelefthomefindsherselfdrawntoassistingandsupportingmore.Hermother,noinherearlyeightiesneedshospitalvisitsanddoctors’appointments,andoccasionallytheshoppingbeingdone.Moreandmorethedaughterfindsherselfsaying,don’tworry,I’lldoitforyou.Graduallyshebeginstosaytoherselfandfriendsetc.,thatitwouldbebetterifshewereill–shecouldcopebetterthanhermother.Andloandbeholdtheuniverseobligeswithensuingillnessforthedaughter–welcomedin.Thesadpartisthatitwillnothavehelpedhermotherasinglebit.

Chapter1–Systemsthinking

Whatisasystem,andwhatdowemeanbyitinthiscontext?Asystemisanyidentifiablegroupofpeople.WEallbelongtofamilyoforiginwithanessentialmotherandfather–withoutwhomwewouldnotexistatall.Howtheymanagedthepressuresofthatworldispossiblythesubjectofaconstellationforthereader!ItiscertainlydescribedinmoredetailinthiscontextinthebookFamilyConstellations-UnravellingthemysteryofyourancestraltimelinebyRafeNauenISBN978-1500573911.ButthatisjustonesystemthatwebelongtoandconstellationworkholdsgoodinANYsystem,beitaschool,aprison,aworkplaceoryourfamilygroup.Allsystemsaredefinedbytherulesofbelongingandtheloyaltiesthatpertain.Allsystemsoncloseinspectionhavedistinctrules–inmyfamily,forinstancewewereexpectedtotalk“properly”.Failuretoobservehadconsequences,andsoitiswithallsystems,beitasubscriptionhastobepaidtoaclubforinstance,orpeoplemayspeculatewhatrulesappliedtobeamemberoftheWaffenSS.UntilrecentlyaruleinEnglandstatedthatmarriagesconsistonlyofonemanandonewoman.Therulesnowallowfortwopeopleofthesamesex.Asystemthereforeisanygroupdefinedbytherelationshiptheyhavetoeachother–family,workgroup,boardofdirectorsandsoon.Inmuchofmywork,Iamdealingwithfamilysystems,buttherulesapplytoanygroupingofpeopleorthingsthatmightberegardedasasystem–evendowntoachronicillness–thatwillbediscussedinalaterchapter,butbywayofexamplesomeonehasapainfulbrokenleg.Clearlytheproblemisintheleg,orperhapstheyareevenmorepreciseandsaytheirkneeistheissue,buttheirlackofmobilitywillhaveaprofoundeffectonwhattheyareabletodo.Theymighthavesufferedsomeseveretraumagettingtheoriginaldamagetotheknee,socouldhavenightmares,quiteapartfromthenormalsleepdeprivationfrompain.Thatmaymeanthattheygetannoyedorupsetmorethanwouldbenormalforthem.Thefamilythenwillhavetorallyround–transport,maybethebedroomisinaccessiblesothingswillchangeinthehouse,andmaybethereisasuddendropinincomethatcoincideswithasuddenincreaseincosts,soworryinthefamilywillincrease.Soyoucanseethatlookingatbasicelementsontheirownisafarfromperfectwaytoarriveatsuccessfuloutcomes,andsometimesitcanbefarmoreusefultolookatthesystem.

Chapter2-Whatisaconstellation?

So,whatisaconstellation(apartfromagroupofstars)–wellfundamentally,it’salivingmapthatrevealsthehiddendynamicsofanysystem.

AConstellationisanexperientialmodelforlookingintothemechanicsofanysystem.ByexperientialImeantosaythatalltheoutcomesappearfromtheworkitself(literallyfromexperience)–thereisnoformulaefortheoutcomesfromtheobservableinputs–sothefacilitatorneedstohavetheconfidencetosimplyobserveandlettheworktakeitscourse,withgentleguidanceratherthandeterminedmanipulations.

Thestartingpointisalwayssomeonewhowantstolookatanissue,perhapsthere’sarecurrentproblematwork,orsomesituationthattheycan’tquitecometogripswith.Itmaybeaforcedchangewithinthesystem–adeath,abirth,amarriageoradivorce,or“problems”withachild’sbehaviourmaybecomingnoticeablydifficulttodealwith.

Constellationsareapowerfulwayofworkingwithsuchissues.Ratherthanlookattheindividualortheplacewheretheproblemis,welookatthewholesystem.That’sbecauseanindividualisalwayspartofamuchwiderinterconnectedsystem,andtheproblemmayjustbeasymptomofsomethingthat’sactuallyhappeningelsewhere.Thatwasexactlytrueinmycase,andIshallbeusingmyownexperienceaswellasotherpeople’swhoseconstellationsIhavefacilitatedfurtheroninthisbook.

Whatwedoissetupavisualspatialrepresentationofthatsystem.Ideallyweusepeopletorepresentthedifferentpartsofthesystemsoitbecomesalivingmaporconstellation,butpiecesoffeltonafloor,postitnotesspeciallymanufactureddirectionalpiecesofplasticorwood,orevenPlayPeople™canbeused.Wethenaskthoserepresentativestolistentotheirfeelings,theirsensationsandtheirintuitionsandwhathappensisthattheunderlyingdynamicsofthesystemcometothesurface.Itseemsthatsimplytheclientgivingpermissionforanelementoftheirexistencetoberepresentedisenoughforthedisplayofthedynamicstobegin.Manyhundredsofthousandsofworkshopshavebeennotedandwrittenup,andtheyallshowthatsomehiddendynamicshavebeenrevealedthathavelainhiddenpreviously.Inthecaseofplasticpieces,theclientplacestherepresentativeblocksasheseefit,andthefacilitatorhastodoabitmoreworktoengagewiththesystem,andtobeginanydialogue.

Chapter3–ThelawsofbeingHuman

Thereappeartobenaturallawsforhumansthathavebeencloselyobservedovermanyyears,andfrommanysituations,nottomentionthethousandsofconstellationworkshopsthathavebeenrecordedwheretheseaspectspertain.Manyoftheseaspectscouldwellcomeundertheheadingcommonsense,butquiteafewhaveunexpectedelements.

Weallacceptthatthelawofgravityexists,andwedon’thavetocontinuallychecktoseeifitisinoperation.Thehumanlawsappeartobealittlemoresubtle,andhencemanypeoplewillfailtonotice,sometimesrepeatedly.Forinstancethereisalawthatwhatcomeslatertakesprecedenceoverwhatcomesbefore.Thislawistheretoensurethatyoungestchildrengetwhattheyneed–aoneyearoldislessatriskthana3dayold.Howeveritalsomeansthatamanwhohasachildwithinanaffairpossiblybelieveshehaschoicesoverwhotostaywith–andintruthheprobablydoesn’t–eventuallyhewilldiscoverthatthechildthatcamelasttakesprecedence.Theworldislitteredwiththeresultsofignoringthatlaw!

So,whataretheselaws?

1.Everyonehasanequalrighttobelong-everyonewhoentersasystem(anewbabyforexample)hasarighttoasmuchloveasanyoneelse,anditcanbeshownthathaving“favourites”causesissuesdowntheline.Itseemsfromextensivescrutinythatthesystemalwaysmanagestobalanceoutanyimbalancesthathavebeeninjectedintothesystem–forinstancewhenachildisforgotten,somewherearepeatofthesituationorsimilarmayrecur.

2.Thingsthatcomebeforehavetogivewaytothingsthatcomelater-anoldersiblinghastoallowhisorherworldtochangealittleforthesurvivalofthesystem,andhisorherplace

withinit.Thatensuresthatgrowingsystemsdonothavebuiltinneglect.

3.Latersystemstakeprecedenceoveroldersystems.Ifsomeonehasachildinthecontextofanaffair,itcanbeprettyharshfortheoriginalfamilysystem.Thepersonwhohaspartiallymovedawayandintoanewsystem,willhavemuchmoreenergyforthenewsystem,whatevertheysaytothemselves,orwhateverpromisestheymaymake.Thisespeciallyshowsupasanissuewhentheapparentlyaggrievedpartyappearstoknownothingoftheaffair–peoplelookingonwhoknowthewholetruthwillnoticehowthesystemtriedtorevealinundercurrentssothatthetruthavailsitself.

4.Thebalanceofgivingandreceivingneedstobemaintained-commonsense(andagreatdealofresearch)hasshownthatbalancemustbemaintainedinallthings,especiallyfamilysystems.ResearchofaphenomenoninAmericalookingintowhytrainingdoctorsoftenappearedtoleavewivesjustastheyqualified.Whatbecameclearwasthatthepartnergaveupagreatdealforthetrainingpartnertosucceed,whowentontobelievetheycouldneverrepaythecostofthatgifttothem.Thebalancecouldonlybesatisfiedbythemleaving,otherwisetheywouldalwaysbeindebttothegiver,whichwouldimbalancethesystem.Harsh,butnolesstrueforthat.

Theselawscaneasilybebroken–hereareafewexamples:

whenbabiesareabortedorstillbornandnotmournedortalkedaboutwhenchildrenoryoungadultsdieandarenotmournedwhenchildrenaregivenawayforadoptionandnolongertalkedaboutwhenadoptiveparentsdonotacknowledgethenaturalparentsoftheirchildrenwhenpreviouspartnersorimportantrelationshipsarenotacknowledgedandhonouredbetweencoupleswhenextra-maritalrelationshipsarekeptsecretwhentheexperiencesofwararenotrememberedandthedeadhonouredwhentherearefamilysecrets

Chapter4-Shamanicelements

Whenobservingitisclearthatsomeelementsofaconstellationdonotusescientificconstructsperseandsomeobserversquestionwhetherthefacilitatorisactuallyworkingin“anotherworld”inordertogaintheinsightsthatappeartoberelevanttosituationsheorshefindshimorherselfin.

Thereiscertainlyan“otherworldly”elementtothework.Inchapter4Idescribewhatactuallyisgoingon,andexperienceshowsthattheclient,insettingupthefield,issubconsciouslyenablinganyparticipantsintheexercisetocarryatinypartoftheirenergyforawhile.Theyborrowtheelementsthatshowup,andareabletodescribe,andcomment.Itisthatthatappearsasasortofshamanicpractice.Occasionallysomefacilitatorswillexperimentbyaskingquestionsoftheparticipantstocheckahunch,thatmaywellcomefromexperienceofsimilarsetups.Forinstancewhengriefshowsup,itisfairlysafetoassumethat

adeathmaybeinvolved–sothefacilitatormayask“didsoandsohaveanychildrenthatdied,stillbirthsabortionsormiscarriages?”andthatmightappeartobesoinsightfultotheuninitiatedthatitlookslikeashamanicknowing.

Chapter5–Themechanicsofaworkshop

Whathappensinaconstellationworkshop?Whoisinaconstellation?

Thefacilitator–someonewhoguidestheprocess,butwhoremainsasfaraspossible,outsidetheprocess

Aseeker-someonewhofeelstheurgetolookattheirstuff,rightnow–theywillprobablybeabitfiredup,enthusiastic–theirmomenthasarrived.

Representatives–peoplewhowillgetaskedtorepresentotherpeopleduringtheprocess–placeholderscertainly,butsometimesquiteabitmore

Participants–therestofthepeopleintheworkshop–theysitaroundtheedgeoftheworkingareaandholdtheenergy–theyjustobservemostly–theywillgetachancetobeaseeker,oraparticipantlater

Onlythefacilitatorwillnecessarilyhavehadpriorexperienceofconstellationwork,butsome,maybealloftheotherswillhaveattendedworkshopsbefore–evenparticipantsgetabiglearningfromthework.Everyonesitsaroundinacircleofchairs–preferablyabouteighteentotwentyfeetacrossthecircle.Thefacilitatorwillhavepickedaplacetosit,andhaveavacantchairnexttohimorher.Heorshewillprobablydoashortmeditation,sothateveryoneiscalm,relaxedandbodyconscious–bythatImeanthatpeoplebecomeawareofwhatisgoingonintheirownbody,sothattheycanexpresschangesthatoccur–thesemaybecomequiteimportantastheworkprogresses.Thecircleinsidethechairsiscalledthefield–likeafieldofenergy,andisidentifiedtoestablishboundariestothework.

Firstlyaseekerischosen.Thefacilitatormaychoose,oraskwhoisready,ormaybeanothermethodisused.Theseekercomesandsitsbythefacilitator.Theconversationthatensuesissimplytoestablishwhoaretheimportantplayersinthesystemdescribedbytheclient–itwillobviouslyinvolveamotherfatherandtheclient’srepresentativeiftheworkisdealingwithfamilyoforigin.

Chapter6–Whyrunaconstellation?

Havingestablishedthata)therearelaws,andb)thattheymayhavebeenoffendedinsomeinthepastandthatc)balancebeingrestoredwithoutsomeonehavingtosaycommitsuicideinthesystem,itseemsobvioustodosomething.Normalcounsellingandcoachingfocussesontheclientandaspectsthataredirectlyincontactorhavebeenincontactwiththeclient–pasthistoriesandlandscapesmayexpressaninfluencethatisnoted,butintheconstellationmodel,

allaspectsofthelifeandworkoftheclient,allthehistoriesandcontextscanbeexternallyrepresentedsothatanoverviewbecomesmuchclearer–eveninrespectofthingsthatareunknown.

Everychildthathasbeenadopted,willobviouslyhavehadabirthmotherandfatherforatime–theymayhavedied,theymaybelivinganotherlifeelsewhere,andthecounsellorortherapistmaybestuckwiththeshameblamebetrayalorabandonmentissuesthattheclientpresents.Theconstellationmodelisabletonoticethattheclientisalive,well,andinthatsense,successful,andthereforegoteverythingtheyneededtobeexactlywhotheyare–inconstellationmodellingwords“theygotenough”–andthatrevelationcanbeofenormousvalueandbesincerelyempowering.Alltheshameblamebetrayalorabandonmentcanbeshedandtheclientfeelsentirelydifferent,permanentlyfromthatmoment.

Chapter7–Toolsforthejob

Constellationscanuseavarietyoftoolstoexternallyrepresenttheinnerworkingsofasystem.

1.People–inaworkshopthedistinctadvantageofusingpeopletorepresentotherpeoplefromwithinasystem,isthattheycantalkandexpressverbally,andemotionallyaspectsthattheygatherfromthepermissiongiventothem.Thefacilitatorisabletoaskdirectquestionsandgetdirectanswersthatcomefromthefeltsenseoftheplacingwithintheconstellation,anddoesnotrequireaskingtheclientaboutthingsthatshowupbutthatmayremainunexplained.

Facilitatorneedstonoticethingsthatinterestordisinterestparticipantsandanysorrowthatshowsup.Thisiseasierwithpeopleparticipantsthanwithothermethods.

2.Horses–therearesomeconstellationfacilitatorsthatusehorsestorepresent,andalthough

thisadmittedlyseemsextreme,someexcellentresultshavebeenobserved.Thehorsecannotverbalisebutcanexpressresistances,sorrowandindeedenthusiasm.Theadvantageisthathorseswhilstbeingexternalsentientbeingsinthework,theyareremovedfromtheperceivedproblemofparticipantswhoappeartohavetheirownagenda.(Infactthatisalmostneveranissueastheytendtorepresentagendasintheircorrectcontext!)

3.Feltsquares–thesecanbeveryusefulhereaclientisextremelynervousofexpressingdeepinnerconflicts–forexamplethechildthatresultsfromarapemayhavesuchasenseofshameandangerthattheveryideaofagroupcontextmightpreventtheworkeverbeingdone.Iftheclientisagirlshemayidentifywiththemotherandhaveverydifficultrelationshipswithmen,andtheworkmaybedonewhensheisanadult.Inthatparticularscenariothebestoutcomeisforthechildtonoticethatbutfortherape,shewouldnotevenexistandthatbeingaliveisfarbetterthantoneverhavebeenborn.Thusshegetstotheidealplacewhereshethankshermotherfortheordealshehadtoendureforhertobeborn,andtothankherfatherforthegiftoflife,evenifitrequiredthoseparticularcircumstances.Theshame,blameandangerdissipatewithoutfurtherado.

Theclienthassteppedoneachsquaretoidentifywitheachpersonoraspectbeingenquiredinto.Theresultingshapesthenyieldinformationtotakenewstepsintowardsresolution.

4.Woodenblocks–veryusefulinbusinessscenarioswherechangestopersonnelcanbetriedoutwithoutcosttothebusinessandwithoutinterference.Inthesecasestheclientdoesalltheworkwithalittleguidanceandhopefullyverylittleinfluence.Managerswhofindthemselvesoutonalimbmaydiscoverwhatisreallygoingonintheirworkgroupwithouthavingtoasktheteamanyawkwardquestionsthatmightofthemselvesendangertheworkingrelationship.

5.Postitnotes–veryusefulforlighttouchconstellationworksothattheclientcanmovestuffaroundverysimplyonatable

6.Chocolatebars!–Ididaveryusefulconstellationinacoffeeshop,andthetoolstohandwherecheapchocbars–whichweusedtoshowwherethereasonforlackcustomerscamefrom–thewholefocusofthemanagementwasonsatisfyingthebank–theyhadforgottenstaffandcustomersandqualityofproductwaslookingtoleavethesystem–andrememberitwasthemanagermovingthebarsaround–it’sjustexternalisingthatinnerknowingthateveryonealreadyknowsusesandexperiencesdaily

7.PlayPeople™-veryusefulforchildren.Thefacilitatorcansafelyintroducethembackintoatraumaticscenariotoenablethemtofeelempoweredbyputtingthemincontrolofoutcomes.TheyoungestchildIhaveworkedwithinthiscontextwasthreeandhismumanddadhadsplitupanddaddyhadanewgirlfriend.Themumwasconcernedthathewouldbeconfused,hurtandangry.Whatshowedup,waslovelyandsimpleandfouryearson,themotherstillfeelshappyandthemotherandthefathercommunicateeasilyonmatterspertainingtothelittleboy.That’snotalwaysthecase.Inanotherconstellationalittlegirlwhohadbeenfrightenedinherparentsbreakupbypolice,fireenginesandmedicalstaffandwhenwedidtheworksheputallthe“bluelights”(herwordsnotmine)intoatoybucket,sothatshecouldbringtheminasshesawfit–itenabledhertoslowdownalltheactionsandreactionssothatshestayedincontrol.Theoutcomewasafarlessfrightenedfiveyearoldchild.

Extraordinarily–evenPlaymobil™figuresappeartodisplayfeelingswhenplacedinconstellations–hereonefigureisrepresentingsomeonewhodied,andatleastonefigureappearstonotwishtolook!

8.Anything!–youcanuseanything.Preferablytheitemsusedwillhavesomedirectionalquality–reviewofthepatternsismucheasierifyoucaneasilyseewhichwayeveryoneisfacing.

Chapter8–Scopeofconstellationwork

Itisclearfrommassiveamountsofresearchinnumerouscategoriesthatprovidedthatwhatisbeingaskedisofasystemicnature,constellationmodelwilladdtothevalueandsimplicityoftheanswer.

Family

Manyoftheexampleshereinareattributedtofamilysystems.Forfurtherreadingseethebibliographyformyfirstbookinthisseries–FamilyConstellations–UnravellingtheMysteryofyourancestralTimeline–availableinpaperbackandonKindle.

Health

StephanHausnerinhispracticeofChinesemedicine,HomeopathyandOsteopathythatmanyclientsdisplayedhiddenpatternsthatappearedtocomefromfamilieswherethereseemedlittlepossibilityofgenetictransferenceacrossgenerations.ExtensivecorrespondencewithBertHellingerenlightenedthataspectandStephanwentontostudyandpracticehisconstellationworkinthefieldofchronichealth.Hisbook“Evenifitcostsmemylife”isabookwithmanycasestudiesandreferences.Often,inthebestofinterests,thingsthathappenedarehidden.Suchthingsmightbeanabortionthatwasfoistedonateenager.Theinabilitytogrieveortorepresentthatlovethatshefeltwillneverdisappearbutinstead,anillnessorphysicalanomalymayoccur.Theconstellationofthoseaspectsenablesthegrievingtotakeplace,andmoreimportantly,theclienttotakehisorherplaceinthelifeandsystemtowhichtheybelong,andtheneedtopasstheentanglementtoyetanothergeneration

seemstocompletelydisappear.

Sometimesapersonwilltakeontheillnessofanother,almostbydemand.InthisexampleIamusingawomaninhermid-fifties.Herchildrenhavelefthome,herlibidohaschangedandhermotherinhereightiesishavingsomeeyesightissues.Theclientfeelslessneededandrespectedinthisphase–shehasyettohavegrandchildrenandhermotherbeginstoneedtransportingaround.Theclientfeelsanormaldebtofgratitudetohermotherwhoraisedher“indifficultcircumstances”.Shebeginstosayoutloud“Don’tworrymum,I’lldoitforyou”.Shebeginstosaytoherfriendsthatshecouldcopewiththeillnesshermotherbeginstoexperience,betterthanhermother.Shebeginstosay“I’llcarrytheillnessforyou”.Itisunlikelythatherstatementsarequiteasdirect,buttheintentionisset.Theoutcomeisthattheclientgetsilltoo,andthenfeelsterriblethatshecannotlookafterhermothereither,andshehasn’thelpedhermother ’sillness.Thisfeelingresponsibleforthecareofothersisfortheclienttofeeltowardschildrenandgrandchildren,notforparents,buttheissueofparentingparentshasbecomeendemicinmanywesternsocieties.Theconstellationenablestheclienttoseethefutilityofsuchbehaviourinthecontextofthehealthandwellbeingofthesystem,andcanthereforeinhabitaricherworld.Abook-specifictohealthconstellationswillbepublishedlaterthisyear,andwillbereferencedhereinlaterpublications.

Money

Surprisinglyperhaps,manyattitudestomoneycomefromourhistory.Thoseraisedinpovertymaywelldisplayattitudesthatareverydifferentfromchildrenraisedinplenty.Exploringthecontextofyourownmoneymind-setthroughconstellationsisasimpleandverypowerfulwayofsettlingintoanewpatternoflifeinrespecttomoney.WorkshopsIhaveruninthatcontexthavedisplayedmanyfundamentalattitudesandinfluencesthatshapethewayweregardourachievements.Ifyouobservea1000yearoldtree,youseeitasremarkable,andextraordinaryandtheremaybemanysuperlativequalitiesattributedtothetree–justforbeingtherethatlong.Manypeoplebycontrastfeeltheymusthavedonesomethingotherthanbealivetoregardthemselvesassuccessful.Ihavespokentomanyclientswhohavehadinterestinglives,childrenandgrandchildrenbutwhoneverthelessfeelashamedoftheirexistencebecausetheycannotpassafewmillionsontothosechildren–theyfeelliketheyhavefailed.Thosepeoplewillgetenormousvaluefromconstellatingtheirunderstandingofmoney–andasanadd-ontheymaybegintoseetheirownchildrenasofmoreintrinsicvaluemorethaneverbefore.

Abook-specifictoMoneyconstellationswillbepublishedlaterthisyear,andwillbereferencedhereinlaterpublications.

Business

Businessesneedtoadapttochangequicklyinthe21stcentury,anditisoftendifficulttoseethehiddendynamicsofabusinessstrategy.Constellationsenablesmanagerstotesttheories,andtounderstandwhoarethekeyplayersinaproject,andwhatdynamicsneedtobe

manoeuvredbeforeanyactivityhasbeencommittedtotheteamsinvolved.

Abook-specifictobusinessconstellationswillbepublishedlaterthisyear,andwillbereferencedhereinlaterpublications.

Chapter9–Whatelsedoyouneedtoknow?

Howdoyougettoknowaboutconstellationsworkshops?–Google“constellations”andyourtownsname,visitwww.rafenauen.comemailmeatrafe@rafenauen.comorcallmeon01332232756forachataboutwhatthenextstepis.

Ifyouareatherapistorcounsellorandareinterestedinaugmentingyourskillset,andthinkConstellationsmightfillthatslot,thengoto

www.constellations-training.co.uk

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