8 ways to know if you should get back together with your ex

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8 ways to know if you should get back together with your ex

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  • 1. 8 Ways To Know If You Should Get Back Together With Your Ex One dating rule that you probably hear a lot is to never get back together with your ex. And while there are plenty of times an ex doesnt deserve a second chance, there are also plenty of times that they do. But how do you know if its worth it to try getting back with an ex or if its just a disaster waiting to happen? Truthfully, youll never really know for sure unless you give it a shot. My current boyfriend and I broke up almost two years ago for a few months. Obviously, we ended up getting back together and I couldnt be happier about that decision our new relationship (which is how I refer to it) is a million times better than our old one. In my case, getting back with my ex was definitely worth it. If youre thinking about rekindling an old romance, consider these things first. Here are eight ways to know if you should get back with your ex. 1. You've Given Each Other Some Time To Be On Your Own By "some time," I don't mean a few days or a week... I mean at least a month. I know that sounds like a long time, but here's my reasoning: it's normal to feel like you want your ex back immediately after a relationship ends. You haven't even begun moving on yet! But if a month passes by and you still want to be with this person just as much as you did the day after the breakup, that means that maybe things just aren't finished between you two yet. If you broke up, it was for a reason. You both need a good amount of time alone to figure things out on your own before deciding you want to get back together 2. You Know How You Want Your Relationship To Change Consider how you want your new relationship with your ex to be. Before you take this step, you need to know exactly what needs to change between you guys. Before you talk to him, figure out what you want and what's most important to you. Make a list if that helps. Don't make these expectations too big, though (if they are, that's a sign maybe you guys shouldn't get back together). For example: maybe you want him to hang with your friends more or call you more often. Think about what would make you happy.
  • 2. 3. Your Friends Seem To Support The Idea Most of the time, your friends are generally going to encourage you to stay away from an ex in an attempt to help you. And while they're not always right, sometimes they are. If your friends beg you not to give him a second chance, ask why. They might be seeing something you're not. If you bring up the thought and they don't seem completely against it, that's a good sign that they think this could be right for you. Sometimes it helps to get an outside perspective (although what you want is ultimately more important). 4. If He Did Something Wrong, You're Truly Ready To Forgive Him If you guys broke up because he did something to hurt you, make sure you are actually ready to forgive him before you think about starting things up again. A lot of girls get back with a guy who cheated on them and then find that they can't forgive that guy. If you're not ready to forgive and move on, you can't possibly start up a relationship with that person again. It's fine if you're not ready to forgive him, but then just know that you're not going to be able to make it work. 5. You Know You Actually Miss Him, Not Just The Relationship This one is an important example of why you need to give yourself some time before giving your ex a second chance. Think about it: do you really miss your ex or do you just miss being in a relationship? It's normal to just miss having someone around, but itf that's the case, you shouldn't get back with an ex just to have a BF again. You should ony get back with an ex if you really, truly miss that person. 6. You Guys Have Had An Honest Conversation About Everything Once you're done figuring things out on your own, you obviously need to have a conversation with your ex. An honest convo guys, not one where you're both just like, "I miss you, I can't live without you!" Talk about what you both want to change, what you want in the future and what's been going on while you were together. Get everything out there now! 7. Whoever Did Something Wrong Is Sincerely Sorry Apologies obviously need to be made, most likely by both of you. Breakups are usually never one person's fault. If you did something to hurt him, make sure you give him a genuine apology. If he did
  • 3. something wrong by you, you better get a sincere apology out of him too. 8. Whoever Did Something Wrong Is Sincerely Sorry Apologies obviously need to be made, most likely by both of you. Breakups are usually never one person's fault. If you did something to hurt him, make sure you give him a genuine apology. If he did something wrong by you, you better get a sincere apology out of him too. Prof Wamba www.lostlovespell.co.za