Healing from painful emotionsNora Femenia, Ph.D

As we are wired to feel as much painas joy, you need to learn how to

manage your pain

1st Step: Becoming calm

Spend 15 minutes each day in a quiet settingwhere you can close your eyes and turn inward.

• Focus on your breath. Feel it come in throughyour nostrils, expanding your lungs anddiaphragm.

• Listen to your body: what sensations do you feel?Start with skin sensations, then go deeper to feelthe tingling of energy flowing through your body.

2nd Step: Meditation

• Meditation moments are important.• Throughout the day, take the time to notice

your present breathing, thoughts andemotions.

• Without judging anything as good or bad, justnotice what you feel, and then go back to yourwork.

• See if you can bring this focus to your dailytasks.

3rd Step: Watching your emotions

• Let emotions flow without critique .• As you become more aware of the present

moment, you will begin to sense emotions as theyarise.

• Before you try to cover them up with thinking,eating or business, simply observe them:

• What sensations are connected to them? Do youfeel tightness, resistance, hollowness or someother physical experience? Where in your body dothey reside?

4th step: Embracing your emotions

• When ready to go into deeper emotional pain, beginrelaxing your body, calm your mind and connect toyour spiritual self.

• Be gentle, kind and compassionate with yourself.Remember that those emotions are there for apurpose.

• Now, as you embrace them, acknowledge and releasethem...see your painful feelings fly away from you,into the air, away and away…

Repeat this affirmation:

• “I accept that I was hurting from…. now, from myadult self, I release this hurt, forgive the person whodid this to me and put everything in my memory.

• This emotion will not visit me any longer.”• Now, you are done! Watch the results! If you would like direct support and techniques for

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Get to Know Coach Nora!

Nora Femenia is a conflict coach, the author of several books that will support youin your search for personal growth and joyful, nurturing relationships... so you canfinally feel happy and secure. Do you want to develop self-confidence and trust inyourself fast? CoachNora reveals the secrets of developing a secure attitude in life,through her phone/email coaching sessions.

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