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A self-assessment for Fathers to see how they are doing in their role and make a plan for improvement.
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Father’s Self-Assessment
How am I doing as a Father?
Created by Tom Curtis 2011Blog: www.onimproving.blogspot.comPresentations: on www.slideshare.net/onimproving Email: [email protected]: @onimproving
The Introduction
Intro-Why an assessment?THIS STARTED AS A FATHER’S DAY PROJECT. ON FATHER’S DAY WE USUALLY THINK ABOUT OUR FATHERS, VISIT THEM,
AND PAY THEM HONOR. I DID THIS THIS YEAR AS WELL, BUT I ALSO GOT THINKING ABOUT HOW FATHER’S DAY
MIGHT GIVE ME AS A FATHER AN OPPORTUNITY TO ASSESS HOW I AM DOING IN MY FATHER ROLE. THIS GOT ME
STARTED ON THIS SELF ASSESSMENT. THIS ASSESSMENT USES A SIMPLE MODEL AND QUESTIONS TO HELP US FIND WAYS TO IMPROVE. AS I PUT THIS TOGETHER, I THOUGHT IT MIGHT BE USEFUL TO OTHER FATHERS, SO HERE IT IS. WE CAN BECOME BETTER FATHERS AND IMPROVE OUR
RELATIONSHIPS. LET’S MAKE A START. -TOM CURTIS 2011
The Model
The T Model
TREATTEACH TIME
TRUSTMeasuring ourselves in these 4 elements
The Questions
Date of Assessment:
TeachHow do I teach my children?
Am I teaching by example?
What am I teaching my children?
Am I equipping them to be good citizens, friends, people?
What should I be teaching more clearly?
How can I improve my teaching?
TreatHow do I treat my children? With love? With respect?
How do they see me treat others (including when they are not present)?
Do I control my frustration or anger?
Do I help them see who they can become?
How can I improve how I treat them?
How do they treat their Mother? One another?
TimeDo I spend focused time with my children?
How do we spend time together? Is it uplifting?
What memories do they have of our time spending?
Do I spend enough time with them? Individually?
Do I know how they are doing? Worries? Wishes?
How would they change how we spend time?
TrustDo my children trust me?
Have I created an environment where we can have genuine conversations? Discuss concerns?
Do I keep all my promises to my children?
How can I enhance their trust?
What would help them feel safer and more secure?
Where do I want our relationship to be in a year?
My Learnings
Review your Answers
Where do you see gaps from needed levels?
What answers were surprising?
Are there patterns or themes in your answers?
What elements are most important to you?
What elements are most important to your children?
WHERE CAN YOU MAKE THE LARGEST IMPACT?
WHERE CAN YOU MAKE QUICK CHANGES?
WHERE SHOULD YOU START FIRST?
My Plan
My plan-What, When, & HowDate
What will I do?
When will I do it?
How will I do it?
My Record
My RecordDATE (S) WHAT I DID WHAT I LEARNED
