How To Increase Charisma

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<ol><li> 1. Make Them Love You </li><li> 2. According to Dale Carnegie, the original guru of social skills, everybody's always listening to their favorite radio station. </li><li> 3. WII-FM </li><li> 4. Or, "What's In It For Me?" </li><li> 5. Now, this isn't bad, or negative or a slam on human nature. </li><li> 6. If humans DIDN'T always concern themselves for what was important to us, we'd never get anything. </li><li> 7. Even on a subconscious level, whenever we consider taking action, there's part of us that's hoping to improve ourselves. </li><li> 8. Now, a lot of people have problems with this. </li><li> 9. But even when we're doing charity work, selflessly serving others, we are STILL doing it for OUR own reasons, even if they are spiritual. </li><li> 10. And even if those reasons are only known by us, even subconsciously, they are STILL our reasons. </li><li> 11. However, humans are ALSO highly social creatures. </li><li> 12. We also know on a deep level that one of the BEST ways to get what we want is to participate in a group so that EVERYBODY'S interests kind of overlap. </li><li> 13. It's a lot more fun when everybody's getting their needs met. When it's win- win instead of win-lose. </li><li> 14. Unfortunately, a lot of people are too afraid to participate like that. </li><li> 15. They're so worried about getting the short end of the stick that they make sure they stick it others before they get stuck. </li><li> 16. But if you're brave, you can find plenty of people that have enough overlap. Otherwise society wouldn't be possible. </li><li> 17. The way most people go about doing this they talk about what's important to them, but in a friendly and outgoing way. </li><li> 18. It's like they're tossing their own interests out there, and hoping somebody will share them. </li><li> 19. This works pretty well. In fact, you may say this kind of behavior is hard wired into us. </li><li> 20. However, there is a better way. </li><li> 21. And that is to simply START OFF by finding out what's important to other people FIRST. </li><li> 22. Keep asking them about their interests, their desires, their goals. </li><li> 23. Get them fired up. If you do that, a funny thing will start to happen. </li><li> 24. They'll start to SEE YOU through the lens of their desires and interests. </li><li> 25. Meaning before they even know anything about you, they'll have a deep appreciation and attraction for you. </li><li> 26. Which means if then start talking about what's important to you, they'll almost certainly help you get it. </li><li> 27. This is what charisma and personal magnetism REALLY is. </li><li> 28. It's being interested enough in others so that NO MATTER what you start talking about next, THEY will be interested in you. </li><li> 29. Not only that, but they'll be willing to help you get it, simply because how you make them feel on a deep level. </li><li> 30. </li></ol>