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We often interact with difficult people, be it our boss, co-workers or customers. The way we handle them can affect our job, our advancement, and even our health.
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DEALING WITH DIFFICULT PEOPLE
DIFFICULT
Definition: hard to do, hard to deal with, hard to carry out, hard to make out
(Merriam Webster)
DEALING WITH DIFFICULT PEOPLE
Is DIFFICULTY
real or
imaginary?
When something or
someoneis “difficult”
what do you experience?
DEALING WITH DIFFICULT PEOPLE
DEALING WITH DIFFICULT PEOPLE
PONDERABLE
Conflicts have value.
DEALING WITH DIFFICULT PEOPLE
All behaviors have their own usefulness.
DEALING WITH DIFFICULT PEOPLE
Differences challenge status quo and
provide a platform for change.
DEALING WITH DIFFICULT PEOPLE
Conflicts form the bridge between stability and change.
DEALING WITH DIFFICULT PEOPLE
Conflicts serve as feedback.
DEALING WITH DIFFICULT PEOPLE
Conflicts form the basis of creativity and innovation .
DEALING WITH DIFFICULT PEOPLE
Conflicts clear up assumptions and build stronger relationships
DEALING WITH DIFFICULT PEOPLE
Differences mean you are in the flow of life – a participant,
not an observer.
DEALING WITH DIFFICULT PEOPLE
Disturbances & differences are essential for self growth
DEALING WITH DIFFICULT PEOPLE Strategies in managing conflicts1. Withdrawal – lose/lose 2. Forcing – win/lose3. Smoothing – no win/no lose4. Compromising – lose/win5. Confronting – win/win
DEALING WITH DIFFICULT PEOPLE
The Turtle Withdraws into shell to avoid conflicts Gives up personal goals and relationships Stays away from conflicting issues and people
involved
• Attitude : “I’ll withdrawal rather than face the issue”.
• Position: Lose-Lose
DEALING WITH DIFFICULT PEOPLE
The Shark
Overpower others forcing them to accept their resolution.
Goals – important; Relationships – not important
Will get what they want…at any price! Attack :“Attack, overpower, overwhelm and
intimidate”! Position: Win-Lose
DEALING WITH DIFFICULT PEOPLE
The Teddy Bear
• Relationships – important; Goals – not much• Conflicts damage relationships Want to be liked • Attitude : “I’ll let you have your way so
you’ll like me.” • Position: Lose-Win
DEALING WITH DIFFICULT PEOPLE
The Fox
Moderate concern for goals and others Compromises Strive for agreement in conflict Attitude : “To settle things, I’ll give up this
and you give up that.” Position: No-Win, No-Lose
DEALING WITH DIFFICULT PEOPLE
The Owl
Values goals and relationships Collaboration Conflict improves relationships & eases tension Important: Everyone is pleased with outcome Attitude : “I’m satisfied once conflict is
completely resolved”. Position: Win-Win
DEALING WITH DIFFICULT PEOPLE
Ponderables about Conflicts:
Conflicts have value.• All behaviors have their own usefulness.• Differences challenge status quo and provide a
platform for change.• Conflicts form the bridge between stability and
change.• Conflicts serve as feedback.• Conflicts form the basis of creativity and innovation .• Conflicts clear up assumptions and build stronger
relationships• Differences mean you are in the flow of life – a
participant, not an observer.• Disturbances and differences are essential for self
growth.
DEALING WITH DIFFICULT PEOPLE
Few basic points in dealing with Difficult people:
1. Address the issue, not the person.2. Use passive voice. E.g. “ the attitude towards
the work is not working towards the goals”3. Listen patiently till you sense the issue.4. Talk to people, not about people.5. Be specific in your communication.6. Set future expectations.7. Create a secure space to absorb conflict and
convert to useful behavior.
DEALING WITH DIFFICULT PEOPLE
By the way
Who am I?
DEALING WITH DIFFICULT PEOPLE
What I take home!!
DEALING WITH DIFFICULT PEOPLE
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