Karōjisatsu 過労⾃自殺

In Plain English - Burnout is Killing Us

@botchagalupe

Who am I

Disclaimer

I’m not a professional… I’ve had depression bouts many times… In my not professional way of saying this… … I can’t imagine anyone get through this life without at least one battle.. Best I can be is a friend… buy you a drink and be a great listener…

The Blog Post!http://itrevolution.com/karojisatsu/

How many ppl have read my blog post… Breakfast w/Chris… on the right.. He told me about Carlo Flores.. In the picture from left to right - Brandon Burton, Gene Kim, Lars Lehtonen, Carlo Flores, Chris Webber

The Scream

I normally don’t use the clinched Edvard Munch painting… but… The reaction to my post was insane.. within a few days… 69 comments… 1 suicide watch… 40 emails.. 5 direct phone calls. 1200 tweets .. (it’s not like the itrev is hacker news. Imagine if we really tried to solve this issue… )

Boils Down To This!

#1 We suck at feelings… We suck at telling people how we feel … (especially about stress and burnout) .. we suck at the gusy feeling stuff… I love hugops… .. we don’t have any problem saying .. man I am so freaking stressed (as holy crap you’re awesome). .. but if we are really stressed we don’t tell anyone… .. a lot of young people sent me emails saying please don’t tell anyone this (fear of being blackballed) We suck at listening… … oh I got talk to gene Kim… what should we talk about? I’m having this issue with my co-workers that is really disrupting my life… hell no.. actually hell yes… Gene is a fantastic lister… there are more Gene Kim’s out there than you know… .. there are more listeners than you think out there… .. we think of things like stress and especially depression as leprocy…

Men are disturbed not by things, but by the view which they take of them!

- Epictetus

Worse of all we suck at understanding our own feelings.. Epictetus — greek philosopher - 55 - 135 AD This is so me.. I’ll kill it on a presentation… ppl will come up all sort of awesome things… then one negative tweet will ruin my day… - Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy is a book written by David D. Burns helped me in early 90’s — my election story… — having a bad car day….

Comfort Zone- Chill out .. smell the roses… reflection (is a beautiful word) Learning Zone - were we grow… we call it kaizen(continuous learning).. remember the title of this presentation… Karōjisatsu and Karoshi… Continious is great perpetual is not so great. We need to balance our self.. ( enjoy your food when you eat, walk.. stop and look at the mountain).. Goldratt calls this the buffer of DBR (Drum Buffer Rope) .. slack time… WIP… what ever works… Danger Zone - learning is not possible… you can get stuck… carelessness .. not eating, not sleeping… failure is the new black… however, the minute we believe we are built proof we move from failure good to failure is bad…

The Learning Zone Model!Kenneth Chan

Pop Quiz .. Can you tell the different zones in this picture… Comfort - under the tree… if you are like me you are annoying someone singing watching the waves… Learning - going out a little deeper each time… maybe body surfing… crashing on the waves… next time not that big of a wave… Danger - stress takes over.. I was a lifeguard on long Island when I grew up. the first thing you do is lock them and sink… get them out of panic mode.. The red part of the danger zone is when someone doesn’t realize they are in it… A rip tide is a great example.. someone showing off how far they can go out in the water and they don’t even know they are in a rip tide and then they try to swim back…that will not work.. A good friend (lifeguard) needs to help them float then save them…

What Can We Do?

• Talk Talk Talk!

• Listen Listen Listen!

• Be Vulnerable!

• Be Courageous !

• Be Kind

The more we talk about this the more good we do… A lot of people thanked me .. .. the best part is we had a lot of people talking about it… Imagine what we could do Why did all these people talk to me? Didn’t they have friends… Maybe they didn’t feel confutable talking to their friends… I put myself out there… My blog post made me seem vulnerable.. if 100 or 1000 of us speak up…. - People sometimes just need a listener .. this is very hard for me… - Be vulnerable… people who know me know I play the I’m dumb card… - - being silly helps… Gitte Klitgaard tells a great story about her opening automatics doors… and a foreign language person… - Status quo sucks… status quo in Silicon Valley really sucks.. VC’s suck.. don’t get me started… - Be bold and mighty forces will come to your aid - I try to leave every conversation (don’t always succeed) with the people I spoken to having a smile on their face. Saying genuine nice things about

people is FREE… It’s not that hard most of the people we meet are easy to compliment…

My Observations

• Know the different Cases:!

• 1% Cases!

• 4% Cases!

• 95% Cases

My unprofessional observations… The 1% you really can’t help… they need professional advice… The 4% need professional advice and they also need a friend… you can help to a point… Also most people IMO find themselves in the 4% at least one in their lives. 95% - Everybody needs a friend…

I had a black dog, his name was depression!World Health Organization (WHO)

This video is awesome…

Special Thanks

• I had a black dog, his name was depression https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XiCrniLQGYc

• Living With a Black Doghttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2VRRx7Mtep8

• Stress and Depression - A taboo in our time https://vimeo.com/channels/lascot14/106927863

• Be Brave https://vimeo.com/78624749

• From Hero to Zerohttps://vimeo.com/104252736

• Burnout in Information Security  http://www.slideshare.net/secburnout/burnout-in-information-security

• Feeling Good – The New Mood Therapy http://feelinggood.com/books/

!WHO Gitte Klitgaard Jennifer Davis Josh Corman