Self improvment

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CHANGING YOU

• What you control and influence

• The decision to change

• Awareness how you see it

• Communication and trust

• Where you live

Locus of Control

No Control (External)

Influence

(External)

You

(Internal)

External No Control /

External Influence

• Financial pressures

• More for less demands

• Client metrics / requirements

• Customer nasty attitude

• Weather and seasons

• Unexpected interruptions

• Traffic, obstacles & detours

• Assumptions about you

• Other peoples’ reactions

• Broken anything

• Technology glitches

• Harm, hurt and tragedy

• Hitting the lottery

• Volcanoes and earthquakes

Inside Out

No Control (External)

Influence

(External)

You

(Internal)

Internal Control• Money management ability

• Reaction to stress

• Self-imposed goals

• Interpersonal / Social skills

• Communication ability

• Belief systems / Meaning

• Work ethic / Enthusiasm

• Assumptions about others

• Self awareness

• Technology savvy

• Plan “B”s

• Time / event management

• Physical / Spiritual care

• Intellectual discipline

The decision to change

Personal Growth

Awareness

Desire Skill

Action

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The decision to change

Personal Growth

Awareness

Desire Skill

Action

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The decision to change

Personal Growth

Awareness

Desire Skill

Action

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The decision to change

Personal Growth

Awareness

Desire Skill

Action

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The decision to change

Personal Growth

Awareness

Desire Skill

Action

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Self-Awareness Busters

• Not thinking about thoughts

• External locus of control

• Blame game

• Mistrust and cynicism

Self-Awareness Busters

• Seeking only confirming info

• Past experience, success

• E.A.S.E. (Ego, Arrogance, Stupidity & Emotion)

Word Content

15%

Tone, Volume, Way Said

25%

Body Language

60%

• Belief

• Candor

• Factual data

• Repetition

• No omissions

• Clarity

• Passion

Congruence: Trust (What you say)

Character • What you always value by demonstration

Integrity • What you repeatedly do that’s useful and positive

Trust • What you consistently say that’s factual and useful

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Where you live most

Important and

Urgent

Important

Not Urgent

Urgent Not

Important

Not Urgent

Not Important

We live

here!

We grow

here!

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In conclusion…

• 4 human dynamics are required to grow

• To Influence, focus on what you control

• Self-awareness is crucial to change

• Trustworthiness starts with congruence

• Trust, Integrity and Character = YOU!

• It’s Important to improve, not urgent

• EASE is not good!

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END Complete Slides and Speaker Notes By Brian Patrick Jensen (All Rights Reserved 2011)