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Divine TruthDivine Truth
Challenging AddictionsChallenging Addictions
Purpose Of This Purpose Of This Presentation Presentation To outline the practical process you To outline the practical process you
will have to engage if you are ever will have to engage if you are ever going to be free of addictiongoing to be free of addiction
To help you get from a place of To help you get from a place of intellectual awareness and into intellectual awareness and into emotional release of the addictionemotional release of the addiction
RemindersReminders
The Deconstruction Process AppliesThe Deconstruction Process Applies Jesus outlined the process of moving from Jesus outlined the process of moving from
intellectual awareness and desire to change intellectual awareness and desire to change to soul-based awareness and desire to to soul-based awareness and desire to changechange
The deconstruction process Jesus outlined The deconstruction process Jesus outlined must be engaged with addictionsmust be engaged with addictions
In this talk I will discuss the process of In this talk I will discuss the process of challenging addictions when intellectual challenging addictions when intellectual awareness already existsawareness already exists
The process I describe must be engaged The process I describe must be engaged from a soul perspective from a soul perspective
Mary's Personal Journey Mary's Personal Journey
Taking personal responsibility for Taking personal responsibility for addictionaddiction Until I desired change I took no Until I desired change I took no
responsibility for challenging my addictionsresponsibility for challenging my addictions All challenges happened externally, mainly All challenges happened externally, mainly
via Jesusvia Jesus This did not grow my will to love muscleThis did not grow my will to love muscle This meant that I only made limited soul This meant that I only made limited soul
changeschanges This happened because I didn’t yet have a This happened because I didn’t yet have a
sincere desire to changesincere desire to change
Mary's Personal JourneyMary's Personal Journey
Three factors limited & prevented Three factors limited & prevented my desire to change:my desire to change: 1. Lack of Faith1. Lack of Faith
In selfIn self In GodIn God
2. Fear of Emotional Overwhelm2. Fear of Emotional Overwhelm 3. Resistance to Truth3. Resistance to Truth
Mary's Personal JourneyMary's Personal Journey
Before I was sincere challenging my addictions Before I was sincere challenging my addictions I had to:I had to: Deal with some of my feelings of a lack of faithDeal with some of my feelings of a lack of faith Deal with some of my fears about emotional Deal with some of my fears about emotional
overwhelmoverwhelm Deal with my own personal resistance to wanting Deal with my own personal resistance to wanting
God's TruthGod's Truth As I worked through these issues I began to As I worked through these issues I began to
engage my will to loveengage my will to love It is only recently that I have begun to engage It is only recently that I have begun to engage
the process I am about to describethe process I am about to describe That is, to emotionally notice and challenge addiction That is, to emotionally notice and challenge addiction
for myselffor myself This is part of me now growing the will to love This is part of me now growing the will to love
Practically Challenging Practically Challenging an Addiction an Addiction The deconstruction process of The deconstruction process of
Addictions has already been Addictions has already been described by Jesusdescribed by Jesus
What are some additional practical What are some additional practical steps we can engage to challenge steps we can engage to challenge addiction?addiction?
Practically Challenging Practically Challenging an Addiction an Addiction Notice the addictive event or Notice the addictive event or
interaction & acknowledge that it is interaction & acknowledge that it is a sina sin Do I really feel that the addiction is Do I really feel that the addiction is
unloving (a sin)?unloving (a sin)? Do I really feel it is my responsibility? Do I really feel it is my responsibility?
Practically Challenging Practically Challenging an Addiction an Addiction Feel the addictive emotional Feel the addictive emotional
responses responses Refer: Addiction diagramRefer: Addiction diagram Feel the addictive emotional response Feel the addictive emotional response
before you do anythingbefore you do anything Feel the addictive emotional response Feel the addictive emotional response
when the addiction is metwhen the addiction is met Feel the addictive emotional response Feel the addictive emotional response
when the addiction is denied or not when the addiction is denied or not metmet
Practically Challenging Practically Challenging an Addiction an Addiction Don’t judge the addictionDon’t judge the addiction
Don’t get caught up in shame or ‘I Don’t get caught up in shame or ‘I can’t believe I’m like this’can’t believe I’m like this’
Self-punishment is just another Self-punishment is just another addiction to avoid real feelings addiction to avoid real feelings
Judging the addiction causes us to Judging the addiction causes us to ignore the addictionignore the addiction
Practically Challenging Practically Challenging an Addiction an Addiction Don’t feed the addictionDon’t feed the addiction
Instead stop satisfying the addiction; this will Instead stop satisfying the addiction; this will EXPOSE the emotion driving itEXPOSE the emotion driving it
This is not an act of ‘will power’; it will need to This is not an act of ‘will power’; it will need to be a pure will based desirebe a pure will based desire
We stop feeding the addiction so we can find We stop feeding the addiction so we can find and feel the emotion the addiction coversand feel the emotion the addiction covers
You may choose to confront the addiction in You may choose to confront the addiction in many ways many ways
You may even SEEK OUT confrontation of You may even SEEK OUT confrontation of addiction to discover more about your addiction to discover more about your emotions emotions
Practically Challenging Practically Challenging an Addiction an Addiction Emotionally feel the addiction itselfEmotionally feel the addiction itself
(Addiction Diagram)(Addiction Diagram) Allow the emotions of wanting the addiction (painful, Allow the emotions of wanting the addiction (painful,
desperate)desperate) Allow the façade’s justifications for the addiction to Allow the façade’s justifications for the addiction to
be exposed and felt be exposed and felt Allow the emotions of resistance to feeling hurt and Allow the emotions of resistance to feeling hurt and
afraidafraid Experience your false beliefs as emotionsExperience your false beliefs as emotions
e.g. Its not possible to feel this, I can’t be free of this e.g. Its not possible to feel this, I can’t be free of this addictionaddiction
e.g. My partner is hurting me by not loving me as I e.g. My partner is hurting me by not loving me as I wantwant
e.g. Everyone is rejecting me by not meeting my e.g. Everyone is rejecting me by not meeting my addictions addictions
Practically Challenging Practically Challenging an Addiction an Addiction Allow your hurt self’s feelings whatever Allow your hurt self’s feelings whatever
they arethey are Experience the hurt emotions that are now Experience the hurt emotions that are now
exposedexposed Some of these may have been suppressed in Some of these may have been suppressed in
your childhoodyour childhood Some of these you may have suppressed Some of these you may have suppressed
throughout your life into adulthoodthroughout your life into adulthood Until we are willing to experience the Until we are willing to experience the
hurt emotions that the addiction covers hurt emotions that the addiction covers we will not release the addiction we will not release the addiction
Practically Challenging Practically Challenging an Addiction an Addiction Honour the increased awarenessHonour the increased awareness
As we engage this process sincerely we naturally become more As we engage this process sincerely we naturally become more sensitive to the price of addiction (you may think you are now but it sensitive to the price of addiction (you may think you are now but it is only a tiny awareness of how damaging and pervasive the is only a tiny awareness of how damaging and pervasive the addiction is)addiction is)
We recognise: We recognise: How pervasive the addiction isHow pervasive the addiction is What other elements there are to the addictionWhat other elements there are to the addiction The effects of the addiction in our life and the lives of othersThe effects of the addiction in our life and the lives of others Actions that we previously viewed as harmless or loving but which Actions that we previously viewed as harmless or loving but which
we now see are sinwe now see are sin More linked addictive behaviour in our life of which we were More linked addictive behaviour in our life of which we were
previously unconsciouspreviously unconscious Further possible emotional causes for our addictive behaviourFurther possible emotional causes for our addictive behaviour
We experience: We experience: Increased sensitivity to our addictionsIncreased sensitivity to our addictions Increased sensitivity to the harm we have caused ourselves and Increased sensitivity to the harm we have caused ourselves and
others through addictionothers through addiction Increased sensitivity to fear & grief, and our hurt self Increased sensitivity to fear & grief, and our hurt self
Practically Challenging Practically Challenging an Addiction an Addiction Revisit until its doneRevisit until its done
In order to be free of addictions we will need In order to be free of addictions we will need to:to: Repeat the process of challenging the addiction Repeat the process of challenging the addiction
multiple timesmultiple times Uncover more emotions that have been driving Uncover more emotions that have been driving
the addictionthe addiction
Becoming more sensitive to the cost of our Becoming more sensitive to the cost of our addictions makes us:addictions makes us: More likely to repeat the process of challenging More likely to repeat the process of challenging
the addictionthe addiction More likely to stop feeding the addiction More likely to stop feeding the addiction
Conclusion Conclusion
Addictions Will Not Leave Us Unless We Addictions Will Not Leave Us Unless We Challenge Them EmotionallyChallenge Them Emotionally Many people have been attempting to deal with their Many people have been attempting to deal with their
addictions through the use of will poweraddictions through the use of will power Will-power will never be effective, because the Will-power will never be effective, because the
addiction comes from emotions in the souladdiction comes from emotions in the soul To truly release addictions we must engage an To truly release addictions we must engage an
emotional process:emotional process: We must connect to the feeling that each addiction is We must connect to the feeling that each addiction is
a SINa SIN We must connect to the feeling that each addiction We must connect to the feeling that each addiction
has harmful effects to ourselves and othershas harmful effects to ourselves and others We must develop a sincere desire to expose and feel We must develop a sincere desire to expose and feel
the emotions driving our addictionsthe emotions driving our addictions Once emotions are felt, then the addictions will Once emotions are felt, then the addictions will
naturally leave us naturally leave us
HomeworkHomework
1. Journal exercise1. Journal exercise Challenging your addictions is necessary for Challenging your addictions is necessary for
each of you to engage if you are to progress!each of you to engage if you are to progress! What are the reasons why you aren’t engaging What are the reasons why you aren’t engaging
the challenge of your addictions every day in the challenge of your addictions every day in multiple areas of your life right now?multiple areas of your life right now?
What are the emotional reasons why you are What are the emotional reasons why you are justifying not engaging the emotional challenge justifying not engaging the emotional challenge of your addictions right now?of your addictions right now?
2. Challenge at least one addiction using 2. Challenge at least one addiction using the described techniquesthe described techniques Write about what you discovered in your journal Write about what you discovered in your journal
Common Areas We Live Common Areas We Live in Addiction in Addiction Interpersonal relationships (Cornelius Interpersonal relationships (Cornelius
has provided homework in this area)has provided homework in this area) Change the way you communicate & relate Change the way you communicate & relate
to othersto others If addicted to Avoidance and façade this If addicted to Avoidance and façade this
means that you will need to have more means that you will need to have more contact with others and commit to being contact with others and commit to being honest and openhonest and open
If addicted to Control and domination this If addicted to Control and domination this means that you will be quieter, listen more means that you will be quieter, listen more and focus on ethical exchangesand focus on ethical exchanges
Common Areas We Live Common Areas We Live in Addictionin Addiction Eating & drinking habits & personal Eating & drinking habits & personal
comfortscomforts Recognise and challenge an addiction Recognise and challenge an addiction
in this areain this area Change your eating habitsChange your eating habits Most of us eat for comfortMost of us eat for comfort Others of us strictly control and Others of us strictly control and
monitor what we eat monitor what we eat
Common Areas We Live Common Areas We Live in Addictionin Addiction TechnologyTechnology
Recognise and challenge an addiction Recognise and challenge an addiction in this areain this area
Reduce your use of technologyReduce your use of technology Technology is a way that many people Technology is a way that many people
meet addictions and distract meet addictions and distract themselves from what they feelthemselves from what they feel
You could commit to turning off your You could commit to turning off your phone, your internet, TV and phone, your internet, TV and computer for 23 hours a day, or even computer for 23 hours a day, or even days at a time days at a time
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