Module 3: Prevention of becoming a bully

Module 3: Prevention of becoming a bully

1) Learning to empathise with others

2) Learning how to reduce and

control anger and aggression

3) Learning how to develop social

skills

4) Learning possible consequences

of cyber-bullying

Learning outcomes of Module 3

3.1 Raising of empathy

Activity 1:

Characteristics

of feelings

Activity 2:

Exclusion

Activity 3:

Dear Diary

Summary: raising of empathy

Try to identify the feelings of the

other person.

Keep these feelings in mind when

you are with them.

Try to see things from others’

perspective.

Show understanding for others’

perspective. Don’t try to get your way

at any costs.

Show interest in the other person.

Listen to the other person (eye-

contact, showing that you are

listening).

Evaluation:

3.1 Raising

of empathy

3.2 Reduction of anger and

aggression

Activity 1:

Characteristics of

anger and

aggression

Summary: characteristics of anger and aggression

Changes of the body:

Hands: moist palms, shaking, clenched into a fist

Stomach: pressure, feeling of sickness

Breathing: faster or heavily, hard to breathe

Chest: pressure, narrowness, stitching

Throat: having a lump in the throat, dry throat

Voice: trembling, hoarse, loud, shrill or becoming silent

Eyes: seeing red, blurred vision, squinting

Forehead: frowning, getting moist

Head: pressure, dizziness, headache, sensation of heat, feeling like

it’s going to explode

Activity 2:

Controlling of

anger

Summary: behaviour when feeling anger

When you feel anger, try to calm yourself down:

change location or leave the provoking situation

choose your individual “Cool-Down-Sentence” (e.g. “stay calm”, “I

can do this”) and repeat it

distract yourself: do something you like, do physical exercises or

think of positive experiences

try to relax, do breathing exercises

count to 10

Activity 3:

Personal space

Summary: personal space

Each person has an individual personal space surrounding him/her

like a bubble. It is needed for feeling comfortable and safe.

If somebody enters the space, different feelings can occur: fear, but

also anger or aggression.

Keep this personal space in mind when meeting someone.

Evaluation:

3.2 Reduction of

aggression

3.3 Social skills training

Activity 1:

Hot chair

Activity 2:

Role play 1

Activity 3:

Role play 2

Summary: social skills training

Characteristics of self-confident behaviour:

Posture: Stand tall, head held high, chin up,

shoulders back, feet firmly on the ground. Make

eye-contact with the other person.

Thoughts: Encourage yourself with positive and

realistic thoughts before entering a challenging

situation! Tell yourself: “I can do this!” “I’m not afraid!”

Expression: Use I-statements! Express your

needs and feelings! Be precise and explicit and

tell it with a loud and clear, calm voice.

Evaluation:

Social skills

training

3.4 Effects of cyber bullying

Activity 1:

Discussion of

video

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bgxNItGmiC4

Activity 2:

Discussion of

video

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ciZKNARbkXY

Activity 3:

Legislation

Summary: effects of cyber-bullying

Consequences for the victim:

reduced self-esteem

feelings of frustration, anger, sadness, hopelessness, loneliness,

depression

sleeping problems, health problems

suicidal thoughts and behaviours, self-harm

Cyber-bullying may affect a person for a long time, long after the bullying

stops.

Summary: effects of cyber-bullying

Legal consequences for the bully:

Cyber-bullying is an offence.

There are no specific cyber-bullying laws, but they are handled like

insults, threats or stalking.

Also, in some countries you can be fined for spreading of photos and

videos.

Evaluation:

3.4 Effects of

cyber-bullying

Evaluation:

Module 3:

Prevention of

becoming a bully

Evaluation activity:

Mood barometer