Powerful Tools for Increasing Coaching Effectiveness Transactional Analysis Models for...

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Transactional Analysis Models for Understanding,

Predicting and Influencing Behavior.

Laurie Weiss, Ph.D., MCC, and Jonathan Weiss, Ph.D.

Four “Healthy” ModelsFour “Healthy” Models

Needs-Response CycleEgo StatesRelationship ModelCommunication Model

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The Needs-Response CycleThe Needs-Response Cycle

How We All Function — from Birth to Death

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Natural Needor Feeling

Natural BehavioralExpression

Natural Needor Feeling

Natural BehavioralExpression

Need Met

Natural Needor Feeling

Natural BehavioralExpression

Need Met

Natural Needor Feeling

Natural BehavioralExpression

Need Met

Natural Needor Feeling

Natural BehavioralExpression

Need Met

Natural Needor Feeling

Natural BehavioralExpression

Natural Needor Feeling

Need NOT Met

Natural BehavioralExpression

Natural Needor Feeling

Need NOT Met

Natural BehavioralExpression

Natural Needor Feeling

Need NOT Met

Natural BehavioralExpression

Natural Needor Feeling

Need NOT Met

Natural BehavioralExpression

Natural Needor Feeling

Need NOT Met

Natural Needor Feeling

Need NOT Met

Natural BehavioralExpression

Natural BehavioralExpression

Natural Needor Feeling

Need NOT Met

Natural BehavioralExpression

Need Met

Natural Needor Feeling

Natural BehavioralExpression

Need NOT Met

Substitute Behavior

Need Met

Natural Needor Feeling

Natural BehavioralExpression

Need NOT Met

Substitute Behavior

Substitute Behavior

Reinforcement

Substitute Behavior

ReinforcementConfrontation

Need Met

Natural Needor Feeling

Natural BehavioralExpression

Need NOT Met

Substitute

ReinforcementConfrontation

Need Met

Natural Needor Feeling

Natural BehavioralExpression

Need NOT Met

Substitute

ReinforcementConfrontation

Need Met

Natural Needor Feeling

Natural BehavioralExpression

Need NOT Met

Substitute

ReinforcementConfrontation

Need Met

Natural Needor Feeling

Natural BehavioralExpression

Need NOT Met

Substitute

ReinforcementConfrontation

Need Met

Natural Needor Feeling

Natural BehavioralExpression

Need NOT Met

Substitute

ReinforcementConfrontation

Ego StatesEgo States(Transactional Analysis)(Transactional Analysis)

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Parent

Adult

Child

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A

C

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P

A

C

NurturingGuidingProtective

CriticalJudgmentalScolding

Rational

NaturalSpontaneousImpulsive

CompliantRebellious

What Was Your What Was Your Challenging Question?Challenging Question?

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Working in groups of three, use the Ego State Model to identify five different possible answers to the question.

ContaminationContamination(Unhealthy)(Unhealthy)

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Parent

Adult

Child

ExclusionExclusion(Unhealthy)(Unhealthy)

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Healthy Relationship ModelHealthy Relationship Model

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Basic “Unhealthy” PatternBasic “Unhealthy” Pattern

P

A

C

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Co-DependencyCo-Dependency(Our Definition)(Our Definition)

An agreement between two people that one person’s needs are more important than the other’s.

There may or may not be disagreement about whose needs are more important.

Takes INITIATIVE to take into account:My own needs and feelingsOthers’ needs and feelingsThe reality of the situation

The Healthy The Healthy Communication ModelCommunication Model

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Healthy Relationship ModelHealthy Relationship Model

Signs of TroubleSigns of Trouble— The Games People Play— The Games People Play

Repetitive Pattern Confusion (Switch) Predictable Negative Feelings “I should have known that would happen!”

or“I knew that would happen!”

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WHY?!WHY?!

Failed Attempt to Meet NeedsSubstitute Behavior

IMPORTANT!!IMPORTANT!!

People are always doing the best they can to get what they need, based on the resources available to them at the time.

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Recognizing Invitations Recognizing Invitations to Gamesto Games

DiscountingPassive BehaviorDrama Triangle

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DiscountingDiscounting

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The Problem (Denial)The Significance of the ProblemThe Solvability of the ProblemThe Self

Passive BehaviorPassive Behavior

Doing NothingOveradaptationAgitationIncapacitation or Violence

The Drama TriangleThe Drama Triangle

Persecutor Rescuer

Victim

Think of a time…Think of a time…

You found yourself in the Drama Triangle -- (If you’re not willing to talk about it, make one up!)

What was your hidden agenda?What could you have done instead of

playing?Discuss with your group.

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Never worry about theory as long as the machinery does what it's supposed to do.

Robert Heinlein