Self-Management. A Classic Test Candy table GrabbersWaiters Did not handle stress well, Became more...

Self-ManagementSelf-Management

A Classic TestA Classic Test

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Grabbers Waiters

• Did not handle stress well, • Became more easily irritated• Picked fights more often • Less able to resist temptation

• Better capacity to pursue their goals • Scored significantly higher on key academic tests• Had a more promising future• Better able to develop close relationships, • Were more dependable • Were more responsible • Showed better self-control

• Were less cognitively adept • Strikingly less emotionally competent. • More likely to be loners • Responded to pressure with less flexibility

What is Self-Management?What is Self-Management?

Identifying and understanding my feelings, thoughts and attitudes.

Handling my emotions so that they facilitate rather than interfere with the pursuit of my goals and values.

Being able to delay gratification to achieve meaningful objectives.

Identifying and understanding my feelings, thoughts and attitudes.

Handling my emotions so that they facilitate rather than interfere with the pursuit of my goals and values.

Being able to delay gratification to achieve meaningful objectives.

EQ CompetenciesEQ Competencies

Self-Awareness Self-Managemen

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Social Awareness

Social Skills

Emotional Awareness

Self-Control Empathy Communication

Self-Assessment

Transparency

Understanding Others

Building Bonds

Confidence Adaptability Serving Resolving Conflict

Initiative Developing Others

Influence

Optimism Organizational

Awareness

Teamwork

Leadership

Change Agent

1. Self-Control1. Self-Control

Mike Tyson’s embarrassing moment

Mike Tyson’s embarrassing moment

Self-ControlSelf-Control

The ability to: Resist or delay a

drive or temptation to act

Be composed in emotionally charged situations

Understand what causes aggressive or negative emotions and behavior

Tolerate frustration

The ability to: Resist or delay a

drive or temptation to act

Be composed in emotionally charged situations

Understand what causes aggressive or negative emotions and behavior

Tolerate frustration

Resists: Anger Abusiveness Unpredictable or

explosive behavior

Resists: Anger Abusiveness Unpredictable or

explosive behavior

Self-Control: DiscussionSelf-Control: Discussion

Discuss how you would handle one of the following situations:

While waiting in line to get on a bus, someone accidentally knocks your bag of groceries on the ground.

After being roommates for 7 months, your roommate tells you that she always has thought you are very lazy.

A member of the team for your class project fails to do his part of the project that is due in class the next day.

Discuss how you would handle one of the following situations:

While waiting in line to get on a bus, someone accidentally knocks your bag of groceries on the ground.

After being roommates for 7 months, your roommate tells you that she always has thought you are very lazy.

A member of the team for your class project fails to do his part of the project that is due in class the next day.

2. Transparency and Integrity

2. Transparency and Integrity

Definition:Having the emotional courage (and

freedom) to appropriately share your thoughts, feelings and attitudes with others.

Living out in your words and actions the truth of your inner feelings, thoughts and values.

Definition:Having the emotional courage (and

freedom) to appropriately share your thoughts, feelings and attitudes with others.

Living out in your words and actions the truth of your inner feelings, thoughts and values.

2. Transparency - Integrity2. Transparency - Integrity

Group Discussion:

What does integrity look like?

Group Discussion:

What does integrity look like?

Group Discussion:

What does a lack of integrity look like?

Group Discussion:

What does a lack of integrity look like?

Results of Transparency and Integrity

Results of Transparency and Integrity

Builds trustCreates a sense of inner peace Provides courage to speak out when

you see unethical behavior

Builds trustCreates a sense of inner peace Provides courage to speak out when

you see unethical behavior

3. Adaptability3. Adaptability

Andre Grove, born in Budapest, chairman of Intel

3. Adaptability3. Adaptability

The ability to respond to change:

By assessing difficult situationsBy effectively handling the

emotional situation so that you can focus on solving problems and conflicts

By identifying and implementing effective solutions

The ability to respond to change:

By assessing difficult situationsBy effectively handling the

emotional situation so that you can focus on solving problems and conflicts

By identifying and implementing effective solutions

Adaptability: Self-Reflection

Adaptability: Self-Reflection

Look at the Adaptability Exercise in your notebook.

Answer each question with always, usually, sometimes, infrequently, never.

Look at the Adaptability Exercise in your notebook.

Answer each question with always, usually, sometimes, infrequently, never.

4. Initiative4. Initiative

The ability to:Overcome fear and inertiaStand firm for what is right -

courageTake the first action stepPersevere – to keep on going

The ability to:Overcome fear and inertiaStand firm for what is right -

courageTake the first action stepPersevere – to keep on going

Levi StraussLevi Strauss

5. Optimism5. Optimism

The ability to:Look at the positive side of lifeMaintain hope in the futurePersistence in pursuing goals

despite obstacles and setbacks Seeing setbacks as part of the

learning process rather than a personal flaw

Not an unrealistic world of denial or empty faith

The ability to:Look at the positive side of lifeMaintain hope in the futurePersistence in pursuing goals

despite obstacles and setbacks Seeing setbacks as part of the

learning process rather than a personal flaw

Not an unrealistic world of denial or empty faith

Things to Understand to Succeed in Self-Management

Things to Understand to Succeed in Self-Management

People only change if they want to Change often requires a “wakeup

call” You must first have strong image

of your ideal self or where you’re going (purpose)

People only change if they want to Change often requires a “wakeup

call” You must first have strong image

of your ideal self or where you’re going (purpose)

Self management & Classic stories

Self management & Classic stories