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© IEF 1© IEF 1
Promoting a Marriage Culture
Promoting a Marriage Culture
© 2002 International Educational FoundationIEF is responsible for the content of this presentation only
if it has not been altered from the original.
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Marriage & Family BesiegedMarriage & Family Besieged
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Rise In DivorceRise In Divorce
Up over 200% in U.S. 1960-1998Annual number of divorces per 1000 unwed females over age 15
Up 130% in China1985 – 1992
Up over 200% in U.S. 1960-1998Annual number of divorces per 1000 unwed females over age 15
Up 130% in China1985 – 1992
Sources: Statistical Abstract of the United States, 1998; Statistics Bureau, Chinese Ministry of Civil Affairs
Sources: Statistical Abstract of the United States, 1998; Statistics Bureau, Chinese Ministry of Civil Affairs
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Children of Divorcedor Single Parents at Risk
Children of Divorcedor Single Parents at Risk
Emotional problems
Delinquency Dropping out of
school Abuse of sex and
drugs Poverty
Emotional problems
Delinquency Dropping out of
school Abuse of sex and
drugs Poverty
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Down by 40% in U.S. since 1960
Annual number of marriages per 1000 unwed females over age 15
56% of adults are married
Down by 40% in U.S. since 1960
Annual number of marriages per 1000 unwed females over age 15
56% of adults are married
Marriage Rates DecliningMarriage Rates Declining
Source: National Center for Health statistics; US Bureau of the Census, 1998
Source: National Center for Health statistics; US Bureau of the Census, 1998
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Sweden — 50%
France — 35%
U.S. — 30%
Sweden — 50%
France — 35%
U.S. — 30%
Births Outside MarriageBirths Outside Marriage
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Rise in CohabitationRise in Cohabitation
19601960 19981998
0.5 Million Couples0.5 Million Couples
4.2 Million Couples4.2 Million Couples
11
22
33
44
55
900% increase in America900% increase in America
Source: U.S. Bureau of the Census, Current Population Reports, Marital Status and Living Arrangement, March, 1998
Source: U.S. Bureau of the Census, Current Population Reports, Marital Status and Living Arrangement, March, 1998
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Fear of divorce Less
commitment “Test-drive”
relationship Government
incentives
Fear of divorce Less
commitment “Test-drive”
relationship Government
incentives
Reasons for CohabitationReasons for Cohabitation
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Cohabitation Is No PanaceaCohabitation Is No Panacea
Increased conflict andpoorer communication
Source: David G. Meyers, The Pursuit of Happiness
Greater likelihood of divorce
7 times greater risk ofviolence to women
Source: National Crime Victimization Survey, US Department of Justice, 1992
Increased conflict andpoorer communication
Source: David G. Meyers, The Pursuit of Happiness
Greater likelihood of divorce
7 times greater risk ofviolence to women
Source: National Crime Victimization Survey, US Department of Justice, 1992
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Natural Family Order Facilitates Love
Natural Family Order Facilitates Love
Guides family harmony
Guides family harmony
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Positions in the FamilyPositions in the Family
WifeWife
True Love
True LoveElder
Sibling
Elder Sibling
Children & Grandchild
ren
Children & Grandchild
ren
Younger
Sibling
Younger
Sibling
Grandparents & Parents
Grandparents & Parents
Husband
Husband
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Child’s Sphere Sibling’s
Sphere Spouse’s
Sphere Parent’s
Sphere
Child’s Sphere Sibling’s
Sphere Spouse’s
Sphere Parent’s
Sphere
The Four Spheres of LoveThe Four Spheres of Love
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Parents —Primary Moral Teachers
Parents —Primary Moral Teachers
Schools can supportparents in this role
Schools can supportparents in this role
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Passes On a LegacyPasses On a Legacy
Conserves and transforms
Grandparents — Represent the Past
Parents — Represent the Present
Children — Represent the Future
Conserves and transforms
Grandparents — Represent the Past
Parents — Represent the Present
Children — Represent the Future
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Family as Royalty of LoveFamily as Royalty of Love
Father and Grandfather
— Kings Mother and
Grandmother — Queens
Child — Prince and Princess
Father and Grandfather
— Kings Mother and
Grandmother — Queens
Child — Prince and Princess
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Strong Families Have Focus Higher than Self
Strong Families Have Focus Higher than Self
Altruisticpurpose
Service tocommunity
Altruisticpurpose
Service tocommunity
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Joins two lives
Sex — Exclusiveto the spouse
Joins two lives
Sex — Exclusiveto the spouse
Families Possessio
ns Destiny Bodies
Families Possessio
ns Destiny Bodies
Uniqueness of MarriageUniqueness of Marriage
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Profound Significance of Marriage
Profound Significance of Marriage
Highest expression of yang. One
half of humani
ty.
Highest expression of yang. One
half of humani
ty.
Highest
expression of
yin.One
half of human
ity.
Highest
expression of
yin.One
half of human
ity.
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Emotional and
psychological
bonding
Emotional and
psychological
bonding
Conjugal RelationshipConjugal Relationship
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Produces physical and spiritual force to create a new being
Produces physical and spiritual force to create a new being
Conjugal RelationshipConjugal Relationship
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Continues lineage
Continues lineage
Conjugal RelationshipConjugal Relationship
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With FreedomComes Responsibility
With FreedomComes Responsibility
Conscience
Conscience
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With FreedomComes Responsibility
With FreedomComes Responsibility
Conscience
Conscience
Spouse
Spouse
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Conscience
Conscience
Child
Child
With FreedomComes Responsibility
With FreedomComes Responsibility
Spouse
Spouse
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“ Sex is most joyful and fulfilling – most emotionally safe as well as physically safe – within a loving, total and binding commitment… [as in] marriage.”
“ Sex is most joyful and fulfilling – most emotionally safe as well as physically safe – within a loving, total and binding commitment… [as in] marriage.”
Source: Thomas Lickona, American Educator, Educating for Character
Source: Thomas Lickona, American Educator, Educating for Character
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Sexual Desire & Self–ControlSexual Desire & Self–Control
Sexual DesiresSexual Desires
Normal & healthy
Normal & healthy
Sexual ActivitySexual Activity
Controlling it isnormal & healthy
Controlling it isnormal & healthy
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Physical & Instinctual
Emotional
Physical & Instinctual
Emotional
Social
Moral
Social
Moral
Physical & Instinctual
Physical & Instinctual
Human SexualityInvolves FreedomHuman SexualityInvolves Freedom
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One‘s sexual expression for spouse alone
Fulfills its function completely
Based on true love
One‘s sexual expression for spouse alone
Fulfills its function completely
Based on true love
Mutual Ownership of Physical Sexuality
Mutual Ownership of Physical Sexuality
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Reading wisdom literature
Sharing stories of virtue
Reading wisdom literature
Sharing stories of virtue
Inspirational Family GatheringInspirational Family Gathering
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Self respect Sobriety Sexual
purity
Self respect Sobriety Sexual
purity
Promote Healthy Living Among Youth
Promote Healthy Living Among Youth
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Fulfilled Couples — Source of StrengthFulfilled Couples — Source of Strength
Better parents Mentors to other
couples Pillars of the community
Better parents Mentors to other
couples Pillars of the community
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Rededication ceremonies
Mentoring young couples
Rededication ceremonies
Mentoring young couples
Strengthen MarriagesStrengthen Marriages
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