Tough love parenting

TOUGH LOVEPARENTING

OUTLINE

• HISTORY• WHAT TOUGH LOVE IS ALL ABOUT • DOES PARENTAL TOUGH LOVE REALLY WORK? • SOME PEOPLE BELIEVE IT IS CRUELTY, IS IT? • PHYCOLOGY OF PARENTS (PARENTING STYLE)• EFFECTS ON CHILDREN• IS TOUGH LOVE NECESSARY IN TODAY’S

WORLD?• DOES IT IS DUE TO THE ECONOMIC CONDITIONS?• WHAT FORCE THE PARENTS TO DO THIS?• CONCLUSION

HISTORY

• ORIGIN

• SINCE 1970’s

• TODAY

Tough Love is an approach designed to help parents struggling to raise a troubled teen.

WHAT TOUGH LOVE IS ALL ABOUT

• Tough Love is an approach to parenting that many parents have found helpful in raising a troubled teen.

• The overall idea behind the tough love approach is for parents to love their troubled teen enough to consistently set firm limits and follow through on appropriate consequences when they are not followed.

oAccording to Jamie Doward, it really works. It matters a lot in developing certain character traits:

oRESPECToCONFIDENCEoUNSELFISHNESS

DOES PARENTAL TOUGH LOVE REALLY WORK? 

It is not a cruelty. It is simply an act to teach the children good moral values.

SOME PEOPLE BELIEVE IT IS CRUELTY, IS IT?

• Our survey also reveals that:

For children, it is cruelty?

a) Agree b) Not agree c) Sometimes

a16%

b49%

c36%

WHAT FORCE THE PARENTS TO DO THIS?

THE MAIN REASONS ARE:

1. The lazy child

2. The disobedient child 

3. The forgetful child

THE LAZY CHILD

Who absolutely hates chores, or work of any kind. This is another instance where the antidote may be that the very thing child is trying to avoid only grows when he/she ignores it.

THE DISOBEDIENT CHILD

A child who persistently breaks the rules you’ve established for him.

THE FORGETFUL CHILD

Who is the chronic forgetter of homework, leaver of lunch boxes, and loser of jackets.

There are different parenting styles which are: 

PHYCOLOGY OF PARENTS (PARENTING

STYLE)

THE AUTHORITATIVE PARENTING STYLE Defined by high responsiveness and high firmness, authoritative parents know that raising children requires more than love.

THE AUTHORITARIAN PARENTING STYLEDefined by high firmness but low responsiveness, authoritarian parents set clear boundaries for their children, & require that they accept rules of conduct without question.

THE PERMISSIVE PARENTING STYLE

Defined by high responsiveness and low firmness, permissive parents have lots of love and support to give.

THE UNINVOLVED PARENTING STYLEUninvolved parents are neither firm nor responsive. They do not offer a great deal of support to their children, and often fail to supervise their behavior.

WHICH ONE IS THE BEST?

 According to:• Dr. Ilona Jerabek, president of PsychTests

DOES IT IS DUE TO THE ECONOMIC CONDITIONS?

• The research found that it was the style of parenting, rather than income or social background that developed the strength of character.

Tough love in our society is because of economic conditions?a) Yes b) No c) Sometimes

a20%

b51%

c29%

EFFECTS ON CHILDRENAccording to Murray Wardrop• Parents who take a “tough

love” approach give children a better chance of doing well in life.

• Excessive tough love can cause:

DepressionFrustration

OUR SURVEY• 13) Does it affect the mentality and psychology of children?• a) Yes b) No c) Sometimes• 14) It creates frustration in children?• a) Yes b) No c) Sometimes• 15) Do you think it causes lack of confidence and decision

making?• a) Yes b) No c) Sometimes• 16) The result of tough love is inferiority complex in the

mentality of child?• a) Yes b) No c) Always

OUR RESULTS

13 14 15 16

36

15 15

21

6

3

16

22

3

27

14

2

a b c

MENTALITY

FRUSTRATION

LACK OF CONFIDENCE

INFERIORITY COMPLEX

a) Yes b) No c) Sometimes

IS TOUGH LOVE NECESSARY IN TODAY’S WORLD?

According to:• Sr. Charles Vandegriff

CONCLUSION

Tough love seems to be most effective in terms of generating the key character capabilities.

Tough love is the key to raising successful children.

RECOMMENDATIONS

Balance warmth with discipline

Don’t be too harsh

Be aware of everything