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10 Commandments of Leading Ladies

Keys to personal and professional

success

Heidi Alexandra

Pollard

Keeping it real

• What do you love most about your role?

• What’s your #1 challenge as a leader with or without title?

The harsh reality • Successful women know that in business

and in life, we often find ourselves at a disadvantage.

• We are routinely underestimated, underutilized and even underpaid.

• Studies show that women need to perform at extraordinarily high levels, just to appear competent compared to men.

Leading ladies – still skinny on top• SMH recently applauded

corporate Australia for setting a record for the number of female directors joining big company boards. However the figures tell a different story.

• The Australian Institute of Company Directors show that women on boards still only make up 13.5% and yet we are over 50% of Australia’s population.

The inner criticIn addition to the external barriers erected by society, women are hindered by even stronger barriers – the barriers within.We hold ourselves back by:•Lacking confidence•Not raising our hands•Pulling back when we should be leaning in.

We keep listening to that little voice in our head…saying we’re not good enough.

• We think doing more is the answer.

• We think “multi-tasking” is the only the way.

• We think keeping up appearances will strengthen our reputation.

• No wonder so many of us are feeling:

FINE!• Freaked out• Insecure• Neurotic & • Emotional

I know because I’ve been there too.

-Adrenal fatigue

-No female hormones

-Overwhelmed

-Lacking joy

I thought the solutionwas to work harder.

How do you avoid getting sucked down into the

vicious vortex of overwhelm

10 Commandments of Leading Ladies To help you ‘lean in’ and play a bigger game in

your personal and professional life.

#1 thou shalt not fritter

time

Beware of time wasters!

Which is why you should “Eat the Frog”

What’s your why?Write down four tasks you will do tomorrow – circle your frog

#2thou shalt

work harder on yourself than you do on your job

‘Better Me’ Poll

Be honest, how much time do you spend on your self education each week?

A) little to none, who has the time?B) Less than an hour, I’m squeezing a little inC) Several hours, I prioritise it!

IQ Focus - Stick em up

#3 thou shalt not speak with forked tongue

Great minds discuss ideas.Average minds discuss events.

Small minds discuss people.Eleanor Roosevelt

Choose your words carefully.

#4 thou shalt learn to say NO!

YES is easier to say.But NO is easier to do.

No is a complete sentence.

#5 thou shalt speak up

The Heart of the IssueJHH – Speaking up for what’s right

A recent study at Columbia and Harvard universities found when 42 participants were asked to either hold a power pose or a contractive, low-power pose for 2 minutes that the power poses stimulated hormones linked to feelings of power. It also the stress hormone cortisol. Plus, high-power posers reported feeling significantly more “powerful” and “in charge” than low-power posers did – allowing them to perform better.

THE POWER OF POSING

TIME TO POWER

POSE AND CLAIM

YOUR UQ POWER

#6 thou shalt have a funny bone

Practice ‘one buttock playing’

#7 thou shalt become fluent in body language

The most powerful communication tool at your disposal is not your mouth, it’s your entire body.

Become fluent in body language as your second language and watch your results soar.

Use Your Whole Body

- 7% of meaning is in the words that are spoken

-38% of meaning is paralinguistic – the way we say it

-55% of meaning is in body language & expression

WHY YOU MUST BECOME FLUENT IN A SECOND LANGUAGE

“When it comes to body language,

there are some who have better vocabularies than

others.” Doug Larson

body language practice

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“It’s important we get this right.

Things must change around here.”

#8 THOU SHALT CHOOSE YOUR FRIENDS WISELY

ARE YOU CLOSE CONNECTIONS PEOPLE OF CIRCUMSTANCE?

Your Fab Five

“You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.”  Jim Rohn

•Consider the five people you spend the most time with…how’s that working for you?

MY INNER CIRCLE

All in this together exercise

Find a partner observe their appearance Stand back to back without touching Change three things about your appearance Turn around and see if you can pick what

changed

Second Chance

• There are no rules about what to change • You can use any resources in the room• Stand back to back again and change three

more things about your appearance• Turn around and see if you

can pick what changed

Vote for how quickly you changed your appearance back to how it was after the exercise:1 – immediately 2 – 5 mins3 – haven’t yet changed back

#9 thou shalt AIM TO GIVE MORE THAN YOU GET

GIVE MORE THAN YOU GET

“I've learned that people will forget

what you said, people will forget what you

did, but people will never forget how you made

them feel.”

Maya Angelou

#10 thou shalt Start With U

“Always be a first – rate version of yourself , instead a second rate version of somebody else.”

Judy Garland

Turn to the person next to you and say:

“You don’t need to learn your UQ, you were born unique.

All you have to do is unlearn being boring, bland & ordinary.”

Heidi Alexandra Pollard

Thanks it’s been powerful…

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