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How do you deal with a bully at work? Explore 7 tips on dealing with a bully at work via this presentation. Most adults are civilized at work and they make up the majority of the work population. Unfortunately, bullies are also part of the work place. The content of these slides will help anyone being bullied in the workplace to know how to deal with the bully.
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What is bullying?
Make a decision and plan
How do you know if you are being bullied?
Deal with a bully: 7 Tips
Who is a bully?
You are not alone!
Follow through…
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What is bullying?
A bully will usually combine various types of
behaviour
Repeated deliberate
attempts to belittle, control or
undermine someone in an
obvious or subtle manner.
Anyone Anyone can be a can be a
bully!bully!
A bully has:A great need to control other people, either openly or indirectly. Usually, a bully thinks they are in a position of authority. In the workplace, a bully could be a manager, supervisor or a colleague. A bully’s action may be driven by envy, fear of inadequacy and insecurity about their own competence.A bully’s behaviour may emerge in their desire to keep any possible rivals down.
Who is a bully?
Avoidance
Avoidance
How do you know if you feel bullied at work?
If you regularly try and avoid a particular person at work because they put you down or undermine you, there is a good chance that you feel bullied by them.
If you regularly try and avoid a particular person at work because they put you down or undermine you, there is a good chance that you feel bullied by them.
Intimidation
Intimidation
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If you regularly feel intimidated by anyone at work or afraid to work near them or have anything to do with them or their project, then you feel bullied by them.
If you regularly feel intimidated by anyone at work or afraid to work near them or have anything to do with them or their project, then you feel bullied by them.
If you regularly get yelled at, criticized, put down, insulted or frowned upon by anyone at work, then, you might be at the receiving end of bullying at work.
If you regularly get yelled at, criticized, put down, insulted or frowned upon by anyone at work, then, you might be at the receiving end of bullying at work.
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o Assess the situation. Do your homework and find out everything you can about bullying in the workplace.
o If it feels like bulling, name it and call it bullying! o Keep a close eye on what is happening around the situation between you
and the person in question.
o Assess the situation. Do your homework and find out everything you can about bullying in the workplace.
o If it feels like bulling, name it and call it bullying! o Keep a close eye on what is happening around the situation between you
and the person in question.
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o Don’t ignore the situation, it will not make it go away. o Evaluate the situation carefully and build a support network. o Discuss the situation with a trusted manager, Human Resources (HR),
support manager, colleagues, a mentor or anyone closest to you. o Confide in someone so that they are aware and can look out for you.
o Don’t ignore the situation, it will not make it go away. o Evaluate the situation carefully and build a support network. o Discuss the situation with a trusted manager, Human Resources (HR),
support manager, colleagues, a mentor or anyone closest to you. o Confide in someone so that they are aware and can look out for you.
o Document and keep a log of every time you experience the bullying behavior or situation: document the date, time, name of person(s) present and details of the incident.
o If bullying occurs in an email or in any correspondence, keep the electronic e-mail and file a hard copy.
o Document and keep a log of every time you experience the bullying behavior or situation: document the date, time, name of person(s) present and details of the incident.
o If bullying occurs in an email or in any correspondence, keep the electronic e-mail and file a hard copy.
Deal with a bully
Remember that you are stronger and more resilient than you think!Remember that you are stronger and more resilient than you think!
o Don’t play the bully’s game. Don’t stoop to the bully’s level. o Don’t be baited or set up for any reasons. The bully is looking for a reaction
from you. When they don’t get a reaction, they may relent and stop.
o Don’t play the bully’s game. Don’t stoop to the bully’s level. o Don’t be baited or set up for any reasons. The bully is looking for a reaction
from you. When they don’t get a reaction, they may relent and stop.4
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o Ensure that you set limits and confront the bully in the presence of a trusted third party. Don’t get emotional or blame yourself in the process.
o Set limits on what you will tolerate and exercise your right to tell the bully to stop the behaviour.
o Make statements about the bully’s conduct directly to the bully.o Put the bully on notice. Keep up your game, don’t lose your temper or
composureo Calmly let the bully know that you are serious about not allowing them to walk
all over you anymore.
o Ensure that you set limits and confront the bully in the presence of a trusted third party. Don’t get emotional or blame yourself in the process.
o Set limits on what you will tolerate and exercise your right to tell the bully to stop the behaviour.
o Make statements about the bully’s conduct directly to the bully.o Put the bully on notice. Keep up your game, don’t lose your temper or
composureo Calmly let the bully know that you are serious about not allowing them to walk
all over you anymore.
Deal with a bully (contd.)
• You must speak to the bully in the presence of a trusted third party or others.• Calmly illustrate the behaviour you see the bully exhibit – describe what you see precisely. • Tell the bully exactly how their actions impact your work.• Tell the bully what behaviors you will not put up with in the future • Stick with your statement and if the bully tries to violate your space, don’t move, rather, stand
your ground, maintain eye contact and confront in a professional manner if necessary.
• You must speak to the bully in the presence of a trusted third party or others.• Calmly illustrate the behaviour you see the bully exhibit – describe what you see precisely. • Tell the bully exactly how their actions impact your work.• Tell the bully what behaviors you will not put up with in the future • Stick with your statement and if the bully tries to violate your space, don’t move, rather, stand
your ground, maintain eye contact and confront in a professional manner if necessary.
o Know when to have another plan.o Once you’ve asked for help and nothing changes, you may need to consider
other options. o It is important that you think of yourself first. o Don’t stay in a negative environment just to prove a point. o If bullying is causing you a lot of stress, seek professional help. o There are also legal steps you can take to help yourself. Investigate your
options thoroughly before making any decisions. o Remember that you deserve a friendly, peaceful environment to work in .
o Know when to have another plan.o Once you’ve asked for help and nothing changes, you may need to consider
other options. o It is important that you think of yourself first. o Don’t stay in a negative environment just to prove a point. o If bullying is causing you a lot of stress, seek professional help. o There are also legal steps you can take to help yourself. Investigate your
options thoroughly before making any decisions. o Remember that you deserve a friendly, peaceful environment to work in .
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Deal with a bully (contd.)
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o Put the bully on total blast! If after you have confronted the bully and you haven’t noticed a change, then, it is time for the next step.
o With your documented log, take the issue to your HR and manager. o Address the issue from a work perspective. Elaborate on how the behaviour is
affecting your work. Inform both of how important the issue is and must be sorted out, then stress your desire to work in a comfortable, safe environment.
o Put the bully on total blast! If after you have confronted the bully and you haven’t noticed a change, then, it is time for the next step.
o With your documented log, take the issue to your HR and manager. o Address the issue from a work perspective. Elaborate on how the behaviour is
affecting your work. Inform both of how important the issue is and must be sorted out, then stress your desire to work in a comfortable, safe environment.
Follow through...
o Keep up your game, continue to take a stand and pressure the authority to stop the bully.
o Remain professional.o If the bullying is causing you a lot of stress, you
need to seek professional and legal help.o Calmly let the bully and your organization (HR,
your manager or supervisor) know that you are stressed and you are going to seek legal advice.
Don’t give up
Bully must stop! Bully must stop!
Demand it
o Remember that there are also legal steps you can take to help you but you must let your HR partner and manager know that you will take this route if the bully continues.
o Investigate your options thoroughly before you make any decisions. o Remember that you deserve a friendly, peaceful environment to work in just like everyone. So,
demand the friendly environment from your organization.o If the system i.e. disciplinary hearing, grievance hearing or tribunal fails you, don't be despondent
about it.o Keep on fighting, but know when to get to the next stage and make a final decision.
Feel victoriousWhat are your options? Weigh them and make a decision. Follow up with a plan to move to a new department or decide that life is too short and move to a bigger organization where bullying is not tolerated in any shape or form.
Make a decisionMake a decision
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