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The Four Agreements

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of the Silicon Valley

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The Four Agreements offer a powerful code of

conduct that can rapidly transform our lives

and out work into a new experience of

effectiveness, balance and self behavior.

The Four Agreements

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Everything we do is based on agreements we

have made. In these agreements we tell

ourselves who we are, what everyone else

is, how to act, what is possible and what is

impossible. What we have agreed to believe

creates what we experience. When these

agreements come from fear obstacles

develop keeping us from realizing our

greatest potential.

The Four Agreements

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Speak with integrity.

Say only what you mean.

Avoid using the word to speak against

yourself or to gossip about others.

Use the power of your word in the direction

of truth and love

Be Impeccable With Your Word

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The broad scope of this concept is to avoid “sin against yourself”

by what you think. Sinning against the self takes many forms:

such as, putting yourself down, gossiping, or putting anybody

else down because you don't agree with what they

think. Actions and words need to be consistent as part of being

impeccable with yourself. The other side of the coin is the

smoky mirror concept. Ruiz makes the point that our

perceptions of others are merely reflections of ourselves.

Therefore, to put another down or project negative words or

energy towards another person, is to lash out at the other

person because of our own insecurities.

Be Impeccable With Your Word

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Nothing others do is because of you.

What others say and do is a projection of

their own reality, their own dream.

When you are immune to the opinions and

actions of others, you wont be the victim of

needless suffering.

Don’t Take Anything Personally

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Don't Take Anything Personally. There is an awful lot of negative

energy out there and some of it is directed at us by other

people. If you take it personally and take on the poison of

another's words, it becomes a very negative agreement you

have with yourself. What anybody thinks about you, or says

about you, is really about them. Not taking it personally allows

you to be in relationship with anyone and not get trapped in

their stuff. This agreement can also pertain to things that we

take personally that cause us to go into upset.

Don’t Take Anything Personally

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Find the courage to ask questions and to

express what you really want.

Communicate with others as clearly as you

can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness

and drama.

With just this one agreement, you can

completely transform your life.

Don’t Make Assumptions

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Don't Make Assumptions. What we think we understand about

what someone says, how someone looks at us, what someone

means by what they do, etc, may often not reflect reality at all,

and more often than not lead us to think badly of ourselves or of

others, and reinforce not being impeccable with our word.

Don’t Make Assumptions

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Your best is going to change from moment to

moment; it will be different when you are

healthy as opposed to sick.

Under any circumstance, simply do your

best, and you will avoid self-judgement, self-

abuse, and regret.

Always Do Your Best

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Always Do Your Best. Your "best" is a variable thing from moment

to moment. "When you do your best, you don't give the Judge

the opportunity to find you guilty or to blame you.” You can

always say, “I did my best." There are no regrets. The other key

to doing your best revolves about being in action. "Action is

about living fully. Inaction is the way that we deny life. Inaction

is sitting in front of the television every day for years because

you are afraid to be alive and to take the risk of expressing

what you are. Expressing what you are is taking action. You

can have many great ideas in your head, but what makes the

difference is the action. Without action upon an idea, there will

be no manifestation, no results, and no reward."

Always Do Your Best

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