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Part I: Review

You learned about the principle of sustained success

You learned about the 3 pairs of opposite strengths

You discovered your natural pattern of strengths

Member Workbook pg. 34

Personal Tendencies Polarization The Success Process Flex-patterns Dealing with Your Tendencies Being Yourself / Being Flexible Sustaining Your Success


Personal Tendencies

A personal tendency is an inclination to favor a specific strength.

Tendencies need to be understood, affirmed and expressed.

Overuse limits our success.


Personal Tendencies

Goals: Become aware of our tendencies. Accept our tendencies. Gain skill in dealing with them in all

situations.


Personal TendenciesMember Workbook pg. 38

LEAD STRENGTH

SUPPORTING

STRENGTH

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Tendency to:1…talk when it’s time to listen.2…avoid confrontation and conflict when it’s time to express real thoughts and feelings.3…say “yes” when it’s time to say “no”.4…withdraw into own self-sufficiency when it’s time to draw on the strengths of others.5…imagine the possibilities when it’s time to get the facts.6…wait for the other person to make the first move whenit’s time to take the initiative.7…compete with others when it’s time to be cooperative. 8…hold on to established ways when it’s time to change and try new things.9…keep emotionally involved when it’s time to back off and be more objective.10…go along with others when it’s time to go your own way.11…think about problems when it’s time to look for solutions.12…make the decision when it’s time to think more before deciding.13…hold feelings inside when it’s time to express them openly.14…drive hard to accomplish own goals when it’s time to find out what others are thinking and feeling.15…think about theory when it’s time to be practical.16…depend on others when it’s time to depend on yourself.

Common TendenciesMember Workbook pg. 39

17…do things personally when it’s time to trust others to do them.18…be sympathetic and supportive when it’s time to require others to be more responsible.19…change things when it’s time to hold steady and keep things as they are.20…emphasize the realities when it’s time to emphasize the possibilities.21…be impatient with others when it’s time to be more understanding of others.22…do things that please others when it’s time to pay more attention to own needs and desires.23…be quiet and listen when it’s time to speak out.24…take risks when it’s time to take fewer chances.25…speculate about future possibilities when it’s time to look at present realities.26…think own thoughts when it’s time to listen to what others are saying.27…analyze the problem when it’s time to take action.28…assertively express thoughts and feelings when it’s time to be more reserved and quiet.29…be tolerant of others when it’s time to be more firm with others.30…be practical and realistic when it’s time to be more imaginative.

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Tendency Activity (15 minutes)

Read all 30 common tendencies on page 39

Put a check next to any tendency that applies to you — about 10-15

Circle 3 tendencies that cause you the most problems

Pair up with someone new and talk about your tendencies for 10 minutes


The positive strengths naturally feed each other in a continuous process of success. Problems enter when we polarize on one strength.

LEAD

STRENGTH

SUPPORTING

STRENGTH

PolarizationMember Workbook pg. 40

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We get stuck on one side continuing to emphasize one strength blocking its opposite. This blockage stops our success and becomes painful over time. This is called polarization.

We tend to polarize most on a lead strength, but we can polarize on a supporting strength.

PolarizationMember Workbook pg. 41

LEAD SUPPORTING

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Polarizing on a Basic StrengthMember Workbook pg. 42

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Signs of Polarization on THINKING Signs of Polarization on RISKING Continues to think when it’s time to act Build-up of ideas and plans Stability and order become increasingly important Takes fewer and fewer risks Holds feelings inside Resists change Holds onto established ways Procrastinates Feels more and more depressed and anxious Becomes more and more removed and “out of it”

Immobilized

Continues to act when it’s time to think Build-up of activity and movement Action and doing become increasingly important Thinks less and less Expresses feelings aggressively Resists thoughtful analysis Quick to change things Makes quick decisions Feels increasingly exposed and agitated Becomes more and more emotional

Out of control

Polarizing on a Thinking StrengthMember Workbook pg. 43

Signs of Polarization on PRACTICAL THINKING Continues to focus on problems when

it’s time to look for solutions Build-up of facts Facts become increasingly important Sees all the rocks in the road Holds onto status quo New ideas become a threat Sees all the reasons why an idea will not work Uses facts as clubs to destroy ideas Becomes pessimistic and gloomy Loses hope

Despair

Continues to imagine possibilities when it’s time to understand facts Build-up of ideas and possibilities Possibilities become increasingly important Sees the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow Eager to try something new Established facts become a threat Sees all the reasons why an idea will work Uses ideas as shields to hide facts Becomes optimistic and fearless Loses contact with reality

Lives in a dream world

Signs of Polarization on THEORETICAL THINKING

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Polarizing on a Risking StrengthMember Workbook pg. 44

Signs of Polarization on DEPENDENT RISKING Continues to depend on others when it’s time

to depend on self Builds up support and approval of others Support and approval of others become increasingly important Fewer expressions of independence Says “yes” when should say “no” Becomes less and less responsible Loses self-confidence Loses awareness of self Loses self-respect

Loses the supportand approval of others

Continues to depend on self when it’s time to depend on others Builds up ego and self-confidence Personal power and impact become increasingly important Fewer expressions of dependence Talks when should be listening Assumes more and more responsibility Loses confidence in others Loses awareness of others Loses respect of others

Loses personal powerand freedom

Signs of Polarization on INDEPENDENT RISKING

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Products of Strengths

Basic Strengths Thinking produces

– Perceptions– Plans– Stability

Risking produces– Feelings– Change– Action



Thinking Strengths Practical Thinking produces

- Seeing how things are- Awareness of reality- Perception of problems

Theoretical Thinking produces- Seeing how things could be- Awareness of possibilities- Perception of solutions



Risking Strengths Dependent Risking produces

- Confidence in others- Approval by others- Warm relationships

Independent Risking produces- Self-confidence- Self-satisfaction- Personal impact


“What causes polarization?” We like the products of a strength

We hold on to the products

We undervalue the products of the opposite strength

“What happens when we polarize?”

We get stuck on a strength

We starve the opposite strength

We limit our own success

Six Steps to Break Polarization

1. Become aware of the problem.

2. Identify the product you are holding on to and the strength on which you are polarizing.

3. Identify the strength opposite to the one on which you are polarizing.

4. Make the personal choice to let go of the product and express the opposite strength.

5. Shift attention to the opposite strength and identify practical ways to express it.

6. Change your behavior by actually expressing the opposite strength.


BeYourself

Breaking PolarizationMember Workbook pg. 47

BeFlexible

Break Polarization

Sustained Success

The Success Process

The success process is going on all the time within us.

Exercising a strength creates products which are used to fuel the opposite strength.

We have the power to stop the success process by polarizing on one strength in a pair of opposite strengths.

The success process leads to the exercise of all our strengths and more and better products.


Flex-patterns

We break polarization on a lead strength by being flexible.

Flex-patterns are what we use to be flexible while not losing ourselves.

Being flexible solves the problems created by being ourselves.

Being ourselves is the key to initiating success.

Expressing flex-patterns is the key to sustaining success.


Pattern VII

RISKINGPRACTICAL THINKING

INDEPENDENT RISKING

Member Workbook pg. 50-57Being Yourself/Being Flexible

FLEX-PATTERN II FLEX-PATTERN VIII FLEX-PATTERN V

THINKINGPRACTICAL THINKING

INDEPENDENT RISKING

THEORETICAL THINKING

RISKING

PRACTICAL THINKING

DEPENDENT RISKING

RISKING

INDEPENDENT RISKING

Flexing Summary

Flexing is using a supporting strength. Everyone flexes. The key is to recognize our tendencies

and natural pattern of strengths. Then learn to emphasize supporting

strengths as the situation requires it. And then come back to our natural

pattern of strengths.

15 Minute Break

Being Flexible

Circle your three lead strengths.

Member Workbook pg. 58-59

Thinking

Risking

Practical Thinking

Theoretical Thinking

Dependent Risking

Independent Risking

Being Flexible

Circle your supporting strength in the basic pair:

Thinking Risking

Describe the situations in which you express this supporting strength (flex-pattern ______.)


Being Flexible

Circle your supporting strength in the thinking pair:

Practical thinking Theoretical thinking



Being Flexible

Circle your supporting strength in the risking pair:

Dependent risking Independent risking



Being Flexible

Which flex-pattern is easiest for you to express?_________________________

Which flex-pattern is most difficult for you to express? _________________________

List your natural pattern and rank order your flex-patterns from easiest to most difficult to express:

_________/________/________/__________


Being Flexible Activity (10 minutes)

Take 10 minutes to complete pages 58-59 on your own.


Dealing With Your Tendencies: Activity Select one tendency that gives your group

the most problems and write it below:


when it’s time toMove into action be patient

Dealing With Your Tendencies: Activity

What strength are you emphasizing?


Thinking

Risking

Practical Thinking


Dependent Risking

Independent Risking

Dealing With Your Tendencies: Activity What good things are produced when this

tendency is expressed?


Getting things done

Dealing With Your Tendencies: Activity What problems does it cause?


Make more mistakes than I should

Dealing With Your Tendencies: Activity What strength do you need to be

emphasizing?


Thinking

Risking

Practical Thinking


Dependent Risking

Independent Risking

Dealing With Your Tendencies: Activity How are you more successful when you

deal creatively with this tendency?


Better results from taking actionDealing with this tendency better in the future

Make groups of same pattern.

Pick a tendency from page 39 that applies to most of the people in your group.

Fill out the one page from pages 60-67 that corresponds to your pattern.

Report out to the entire seminar group in 20 minutes.

Dealing With Your Tendencies: Activity (50 minutes)Member Workbook pg. 60-67

Dealing With Your Tendencies

We all have tendencies. Tendencies are caused by favoring a

particular strength over its opposite. We deal with our tendencies by being

aware of them and then moving to an opposite strength.

We can’t get rid of tendencies – only learn how to deal with them better.


Member Workbook pg. 69Sustained Success

Problems with Environment

PersonalChoice X

Line of Sustained Success

Being Yourself

LeadStrength

Supporting Strength



PersonalChoice X

Being Flexible

Problems with Self

Supporting Strength

LeadStrength




PersonalChoice

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Problems with SelfBeing YourselfX

Supporting Strength

LeadStrength



PersonalChoice

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Problems with Self

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XBeing Flexible

Supporting Strength

LeadStrength



PersonalChoice

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LeadStrength

Supporting Strength



PersonalChoice

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Supporting Strength

LeadStrength


Part II: Review

You learned about your tendencies You learned about polarization and

how to break it You learned about being flexible You learned about the paradox of

sustained success — being yourself and being flexible


Part II: What have you learned?

In your own words, what have you learned

about…

Discovering your strengths… Flexing your strengths… Sustaining your success…


What This Seminar Is About

Discovering your strengths…

Your natural way of success Your bundle of opposite strengths Your natural pattern of strengths


Sustaining Your Success


Flexing your strengths…

Your flexible way of success Breaking polarization Your flex-patterns




Using all your strengths…

Expressing your natural way of success Expressing your flexible way of success Being yourself and being flexible




Using the Opposite Strengths Web Site

Your Member Home Page Opposite Strengths Inventories Natural Pattern Guide Flexibility Guide Evaluation

Your Member Home PageMember Workbook pg. 74 Log on at

www.oppositestrengths.com– Your Member ID (e-mail address)– Your Password

What you can do– Be part of the Opposite Strengths

community– Generate Guides– Request Other-report Inventories– See the FAQs on your Member Home Page

Your Member Home PageMember Workbook pg. 75 (sample Web page)

Log on as a member:

Member ID

Password

[email protected]

1234

Log on

Your Member Home PageMember Workbook pg. 76 (sample Web page)

Jane Doe’s Home Page Opposite Strengths Guides Sample Guides Opposite Strengths Inventories Contact Other People Events Find out more Miscellaneous

Opposite Strengths InventoriesMember Workbook pg. 77

How many Inventories may I include in one

specific Guide? As many as you wish Choose which Inventories are used in a

Guide by making those Inventories “active”

Inventories can be made “active” or “inactive” at any time

Inventories used in a Guide can be used in subsequent Guides at no charge

Opposite Strengths InventoriesMember Workbook pg. 78

How many Inventories may I have completed on me?

You can complete more Self-report Inventories at any time for free

You can request more Other-report Inventories at any time and have them completed on you at any time for free

Your completed Inventories are never deleted from your Member Home Page (but you can make them “inactive”)

Opposite Strengths InventoriesMember Workbook pg. 79 (sample Web page)

John Doe’s Home Page Opposite Strengths Guides Sample Guides Opposite Strengths Inventories Contact Other People

- Ask someone to complete Other-report on me

Events Find out more Miscellaneous


Enter information about the other person:

Name

Gender

E-mail

Due by

Your

relationship

Time known

Mary Smith

Female

Send another

[email protected]

11/28/2008

Relative

More than 11 years

Finished


Enter information about the other person:

Name

Gender

E-mail

Due by

Your

relationship

Time known

John Walker

Male

Send another

[email protected]

11/28/2008

Friend, not co-worker

1-3 years

Finished

Natural Pattern GuidesMember Workbook pg. 82

What do I need to produce a Natural Pattern Guide from my Member Home Page?

At least one Inventory and A Natural Pattern Guide Package

Natural Pattern GuidesMember Workbook pg. 82

How many Natural Pattern Guides may I generate?- As many as you wish until your Natural

Pattern Guide Package expires- Use different combinations of your

Inventories by making them “active” or “inactive”

Natural Pattern Guides are about 5 pages long.

See the FAQs on your Member Home Page.

Natural Pattern GuidesMember Workbook pg. 83 (sample Web page)

John Doe’s Home Page Opposite Strengths Guides

- Natural Pattern Guide

Sample Guides Opposite Strengths Inventories Contact Other People Events Find out more Miscellaneous

Natural Pattern Guides

Natural Pattern Guide for John Doe Your Active Inventories Your Natural Pattern of Strengths Four Life Forces Your Natural Characteristics Your Natural Way of Success

Member Workbook pg. 84 (sample Web page)

Flexibility GuidesMember Workbook pg. 85

What do I need to produce a Flexibility Guide from my Member Home Page?

At least one Inventory and A Flexibility Guide Package

Flexibility GuidesMember Workbook pg. 85

How many Flexibility Guides may I generate?- As many as you wish until your Flexibility

Guide Package expires- Use different combinations of your

Inventories by making them “active” or “inactive”

Flexibility Guides are about 5 pages long. See the FAQs on your Member Home Page.

Flexibility GuidesMember Workbook pg. 86 (sample Web page)

John Doe’s Home Page Opposite Strengths Guides

- Flexibility Guide

Sample Guides Opposite Strengths Inventories Contact Other People Events Find out more Miscellaneous

Flexibility Guides

Flexibility Guide for John Doe Your Active Inventories Your Success Process Your Flexible Way of Success When You Polarize Sustaining Your Success

Member Workbook pg. 87 (sample Web page)

Follow-up Workshops

You can now attend 3-hour workshops on applications of Opposite Strengths

Sustained Success in Relationships Sustained Success in Leadership Sustained Success in Conflict

Resolution Sustained Success in Problem Solving Sustained Success in Decision Making


EvaluationMember Workbook (please do this now and turn in to Certified Facilitator)

Evaluation for Sustained Success

December 14, 2008Olympia, Washington USA

Seminar goals Facilitator performance Your natural pattern of strengths General comments

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